Received Thursday, October 9, 2008 - Perspective & Opinion
I've been a nanny for the same family for over a year now. I get along very well with both of the parents and the children that I watch. In general, I've been accepted as another member of the family. Monetarily and benefits have been overly compensated, and I get 2 weeks vacation each year.
My family is currently trying to plan our Christmas vaca (we're pretty large, so we plan far in advance.) I brought this up to my employer the other day and asked her if she happened to know what their plans are. We sat down to look at a calendar together, and she informed me that the week b/w Christmas and New Year, they'll be at their second home. She told me I could leave Christmas Eve (Wed.) and then come back in that Sunday. I've been asked to fly into that city and stay with them there after Christmas. Meaning, they'll go up the weekend after Christmas and stay until the weekend after NY (NY falls on a Wed (Eve) and Thursday (New Years Day) this year.) As you can imagine, I don't want to spend my New Years away from my friends, who are already making big plans. She told me that she wanted me to come, and in a joking sense, said I had no more time off.
Let me say here that I am not allowed to use my 2 weeks of vacation whenever I want. I'm forced to use them at the families convenience. So the fact that I got those two weeks off in August, to me at least, has nothing to do with my getting off for the holidays. Correct me if I'm wrong.
Last year I got an entire week off for Christmas and New Years, due to the days of the week they fell on. This year, b/c they're midweek days, I would actually be taking off a week and a half if I had both Christmas and NYE off and didn't go with them to their 2nd home. I do NOT, under any circumstance, want to be cooped up in a town I don't know over New Years. To me, it doesn't make much sense for them to bring me up there for all of 3 days. She told me we'd talk about it more later. I know that they really don't need my help, but she just doesn't want to give me a week and a half off paid (which I honestly understand.) I need help on what to do!
As employers, what are you looking at doing this holiday season? How do you generally handle this odd timing, especially if you want to take your nanny with you? And nannies, what are you getting? What has been the norm in the past?