Received Friday, September 19, 2008 - Perspective & Opinion
Ok, I was a nanny for about two years for another family but never experienced anything like this. I started working for a very wealthy family in Westchester about a month ago. There are 3 children but my main concern in the smaller child that is three years old. The mother is a stay at home mom but is very involved in her children's activities. The 3 year old is very misbehaved, she is constantly biting, scratching and hitting me, her two other sisters and her mother as well. When the mother sees this behavior she doesnt really correct it. She will throw food across the food when I am feeding her, throws sippy cups at me andhas the most OUTRAGEOUS temper tantrums I have seen. I have noticed this behavior occurs when the mother is around or she knows she is in the house. When I first started the mother told me, that I was great and a huge value to their home.
Last week, she said to me "it's not a big deal but you put the wrong sheets on the girls bed", there is such a slight difference that it's ridiculous. Then she corrected me for putting the folded clothes on the dining room table because it has furiniture polish on it. She also was a little rude in telling me she doesn't want me taking the clean clothes out of the dryer and laying them on top of the dryer because there could be chemicals on the dryer from the detergent. She is constantly nit picking, that it is insane. I really do think she is a little crazy. Last week she sat me down and said I want this to work but I need you to be more focused and really know that you're trying to pitch in. I am constantly cleaning up affter the kids, straightening up, organizing their closets etc but nothing is good enough. After our convo things were ok, so I thought. This past Monday , the little girl was in her moms office and pounding the keyboard, when I looked at her computer screen I noticed she had emails that read "in Re to nanny postion". It is obvious that she is looking for someone else. Should I just quit or confront her on this? I really get anxiety when I walk into that house because I know how she is and it's drives me nuts.