Received Friday, August 15, 2008. - Perspective & Opinion
So, I need help--- or at least advice. So, I am a nanny between families. I am seasoned with an impeccable resume. In addition to local agencies, I am also on online nanny finder web sites. In addition to waiting for families to contact me, I also send my resume out to families I think that I will fit well with. Anyhow, roughly two weeks ago, I emailed my resume to a gal looking for a nanny. She responded to me promptly and apologized that she had JUST hired someone that day; but was so impressed with my background and qualifications, asked if she could post my resume on a Microsoft job site. I, obviously, enthusiastically agreed. Well, sure enough I get a TON of hits. Some what I was looking for, some not. I replied to every message. One of the families I had a good rapport with agreed to meet. We had one interview scheduled, which had to be rescheduled on my part due to a bachlorette party that I hosted gone wrong. Of course, I called in with plenty of notice, three hours to be exact and they completely understood--- indeed as the hostess of the event, I could not leave the individuals that had a bit too much fun in the hotel room that I paid for. Please note I have NEVER missed an interview and under any other circumstances, other than being the host, I would have let the party animals fend for themselves; but I digress.
We all eagerly scheduled another interview and things went GREAT! I thought how lucky to have kind, funny, understanding employers. After the interview we do a "trial run." Okay, this is where is gets interesting. So, I show up for my first day of trial 10 mins before I was scheduled to be there. I knock on the door twice, and ring the doorbell-- no answer.
So, I think to myself, maybe they are out with the baby, and will be back RIGHT at the time I was scheduled-- no luck. I go back exactly when I was due on shift and, again, knock and ring the doorbell. This time after about 2 mins the dad comes from the backyard and said he happened to hear the doorbell and the baby and mom were sleeping. So, I tiptoe in, lo and behold mom is awake. Then dad pulls me aside and said the mom, we will call her "K" - had told him I had been out there a while. Then he said, yeah "K" had been signaling me.... I guess I didn't realize she was telling me you were at the door. (SIDE NOTE: if the mom and baby were "sleeping" then how was she signaling you through the sliding glass door to let you know I was here).
Anyhow, after this, "K" goes to shower and asks me to sterilize the bottles. When it looks like both of them are going upstairs I have to take the bull by the horns and ask how they like to sterilize their bottles, since it appeared as though I would have to figure it out for myself if I didn't ask. SO, after a vague explanation, I go to do the work. As I am taking the bottles upstairs, I find them both just hanging out--- um, thanks for coming down to see how I am doing in your kitchen that I HAVE NEVER BEEN IN BEFORE!!!!. Again, I digress. After setting down the clean bottles, the dad leaves and mom goes to express. I play with baby. Who, you are not supposed to set down, except if you have to for short SHORT periods of time. Anyhow, I feed the baby, and he goes for a long nap. At this point I am thinking great! Time to get to know mom! NO luck! I am sent to organize the baby's room. Please note-- I know this is a typical duty, but couldn't it have waited until I was employed??? And for that matter don't you want to get to know me??? Anyhow, I do so and then baby wakes. I play with him and then I am asked to unload the dishwasher.... no mention of which cupboard is which. LUCKILY I get out of this because it was time to go. Now, understandably, I am NOT an idiot and could have figured out where stuff went.... but really! So, within this day, I am also low-balled on my rate and NEVER offered food or drink-- despite my stomach growling LOUDLY in front of mom and her asking if I had eaten--- to which I said "No, not yet."
Anyhow, story gets better.... so I go for my second day trial run already gun shy. On this day I show up, this time 15 mins prior to my scheduled time and walk up to the door. Knock twice, ring once.... no luck. GREAT! So, I hang out for a while and begin to feel like an idiot chillin' on their porch. So, I go back to my car, which by the way is parked in plain sight and wait until the EXACT time I am supposed to be on. Go back-- knock once, wait. Knock again this time HARD, then wait.... no answer. Go back to my car, wait some more. NO answer. Could not call, because I did not have the number handy. Finally at 12:15, I leave. Go straight home and email. I politely told her what had happened and asked for the payment for the first day as well as for my scheduled time today. (SIDE NOTE: industry standard here for a "temp" job is a minimum of four hours paid REGARDLESS of cancellation. I also gave up a temp job at $15/hr to work for them at the low-balled rate of $12.50). So, I wait for an email. A bit later I get one saying she had never heard the knocks/doorbell, and she was concerned I wasn't there, and that I was more than welcome to come back, they were there. My thought is... if you are expecting someone, shouldn't you be on alert for the door? And second... if she was all that concerned why didn't she call????? She apparently sat down to check her email first.... I don't know! I mean, they seemed sweet, nice home, funny, and an ADORABLE baby... but I am bugged by the events. I have since emailed her back saying I am also sorry for the "misunderstanding," and that I thought their baby was adorable. But at present have not agreed to come back. The advise I need is.... does all this seem weird? Or did I screw myself out of a potential job by not going back today???? Did I owe them more because they were so understanding about the bachelorette party gone wrong morning after??? Furthermore, should I pursue the job further?? I have a gut feeling to some extent, but never know what to REALLY think!