Received Wednesday, August 6, 2008. - Perspective & Opinion
I've been working with this family for almost two years. I'm taking care of two girls. Three and two years. I really love them, however, sometimes their own parents are making things a lot harder. Since the very first moment I started working with them, the mom told me, "We have to work as a team." However, I'm finding this impossible for the following reasons:
1st - Their mom is always worried about the girls, which is nice. She removes the knives from the dishwasher to avoid possible hazards, however, the dishwasher soap is reachable for the girls. I always try to remove this hazard, but the girls parents do not cooperate with this. They always forget about this. I find new hazards everyday, but the parents seem to not care whatever I do or say.
For example, a few days ago, while I was walking to their home, I found the girls walking barefoot in the street (their mom was wearing shoes.) When I told one of the girls to put her shoes on, she got really angry and started crying. I explained to her that she could get hurt but she rejected the shoes. The mom notice this and she got really mad at me. She told me, "The girls will do whatever I want while I'm in charge." I tried to explain to her that it was a hazard for the girls, but she did not care at all. One of the girls had some time ago several wounds on her feet due to this problem, but the mom said, "That's just the shoes."
Like this problem, a lot more... The mom always says I'm right, but she does not want to improve.
2nd - Their dad is a big problem. He does not give the girls any discipline. Actually, he ignores the girls. I saw several times how one or other of the girls was trying to speak with him, and he just ignored her. The girl got really pissed off. Some other times, I saw how the mom sends the girls with their dad, but he sends the girls back to their mom, avoiding the responsibility of taking care of them. Lately, we have been having problems due to this. Their mom is putting at risk her girls and I do not want this. I know she is the mom, but I do not find this right, because sometimes, they even threat the girls' life. Can I do something to avoid this? I tried anything I could. We spoke several times, but the mom just says I'm right.
Thank you all for your advices!!