Received Sunday, August 3, 2008 - Perspective & Opinion
I am a nanny with three years experience. I have been working at my job for almost four weeks. This week, the Mom boss told me to take "K" to the toy store and let her pick out some new toys, so we had some 'fun stuff' to play with around the house. "K" is almost 4. K wanted two dolls, a pretend purse, a vacuum and a maid cart. The maid cart is complete with trash can, spray pump, vacuum, mop, broom, bucket, etc. We accomplished the task and K had a lot of fun with her toys. "K" had so much fun with her maid cart and vacuum that "K" said "I'm gonna be like Edith when I get big". Edith is their longtime housekeeper. She has been with them since before they were married. I told the mother on Friday how much fun the new toys were and what "K" said about wanting to be like "Edith". The mom boss said, "Let's not encourage that, shall we". I looked at her kind of confused, unsure of whether she was joking or not. It was then that she replied, "I am not paying 18 thousand dollars for preschool so she can clean some one's toilets". The look on her face was pretty surely disgust. My face was frozen. I did not respond. I thought it was such a nasty and bitchy comment to say. I was particularly upset that the mother said it in front of "K". It doesn't seem to me Mom thinks too highly of their housekeeper of 12 years. I have no strong feelings one way or another about my job. It is a wait and see thing for me, but this comment- I thought this comment was completely vulgar. Is this a warning sign for a nanny?