Update 4/14/08
As the mother of these children, I investigated the situation and found from the "gym class" that there was no wrongdoing by my nanny. I would appreciate the post being removed altogher; or at least a comment added that this situation was resolved. As the mother of these children, I investigated the situation and found from the "gym class" that there was no wrongdoing by my nanny.
(This post will be deleted at midnight tonight and no record of it will remain on the blog. This is per the parent's request. Despite the fact that no pertinent information remains, she is requesting that it be deleted. With respect to the poll above, 100 % of the votes that came in over the past 36 hours were to remove the post as were 100% of the votes from Long Island. )
Update
Received Thursday, April 10, 2008
as the mother of these children i am disappointed that the person who witnessed this did not try to contact me instead of posting my child's name and the story on the internet. my nanny has been with me almost 3 years and i have had nothing but positive comments regarding her care for my children. as the mother of these children i would appreciate the post being removed. i do not appreciate my child's name appearing along with the story.
Received Wednesday, March 19, 2008
On Tuesday, March 18 in ***NY*** at the ***** for the ****Gym Class*** class at **** I witnessed a nanny do something that made me want to call the child's mother. The nanny was a large AA woman wearing a pink sweater with a vest over it and she had 2 children with her - one was about 2-2 1/2 (I think her name was *name removed 4/10*) and the other was about 6 mos. In the beginning of the class there's a song circle time, then the teacher has the kids run over to a large rectangular blow-up trampoline, lay down on it when its deflated, then the teacher inflates it and the kids all jump. The nanny put the 6 mos. old on the trampoline with all the other 2-3 year olds. She sorta thumped the baby's head on the floor when she did it, too. So the trampoline inflates and she lets the baby lay there while 2-3 year olds jump around her. I put my arm out to block other kids from falling on her and a mother told the nanny that the baby could get hurt at which point she picked up the baby. I chalked it up to a lapse in judgement, but then she put the baby on the big round traditional-style trampoline and let kids jump around the baby again. Once again someone told her that the baby could get hurt. At the end of class, there's parachute time and all the kids sit on the parachute and we pull the parachute around to the wheels on the bus song and she put the baby on the parachute for this too. It was infuriating to watch this nanny put this baby in a situation over and over again where there's the great likelihood of an accident despite the fact that she had been told many times that the baby could get hurt. I've seen this nanny in class many times before and she's never done anything like this before.
74 comments:
I hope the parents see this. Reading this made me cringe...and the fact that she did it over and over again is bizarre.
Good looking out, OP.
This is really scary, and I'm very surprised that the teacher of the class didn't say anything to her?? A baby that little could definitely get hurt badly by accident in that situation.
You should be able to get the children's names from the teacher and maybe get in touch w/the parents that way or leave a note w/the teacher to give the nanny (in a sealed envelope) for the parents. Maybe you should mention your concerns to the teacher to see if they can ensure that caregivers don't do that, but if the teacher said nothing the whole time, I'd worry about the teacher's judgement.
I agree that the teacher should have stepped in too. We have the same type of class here and sometimes the teachers are young and intimtated by the older parents and nannies but it's still no excuse.Sounds like this nanny lacks common sense and that is just not acceptable when you are watching small children.
This just sounds weird. The teacher didn't step in and exposed herself and the establishmnet to a potential law suit as well as a baby being harmed! And what the hell is wrong with the nanny? You say you have never seen her do this before so I sure as hell hope the parents didn't ask her to do this! Even if they did the nanny must be a dingbat to try it.
Just to throw some perspective in:
I am a teacher at a place similar to the one described. We are strictly prohibited from removing small children from situations such as this one so long as they are not actually hurt yet. I took it upon myself to carry around a 10-month old when her mom would run off to the other side of the room with her older son and was reported by another parent who said that I was "playing favorites" with the younger children. On the subject of lawsuits, you cannot win a lawsuit against one of these establishments if the child has a caregiver right there with him or her. The responsibility falls to the caregiver, not the tumble class or whatever. (As you can maybe guess, I'm looking for another job after this little tiff.)
Just to throw some perspective in:
I am a teacher at a place similar to the one described. We are strictly prohibited from removing small children from situations such as this one so long as they are not actually hurt yet. I took it upon myself to carry around a 10-month old when her mom would run off to the other side of the room with her older son and was reported by another parent who said that I was "playing favorites" with the younger children. On the subject of lawsuits, you cannot win a lawsuit against one of these establishments if the child has a caregiver right there with him or her. The responsibility falls to the caregiver, not the tumble class or whatever. (As you can maybe guess, I'm looking for another job after this little tiff.)
sorry about the double post, guys. i'm not a noob to the blogger, it just seems to have hiccupped.
lol, thanks 6:36.
I can't imagine the Nanny putting this baby in harms way, again and again, on purpose.
Maybe something was wrong with her ... did she seem like she was on medication or something?
Why else would, just this one time, her behavior be so out of character?
I think there's more to it than the Nanny just being a plain ol' dingbat.
Something had to have rocked her judgement that day.
I think you should tell the Parents what happened.
"it just seems to have hiccupped."
6:36 PM
lol.
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Nanny is a ninny. Report her to the parents. She should've known better, especially after being told several times to cut it out!
Poor baby!
I thought the kids in each class were supposed to be at roughly the same age and developmental level. What was an infant doing in the toddler class in the first place?
This is a very frightening post because somewhere that nanny is out wiht that baby putting it in who knows what kind of danger.
I hope whoever said above that she might have been having an off day for some reason is correct.
as the mother of these children i am disappointed that the person who witnessed this did not try to contact me instead of posting my child's name and the story on the internet. my nanny has been with me almost 3 years and i have had nothing but positive comments regarding her care for my children.
I'm guessing the cost of replacing this nanny with a real nanny with common sense is not "worth it" to these parents. Give me a break, trying to justify the nanny's behavior would be more believable if she didn't come off so, "I dont appreciate this".
These people that send in nanny sightings have their eyes open to other children. And they are the same people that are going to notice if a stranger approaches your child. These are the sort of people that because of their aware presence stop crimes from happening to children. So this mother just needs to settle herself down and realize that someone was concerned for her child. If the person was wrong, the mother could have said so in a less dicey way.
I am curious as to why on the rare occasion we actually have a "parental unit" respond to a post about their child, it is almost always in defense of the "wonderful Nanny"?
Don't they understand that when they are around, Nanny is most likely on her best behavior? Of course she's not going to screw up, abuse or neglect their kid.
Looks to me like the ONLY one around here that did their job that day was the OP.
to "mother of these children" :
You can no longer say "I have had nothing but positive comments about this nanny's care of my children." Your baby was deliberately put in harms way by this nanny, who placed him on a trampoline in the middle of a bunch of jumping toddlers. That doesn't make your nanny a vile, evil creature, but certainly calls her judgement into question...and yours for defending her actions. Shoot the messenger (witness), if you want, but that isn't going to insure your baby's safety. What will it take...(a trip to the emergency room, or worse?) to wake you up???
Don't these parents, especially the MOMS, who birthed and gave life to these children, CARE?
not wanting her child's name associated with the post is understandable-- unless, of course, it's because she doesn't want anyone to question her keeping this nanny in her employ. Perhaps the nanny works cheap.
Mom is more upset about her kids name being up on a Blog than the care of her children.
But when I first read her post:
"as the mother of these children i am disappointed that the person who witnessed this did not try to contact me" ....
I actually thought, "Wow, we got a response from a parent that's gonna kick some nanny butt!"
.... and then I see she's just pissed about the name?
Are you frickin' kidding me??
Mothers of this ilk are just as bad as the inept nannies that they hire.
you said it, lorenza!
You women need to get a life! Stop gossiping and making situation worse. People aren't perfect and they make mistakes! Get over it! I'm sure you all aren't perfect either! GET A LIFE. GO take care of your husbands maybe then you wont be so gossipy and growlish. You know spending time responding is taking away time from your children. For heaven's sake why are you endangering your children by spending pointless times on this site???
To the Dink @ 10:50:
My wonderful Husband is at work, and the kids are in school.
Next ....
ROFLMAO!
10:50 is the mom and she's getting pissy! Better watch out!
wow 10:50 what the heck are you doing on here then? Are you the mom who didn't want her nanny posted about? Sorry someone called the nanny on her lapse in judgement but someone had to try to look out for the infant.
10:50- Many of us have children who attend school and husbands who work during the day. If you don't like the "gossip" around here, leave and don't come back. I am sure there is a Wal-Mart calling your name right now.
cheers!
Actually, I think maybe 10:50 is the nanny, not the mom. The mom probably alerted her to this post and she is now pissed and wants it down. (Either that or the Mom posting here is the nanny too and afraid mom will find out.)
I don't know. As a handwriting expert, peope who do not capitalize are A) less intelligent and people who do not capitalize the word "I" are B) usually employed in insignificant roles, never supervisory.
A + B = Nanny
You're one to talk Jojo. You spelled people wrong.
10:50, Go take care of your husbands? So THAT'S the wife's job. Note to self: Subservience=good wifey=happy hubby=big weekly allowance!
Thanks for taking women's lib back about 50 years.
This was a legit posting. If you want to whine about gossipy commenters you have your fair share of posts to choose from...
Not this one though. That baby's safety was jeopardized by what the nanny did.
Mom of the baby involved, are you at least going to talk with your wonderful nanny about not putting your baby in a situation where it will almost certainly be jumped on by one or more toddlers?
Now that you have heard something negative, are you going to brush it off as a single uncharacteristic lapse in judgement, or are you going to take care to come and observe nanny and kids occasionally to reassure yourself that this was nothing but an anomaly?
I'm still not convinced that the actual mother of this child has seen the post, or responded here.
I have a sinking feeling that we are hearing directly from the nanny herself, posing as the mother.
No real mother would be angry at the messenger in a situation like this, and no real mother would take the nanny's side automatically without checking it out and making sure nanny never did this again. Imagine an infant of such a young age being jumped on directly in the chest or stomach, or on the face, by such a bigger child! No, this is not the mother writing here to defend her nanny's honor. no questions asked. If anything, it is nanny herself, afraid she will be outed.
I think the name thing is only a smoke screen to strengthen her argument about removing the post. Unless it was a really unusual first name, no harm done giving only a first name.
JXJ
Perfect! I absolutely love your post!
If that really was posted by the childs Mother maybe she treats those kids and baby the same way so she is upset that people know it.
Not all mothers care and it sounds like this woman is more afraid of people finding our about this poor care of her kids.
If the baby had been injured she would be suing someone for not watching out for the baby .
I have a feeling that this was the nanny that did that posting so her employer would not see the name if she ever came in here.
jojo bear
As a handwriting expert, shouldn't you be aware that this post is typed and not handwritten. Often, blogging language is written differently than actual handwritten documents. If a person that does not capitalize the word I is usually employed in insignificant roles, what is an adult that uses the uncapitalized name jojo bear?
you cannot capitalize your name when you post. (der). And Hello, I think She was kidding.
"der" ro, I think the point is about the jojo bear - Hello!
You guys need to get lives!
yep - has to be the nanny. i can't believe a mother would defend those actions. if it were my nanny, i'd personally beat the c*ap out of her.
and jojo bear - i have an iq of 134, was an intelligence specialist in the army, speak four languages and was in a supervisory position for 14 years. sometimes i just don't want to CaPiTaLiZe. your "theory" is greatly lacking.
so, anonymous 7:04, why don't you tell us all about your exciting and meaningful life so we can all turn green with envy. Yes, you seem to have it all going on. You're certainly way above being part of the goings on here!
First I would like to begin by informing anyone that is reading that I am neither the mother of these children or the nanny. I am making this point because I see that anyone that questions this original post gets accused of being either of these individuals. My main concern here is that the witness of this alleged incident, who felt it pertinent to blog about it, did not contact the mother, or a person of authority or a person of the law or call 911, when she observed the child in what she perceived to be such danger. This supposed incident was so devastating that many people have since commented on how disgusted they are with both the nanny and the mother and yet the witness’ only course of action was to blog about it? That seems strange to me. Everyone was ready to jump on the nanny’s back, a nanny which the eyewitness freely admits she had seen before and never saw her do anything inappropriate, and jump on the parents back as well but no one stopped to think that maybe this event was grossly exaggerated or, in fact untrue. If the child was suffering from abuse, do you think you are a hero for blogging about it? On the contrary, the decision to report it here rather than contact the parents or authorities completely nullifies any credibility that witness assumed they had. Notice that the mother did not see this for almost a month after it was posted, if the nanny was actually abusive, what could have happened in that month while you were all sitting here bashing her/them? You chose not to report the problem, you chose to blog about it, that leads me to believe that there wasn’t really a problem to begin with but rather someone with a little extra time on their hands and itchy fingers. I would also like to point out that the witness included the child’s name, town, play facility, and time and date of class and some people actually condemned the mother for wanting that information removed. What would they think when an individual with bad intentions monitoring these blogs gets that information and goes to that town, to that play facility, on the day and time provided by the witness, to the specific class named by the witness and walks out with the child they called by name, a name which they learned from this blog? Who gets blamed for that? I don’t know if the witness would notice that because she might be gathering with all of her friends who read this blog to point and make comments about the nanny’s justifying their behavior by hiding behind their badges given to them upon being deputized by Child Protective Services. Perhaps your venom has been misdirected and this post should be removed.
be careful 7:11 you already sound pretty bitter
well said 7:09, glad to see someone making sense
finally 7:31 nicely done for reading between the lines
Dear Crazy,
Sometimes people don't want to get involved. For a number of reasons. Have you ever watched the Dateline Special, WHat Would you Do?? Most people do not get involved. Most as in 93 percent DO NOT GET INVOLVED. That is unfortunate, butt hat is TRUE. So this blog gives people who don't want to tangle with crazy nannies or overly defensive psychotic parents or the mouthpieces of overly defensive psychotic parents a place to post what they saw so it attracts the attention of the parents. I mean, that is one use for it. Most of the people who post on here do not know the parents involved and do not witness the children at activities like a scheduled gym class where there might be a person in charge. I don't know why the nanny didn't mention it to the gym teacher. Why should she have to? Shouldn't the gym teacher have noticed? And shouldn't the gym teacher have contacted the parent to let the parent know what she, the gym teacher witnessed. Oh, wait- we're back to square one. 93 percent of people do not want to get involved.
My point in all of this is if someone notices something about your child - how great your nanny is or your child being left unsupervised by your own husband at Walgreens and they let you know- you are better off for it. When you find these great nannies, wrap both arms around them and never let them go because they are far and few between. And when people make mistakes with the supervision of children, be it mothers, fathers, stepmoms, nannies or crossing guards, sweet Jesus let the parent know. Assuming the parent is a responsible and conscientious perhaps changes will be made that might save the family a tragic accident. Or worse.
To the OP of this post,
I would appreciate if you would write back.
Well, for some reason, you would like for it to be removed. People don't blog about dangerous issues on here but often report "potentially dangerous" situations or those that don't quite fit "abuse" in the hope that someone will see it who can do something to rectify the problem.
Methinks you are a tad overly defensive about this particular post which makes me wonder what your motive is in wanting to have it removed.
My above post was directed to anonymous at 7:31 who may also be anonymous at 7:39 patting herself on the back. No matter. To be sure, 7:39, I am not bitter, but when some anonymous-ass 'poster' ridicules fellow posters on here VIA 'a post', it's rather absurd. But obviously, you did not get the drift of my comments.
ro, I can't imagine that you are referring to me as "crazy" or "the mouth piece of overly defensive psychotic parents" as the individual who posted 7:39 because that is, well, a little immature don't you think? Name calling is kind of like gossiping, juvenile. With that said, I would like to point out that you assumed the original poster on this board was a nanny, why did you assume that? You also assumed that the original poster did not want to get involved, but isn't posting this blog involvement? I can answer my own question, thanks, it is involvement, it is just for everyone to see and pass judgement. Doesn’t want to get involved, on the dateline shows if they had babies being abused by nannies and not couples arguing with each other in the park, I am confident that the statistics would be slightly different.
sorry, my mistake - I posted 7:31, you posted 7:39
Wonder as much as youlikes Sprak - I think you are probably wondering the wrong thing. See what happened when 7:39 wondered about your 7:11 post.Don't confuse overly defensive with questioning disagreement just for the sake of putting doubt into peoples minds. Be careful, people may start to wonder about your motives as well, Starbucks buddies with the original poster maybe? Just making a point!
Sprak - just curious about your 7:50 post, isn't almost everyone here, including yourself, ridiculing someone else, someone they do not know, including people that have posted here. Does that make them all asses, including yourself?
ah, I see...
you were just trying to make a point, anonymous8:03.
So..... what was it?
Well, let me think about your comments anonymous8:14... Actually, no, that doesn't make all posters, including me, asses. Most of the asses post anonymously like you, and 'writing a post' to disparage people for posting here is ironic, to say the least. So, let's be clear on this. I am not ridiculing you for posting here, but I cannot help but have disdain for your nonsensical jibberish, but then, I do have my standards.
Can you all stop assuming that all nannies are lazy, uneducated, speak poor English, work for nothing and are in the country illegally?
I have been a live-in nanny for over a year. I'm a semester away from a Bachelor's degree, and I capitalize all words correctly.
at first i didn't know if i agreed with 7:31 but when i look back @ the original post i think there may be some good points
why did the op give all that info about the child including the name (which i see has been taken down, weeks later)
why did the op describe the nanny as a large aa woman - is there only one large aa woman that is a nanny in that town, or is there a large and a small one - will every large aa woman in that town that is a nanny now be scrutinized and second guessed
if people wondered why the op didn't say something to the parents and why the teacher didn't do anything - maybe that is because it really didn't happen - maybe the op has other issues
check back at how many people posted anonymously sprak - you just offended alot of people by calling them all asses. does it make a difference if the name is anonymous as opposed to some made up "jibberish". by the way - you still sound pretty bitter, maybe you should let it go.
Lucy: oh brother.
Why did the op give all that info about the child including the name? Um, so that IF the parents saw the post, they'd recognize that this was their child being endangered.
Why did the op describe the nanny as a large aa woman? Presumably because she was a large AA woman and IF the parents saw the post, they wanted the parents to be able to recognize that this was their nanny endangering their child.
What did you think the purpose of this website was?
Cali Mom: oh sister.
I didn't think the purpose of this website was to give out identifiable descriptions that were so detailed - name included - that any random psycho following these websites could walk right up to the child, call the child by name to establish a sense of trust and walk away with the child
pretty sure it doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure that out
wasn't naming the child enough to get the parents attention, if that was actually the point, large aa woman is a description that fits alot of people - why didn't the op just use the nanny's name, clearly she likes to do that
if the op wanted to get the parents attention why didn't she just talk to the parents? that is still the unanswered question
Geez!...enough, already!
here's my question anon9:35- why didn't you say all this before... when this first posted?
Lucy,
For the child's name to be removbed, someone would have had to ask for it to be removed. I don't know how Jane would be able to figure out who was the "real" parent. Are you friends with the real parent? Because you are awfully defensive, all around the same time of this update.
Newsflash- When parents learn that they have hired a bad nanny, half the time it comes as a shock to them and half the time it doesn't. Yes, many of you parents are okay with less than desirable childcare, so long as you are not inconvenienced as so long as you aren't paying too much for it. When parents are surprised by their nanny's negligent actions are clued in, the parents that care are outraged, the parents that knew they had discount childcare- well they are just embarassed. And they lie to their friend because they don't want to look as cheap and pathetic as they are. (Yes I know who you are).
If a parent hears a critisism of their nanny that does not ring true, a responsible parent would respond to the effect of,
"I have only heard and observed good things of my nanny so this comes as a surprise. I will talk to some of the other parents and the director of the gym program to see what they say and I also plan to pay my nanny a surprise visit".
Because, seriously- what do you lose by checking in to it- just in case?
And after you check in to it, as a responsible parent would, wouldn't you then write the blog and say,
"X was reported on X. I spoke to two parents and the teacher and none of them witnessed the events that were described by the post. As the point of this website is to alert parents to the care their nanny is providing, I have been alerted and would prefer if at this time all identifiable details were removed from the post"
That's how I would play it.
And I'm no genius, just a good mom!
oh, btw, anon9:21 who obviously failed "reading comprehension", I did NOT call ALL the anonymous posters on here asses. In fact I called but one anonymous poster an ass and that was as per my post "anonymous-ass 'poster'". See 'poster' isn't plural and the poster in question was, of course, the one who told us all to get a life. However, jibberish, you are fast closing in on that poster.
hear hear, anon10:23!!
(and you are most definitely NOT an ass)
I love the poll idea. Way to include the ever faithful readers of the blog. First time commenter, long time reader. Big fan.
If a person wants to steal a child from Gymboree class, simply knowing the childs name is not going to be enough information.
Children attend these classes with a parent or caregiver and, even if they didn't, nobody is going to say, "Oh, you know the child's name? Well, we must certainly hand her over to you immediately then, even though we have never seen you before and have no earthly idea who you are."
Not to mention that the child mentioned in this post was 6 months old and is not going to run into the arms of anybody, whether they know her name or not.
Further, if it does ever become the norm for these places to hand over children to strangers based on their ability to recite the child's first name, all a person with such a mind to kidnap children would have to do is walk in one day, observe part of a class, overhear a few names, and then sit back and rake in all the free kiddos he wanted.
All of the information was given for the purpose of identifying the child and the nanny. Once somebody asks to have it removed Jane probably needs to do it (even though I have serious questions as to whether it was the mom who actually made the request.) Jane has no way of knowing who made the request and it is probably much safer legally to simply remove it at that point.
OP, I would at this point make a serious effort to make sure the mother of this child is alerted to both the nanny's behavior and to this website. If it is nanny manipulatively writing here posing as the mom in an effort to keep her from becoming aware of her own bad behavior, I'm sure mom will be doubly interested in finding that out as well. It shouldn't be too hard at all for you to make contact with the parents and let them know all.
the mother needs to stop focusing on who saw her kids names and start thinking about what it would be like to see her kids names in the news! get riddd! of that nanny!
to me, these responses are interesting. I have not been on this site in months and decided to pop in and I honestly see now why I stopped coming here. it's depressing. :(
I too would be upset if my child's name were posted on this blog. It's a small world and people talk. some of you have very insightful comments but the majority of you are just gossips. just bored gossips and it's sad.
posting a child's name on the internet is not only unsafe but wrong on so many levels. there are better ways to fix the problem, in my opinion.
to the person who made a comment to the effect that a child could not get stolen or whatever from just posting their first name, I beg to differ. predators are very calculating and sometimes take weeks gathering information about a child/person's location, schedule etc. with your hasty post, you could have started an idea in a predator's head that is putting both the child and the nanny in danger.
anyone who knows the first thing about internet predators knows this is true and in no way an exaggeration.
this site does far more harm than good. it is not like America's Most Wanted, where the good John Walsh has done has been statistically proven. Sorry J.D. but it is just a sounding board for bored ladies.
4:14
"with your hasty post, you could have started an idea in a predator's head that is putting both the child and the nanny in danger"
Did you really say that?
O.k., I get it. These maniacal predators have to come to JD's Blog to get the idea in their head to learn how to kidnap a child.
You know, sort of like an online class.
I wonder if they get a Diploma at the end of the lesson?
Unbelievable.
This site is bogus. I agree with 4:14.
People have said this story is full of holes, the mother has defended her nanny, and everyone is jumping on the bandwagon saying that the mother has problems and she just wants to have a "cheap" nanny. Are you kidding me? What if all of you are wrong? You spend the time ripping apart people that you don't even know because of the one person that started all of this. Do you all know her?
The mother knows what has been written judging by her post so leave it alone and if you think it is the nanny writing as the mother then obviously this whole thing is nothing short of a gossip session that is clearly, a month later, accomplishing nothing.
What the people said about the name thing is completely legitimate. Recheck the op, it wasn't the 6 month old that the genious named, it was the 2/21/2 year old.
It is interesting that when people disagreed or defended, they were the ones that people jumped on, maybe they are right. And when someone wrote an intelligent, even though it was long, response last night people came out of the woodwork to call them crazy or to change the focus of the site all together. Sprak is going around calling people names and saying nothing that has anything to do with the purpose of this whole thing. Maybe that was to divert attention away from the fact that someone was actually pointing out the flaws in this.
Oh well, we will never know if anything really happened unless someone that was actually there steps up and makes their voice heard. Until then we are just wasting our time and our energy calling each other names and being called names.
6:54
Yes, I did just say that. What part of it did you not understand?
Do you know anything about internet predators? Do you not think they frequent sites like this where the topic is children and specific places where children and young nannies hang out? Times, events, locations, physical descriptions and names?
Do you think all internet predators are ugly old balding men from Arkansas? (No offense, Arkansas guys.hehe) Well, hate to burst your bubble but they are not. Many are smart, educated, and know just how to find kids and young girls.
This site helps them.
:(
Sorry but the truth hurts sometimes.
If I was the parents I would sue the original poster and this website for actually endangering the child!
Mother of this child, you disgust me. How dare you care more about you name than your children. You should be very thankful as apposed to embarrassed. Who cares what our friends think. This is about your childs safety. I hope you fire her!
Janet E. I think you are a little confused, the mother didn't say she cared more about her name than her children, nor did she say anything about what her friends think, that's what some other angry, malicious bloggers that don't even know the mother said. The mother was concerned, among other things, that the child's name was posted along with a detailed description of where she was (will be), at what time, on what days, etc. This is extremely irresponsible and was certainly not done to help the parent identify the child. If she really wanted to help, she wouldn't have started all of this, she would have actually helped instead of gossiped.
when did the mother say she did not care about her children and only about what others think you should get you facts straight and not pass judgement on things you know nothing about maybe keeping her childs name off a public site is in her way keeping the child safe
janet E.
you are nuttier than a snickers bar.
Hi Folks,
My daughter-in-law told me about this website a few weeks ago when I picked my grand daughter up to take her to this class (tumble classes and the park, two of the perks of retirement!). She told me what she read and who the child and nanny were, based on the information that she read here. So we decided that I would observe the behavior of this nanny from a distance, to see if anything was happening, tapping into my knowledge as a former teacher and of course, most importantly, grandparent of 6!
It was easy to find out who the nanny and children were since they say the kids names in class and because I heard some of the other women mentioning about this website and motioning to the nanny. She isn’t large, by the way, more like average, but what do I know about that! I am a pretty keen observer and I really watched this nanny. After the class they went out to the park outside, like many of us do, and I watched there too (don’t worry, I was still watching my grand daughter as well - cutest thing ever!). Like the person that wrote this in the beginning, I have seen this nanny and kids before and never saw anything inappropriate, but I was really watching more closely now.
I continued with this a couple of times a week, I am pretty patient, and through all of it, I can honestly say that I never saw anything inappropriate happen. The nanny never raised her voice to the children, as some of the mother’s at the park did, she never pulled the older child by the arm, as some of the mother’s at the park did. She was loving toward the kids and they were loving toward her. The kids were always taken care of with snacks (not cheese doodles either, usually something healthy like cheerios - for the older child of course) and drinks, even sunblock on the one or two times that it was necessary. They laughed together and the children showed no signs of being introverted or afraid of the nanny.
This is a good nanny, I have seen her. It wasn’t just because she was in public because anyone with experience can tell you about how abused children act - these are not abused children, they are loved. I told my daughter-in-law that I wanted to write in here and she asked me not to because she knows a lot of people in this town. But after what has been happening, we both decided that I should stand up and say something, a good time after someone asked anyone that was actually there to say something. Besides, I am not the only grandparent that goes to the park!! So to the young woman that started all of this ( I can assume that you are at least younger than me!!), please stop, because it is not true and I have seen people talking behind this nanny’s back and it is not right. She hasn’t done anything wrong, she is one of the good ones and should be treated like that. This is not speculation, this is fact, the person being exploited here is the nanny and that is unfortunate because she loves these children and treats them very kind and gently and they love her back.
Good luck to everyone, life is short, have some fun, be happy!!
Thanks for listening,
M.B.
thanks M.B. for telling this side of the story I hope this nanny and mommy bashing stops now
This post closed with, "Ive seen the nanny before and she's never done anything like this before". That's a good thing, but still the parent should have been warned.
Now this is a bunch of BS with Cassy and the anonymous people and now a supposed grandfather, give me a break. Your fake posts and trying to suggest that the site is a beacon for predators is overkill. The point is YOUR nanny.
Now the information has been removed, you have nothing but a hollow skin of what once was a post to warn you about your nanny, who despite usually being "okay" is prone to lazy behavior. And because she is caring for a baby and a toddler, as a parent, YOU SHOULD CARE.
So, do nothing but cry - you sound like a narcissist. It's all about you, eh? What about your children? Are you going to take a few hours off work and surprise your nanny?
I hope so.
Look at the pictures of the people on Childcare Gone Wrong. Bad nannies don't always "look" like bad nannies. And they don't usually act like bad nannies IN PUBLIC. All of the harm that comes to children happens when they are alone with their caregiver.
Who am I? I'm a nanny and I have been with my present family for seven months. I was hired after the family's nanny was featured on ISYN. The parent's did not take just the word of an anonymous post. She sent her sister in law who the nanny did not know to trail the nanny for four hours and saw so much that the sister in law identified herself and stayed with the nanny until the mother could come home from work so that the nanny was not alone with the child for one second.
There are plenty of snarky and judgmental comments here, but this site is an avenue for people to discuss childcare situations and warn people about existing bad ones as well as acknowledge the great caregivers.
Sorry, but me think you protested a bit too much. I wish you lots of luck and hope that your children are being taken care of by a loving, cautious and intelligent person as all children should be.
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