Received Thursday, November 22, 2007-Perspective & Opinion
My brother and sister in law have employed the same nanny for 17 months. She is two months older than my sister-in law and five years younger than my brother. My sister in law had a baby 7 months ago and has a 3 year old. The nanny has been encouraging my sister in law to get back in shape and has been convincing her to go out with her for coffee and occasionally drinks with the nanny when the children are in bed. The nanny lives in five days a week and has her own marriage hanging by a thread. I think the nanny wants to drag my sister in law down with her. I am embarrassed for my brother when he is home while his wife is out gallivanting with the nanny. Every time I bring it up, my brother says that he is happy she got over her post pg depression. This nanny is affecting the way my sister in law dresses, even the activities she is involved in. She never played tennis before and now the two of them are always playing tennis. My brother played tennis in college and could never get her to play tennis. They left a short while ago and everything my sister in law said just has me enraged. All she could talk about were these bohemian activities that she has become involved with. The nanny is even into Kaballah and my sil was waxing philosophical about kaballah over turkey. It was just too much to take. What I want to know is how is this going to end? My sil works as a decorator and has an office at home, but I think she has worked on one very small project this year. The two of them spend their days together with the children. I feel like my brother is getting the raw end of the deal and being shut out- of his life. Am I overreacting?