Received Thursday, August 16, 2007
If your little girl is wearing a long dress today, (8/16) with light yellow flowers on it and a cream base and went to Baskin Robbins on 1st Ave. & 66Th with your nanny today, you should investigate how your nanny talks to the child. As they left the store with their ice creams, I heard a strange exchange over the child properly thanking the nanny for the ice cream. The child excitedly said, "I'm going to call mommy and say thank you for letting us get ice cream". The nanny said, "what you need to do is thank me" and the child said, "but mommy gave us the money and for you too" and the nanny said, "fool, how you gonna 'git' the ice cream without me". This was not said in a joking way. Then the nanny pressed her twice more for a thank you. But you could tell that the very obviously sweet natured little girl, who did appear to be gracious was no longer enjoying her ice cream after that. She looked kind of scared and upset. The nanny is gruff talking and looking. The little girl was fair with blonde hair in a short bob, wearing white sandals with her dress. The nanny was very dark skinned with cornrows in a pony tail, denim jeans and a button up shirt. And before I get flamed, it wasn't just the words I attempted to capture, she was just very gruff and harsh with the little girl. No joy. No smiles.
22 comments:
Emotional abuse is just as bad as physical abuse. This nanny was abusing this poor little girl, and she punished her for what was good intentions at first. I hope her parents see this because they obviously brought this little girl up with manners and the nanny is deprogramming her
So Sad.
WTF???!! so because she didn't use HER OWN money she doesn't deserve a thank-you? hat's off to all those stay at home moms who don't "technically" earn a paycheck, this applies to them AS WELL. you heard the poster, your HUSBAND gave you that money, your child doesn't need to thank YOU for the follow through!!!
2:28-- The child should have thanked the nanny for taking her as well, but that doesn't justify the way the nanny allegedly acted towards the child.
Take a deep breath and unknot your panties, 2:28. The point isn't who the little girl did or did not thank, the point is the nanny's utter lack of kindness, sensitivity and tact. You do not berate a little girl and call her names under any circumstances.
wow 2:28, what repressed anger. I'm guessing you're an unemployed nanny. The little girl was right to want to thank her mother and the nanny, who probably didn't thank the mother, went out of her way to rob all the joy associated with the outing from that little girl. I'd guess she hates her job, resents her boss and is taking it out on the only helpless person she can, the little girl. I hope the little girl has enough courage to tell her mother
Wow, yeah she could have thanked the nanny and the mom but for the Nanny to say that she owes a thanks and then "fool, how you gonna 'git' the ice cream without me". Disgusting.
No offense, but why do people hire nannies whom they wouldn't want to leave alone in their houses unsupervised? If you can't afford a proper trained nanny, you get what you pay for.
I also can't get over the use of the word, "fool" in this context. Yes, this is exactly the kind of individual you want in a position of responsibility with your children.
Do you think SAHM have it easy? Especially, ones without help. Yes, their husbands give them money, but it works hand and hand. Maybe, the husbands are earing the money, but the moms not "working" outside the home are taking care of the kids. They are the ones waking up with their kids, feeding them, making dinner for the family, cleaning the house, washing clothes, paying household bills, running errands. Not just for themselves, but also taking care of their husbands, and THEIR children together. Some moms want to stay home for at least a couple of years with their children. And alot of men, husbands like it like that. If you can do it why not. Hurray, for all the men that welcome the idea of their wives staying home and raising the family. Even for a couple of years.
With the cost of daycare in NYC or the expense of a PROFESSIONAL nanny, it made little sense economically for me to go back to work after our twins were born. You need to look at things from more than one perspective than your own.
Having said that, this is a bad nanny sighting. The girl sounded so happy and innocent. And to think, the nanny got herself an ice cream out of it too. I wonder if she is the type of nanny that demands children to thank her but never says thank you or please to the children... or thank you to her employer.
Yes, perhaps this little girl should have thanked the nanny, but the nanny was abusive in the way she spoke to the child.
She could have easily said something like, "Sure we can call mommy and thank her and I would really like a thank you for taking you, okay?" Or something to that effect. She surely didn't have to call her a fool. She should not be working with children.
I agree with Rus. How much are nannies getting in the city? Or whats the price for a daycare in the city? Where I live in Northern New Jersey. Noticed most daycares that are average cost from $220-300 a week.
The daycare I wanted (reputation) was $450 a week for one, $750 for two.
Wow, Shame you don't live in Ohio, I am a Certified Professional Nanny running my own in home daycare...at 25 dollars a day OR 125 week per child....sounds so cheap compared to NYC!
Ohio Nanny,
It costs me $65 per day to board my 18 pound dog when I travel.
Your rates are dirt cheap for even Ohio, yes?
My charges always thank me for treats like ice cream, even though I have explained to them that mommy gives me money for these things.
Yes, the child should have said thank you. It bothers me that she said she didn't have to because mommy gave you the money. That indicates that she is not being taught good manners or good values. The nanny sounds mean and bad mannered herself, but I also wonder what the parents are teaching her.
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8:06...could be that her parents aren't teaching her manners properly but that surely doesn't give the nanny the right to call her a fool and verbally abuse her.
Again, this blog is not about attacking children. The age of this child is not referenced. Children before age 5 or so are quite literal minded so it might need to be asked, even innocently why she was thanking the nanny. By the by, wasn't it a treat for the nanny too??
8:16 PM
I didn't excuse the nanny. I said she was mean! I was trying to make the point that it was the nanny's, as well as the parents responsibility to teach her manners.
8:06
The Manhattan daycare in which I had my child was about $2500 a month for full-time (one child.) It was open from 8am-6pm. I noticed some of the parents also had a nanny to pick up and drop of child. Many demanding jobs do not let you get off in time to pick-up at 6pm!
So the parents whose children are in daycare from 8-6 are then looked after by a nanny for another couple of hours. Some parents choose "demanding jobs" over bonding with their kids, and wonder why they have no connection with their clinically depressed, substance abusing teenagers 10 years down the road. Sad imho. And to think, if they didn't have to pay $2500/mo for daycare on top of a nanny's salary, they wouldn't have to slave away at the demanding job.
Single parents are the only ones I can see making that choice for any valid reason.
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