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Matthiesen Park in Irvington NY

Received Monday, July 16, 2007
Description: This happened today (7/16) at 1PM. Your nanny is AA, slim, with her hair pulled back in a ponytail. Your son is around 18 months with long blonde hair over his eyes. He was wearing a brown collared shirt and blue shorts. Your son sat in the sand and played by himself. Your nanny just sat there, not looking at him at all and talked on her cell phone. It's not like your son is 5 years old, he wasn't even two! The nanny just kept talking. At one point your son went to leave the sand area and she didn't see him, still engrossed in her conversation. I had to call out "excuse me" to get her attention and get him. Then I guess she decided it was lunch time. She picked him up without saying a word. She put him in your Macalaren Volo Stroller (turquoise) and fed him his lunch little by little. A piece of string cheese, a nectarine (which she cut up). The oddest thing was that she was no longer on the phone at this point, but did not say ONE WORD to the child. This went on for about 30 minutes and then she left, again not saying anything. It's hard to believe you are paying this woman to take care of your son. It was very sad to watch.

20 comments:

Anonymous said...

Obviously, she isn't connected to the little guy. It's just a job to her. She may go through the motions that she feels are absolutely necessary but otherwise, doesn't even always pay attention to what he is doing and to sum it up... what we have here is another negligent, overpaid, nanny sloth

Anonymous said...

That's too bad. The most important thing a nanny does is interact with the child. If she is not doing that, they may as well hire any tom dick or harry to be their nanny.
I wonder do the parents know this?
It's hard to believe that they have no inkling of their nanny's lack of..er..enthusiasm?

Anonymous said...

Ah yes, hiring a warm body as a nanny. Not good enough.

Anonymous said...

I would love to know where you OP's charges are while you are minding other people's business.

Anonymous said...

Spoken like a negligent caregiver. And a coward.

Anonymous said...

I wouldn't leave my dog in the care of such a person, and I mean that from my gut.

This nanny is not fit to mind even a hermit crab.

Anonymous said...

As a nanny that came across this site... I am sickened. Where are YOUR children while you are spying on other people? I understand fully being concerned and wanting to keep the childs best interest at heart. God knows I love the kids I nanny as if they were my own. But honestly... But this website is just an online version of the moms I am shunned by daily because I am "just the nanny".

Anonymous said...

Moms only shun nannies if they dress poorly, are too ethnic, smell like kasha or obese.

What is your deal?

Anonymous said...

Whatever, 10:35. I thought it took a village? I guess not. And by the way, one can actually watch one's children and make observations about other things at the same time. You personal issues of being "shunned" have nothing to do with the fact that this little boy is not getting quality care. The world would be a much nicer place if people could just get over themselves.

Anonymous said...

Aside from not being quality child care, I think nannies like this that just sit and talk on the phone or read and ignore their charges are really missing out themselves. I have two toddlers and kids this age are F-U-N! Get out and play with these kids...you just might find you like it!

Anonymous said...

Many possibilities here:
this nanny could have been
bored
tired
overworked and needing a break
just having a bad day
no longer enjoying her job
too immature to do her job
upset with her boss
preoccupied with personal matters.

Although she sounds like a mediocre nanny, she wasn't abusive. But she was neglectful and detached. I hope she changes her approach to her job or quits her job before her neglect results in injury to the child.

Anonymous said...

8:02 why are you so venemous?
Is it really necessary to call nannies "sloths"? Let's be fair about this. I realize that there are some "bad" nannies out there. But the truth is, MOST nannies are quite dedicated and hardworking. They love their charges and enrich their lives. And very FEW of them are "overpaid"(that myth is particularly insulting).
Think before you speak. Nannies have feelings too. If you don't respect the nanny profession, fine. My suggestion is that you refrain from hiring one. And keep your venom to yourself.

Anonymous said...

10:37 *ahem* "too ethnic"???

Don't you have a Klan meeting to get to or something?

Anonymous said...

2:59:

I do believe that the poster was calling THIS particular nanny, and all nannies like her, sloths. She wasn't using the word to describe all nannies. Isn't that obvious?

9:45 and 10:35:

How difficult is it to watch a charge while observing someone near by? I do it all the time with my children. In the city, most people do this instinctively.

The ability to multi-task is a good trait to have.

Anonymous said...

2:59
Very well said!
10:37
People should shun you and your racism. "too ethnic" indeed. You're a jerk.

Anonymous said...

10:37 anonymous:
What do you mean when you say that they are too 'ethnic'?
Are you suggesting that ethnic groups are better off giving up their customs, language etc to be better integrated so that 'moms' can be more accepting?
Hmm, what is YOUR deal?

Anonymous said...

Sad indeed! 18 months is way too young to be sitting alone, he needs to be chased and the nanny needs to engage him in fun things to do in the park, as well as helping him make little friends his own age. I feel bad for him, but I suppose it could have been worse.

I also think all the talk about the OP minding her business is crap! I take my charge to the park all the time and even though I'm running around with the littlest one most of the time, I can still see very clearly what others are doing. I keep an open eye on him, his older siblings, and definitely on anyone creepy I see!!

Anonymous said...

10:37 PM
You sound like a truly horrid person. I bet the nannies are glad you keep your distance!

Anonymous said...

I thought that 10:37 seemed to be using a bit of humor to indicate what she thinks mom's judge upon. I didn't get the impression she was saying she felt this way... maybe I'm wrong, am I 10:37?

Anonymous said...

I actually got the same impression about 10:37, but when I read the negative reactions I thought perhaps I am wrong, but it sounded like sarcasm to me. How about clearing it up, 10:37?