Wednesday

Madison Avenue and 46th Street, NYC

Received Wednesday, May 23, 2007
This is a sighting. Not a particularly bad one, but I just think that the parents should know (if they don't already) what their nanny is doing while she is "on the clock". I saw your nanny walking up Madison Avenue pushing a beige Bugaboo-ish stroller with a 18 - 24 month old blonde girl. Girl was wearing a pink and green striped polo shirt, white pants and sandals with flowers on them. Stroller had a very large baby doll (wearing a purple outfit) perched on the back of it and a small Hello Kitty tote bag on one side. Nanny was AA and was with a male friend. It struck me as odd that they were walking up Madison Avenue, not near a park or anything, in midtown and that the nanny was with her male friend. I wouldn't like it if my nanny were with her male friend during the day when she should be playing with my daughter...

39 comments:

Anonymous said...

How do you know they werent coming from the childs house? or maybe from lunch? how do you know it wasnt her husband? The family I worked for didnt have a problem if my husband picked me up and their son and brought him back to our area since the parks where I live are smaller and you can close the gate so the child doesnt run out..

Anonymous said...

I swear to G-d people MYOB. Seriously. You have no idea if this was a nanny, or an older sibling, or a parent, or anything. You have no idea if the older male was a relative, of the child or nanny. You have no idea what is going on but you imediatly jump to..."that must be a nanny with a male friend which I KNOW is against her job description." This is just another stupid attack on nannies with no basis or knowledge.

kathaleen said...

Oh Please! The nanny was walking up Madison Ave. with a male instead of alone near a park... You're a fucking idiot!

Anonymous said...

I just figured out that AA means african american. Wow, that really clears things up for me. Here I was thinking what a bunch of alcoholic nannies, of course they're doing a crappy job.
Learn something new every day.

Kelly said...

I am not for nannies meeting up with their buddies on the job. However, I find this story inconclusive:

-Maybe the guy is the nanny's college age son, or even the baby's bodyguard. There are some families out there that actually have more than one person taking care of one kid at the same time.

-You made an effort to state the nanny's ethnicity, but not that of the guy. Is the guy white? If so, the baby could actually be their kid.

-It is not uncommon to find a nanny or parent with 'their' baby far from the park. There is such a thing as running errands, or taking a stroll along Madison avenue.

rachel said...

I agree that this is largely inconclusive. However, I do think that it should not matter to anyone except the parents of that child. Where did you people become so sensitive? It's like walking on eggshells with you. If I see something that makes me think, "I wouldn't like that if that were my child", as a working mother with a nanny; I am going to post it here. I am not going to be bullied by a bunch of rabid nannies who scream "no fair" at every turn.

It's not just nannies that are being watched, it's waitresses, border patrol agents, people parking their cars, ciggarette smokers and oh so many more!

http://dirtyscoop.blogspot.com

Toughen up & realize that you are living many private moments on camera these days. (So you might as well be a decent human being.)

Kelly said...

Hi Rachael,

You are right, when people see something that they wouldn't like happening to their children, they should exercise the right to post it here and not fear being bullied.

What I am trying to say is that if people are going to post, they should make an effort to give conclusive information. I could point out ten other things that are inconclusive, or just plain offensive about the "Madison Avenue" story.

For instance, this bad nanny happens to be African American, right? As bad as this African American is, the guy she is with is somehow beyond description. What the poster is implying is that there is this bad African American woman somewhere, but hey, who gives a f**k what the guy is, the bottom line is that there is a bad African American woman out there. The nerve!

People should by all means post, but one sided racial/ethnic descriptions are as stupid and offensive as racial profiling.

Anonymous said...

Kelli,
let me guess, you're a liberal?

If the you have a nanny and you have a child who is 18-24 and that child has a very large baby doll in a purple outfit and she or her nanny may have reason to perch said doll on the back of their beige, bug-like stroller AND your nanny is african american, well then I would suggest you ask her what she did with her day.
(I think this is what the poster was saying.)
This is not a one sided description. The majority of caregivers are African American in New York. FACT. I have seen non African American's described on this blog as white, caucasian and anglo. Why are you so bent out of shape? It's a fucking description.
You know, like if a red headed white guy stole your pocketbook and ran off down 5th Avenue, you might want to be able to describe him factually.

I don't want my DD hanging around ANY people I have not met first, especially men.

And I will never apologize for describing a person in the terms I see fit when a description is relevant.

Anonymous said...

This website is called "I saw your nanny". Not anything about race or ethnicity. Descriptions are only to alert the parents of what the nanny in question looked like.

I was the original poster of this. Merely letting the parents know that I saw their nanny.

Anonymous said...

This site is called "I saw your nanny". It has nothing to do with race. Physical descriptions of children or caregivers helps parents in identifying whether or not it is their nanny and/or child.

I'd want to know this if it were my nanny. Especially if I had no idea who the man was.

Anonymous said...

1:11:

Very well said. Fully agree. Many people here don't seem to have any common sense.

Anonymous said...

OMG... The nanny was walking with some male friend...

Were they abusing the child? Being mean? Screaming? Yelling? Was it simply just walking? You have no idea what the circumstances were that brought these two together so prehaps to post about it is not appropriate.

suzette price said...

you might want to google "babysitter's boyfriend" and see the horror stories that come up. From kidnapping to rape.
Sad, but true. So why not err on the side of caution. Isn't the point of this board to alert parents to how nannies behave when they are not around? If nanny is behaving just as she would if Mom was around, then NO harm. However, if mom doesn't know this man or know why they are in midtown, then address that. Raise the bar, people. These are children. It is my responsibility and your responsibility to defend and stand up for them. Why do you keep defending adults? All that we ask is that the adults be held accountable for their actions.

No harm. No foul.

Kelly said...

So those of you who think you are f**king brilliant, what was the guy's race/ethnicity? You seem very concerned that the nanny was with some guy, but do we have a description of this dangerous guy whom the poster neglected to describe? This Madison Avenue story is still inconclusive until the poster describes the guy too. What is it was a friend of the baby's parents. Full description of the guy, please!

I am not a liberal!

Kelly said...

Oh, and before you start attacking me again, tell me what the guy looked like.

Kelly said...

To 1:11AM:
"if a red headed white guy stole" my "pocketbook and ran off down 5th Avenue", and he was with friend, I would describe the friend as well, and not omit that information.

Anonymous said...

11:23:

No common sense. None at all.

Anonymous said...

kelly,
your immediate help is required.
I saw a dog outside the gates of ancient playground. I was worried that it could be lost or even diseased. Now I need to call ASPCA. Please help me as dog is medium sized and black. What should I say to ASPCA?

Kelly said...

To 12:42PM:

Is the dog with another dog whose description you are witholding? I am not going to waste my high IQ trying to help you understand how things work. You sound rabid, maybe someone should take you to the ASPCA.

Anonymous said...

Kelly,
I think the point she is making is that this site is called I SAW YOUR NANNY. Not I saw the person standing next to your nanny. Not even I saw your child. In fact I think more emphasis should be placed on describing the nanny and less on the child. Do we really want some pervert to know that a blonde child who wears pink sneakers and carries a tigger doll hangs out at X park with a nanny who naps?

Anonymous said...

Why do I have no common sense? It seems to me that there are those on this board who love to gossip about the stupidest things. For all you know, it was the kids dad neighbor, friend... The mom may have known and given the OK.

The point is that there is a post about nothing. The child wasn't abused or neglected. This is a post about nothing. I am not a nanny either BTW...

Anonymous said...

I think you are VERY wrong.
I once had a nanny who started as a live-out and after working for us for almost two years went to live with her sister in NJ because she left her abusive boyfriend. The commute was too hard on her and we loved her, so we invited her to move in. We did some quick rennovations to turn part of our finsished basement in to a nanny suite. And everything was good. Four months later, a friend of mine sees nanny having a screaming argument outside a KFC. The argument occured after they had sat down and had a meal together.
My dc was with her and HER ex boyfriend. I would never want my child exposed to that and I felt betrayed by nanny that she would sneak around and see the abusive boyfriend, not just jeopardizing her well being, but also my childs!

So sometimes, you know not what you see. It might be something. It might be nothing.

Anonymous said...

Kelly

What they are trying to say is that the African American nanny was with some guy, but there is no need to describe the guy. It doesn't matter if the guy was the baby's father, uncle, brother, or bodyguard, he doesn't need to be described. Why describe all the people involved when you can point out the African American.

jayne said...

point out the African American?
Or point out the nanny?

Idiot!

Anonymous said...

When you see something, say something in full. if you see five people doing something wrong around a baby, describe all 5 people, not just the nanny (African American or otherwise). If this was a court case, most of the commentators on this story would be deemed brainless.

Anonymous said...

Kelly,
I know that is still you. Only one person could be so idiotic. Look at the header, what is this blog called? I saw your nanny. Now descirbe the nanny or move the F on!
What is the court case? We don't even know that anything was wrong here. The nanny was described. The end. Go protest tuna companies or something. Save the red tailed Otter.

jayne said...

141,
I think you are a bit confused as to the purpose of this blog. If it was something significan enough to warrant a court case, I believe you are supposed to err-- uhm, call 911.

Kelly said...

1:41:
Oh please, are you having a Kelly day today? Gimmie a break. Are you so intent on proving me wrong that you will accuse me of being every anonymous poster on this site? Go play anonymous shrink with someone else.

Anonymous said...

So now it is suspicious to see a nanny walking on Madison Ave.? Oy Vey!

Anonymous said...

They were walking up the street. Maybe they ran into each other and were just talking. Maybe her husband works night and the mom lets them meet up for lunch. I find this the least offensive of any post.

Anonymous said...

I agree with 942, but I am delighted to see that people seem to be out there paying attention more to what goes on. I think that is great. Can you imagine how many posts don't end up on here? Maybe people are stepping up to the plate more and just being generally braver and better people?

Thanks for posting OP.

Anonymous said...

suzette price:
you may also want to search something like "Mom's Boyfriend" to see how many rape and abuse stories come up. Or "Stepfather." " Clergymen." "Teachers." When I was a nanny, the kids I watched only had 1 real male figure in their lives: my boyfriend. Thier father was skiing in Switzerland or sailing in Bermuda or whatever. Who's the bad guy in that story?

Don't be so afraid of the working class, for God's sake. It's embarassing.

Nanny Ninja said...

This all could have been very innocent. The male friend could have worked at one of the stores, be a boyfriend the parents know (my family knows my boyfriend, he attends the children's parties with me and sometimes joins us on outtings), be a family friend, etc.

Anonymous said...

All i want to point out is don't be so quick to jump to conclusions simply by skin tone. My mother is black and my father is white. I look like our mom (dark skin), and my sisters who are 10 years younger than me look like our dad. I hate to think of how many other people may have judge me and how i took care of my sisters (Who i love more than anything and am very close with) simply because they may have thought i was a nanny slacking off. We all know that sibling relationships are a bit more relaxed and casual than a nanny/child relationship which is more business and formal.

Kori said...

I find the blatant racism on this website embarassing and pathetic, especially the ones that start with "I'm not racist, but..."

A woman walking with a man and a baby down Madison Ave does not seem at all suspicious to me. The woman may have gotten permission to meet up with this man from her employers. Also, you can't expect a nanny to play with the baby the WHOLE entire time she is watching him. For all you knew, she could have been walking back to the employer's home from the park. Or maybe the baby needs to be walked in the stroller before she takes a nap. I just don't think the situation needs to be so dissected into all of these negative assumptions.

Anonymous said...

I am a married black nanny,who works full time for a great family, my husband and i often take out my employer child who is white and a 4yr with us on weekends lately because his mom is under bed rest.


The bottom line is assumptions is the mother of all evil.

Anonymous said...

Last I checked, taking a baby for a nice stroll was not a bad thing. Maybe they had already been to the park, or maybe the past ten days had been spent at the park...children like to be walked also, in fact almost as much when they are still little. As for the man, you never know what the arrangement was between the nanny and the family she worked for. Maybe she had just run into the guy, maybe it was her husband and they had met for lunch, bodyguard, whatever. Didn't seem strange to me at all.

Anonymous said...

My nanny takes my twins out always with a male member of our staff. I wouldn't go so far as calling him a bodyguard, although a substantial part of his job is home & family security. He, like the nanny is black. He is with her not specifically for security purposes, but to fold the stroller and place it in the trunk of the cab, to assist the nanny with the twins, etc. So, please keep in mind when posting such broad sightings as this- that many families have mutiple staff members.

Anonymous said...

Word!