Received Thursday, May 10, 2007
Your horrible unprofessional nanny yelling judgmental things at the park yesterday - this time, nanny yelled at another kid (who was with his own nanny) saying "I don't like that kid - he hits". Kid in question was a 22 mo who did hit, but ( his nanny was right there to solve the problem and did not). Bad loud nanny kept yelling "I don't like him" at the poor kid. What I want to know is - who are these parents that hire these totally unprofessional rude nannies who sit on their duffs at JJ Byrne Park. If your nanny takes your child to this park, do your child a favor and pay a surprise visit to JJ Byrne Park. Guaranteed you will see a slew of bench sitting nannies at that park. They do not play with their charges, just sit and gossip with each other. (Probably about you).
52 comments:
You must be the mother of the little boy who got yelled at. I just read about this on the PSP website also. Very, very sorry to hear this happened to your son.
I was at the playground yesterday, but, obviously not the same time as you. How about a description of the nanny who did the yelling? I am sure her employer would be interested to know she behaves this way. Again, hope your son is ok.
why doesn't a newspaper do an undercover sting/expose on these nannies? I have already offered $100 per picture for a napping nanny. And I've had no takers.
Maggie - I love your idea, kinda like Dateline's "To Catch a Predator"...I can see it now "To Catch a Sleeping, Horrible, Negligent or Drunk Nanny".
I would certainly watch!
Ah yes..... all bad nanny roads lead to JJ Byrne.
Did anyone ever identify the sweet linen blonde girl of about 3 1/2 (who wears cherry sneakers sometimes) with the useless, bench sitting nanny who ignored her for 2 hours or more?
Little girl sometimes carries an old bunny or some other animal.
There is a whole clique of nannies there that hang out together. They are black. I can't say African American because I don't know if they are American. They only speak to each other so it's tough to figure out.
Maggie, I'll take you up on that offer. I'm waiting patiently to catch one in action !
$100 for anyone who snaps a cellphone shot of a nanny clearly sleeping on the job!
I'll have to go set up some sort of alternate email address least I become the personal target of a disgruntled nanny.
(that was for you, my friend!)
I'll get back to you.
I don't have a cell phone camera, but I carry my digital nearly all the time.
MUHAHA !!!!!
Is the sleeping nanny still there? I haven't seen her in a few weeks and was wondering if her employers fired her yet!
Just a note, as nanny, if I saw one sleeping, I'd be all up in her face giving her my two cents, and then following her arse home to report her. That is unexcusable behavior, and so is letting it go by without saying anything. I have never seen a nanny sleeping, and I am quilty of sitting on a bench while the kids run around and talking to my friends, but my eyes are qlued on my charges the whole time. More than I can say for some mothers.
1:29-
The sleeping nanny is still there and still employed by the same people.
LOL they are Black Huh??!! You People are pathetic..
this sounds like two bad nannies at the same time. i hate it when people are entirely lacking in problem solving skills. it wasn't right for the nanny to scream about not liking the child, especially when at age two all you really get is the yelling part and not so much the full content. it also wasn't right of the child's nanny do stand by and do nothing to resolve the issue of the child hitting, or the other nanny screaming.
and 4:52-- "You People"...? There are different kinds of white, just like there are different kinds of black, the nannies could be hispanic, carribean, african-american, etc. Very much in the way that a white nanny can be irish, italian, german, and so forth. It is not un-PC to say a group of people of a certain physical discription are standing around. Nobody likes to be called a racist, just like nobody likes to be called "You People".
4:52, black is not a dirty word. It is more insulting to call someone African-American if they are British, for instance. That's why I am not down with the A-A description of people I do not know.
Why do you think the benches are at the park? Children are taken to the park to socialize with other children. Sure, you could play with your own child...but not necessarily the whole time. Also speaking with other caregivers is a source of information and ideas! My parents are the best parents...and never played with me anywhere...I played with other children. I am now a parent with 2 great grown sons and am a loved and respected elementary school teacher. Do you think teachers play with their charges at recess? No. Children need to make friends and keep friends by socializing/playing with other children/friends. Don't be so quick to judge. Let me follow you around and critique your day!
Who are these parents, indeed. Who are these parents who think so little of their infants and toddlers to leave them in the care of "nannies" all day long. How sad. It begs the question .... why did they have children in the first place?
PS Don't tell me they HAVE to work .... if they can afford a "nannie" they can afford to stay home and care for their child themselves.
Maybe people should stop having so many freakin kids, and leaving them to strangers to raise.
Nanny-glorified name for a babysitter.
I agree with 4:52. Why does it matter what race the "clique of nannies" are? Why did you have to put "They are black."? Who cares, a bad nanny is a bad nanny, there was no need to point out the race.
This is a very informative and much needed site. I'll be sure to pass it on.
I agree with the lady yelling. If I saw some kid hitting my charge I would get pissed off also. Imagine going home with that child after the kid has a bruise. Who's ass and job is on the line?? I am only upset because I found out that I work with very ignorant people. I am in the process of adopting a little girl who is 2 years old from the United States. I never said what race she was but I was talking to a group of women about the process and how the experience has taught me alot. What started off as an innocent conversation about adoption and how its a shame how people aren't aware of the children in the US that need to be adopted, turned into a price comparision about how much their kids cost. One lady got me really upset. She said and I quote "My husband and I got a little asian baby because they are worth the money. My kid is going Harvard for sure, compared to those little n-babies from Africa who have the nappy hair and are probably going to end up in jail. I wouldn't spend my money on one (she said the n word)in the US never mind rasing one! I feel sorry for Angelina and Madonna and Brad Pitt I am shocked he would even settle for that (n baby)" At that point I excused myself from the situation and left the room. My new daughter is african american and I am part african american as well. (I never told anyone what I was, most think I am hispanic) The sad part is that others agreed with her and said that most kids that needed to be adopted in the US are little (n's) and need help. I just needed to vent and I feel so uncomfortable going back to work tomorrow.
OP, to answer your question, "who are the parents who hire these nannies?"
They are parents who are not willing to pay a decent salary on the books for a professional nanny. Many of the so called nannies are illegal, and will work long hours, and do cleaning and laundry, because they can't get anything better. They are being exploited, and they are resentful. Of course there is no excuse for mistreating the children who are dependent on them, but the parents have to take some responsibility as well.
1:49: mouth agape. i know there was some brouhaha here about the original post, but man, it makes me sad and sick that the family didn't look into it. what can i say? i tried. i wish the kids well but i know it will happen again.
To clarify, the hitting boy's nanny was right there and DID solve the problem - boy was happy, kid he hit was happy - the boy's nanny did not ignore the problem. The loud unprofessional nanny then took it upon herself to just yell at the 2yo for no apparent reason. Please, parents - go to JJ Byrne park for a surprise visit on your nanny - they are really terrible there.
All you people who know who his sleeping nanny is: call us to arms, tell us when to meet you at J Byrne park, we will be there so WAKE THIS WOMAN AND HER EMPLOYERS UP. This is just so wrong.
7:41:
Now that you have a new daughter hopefully you'll figure out that kids hitting around the age of 2 is NORMAL CHILD DEVELOPMENT. They don't all hit, but some do and anyone who bothers to read a childcare book or listen to their pediatrician knows this. It's normal. N-o-r-m-a-l.
More proof that the yelling nanny is a fake who has pulled the wool over her employer's eyes. She wouldn't know what's normal if it bit her on her fat ass.
If I were you I'd think twice about yelling at a 2 year old, you psycho.
Now on to 5:39:
Duh, yes, benches are indeed for sitting. But not for hours at a clip while your charge goes ignored!
Poor, poor kids.
ps to 7:41:
You may want to stop hanging out with KKK members if your story is true. I doubt it is though.
what in the hell was the point of the post from 7:41?
incoherent=check
idiotic=check
offensive=check
7:41 was perfectly coherent. Try reading slower to match your brain's pace.
what happened to the working mom and stay at home mom?
Hmmm maybe the bi racial mom who is adopting should write a perspective and opinion piece on the moms she has to deal with!
Why is that? Is it because of her strong writing skills?
I am the OP of 7:41 and for your information like I said I just needed to vent and to the poster who said my story isn't true you don't live in the area I live in. Maybe I need to move I dunno but that is besides the point. Why would I make up a story like that to begin with? I have been talking to my family about it all day not to mention my other co workers who overheard the conversation. If this was not the place to tell my story I apologize but I was responding to another post and I got caught up. I am not going to say sorry for the content of my post. People like to turn their head and cover their ears and don't want to believe that someone would say something like that. Believe it, it happens everyday.
Is it me or did this blog get even more hits than usual today? traffic was rough-hard to get through.
741's story is believable to me. People think they can control their lives and the future lives of their children, especially if they throw enough money at something. Like the saying goes: "Man plans, God laughs." Just wait till their perfect asian girls are on drugs, dropping out of school pregnant, getting themselves arrested while the "nappy" black adoptees end up as lawyers defending them for mondo fees paid out by the arrogant (and disappointed) parents. Sorry you had to hear the ignorant cows mooing. You are awesome for adopting within the USA. Good Luck. Karma!
This isn't one bad nanny sighting. It is two. Your nanny needs to be able to hold her own out there against a lot worse than an angry and loud nanny. Do a search within this blog for Kohls. I remember a good nanny sighting at Kohls. That nanny would NOT have stood by for this!
1:02:
Personally, I would want my nanny to walk away. The JJ Byrne Bench Sitters Club is made up of a crew of low-class, ignorant, obnoxious, cliquey women. They cannot be reasoned with, I am certain. I mean, anyone who yells at a stranger's 2 year old has something up their ass, no? One word in an effort to get them to back off would set them off like rabid wolves. And then what? Deal with them everyday as they plot and plan their revenge, or never return to the neighborhood park? And all this in front of children? No thanks. If it were just me I'd be up for it, but any mother or nanny with any degree of class knows that screaming and flailing arms and such in front of kids is wrong. And dangerous. That is what you'll get from that group.
7:41:
What exactly is "your area?" I can count 6 friends and colleagues in THIS area who have adopted and no one is mumbling about the fact that the kids are bi-racial. They embrace it.
This rumor of young, HEALTHY children of color sitting around and never getting adopted is false.
They aren't as adoptable as some not because they are of color, but because many of them are special needs children. Not everyone is equipped to deal with raising a special needs child off the bat, and I respect that and I don't judge.
But anyway, the average wait to adopt a young American child of color is obnoxiously long, even at places like Harlem Dowling, where they claim it's less. My friends, who would be the 7th couple I know to adopt a child of color, have been waiting 4 years now. Of course they could bring home a baby with FAS (fetal alcohol syndrome) tomorrow if they agreed.
JMT:
It's good that someone who endorses yelling at a 2 year old is adopting?
Disgusting.
I wish the child better luck.
712
thanks for your informative response. I walked away with a better understanding of the situation at JJ Byrne as well as some interesting facts about adopting within the US
After reading this blog I have a couple of things to say:
To the OP the I am sorry but I am going to have to agree with the yelling nanny. All parents would LOVE to believe that their nannies are perfect people in their crazy little heads. Have you checked out MYSPACE at all?? Type in your nanny's first and last name...good luck! Secondly like 7:41 said you go home with that kid and have to hear the parents scream at you cause their precious little Johnny got a bruise on their arm from evil Damien at the playground. Parents don't want to hear that. They want to know two things...WHERE you were, and WHY you weren't watching them. But the funny and crazy thing is, is that if that nanny did nothing, people would be calling her a bad person and she needs to be fired. You can't win can you???
And to 7:41...I TOTALLY believe your story. First and foremost I am white, caucasion, Italian whatever you want to call me. If I heard anyone saying what that lady said I would #1. tell her that she is a racist beyotch, and tell her about herself. Also let her know that her perfect little asian kid is probably going to end marrying some crazy white dude and becoming his sex slave. And 2. I would report her to your boss. If other co workers overheard this conversation I would tell him/her the content of it and have her fired. That is soooo sickening. And the comment about her story not being true, I don't know where you live but it must be a very diverse neighborhood where everyone gets along. Racism still exists. Where I work I hear it all the time and I live in New York City. NYC is suppose to be the most diverse city in the world. Not really. I work with people and overhear them make statements to the effect of why they hired an african american nanny or a hispanic nanny. People don't like me because I always speak my mind. If I hear you say something racists or rude I am going to comment on it. I think that its wrong. I can quit my job and move on but its everywhere so why bother. People need to realize that its 2007 and we are suppose to be moving forward not backwards. And its just sad to think that people on this blog would make fun of a subject as heavy as this one.
7:12 I don't know what you are so angry about. Who cares WHAT area 7:41 lives in. I think the point she is trying to make is that there is racism still around. No matter where you live. You can live in an all black neighborhood, and all white neighborhood its STILL around no matter where you go. Although I do not agree with the screaming nanny I would like to say that maybe she has a crazy employer and she was nervous. Who knows. At the same time 7:41 I do apologize for those nasty statements made towards you. And 7:12 if you read her post afterwards she did apologize not once but twice.
Oh I found my nanny's myspace profile but not by typing in her name. I searched our area (within 5 miles) and her age group. It took me awhile but what I found was crazy! She only had one face shot, the rest were thong, cleavage and tongue. Crude things on the page. Crude messages. Even one anti semetic comment left on her page referencing her job.
jane: pretty soon you are going to have to call a moratorium on bad nanny sitings at JJ Byrne Park in Park Slope, Brooklyn! i've been there a few times and what i saw made me sick and mad. we walked way away - as in, not going back there ever. between the nasty nannies and glass on the ground, walking up the slope to Prospect Park doesn't seem so bad.
Park Slopers--what a lot of misguided folks! Both parents work to afford their Brownstone Home Improvements, and their "lovely" caregiver. They HAVE NO CLUE about their nannies' real personlity. They wouldn't want to. They actually believe the sweetface nannies put on in front of them.
I've seen it all, and Carib. nannies are some or the rudest@!! I would NEVER talk back to them. HOw dare PSParents assume others would talk back to them, & risk the abuse because they're not around to.
Actually, JJ Byrne has improved significantly. I'm talking about the lack of glass and debris, not the lack of bad nannies. It would actually be quite lovely if it weren't for them!
I see these same things in Washington DC, where I work in a library. At Storytime we get dozens and dozens of nannies rolling in the buggies, but they talk throughout the storytime and when they leave they talk so loudly that you'd think an airplane was landing in the library - it is THAT loud. Many nannies I see pay NO attention to the kids EVER. Many never speak a word of English to them. And the poor defenseless kids just have to put up with it. They stop short of outright ABUSE, so we can not reprimand or report them, but they are mostly HORRIBLE caretakers and I will never understand why people would leave their children in their care.
DC mom here. If anyone in DC wants to share specifics about the goings on at any libraries or parks, please do. I pay my nanny very well and treat her like a queen. (She is taking care of my treasured daughter). However I am well aware of the adverse affects of the power of the pack. If the nanny gets in with a bad pack, she adjusts the level of care to fit that of the pack she joins.
Please let us know what library!
539, children in school are old enough to play with other children, not the teacher. Toddlers "parallel play." While it looks like they are "playing", toddlers are just following the crowd. They need adult supervision, and yes, interaction from their caregivers. As it has been many years since you have had a toddler, I'll just ignore your ignorance.
and 625, some parents who have nannies do have to work! Sometimes the benefits are too good to walk away from. My best friend needs to work. As a cancer survivor, her job at the ACS provides benefits her husband job cannot. Get off your soapbox.
DC Mom:
I am in NY, but I want to reassure you, if you have a great nanny, she will avoid the bad pack, and seek out those who share her standards.
A nanny
My mama always told me 'Birds of a feather, flock together'
and mamas and moms and mothers are usually right! Happy Mothers Day to all the loving mothers of the world!
JJByrne Park? Where is it? I'd like to visit there with my camera.
why dont you point the camera up your crack
Have any of you ever actually interacted with any of the nannies in JJ Byrne playground? I do every day and the majority of them are not ignorant, under-educated, needlessly aggressive, or rude. There is a certain amount of cliquishness (actually often breaks down among the different Caribbean islands), but I don’t find it any more annoying than the “mid-thirties bugaboo and music for aardvarks wanna-be hipsters” cliques. Sometimes they can be outspoken, but I usually find it’s in defense of one of their charges. But then again, I want my nanny to be the mother bear for my children when I’m not there. I wouldn’t yell at a child for hitting one of my daughters, but the parent/nanny and child would quickly hear that that behavior is not tolerated. My nanny doesn’t feel the need to sugar-coat like I do, and that’s fine with me. I mean how many times can you tell the inconsiderate mother of two not to smoke in the gated area or tell the same parents not to congregate on the bridge because they are blocking the other toddlers’ passage? There are only so many times you should have to tell a parent to close the gate behind herself or hint to her that allowing her child to take the mini stroller up on the slide is creating a hazard for the other children. Most of the time that I show up at the park to play with my daughters, (I’m at SAHM with a wonderful full-time nanny that frequents JJ Byrne) I actually see pretty dutiful nannies and relatively clueless parents.
My nanny wouldn’t yell so this not in defense of a nanny as much as it is a response to the generalization about nannies in JJ Byrne that tends to pervade this site. Oh, and I sit on the bench occasionally when I go to JJ Byrne and I happen to be black. So remember, some of the benchwarmers may be looking back at you with the same distaste you seem to have for them.
11:48 Great comment!
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