This is more a solicitation for advice than a nanny spotting. This afternoon, I was walking down my driveway to get my mail when I noticed something fall out of my across-the-street neighbor's upstairs window. This crash was immediately followed by shrieks of horror coming from inside the house (but audible to me, standing in my own driveway). I was concerned about the yelling and wondering if I should ring the doorbell and check to see if everything was okay, but before I could do that, my neighbor's 6 year old son came running from the garage, crying and screaming, with his nanny following him. He threw himself to the ground on the driveway where the crash had occurred. Apparently, the 6 year old had intentionally broken one of his older brother's Lego creations, and as punishment, the nanny threw his Lego castle out the window. The 6 year old was devastated as he picked up the pieces of his creation, and when the Nanny came near him, he got up, yelled "I hate you!" and ran away from her (toward the back yard). The nanny chased him around the yard for a bit, urging him to get into the car because they had an errand to run. He kept running from her and she kept walking toward him, sternly and angrily, and finally, after verbal threats, he conceded and got into the car.
So my question is-- do you think what the nanny did was out of line? Certainly everyone is entitled to their own philosophies of discipline, but throwing a child's toy out a window seems to me to be very aggressive and probably scary to the child. If it was out of line, should I tell my neighbor what I saw? We've just recently moved into the neighborhood so it's not as though we're great friends and I could just casually mention it. Part of me thinks I should mind my own business, but the other part thinks that if my neighbor ever witnessed my nanny treating MY child like that, I would very much want to know.