Example of Clueless BROOKLYN Employer- A mother vents

Received Friday, March 23, 2007
I read this post of my local parenting board, and couldn't believe my eyes. I deleted the nanny's name while I continue to consider whether or not to post it:

"We have/had a wonderful babysitter named XXXXXXXXX who we have not been able to contact/find. She was taking care of our twin boys for the past 5 -6 months on Tues and Thurs. A couple of weeks ago we received a phone call from her that her grandmother was ill and that she had to return to her country and would not be able to work for the week but would likely return this week. We have since heard nothing from her despite our calls to her cell phone.

She was very kind and competent with the care she provided our boys(1yo) genuinely like her. We thought she was reliable . . .although there were a number of times that she didn't show up for work, we were willing to give her the benefit of the doubt and continue working with her . . . this, however, is both discouraging/sad and concerning. If anyone has knows XXXXXXX or has contact with her could you please contact me."

To me, this is the classic case of the clueless employer. How could one honestly say that "we thought she was reliable" and then follow that with "although there were a number of times that she didn't show up for work."

Unfortunately, this employer is not alone. To that end, I have actually known acquaintances to speak horribly about the nannies they've fired, only to see them "helping" the same person a few days later by placing an ad for them saying "hire our wonderful former nanny."

I am sick and tired of these employers passing their bad nannies to other families. They need to be held accountable.

Any ideas on how?

I strongly urge employers to USE THEIR HEADS when it comes to the people who watch their children, and I strongly urge them to DO THE RIGHT THING and not give good references to bad nannies.

Thank you for allowing the vent.

Signed, mom with a good nanny who is sick & tired of all the bad nannys....and their employers


Anonymous said...

I think it's rude of you to post this-- people post on PSP with some expectation that their posts are only open to the community, and you are unnecessarily attacking people "annymously" whose identity can be easily verified. You should own up to your opinion, post this to park slope parents and sign your post.

Anonymous said...

Honestly that little quirp you posted sounds exactly like a story i read in "becoming mary poppins" (good book btw- you all should read it) and in the end it was found out that the grandmother was not actually sick, but the nanny just went to work for another family. sad but it happens. the kids get attatched to us just as much as we get attatched to them.

Anonymous said...

yep.. y didnt you post this to psp website. dumb to put it hear thinking none of the parents go to this website dumbass. hello... arent you one of those parents

nh said...

659-Could you please repost your comment in english? I've no clue what you're going on about.

Anonymous said...

nh, don't be a stick in the mud. Some people just type fast and end up with typos. DUH

Anonymous said...

I didn't think that "no one from there would see it here." You can reserve your usage of name calling for yourself.

I also don't feel that I violated any rules of etiquette by posting it here. It's relevent to the topics that are discussed on this board.

I removed 3 pieces of informaton that were very personal in nature which were originally posted by the family of the missing nanny on a board of thousands -- the name of the site, the family's name and the nanny's name.

I will not post that information now nor will I in the future.

There is nothing further I will say on the topic, other than to urge employers to NOT overlook the obvious in regards to their employees (who are not hired to watch a plant -- but to watch children) and to NOT pass them along to the next unsuspecting family without an honest reference.

Thank you.

jmt said...

Passing on a bad nanny is like passing on a counterfeit $100 bill. You don't want to get stuck with it, you get rid of it ASAP, and hope the next person doesn't end up getting hurt. Selfish.
(Not that I would do that - with either)

PS (Typos happen, but badly written posts are hard to read and understand.)

Anonymous said...

Anyone here ever watch Yes Dear reruns? The one where Kim hires a verbally abused nanny, only to find out the other mom did it on purpose in front of her to make Kim feel sorry for the nanny? And the nanny was horrible? And then Kim found out her whole playgroup did the same thing to one another? Too funny, but then again, that was a sitcome. In real life, that would be horrible to pass a bad nanny onto an unsuspecting family.

Anonymous said...

Just curious, I'm kind of in the opposite situation right now. I'm an excellent, well educated, creative, loving nanny who wants to quit my job. My fear though is that I'll get a bad reference because my current boss is psycho! I adore the two kids, but their mother is driving me crazy. She is never happy with anything or anyone in her life and I honestly feel that she will give me a bad reference because she'll be so annoyed that she has to spend time looking for a new nanny. I am one of the good ones. I see the bad ones, I'm not one of them. How do I stand up for myself!