Received Tuesday, January 23, 2007
Friday 19th January. Little Scoops - Pleasantville, NY.
Larger nanny with dark hair, wearing jeans and black coat - speaks with English accent. At birthday party with 5 year old with dark hair and brown eyes - named Ethan. Saw this nanny storm over to little boy (not Ethan) and berate him for playing with Ethan. The boys were running around and playfully hitting each other as 5 year old boys do. The little blonde boy sat on the side of the party for the rest of the time that he was there and wouldn't join in any of the organised games. Shame on her for ruining the party for him!
Ethan's Nanny Responds....01/21/07 8:00 PM EST
I'd like to respond to the 3:10 post from Pleasantville, NY.
I am the nanny in question. This was a party at Little Scoops where most of the parents stayed. There were about 25 children. My charge - Ethan was playing with the other boys, unfortunately one child found it amusing to come up behind him and swat him on the behind and then run away - repeatedly. He asked the child to stop over and over. When the party games arranged by Little Scoops started, Ethan tried to participate, but was swatted on the behind again and again by the same little boy. He knows I have a strict rule about being physical and eventually gave up taking part in the party games and came to me and said that he couldn't play because of the other child. I then went to the little boy who was sitting next to his mother, knelt in front of him and said - IN THESE EXACT WORDS - "Ethan loves playing with you, but he doesn't enjoy it when you hit his behind and he can't take part in the party games, so could you please stop". His mother looked at me as if I had two heads for daring to admonish her child even though I had heard him run up to her and say "mom, I'm hitting Ethan's butt" - she didn't berate him or tell him to stop. I am ETHAN'S nanny and while I do not intend to traumatise any child ETHAN'S emotional and physical well being is my priority. This could have been avoided if the child's mother had been paying attention to her child's behaviour - unless of course this behaviour is something she condones. I have degrees in psychology and business, and I am not an uninformed, meek, underachieving person who is too scared to stand up for a little boy who understands what is and is not acceptable in terms of playing. If this was a post by the mother who feels that I slighted her in any way - SHAME ON YOU for not setting acceptable limits for your child. And if this is one of the other mothers that was at the party, I feel sorry for you that you have to involve yourself in something that was such a non-event. I mentioned this incident to Ethan's mother and father an hour after the party and believe that I handled the situation with tact and respect. BTW - I do not live in Pleasantville, but rather in Chappaqua, and if I had been the nanny at the Mount Pleasant library, I would have helped the child pick up and reshelve the books, not berate him.