Showing posts with label New Jersey. Show all posts
Showing posts with label New Jersey. Show all posts

Tuesday

Old Nanny in a Bad Situation

Does anyone know if in Northern New Jersey, animals are provided some sort of protection under the law? My former nanny is now working for a family in Bergen County and she is terrified of the father of the home. She has seen him pick up the 2 year old dog twice, once throwing it down the steps of the deck for having an accident in the house. She also says he kicks the dog in the stomach "all the time", "whenever it's in the way" and that he does it in front of the young children, but never the wife.

If there is nowhere to report this animal abuse, what are the laws of say leaving your own cellphone to capture animal abuse on camera? She is afraid to tell her female boss or anyone about because her employer is "big and powerful" but says if she had proof, she wouldn't be scared because she would be believed.

We don't use a nanny any longer as our kids go to school full time and an after school program. But I am worried for her. In addition to the abuse against a helpless animal, she told me that he one time walked in on her reminding the four year old to take his shoes off because he was tracking mud across the carpet. The father's response was to go outside and yank out a flower plant and throw it on the carpet, so mud and dirt went everywhere. He then told her, "Stop harping on my son."

This sounds completely unreasonable, right? I don't know how to help her but she sounds very frightened of this man. We live two hours away from her, so I don't know anything first hand, but she worked for us for four years and was as good as you could be. I keep telling her to quit and she can stay with us while she looks for another job. She is afraid to quit, afraid to do anything to make this guy mad.

Is there anything else I can do? I really think she should just leave the situation as quickly as she can. She's worried about having a contract (a one year agreement) and thinks he will "come after her". To be honest, this whole situation is starting to stress me out!


Saturday

Jersey plus Two

So I need some advice from some fellow Nannies here's my issue.

I've been with this family for 3.5 years now and its been for one little boy. Now it gets a little complicated mom is having twins and moving to a suburban Neighborhood in NJ. I live in queens and had mentioned that if financially they can meet my needs I will be willing to move out there and rent my own place. I would be two hours away from friends and family and my hometown. Now how much would ask for the twins and the additional toddler.

I think $20/hr for twins and and $25/for all three children are fair numbers but they seem to think that is way to much. I'm currently making $16/ hr for one kid. What do you think am I asking for to much? Keep in mind I'm making this move to keep them satisfied and happy and basically doing them a favor by moving my whole life to the suburbs of Jersey!