Great Kids Sighting

I am a nanny, I have been following the blog for about a year and I feel bad sometimes when I see nannies dealing with problem children and parents as I am lucky with my NF. I don't know if this is allowed, but I want to tell a positive story about my NF. The family I work with love animals and rescue ANYTHING - fish, cats, dogs, birds - even a lizard and a caterpillar. I am nannying to work through veterinary school and my female charge, almost 7, wants to be a vet too! Well, one of her mother's friends who specializes in cat rescue found a cat in her yard wounded without an eye,right jaw harmed - the conclusion of the vet was sad - the cat had been attacked and left for dead by bad humans. My mini-me, I will say her first name - Shaunie- and the NF brought the cat - Maity ( like a pirate) back to life, Maity forgave humans and goes out with Shaunie to play with all the kids outside ( and share their lunches which is another story). So last week as we three - Shaunie, Maity and I were on the porch and several neighborhood kids rode up on their bikes with a question - they wanted to know what had happened to Maity ( Maity's appearance in the face is something that you have to get used to) I watched my mini-me hold forth on what the bad people did and how important it was to care about animals. All her friends were listening carefully. Before they all rode off I said   " You guys are ALL good kids to care about animals, and I  want each one of you to tell your mom and dad I said so! They all nodded seriously and rode off. There is hope for the nanny world !

Rant - You Have To Be Carefully Taught

I am really mad and if anyone thinks I did the wrong thing I don't want to hear it! I am from Guadalajara and my two charges,little girls 8 and 6 are African-American. At the playground 3 days ago a boy, about 6, used a very inappropriate word which starts with N. He was up on the slide and when my 2 charges ran over giggling  to climb up the slide he looked at them with an angry look and said what he said.I had heard it and my mouth was open, my 8 year old charge in particular was upset and confused, and wanted to know why he said that. I walked right over to the boy, told him I heard what he said and that it was very hurtful and wrong and I insisted strongly that he apologize to the two girls. He looked very sheepish and whispered "sorry". Then his mother and older brother came over and I told them firmly what happened, the older brother said something like " leave him alone, he can say what he wants" and the mother refused to address the issue of the horrible word he used and said " I will discipline my child, you are not allowed to speak to him." When we got home I told MB what happened and we had a familiar discussion with her girls like - "ignorant people and words do not define you, you can be anything ever you want."What is WRONG with some people?

Job Creep Revisited

(Editor's Note :This Post is a clarification of the post directly below this one, the question to the Original Poster was - " How did your NF institute JOB CREEP ? "

The parents began leaving dirty laundry everywhere, in the washer and dryer throughout the downstairs hallways etc. I would come in every morning and pots and pans from dinner with crusted food would be piled high in the sink. Dad began to 'work from home" which meant sitting on the couch all afternoon watching youtube videos while the pile of dishes he made there grew. Granted I was getting paid whether he was at the office or there on the couch but can you see my frustration given the scenario? This dirty dish problem caused me to struggle making breakfast and packing lunches for my charges.

MB worked as a nurse practitioner and the other doctors' children would come over for "playdates" and when I arrived for my shift they would stay until " mom got off her shift" so essentially I was nannying 2 extra kids without pay or notice. I was contracted to leave at 3pm on Tuesdays which became 4 or 5 without notice. Dad would come home and I would be sent home via phone by MB and she explained she would write my check "tomorrow". This happened again on a Friday and I refused to leave until MB came home and wrote my check. Having explained all that,the kids were great, my salary was very good and my vacation days were generous. I did have a discussion with MB about these problems which had no effect.

(Editors note again: for new readers, this anonymous nanny's question is - should she use the above MB as a reference? She worked for them almost 2 years)

Mary Poppins Returns!!!

I am currently a preschool teacher at a wonderful non-profit which is inclusive but primarily caters to low-income families and provides early intervention services. I have been working here for a year and a half and have reached my point of burnout. For many reasons associated with the typical challenges a preschool teacher faces there are other difficulties that have led to job burnout and exhaustion including excessive paperwork, meetings and workplace politics. I came to this position with the hope that it would help build my resume, give me more experience and be a stepping stone towards my plans for the future. I am realizing that being burnt out and constantly exhausted is actually counterproductive in working towards my goals, completing my degree and just being content in general. I am ready to find a great family again and get back into nannyworld!

Prior to this job I was a full-time nanny to a great family for nearly two years. The children were amazing and we were very close to me however job creep began to be more of a daily occurrence. I was burnt from this job and wanted to get back in the classroom for all reasons stated above. During the summer of 2016, the family had gone on vacation, providing a paid week off for myself (as agreed to in our contract). The school I work at now had called me back during this week for an interview. It came out of left field since I had applied several weeks before and heard nothing. I went on the interview, landed the job and thought I was on my way toward a rewarding career. Needless to say, I didn't have many options and the new job was not willing to negotiate a longer notice and I had to start the job at a specific date. This left me with giving my notice to my NF via email over vacation. I understand this is not ideal but was the best option at the time. I gave a full two weeks notice however given their vacation dates it was not a complete two weeks. I fulfilled the last of my job duties to the best of my ability and with complete respect for my NF. Although the last couple weeks were tense (understandably so) I am confident in the care I provided for all three children during that time. I had a respectable and professional rapport with both parents, more so DB and often found MB to be on the colder side.

Anyway, I have blabbed on because I'm hoping to give insight into my situation to seek advice for going to another nanny position. I have letters of recommendation and a reliable list of references however I am nervous that my last MB will give a poor reference based on how I left the position. I'm not sure if I should even approach her asking for her to be a reference. I am not looking for judgy commentary, I am fully aware that it wasn't the most professional or best way to leave a position. At the time I thought it was going to be a perfect opportunity for my life and I went for it. I had never left a position (nanny or anywhere else in the field of education) in such an abrupt way and still feel slightly guilty about this. Any suggestions in how to approach and handle this as I search for a new nanny position and go on interviews would be greatly appreciated. Given that this is my most recent nanny position I assume prospective employers would want to speak with last MB and I am at a loss....



Thanks in advance!

Christian Denmon, A Prominent Atty., Teaches About Child Abuse

Preventing child abuse can be difficult, especially since we often feel helpless against widespread abuse. So we created this one-stop guide to promote child abuse prevention by compiling a complete list of resources as an information gateway. We have included tips to educate adults around children, information about the different causes and forms of abuse, and how to respond when you suspect child maltreatment.

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More WAHM Hell

I work with a WAHM and my issue involves feeding time. Babies, twins, are 11 months today. M was having a meltdown because she did not like what I served for lunch, while A ate his quickly and wanted more. Since the main part of the meal was gone I gave him fruit, which M wanted right away. MB came flying in and hugged M, told her it was ok, and I should have waited till M was done with main course before serving fruit. A was hungry and getting upset. I ended up serving M another meal. I am trying to teach the twins to eat what is put in front of them, and getting no respect from the mother. This is sent from my Iphone, I hope it makes sense.

This is BEYOND my paygrade!!

I have been a nanny for over 4 years finding all my jobs on care.com .I recently accepted a pet sitting job from a family I know personally. The job was to stay (live) in their house for a week while they went on vacation and take care of two dogs.. For this i would be paid $500. After I committed to this I found out their 40 year old son (jack) still lives at home. before you ask, he can't take care of the dogs as he is too irresponsible. This made me uncomfortable but I needed the money and made the commitment and still came to do the job as promised.The first night I get off my day job and come to my pet sitting job to find jack half dressed and unconscious ( drunk) on the living room floor. However this was a holiday and I gave him the benefit of the doubt that it would not happen again.

Fastforward to the end of the week, now the couple has realized that their vacation is going a little longer, 4 more days, 11 days total. I tell them this is fine and I will continue to take care of their dogs as usual until they return. Last night I come home to find jack in the living room, he tells me he is dying. Thinking he is speaking figuratively, I asked him if he was sick. He then proceeded to tell me that he is not sick, he is in fact dying because he just attempted suicide by injecting himself with large amounts of drugs and drinking large amounts of alcohol, and shows me needle marks on his arms. I used my judgement and decided to call 911. The paramedics took him to the hospital where they told his parents I in fact saved his life. Now he will be in the hospital on suicide watch until they return.

My question is - How can I politely ask for a raise? Honestly with the stress and the added hours I feel like I should be paid DOUBLE what I agreed to originally, but I feel uncomfortable asking for such a higher amount than we agreed to. Also, if it matters I was paid cash up front for the job. So the family is thinking I have been paid. How can I ask for more money when they return if justified? Thank you

Stupid Mom sighting - hopefully no tragedies in future

Been reading the blog a long time, I am a nanny, and never thought I would post, but I saw something really bad an hour ago that worries me if not infuriates me

At a Whole Foods in Texas I was waiting to use the restroom and in the waiting area was a little blond boy in a red shirt hopping on his feet and kicking the door to the bathroom. I thought ok, that's weird for a mom to leave their kid out of the stall in a closed small waiting room next to a janitor's closet. I said - is your mom in there?  he mumbled seemingly  "no", hopping obviously needing to use the restroom. I started thinking - this is totally uncool, we are in a very small closet for a unisex bathroom, someone is in that bathroom, this kid is by himself, and there is also a small closet here also. What if I was a bad criminal? I am female but females steal kids ! I was JUST about to open the closet door - WHICH IS RIGHT NEXT TO A BAR ! - and start making a scene when the mom, with 2 blond young girls opened the door, saying his name - what are you doing in here? I said - This is not a good place for him to be by himself! It's a unisex bathroom next to a closet with a small enclosed little room! I was about to take him to store security! The mother in a very sweet little voice said " Thank you!" and at that moment - A BIG BURLY SECURITY GUARD  came out of the bathroom, the kid ran into it - the mother said -hurry up - and did not go in with him! I stood with the door to the bar OPEN so anyone could see into the area outside the bathroom and when he came out I said - do you see your mom? He said yes, I said - Don't run where your mom can't see you! I am really not happy, that was so dangerous !

DIGITAL KIDKNAPPING!

By Mindy Raye Friedman

Many parents love to share pictures of their little ones online so that family and friends can see how they are growing up. But unfortunately grandmas and your best friends aren't the only people on the Internet. There are some scary people out there who want to use those cute snapshots of your children for their own purposes. Here are just some of the ways your children's photos are being used online and why you should think twice before posting your child's photos for the whole world to see.

Read: Why you are the most powerful person on the Internet
BABY-ROLE PLAYING

A new trend on social media, baby-role playing involves users posting a photo of a baby or child they find online and pretending the photo is of their child. This has especially become popular on Instagram, but it crops up on other social media sites as well. Some of these users are creating entire fictional families as they pretend to be the parent of a child or children who aren't really theirs. They post about things the baby is doing or how cute they are, and then their followers play along by commenting on the photos. There are even Instagram accounts that will post a photo of a child with his or her made-up information, pretending the child is available for adoption. Do a search for hashtags like #babyrp, #kidrp, #openrp, or #adoptionrp and you will see thousands of these posts. And while there is no actual physical danger to your child if someone uses one of your photos for role-playing, it's still disturbing to think someone might be digitally kidnapping your child.

Read more...

No Nannies On Social Media?? Really?

Michelle Ruiz Andrews <ruizmichelleann@gmail.com>
Nov 2 (5 days ago)

to me
Hi ISYN -

I'm a writer working on a story for the New York Times' Style section about nannies and social media: I've noticed you don't often see nannies on Instagram or Facebook, so I am asking parents why not. (And for those few who do post photos of their nannies, I am asking they why they do). I'm not making a judgement necessarily—but observing this wrinkle in our digital world. As someone who runs a site all about nannies, do you have thoughts on this and might you be willing to be
quoted?

Please let me know? Thanks so much.

Best,

Michelle Ruiz Andrews
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Quitting Monsters While Staying On Good Terms - Is It Possible?

I have been working with my NF for over a year. MB and DB are great! I’ve never had a problem with them. On the other hand, the kids have made me not want work with kids anymore, or even have children of my own. But, I would rather not start a rant on them, because this isn’t what my question is about. The point I want to get to is that I am now looking for a new job. How do I tell MB and DB, as well as the nanny company through which I work for them, that this isn’t for me anymore? I want to stay on the best terms possible. Also, how do I go about using MB/DB/the company as a reference for my new job search? Can I use them? Any advice is appreciated.

Thanks

J

DREAM JOB VS TOXIC SITUATION - ADVICE NEEDED!

I have been with my family for 3 months.

The position is not what I thought it would be. I interviewed when the first time parents were pregnant and told me how they planned to raise their baby. I agreed with them on this as it fit my style of nanny-big/education. Now that baby is here, they have 180-ed. Baby is held for every nap. No routine or schedule whatsoever. Not allowed to bring baby on outings.

Mom is extremely demeaning and doesn't ever let me talk about this. Always says aww well it's too much, you don't have to do that and NEVER lets me get a word in. I am 26 and treated like a 13 year old.

I just can't even stand this family anymore. I'm so annoyed by them, depressed from sitting inside 9.5 hours a day and making $8/hr.

I just got offered my dream job in marketing and it will allow me to finish school.

HOWEVER- contract states we both must give 6 weeks notice. The marketing job needs me to start in 3.

I don't want to give the full 6 weeks. I'm feeling really bad about screwing an entire family Over but also have to do what's best for me.

Honest advice and input?

Bad Nanny Sighting

Hello,


This young child was left in the stroller with the dog attached for several minutes around 2:45 p.m. on Oct. 5 on Bleecker St. in the West Village while the nanny shopped at a bodega.

Nanny Question about pay

HELLO,

I recently applied for a position through care.com. On their profile they listed a rate of $15-$20/hour.

During the phone interview everything went fantastic and we schedule a follow up in person. During this interview (1.5 hours long) we re approached the pay and they stayed their budget was much lower. Almost $14/hr. I noted may last job paid me $18 and they were able to come up a little to ????????$715/week for 47.5 hours. That breakdown is $15/hour. So still do-able but much lower than i was hoping.

My question is, how should I approach vacation, PTO + holidays. I think the because the rate is lower than expected they should offer a generous package there.

However I will be paid off the books, so I don't believe they are required to do any of this.

They are a friendly and totally kind family, who are new parents and I think just new to hiring a nanny- so I would like to go into our next meet. Which is dinner at their house tonight, to get to know the space and hang with their child more, as a time to bring up concerns on Vacation Pay, PTO, Sickdays etc before fully accepting any position.

Thoughts?

Bad Mom or Bad Nanny?

My nanny friend is mad at me. Did I do something wrong? I am a nanny too and she got me a part time job with her NF, neither one of us can work full time. I should not have taken the job because she is always complaining and even in tears sometimes over the actions of her MB. So s few weeks  ago the MB royally cheats me out of about $90 and I quit. I went on a  a private FB group to vent my feelings and it got back to the MB. She has not fired my friend but she is verbally harassing her and has even cursed at her because of what I wrote. My friend is blaming me. Is it not ok to vent my feelings when I am the one cheated and did nothing wrong?

Wants to be a nanny

hi I'm new here!
I'm not currently a nanny, but I'm hoping to be in the near future! I'm looking for some kind of nanny school/training program to give me that extra "umph' and set me apart. I have plenty of childcare/babysitting experience, I just want to take it one step further. any tips and advice would be appreciated!! :)

Missing Nanny. Please read and post everywhere and anywhere!

SS here, This post was found on FB. Please read and share wherever you can!! Let's help bring this Nanny home!

Please help and share this post. This is my wife, Jen House Fulford. She went missing this morning, Sept 27th, around 9 am in Winter Park Florida. Her purse was found on the floor at her employer's house where she works as a nanny. Her boss called the police when she failed to pick up his son. She drives a 2014 Bronze Hyundai Santa Fe with Florida license plate# IKZB52. Her first granddaughter was born today and she is not responding to any text or phone calls. She was planning to fly to Dallas tomorrow to meet her new grandchild. She would never disappear like this. If you have any information about her please message me or contact the Winter Park Police Department at 407-644-1313. Her case number is 2017CJ015432. Please share this post.

I am shocked- I goofed up the caterers' tip!

I was late for 1 hour to my MB's  event - a 3 hour event on a weekend at her country club, it was a good excuse, car related - and never been late in 3 years,  BUT - the event was at a major country club, My MB made sure to NOT TIP the workers at the CC - and they told me so,blamed on me. I am going into my savings to tip them, but I am wondering...

Dear Abby gives advice to Nannies...

The Daily Journal Online


DEAR ABBY: I am a 24-year-old college graduate who has been unable to find a full-time teaching job, so I'm working as a teaching assistant. My salary is less than average, and between rent, bills and student loans, I am stretched more than thin.

Recently, a woman has been talking to me about nannying for her child after school. She'd like to hire me and have me meet her child in person, and we agreed on an hourly rate. I was excited about the opportunity and looking forward to starting.

This week she told me she wants to report my work for her on her taxes, which means I'll have to report as a freelancer and pay estimated quarterly taxes while I work for her. Abby, this is unheard of in the baby-sitting world! I have been baby-sitting from my preteens all the way through college, and never once have taxes ever been part of the conversation.

My mother says I shouldn't be upset because the woman is doing what she's supposed to as far as the IRS is concerned, but I feel shortchanged. Shouldn't she have been upfront about her intentions when we discussed my hourly rate? Am I wrong for asking her for more money per hour to make up for some of the taxes? -- AFTER-SCHOOL NANNY


DEAR NANNY: William R. Turner, CPA, says your mother is correct. Your prospective employer is obeying the law. She wants you to meet her child, negotiate an hourly rate and hire you as a NANNY, not as a baby sitter. Your new employer should have you fill out a form W-4 and pay you as an employee. Because payroll deductions will be taken out of your gross pay by your new employer, you should negotiate your hourly rate accordingly.

Need our readers opinions, do you think this is true or not?

Hi All,

SS here, and as we have told you in the past, we will post virtually everything that that is sent to us. Here is one we are not so sure about. Do any Nannies out there really have it this good?


So I got a position and have been here for 4 months. I get paid 70,000 a year for 3 kids, and do not work more than 35 hours a week. I get double my pay if and when I travel with them, own room/suite, spending money, food and a rental car if I want. I get 15 PTO days, plus an extra 2-3 weeks off if they travel and I don't go with them. ( Still paid of course). I also get a credit card with a credit limit of 50,000 on it if I want to buy lunch and dinner everyday, and if the kids need something. There is a yearly bonus and I get full access of their pool, and the gym they have downstairs in their home. I am very grateful. but wanted to hear what other people thought.

Nanny asks you.. "What do I do?"

I quit my last position about a month ago- I left on good terms. I am able to see the boys when I want to. I was asked to babysit the boys overnight in a few weeks and of course I said yes. Last Weds I went over there to babysit all day (their sitter had called in sick). The children are 3 years and 10 months old. I was with the 3 year old from 5 1/2 months till just after he turned three. I went over there and was shocked at the 3 year olds behavior. He think physically hurting someone (especially his baby brother) is fun and allowed. He shoves, head butts, kicks, etc. He thinks it fun and a way to release angry. His parents are clueless (one reason I left the full time position). His dad told me (only seen family one other time since I left)- he does this all the time. They do speak to him about it but don't follow through with discipline. I don't want to go back. I left that day with a bruise on my back because this child head butts and I don't want the baby to get hurt while under my care. What do I do?

Scary Storms.

The last few weeks have been quite hard on everyone in the southern states with the hurricanes and storms.


What do you do to sooth the children you work with when they have anxiety about a storm?

Are You A Nanny? Know A Nanny? Survey of Nannies

Do you employ a nanny? Are you a nanny? Have a friend of a friend of a friend who is a nanny? Have them fill out the survey!

https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/2017SurveyofNannies

Goal? To know what life as a nanny is like and to help guide people to be better employers.

Nannies in Brooklyn (or beyond) please take a minute to fill out this survey. At the end of the survey you'll be taken to a page where you can enter your email to win a $50 gift card. Please note that your answers are CONFIDENTIAL so you can tell us exactly what you think and feel!

THANKS in Advance!

Susan Fox
The Nanny Survey Team

Nanny Notes!

Hi All,

SS here.  I thought it might be helpful to have some of our Nanny's share some "Helpful Hints".

What are some of your best practices?  

ie: easiest way to get a child to eat their meal?   get them to sleep?  share their toys?

What are your Nanny Notes?

BAD Parent Sighting - A Tragedy Waiting To Happen ( We Hope Not)

A woman who seems to be the mother of 2 kids, a 3 year old girl and a very young infant, endangers them on a regular basis at 610 and Beechnut in Houston. The woman uses the kids to get attention for panhandling. Reports by witnesses say that the little girl runs into traffic and has caused a fender bender. The girl and mother ( we assume ) are regularly picked up by a man in a late model white SUV. They seem to do well on the money. Witnesses  say they have called the police and CPS to no avail. (Pics are coming)

Best way to give notice?

Hi! Just wanted to hear suggestions on how to give notice. I've been with current family for two years. I have been through really rough time. I've recently burned out. I got sick about 5 times in the last four months. I have zero energy. I think I'm completely zapped out. I live near NYC and they only paid $14.50 for two kids. No TV. Not type of entertainment and drop off and pick ups'when oldest is in school.

Now, starting next month the youngest is going to school. They offered part time and only $15.50. I have to commute by either driving or public transportation. They're only offerinf about 20 hrs a week too. So I decided to look somewhere else. I did get offered a position at a preschool. I'm going to take it because I just felt like these people took advantage of me and want to be cheap. I always went above and beyond. The kids are ok, but hit and abused me for a while. The mom wanted me to always have them outside and take them to various things A DAY. She couldn't stand see me home sitting down. She purposely took nap time away because they would fall asleep too "late". A MESS. Most of the days the job was OK. I just feel like I need change and be appreciated it more. Especially since I am college educated and it shows on how much the kiddos know.

I'm thinking of giving three weeks notice at the end of the week. Thanks !

Question from a Nanny.

Hey guys, I have some questions. I just got offered a position as a nanny for $10/hr for 50 hours a week, after quitting a hospital job 4 months ago. I'll be watching 1 toddler and if i have to watch the other kids (2 more) it will be $13/hr. The family is paying cash off the books. Has anyone else worked off the books? If so was it short term? Did you ever have issues with IRS? If I try to work with an agency later on will they hold it against me that I have no proof of employment, besides the parents' word?

Gift Ideas Please!

My son has been with his current nanny for 3 years. She just had a baby in October and due again in November! Plus she has a toddler. We mutually decided my son should head to a PreK program and I would like to do something wonderful for her to thank her for all she's done for my son and I. What are some gift ideas? We have done spa items, gift cards to movies and restaurants.... I would love to find a sentimental children's book about friends forever or something to that effect and flowers? Any ideas?

QUESTION OF THE DAY!! How do you get a child to sleep?

How do you get a child to sleep?


Here are some answers from a mothers group.

We have been dealing with this and FINALLYYYY solved the problem. 30 minutes before bedtime we give him LUNA Melatonin pills and we reversed the lock on his door to face the hall! Took a week before he quit! But it worked!

Lavender in a diffuser... And lock the door. My friends daughter did the same thing and would fall asleep at the door for a few nights until she realized that she wasn't going to win the fight to get out of the room.

Yep- we give melatonin before bed too. Really works. Also- when you are putting her back to bed- do not interact with her. It's time- says it's time to go to bed, every time after that, just put her back to bed and say nothing. I also take away their favorite blanket, stuffed animal etc and that seems to help.

I started tart cherry juice and diffusing lavender or Doterra serenity in her room over melatonin option.

Cut down on nap and lock the door. I had to or mine wouldn't ever fall asleep! We unlock after he's fallen asleep just in case he needs us

We use an app called "Calm" and they have sleep stories. At first that helped but now she wants me to lay with her. I give her a time limit or if she gets up I leave. Lately we have been telling her to listen to the story and tell me the ending tomorrow. That has been working so well this past week. I remember this phase with my son and looking back it was short lived. Good luck!

Tell us your tips and tricks!

 

Bad Nanny siting Riverside Park

Nanny dark skinned )Jamaican?)blue shirt and small girl pink top in riverside park. Nanny was very aggressive with the child for no reason. Loud yelling and physically abusive

Nanny need advice!

Hello, I hope I receive some advice. I provide childcare for 2 families. It's a part time job and receive payment in cash from both families. I am being audited by the state of Maryland. They are requesting that I provide address and social security numbers from these families. I asked them if they are willing and of course they are very hesitant to do so. I have never gave them my social security number. Thank you!

Regards,

Not Good Child Sighting - with John Quinones

" What would you do? " just had an interesting episode in which a child actor pretended to talk down to and even threaten the nanny. In the toy store the actor said things like " You have to do what I say, I pay you" and " You're just the nanny, you don't mean anything, buy me this toy or i will have you fired " etc. They showed a mother telling the child actor "How would you feel? She is a person."  And one patron cried for the nanny's hurt feelings, another lady tracked down the child's "mom" another actress and discussed it. Has a child ever crossed the line from just being a child into really wrong/demeaning behavior? What is the best way to handle it?


What would you do?

Bad Nanny Sighting Harry Chapin park - Brooklyn, NY

Very unprofessional nanny, put her hand on my child and not in a friendly or helpful way. This event took place at Harry Chapin park which we frequent on a weekly basis.

This nanny was very unprofessional to say the least. She put her hand on my son and that's where I draw the line. I'm all for the village raising a kid but not when you handle a child in a demeaning unfriendly way and trying to yank a truck from under him while yelling at him "why are you playing with both trucks?!!!" this happens right in front of me and I am in utter disbelief that it's really happening. The child in her care runs up to my son to take the truck from him and my three-year old son pushes him away. The child loses his balance and falls on his butt. I walk over to pick him up to make sure he is fine, and he is. As I was about to talk to my son to have him come over to apologize, the nanny goes straight for my son while she's yanking at the truck from under him, she yells at him, "WHY ARE YOU PLAYING WITH BOTH TRUCKS?!!!" when my son wouldn't let go of the truck, she starts yanking at his arm. I tell her "don't to touch my son!" Then she proceeds to yell at me. I'm amazed at how instantly angry she is and I ask her, did my son personally hurt you? While she's hovering on top of me, she starts yelling at me, way too close to my face. She then grabs her child and while carrying him, she yells at me and says, "get that shit under control! Take care of that shit!" I was both flabbergasted and appalled. I should've called the cops but my son was crying and I felt I needed to take ourselves from the situation because she was so angry and getting so close to my face. I took her picture and once she saw me take a picture she decided to take her picture or video of me, She puts her phone very close to my face and my son's face. I do have her name and phone number from a business card she's been passing around to other nannies. Her name is Tara W. When I asked other nannies if they know her, they didn't hesitate to give me her info. So I have her name and number but it doesn't really help me find her employers. I'm told I can file a police report but I would much rather have her employers tell her that she is not allowed to touch other children or speak to any parent or child in a disrespectful manner. She also needs to control her temper and anger and be professional most especially while their son is under her care. It's not healthy for their child or other children to constantly be exposed to so much anger.

I'm also posting in other mommy sites in the neighborhood as well.

Even if she was having a bad day, I don't understand why she thinks it's okay to touch other people's kids that way or speak to anyone in that manner. I'm not sure what else to do.

HELP PLEASE!! What do I do?

I am in a rough situation and I know I'm my heart the right thing to do. I know also what you are all going to say.. but here it goes.. the family I have been a nanny for has been really upsetting lately. Things have just gone south. Things are the same as they were when I first started 2 1/2 years ago.
Parents have become rude and crude. Mom is consistently embarrassing me and talking down to me or about his oldest. One time she took a 6oz baby bottle off the drying rack and found formula still inside (after she "washed it"). She put it into the sanitation bag and cleaned it that morning. I used the 4 oz bottles and didn't touch it all day.

I'm not allowed to suddenly take kids out. One time- mom didn't have an address for me to meet her I was calling from my cell phone in the car- trying to get to the doc office that I didn't know where it was and I got lost. After trying to call her 100 times- my cell died in the car. I went home in tears.

Bosses are always late. My position starts and ends at 7am/6pm. I understand that they have the occasional traffic/car troubles but this is everyday I don't get to leave before 6:30/6:45. Sometimes, especially with dad, around 7pm.

A couple weeks ago- mom had picked up C from school (the oldest- he just turned 3 years) he came home screaming/crying for mom to play with him. Also found out (next day) that oldest wanted to take his mom out for coffee. C wanted to spend time with her. Anyway, mom had to finish her work in home office. Had to be on call. Mom was so upset. "I have to get on this call- its so important- S (me the nanny) will you please just f&$@in feed him (child gets symptoms of low blood sugar and can get really upset) so he stops being an a$&. I was so upset!! She has no control over her kid.

The oldest has hit his baby brother- right in front of me and mom (as we were talking). I said C you are in time out and mom says time outs are a joke to him (child) I count... Um thanks for telling me and what does counting do? Oldest is very sweet and loving. Super smart. But mom let's him get away with everything. He has bit me and times out work wonders for me. I never have an issue afterwards. I've tried to talk to my bosses and nothing is being resolved. (I get nothing but blame and mind your business attitude from boss- like she so frustrated with me...

I have a chance to leave this position this week. I was offered a fabulous job with a lot more money. I would have to start next week. I love the boys I currently work with and have not told my bosses yet- I know it will end ugly. I don't want to do this with the boys- I have a bond with them. This thought is killing me.. but when you have bosses that treat you like crap....Help!!

Bad nanny sighting New Rochelle

This nanny was at the New Rochelle Library this AM, with 2 children, a boy between the age of 1-2 yrs and a baby girl. The nanny was physically rough w the boy + intimidating, she roughly handled him at least 4x in ten min. The baby girl very nearly fell from her lap, her head falling back abruptly. I don't feel this nanny is fit for kids, especially so young! I alerted library staff.

I was just used... I think!

I really like my MB and kids and they had me accompany them to a wedding (to watch their kids). There was a room with many toys JUST for the kids which was where I was with the children. There were 30 other kids acting horribly, getting into fights, running, etc. A mother stuck her head in and said "do your job they are running everywhere" There were two teens that were being paid and just sat there giggling on the cell phones... What should I have done? I just kept my two kids occupied and stayed away from the awful kids.

Dealing with dads immature behavior...

When you start to realize how much of a immature jerk your boss is and as much as you hate to leave your precious nanny child, you know you don't deserve to be treated that way.

This past Week, I had Got a stomach bug that started in the middle of the night. I notified my bosses as soon as I realized I was unable to work. The one boss was able to get home to be able to cover in this situation. The immature boss decided to be mad at me for several days deliberately avoiding me and not speaking to me. I was told by my other boss just how mad he was tonight. My response was this was something that just happened not deliberate. His response was well you know how he does not handle stress and I should basically accept his behavior. He is the one who is married to this immature jerk, so he chooses to live his life with this jerk. But for me, I've never dealt with this type of behavior before and I'm not married to him, so why should I have to? What would you all do? Keep in mind, this is not the first time I've had to deal with his immature behavior.

Food Fight

I'm not a nanny, I have worked with kids before but I am needing views about a nanny I am having trouble with. I have a weekend job giving out samples of these high end cheese products, crackers,cheese,olives and salami at a local grocery store. Part of the job is to be social and talk to the customers. There are two kids, a girl and boy, seven and six years - sometimes they come in with the mom and sometimes with the nanny. When it is the mom, no problem, all normal, they all get a sample or two, the mother sometimes buys the crackers. But every time the nanny brings the kids they keep eating and eating the samples,hanging out for thirty minutes to an hour. As part of my job I've made "friends" with the nanny who talks about her job,unhappy with her pay. She has actually told me thank you for the samples as she keeps the kids lunch money! The manager thought she was a personal friend of mine which of course I tried to explain. I work for an agency, not the grocery store and I am afraid I am going to be fired if I get a complaint. Should I tell the mother? I have told the agency owner who is hands off and just said "handle it."

Should I stay or should I go?

Started a nanny position 3 years ago (September)

Before baby:
$10.00-55 hours week

After baby:
$11.00/1 child. $13.00/2 children

Hours

Monday, Weds, and Friday 11 hour days @ $13.00/hr

Tuesday and Thursday. 5.5 hours @ $11.00 (older child in school)

So basically I am earning about $80-100 less than what I started with

Should I stay or should I go?

Mom needs advice

I am a new mom (I have a 7mo old) I am thinking about going to back to work and hiring a nanny.

Since I have never done this, does anyone have any good tips on:


1, Where to look for a nanny

2. What type of compensation should i offer? (Hourly, Weekly)  extra for the weekends?

3. Do I need to offer paid time off?

4. Health Insurance?


Any other suggestions that you think might be helpful.


Thanks, 

 A New Mommy

Interesting ad on CL!

Housekeeper Live In (Houston)

compensation: $1500 per month plus free lodging & other benefits

employment type: full-time Seeking to hire a live in person to help take care of our house and to also provide additional care for our 6 year olds and 19 month old girl.

We currently have two other non live-in nannies that provide care for our children. You would be providing care when they are not at work. We also intend to hire a second live in housekeeper. There is and will be significant time off plus one day off per week.

Both parents speak Spanish so it is acceptable to be Spanish speaking only.

We have residences in San Antonio & Houston, so you must be willing to travel with us to both cities..

Pay is $1500 cash per month plus free food, free use of our cars for personal use, medical insurance and free food lodging. The pay is basically all spending money.

We require that the person love children, be kind and gentle, and have excellent child care skills.

This can be a very long term position for the right person.

Do not apply if you have young children of your own, have a substantial amount of planned outside activities that will limit your schedule, or do not want to live in. We are only hiring a full time live in person for this position.

If you are interested, please email us to the address below, telling us about your experience, how you might fit this position, and provide contact information..


twinsamyannie@gmail.com

Estamos buscando a una ninera (mujer) que viva con nosotros y cuide a nuestra nina de 19 meses y un par de ninas de 6 anos.

Ahora tenemos a dos personas que no viven con nosotros las cuales cuidan a nuestras hijas. Usted estaria cuidando a las ninas cuando las otras dos personas no estan trabajando. Esperamos contratar a una segunda persona que se quede a vivir con nosotros. Habra suficiente tiempo libre mas aparte un dia de descanso por semana.

Ambos padres hablan Espanol asi que es acceptable si la persona habla solamente Espanol.

Tenemos residencia en San Antonio & Houston, asi que la persona interesada debe estar dispuesta a viajar a las dos ciudades.

El salario es de $1500 por mes en efectivo mas alimentos gratis, puede usar uno de nuestros autos para uso personal en el tiempo libre, seguro medico y no tiene que pagar nada de renta. El dinero es practimante dinero para gastar.

Requeremos que la persona quiera a los ninos, sea dulce y amable y tenga excelente cuidado con los ninos.

Este puesto puede ser para tiempo largo para la persona correcta.

No nos contacte si usted tiene ninos de corta edad viviendo con usted, tiene actividades planeadas que limitaran su disponibilidad, o no quiere quedarse a vivir en casa. Solo estamos contratando a personas que esten disponibles para vivir con nosotros.

Si esta interesada, por favor envienos un correo a la direccion a continuacion, diganos sobre su experiencia, como cree que puede ser una buena candidata para el puesto, y provea su informacion para contactarla.

Si usted esta interesada, por favor envie un correo electronico a la direccion a continuacion. Diganos a cerca de su experiencia y como es que piensa que puede ser una buena candidata para este puesto.

twinsamyannie@gmail.com

GRRRR!

I am really angry right now so maybe I should have waited before writing this. I am the nanny for a 4 year old boy and he and I get along very well. I will probably ask for a raise in the future but I am satisfied so far with what I am making. Here is what has me angry: I have had 2 friends call me and tell me about my MB complaining about me on the web!!! She does it on a neighborhood FB for mothers which I am not a member of but I have friends and other part time bosses who are. My friend let me go on there and see, MB does not mention me by name but mentions 3 incidents, one where I served  my charge and 2 of his friends a macaroni and cheese casserole MB was planning to serve for supper. Another one where she thought I was serving him Gatorade, which I was drinking and he had watered down OJ. And some other thing I forget at the moment. She never tells me these concerns, she is always very polite to me, but now I find she is badmouthing me behind my back. Do I confront her? Let it go and say something vague?

Hot outside.

I am a nanny to a 2 yr old and a 7 yr old.  they both enjoy being outside, but we live in Louisiana where it is very hot in the summertime.   Does anyone have any ideas for good activities for me and my kiddos?

thank you in advance!

found this on CL.

SCAM ALERT - NANNY / BABYSITER WANTED (Houston)

I have been contacted multiple times by a scammer using different emails and aliases after I posted an ad looking for work as a nanny / caregiver. The person has used both text and email but always asks you to email his email address for more info regarding the position. They included pictures on one text. He has even looked up my number to find the area code location and then told me he lived in the same area. The end result is the person is wanting you to cash a check for pay upfront. I googled the area code phone number and it was linked to multiple extortion attempts / scams out of Puerto Rico. If you look carefully, enough, you may notice some small indicators that the person is not a native English speaker and may be using a translator. What is unique about this person is that they will text back and forth and really spend some time on the scam. I will post two emails below so that you can see the similarities. ***THIS IS A CHECK CASHING SCAM. This person wants you to cash a check that is no good but will take some time to flop. You will go cash it and send them part of the money and keep the rest. Eventually, you will be contacted by your financial institution for reimbursement of the fraudulent check.

From "Shawn Baker"

Hi, Thanks so much for getting back to me, I am glad to find you on craigslist I hope you get to be our ideal caregiver. My wife's name is Madison and our first child named Lisa of 5 years old. My wife is 6 months pregnant and we are in the process of re-locating to your city, I will appreciate if you can recommend a good doctor for her when we arrive. I will be working on a contract basis with the U.S. Department of Health & Human Services building, doing private research work and am in need of someone who can help my wife as personal assistant when necessary and childcare for my baby, taking care of her as yours. You would only be needed for 4 hours in a day, 3 days in a week. We are a Christian family, but we don't put the religious issue in the childcare case, you can also work for us as a Muslim or any other tribe, we just need you to be warm and kind with our family and help us in getting around the cities and some other helps you can render for us but the most important thing is child care, we are planning our move already and we will like to secure a childcare worker before our arrival so we will be glad to have you work for us if you will be interested in doing this work for us.
There's nobody who smokes here, we don't smoke in our family.
Lisa is a sweet baby to be with. I have a Personal Assistant who is helping me with the re-locating process. It's okay if you prefer to be a live-in or live-out as babysitter, just as I can drop her at your home everyday, and I will also like to let you know that transportation is not a problem, we can provide a very reliable transport, will greatly appreciate if you will be delighted to accept this offer as we would be arriving on 25th of MAY If you accept this position, I will instruct my finance manager to process the a payment for your first week upfront payment so that I can be rest assured of your availability for the job and wouldn't need to search for a Babysitter any more perhaps we have some items we ordered for Lisa and only the payment is pending and the items will be shipped soon as we pay so the check might include the funds that will pay for the items. As soon as I discuss everything with my finance manager I will get back to you on how you will be receiving the payment I'll also like you to know we are willing to pay you weekly which is $400 that we are willing to pay you per week and we hope that is okay with you,and help us do some errands upon our arrival.
If this employment opportunity is acceptable to you, kindly get back to me asap with the information below required for confirmation and further proceedings to take place:

Full name:
Contact Address: (Not P.O. Box)
Apt #:
City, States and Zip code :
Home & Cell numbers:
Age

Our expected arrival date is 25th of MAY and we want to pay for your first week service to secure your service. All we ask from you is honesty and sincerity. And am sure you will enjoy the time you will spend with my daughter. Please do look into this if you will be interested in working for our family, take just a moment to get back to us and lets have your views. We look forward to hear back from you again in a few if you will be a friend to our daughter.
Please do get in touch on time so that we can start making arrangements with our travel agency while I await your swift response regards this employment offer and the requested details

From "William Thomboro"

Dear _____,
Thanks for getting back to me promptly concerning the babysitting/nanny job, I'm Willy Thomboro the Husband to Kaith with my daughter Angie, We are coming in to your state on vacation from Manchester (England), I contacted you as babysitter/ Nanny for my daughter, because I want her to get used to the environment around her and also make new friends, She is potty trained and also a fast learner, she also loves to swim and visit the park around once a while.

The main reason why I need someone to get this done for us is because we are expecting our baby boy very soon, and it might be a little bit stressful for my wife and for myself because I have to make sure she is fine and get her to the Hospital for her check up and more, while I am doing all this I don't want Angie to feel lonely or bored we will be arriving on the (28Th-May-2017) for a duration of 2 months or more, I might understand if you wont be able to get it done for us for 2 month, but for the time we can have you help us get settled and if you can take care of her for that time then that's fine too.

We will be offering you $350 weekly for 15 hrs a week, I will be offering you more pay because I want you to do the job good with my kid will be needing your services for five hours from (10 am-3 pm or 4 pm-9 pm) for three days in a week or you can schedule a convenient time for you and let me know what time is okay for you to take care of her probably (Thursday to Saturday) I would be needing the service of a caring babysitter/nanny with positive personality to take good care of her on a part time basis moreover I want to be certain you are fit for this position, you will need to prove yourself to be a reliable, honest, and hard working person, you will start working on same day or next day it's okay if you prefer to be a live-out nanny as I can drop her at your home every time I do not mind or a live-in nanny if you can take care of her in our home.

I will instruct the landlord to mail the keys and description of the house to you so you can know the location, also you will be helping us in purchasing groceries for our home complex before or on the day of our arrival and you will be rendering us your services for that duration if you meet up to our expectation with your services. We have a financier that is based in the states and will be handling the payment and as well as our other expenses so he will be the one that will be taking care of your payment, I will instruct him to pay for the first week before our arrival so as to secure your service. if you accept our offer my wife financier would need the following information to mail out the first week payment and some of our other expenses payment that you will be taking care on our behalf before our arrival to the state.


Full Name:
Home Address or Office Address (where payment should be mailed to. No P.O Box:
city:
State:
Zip Code:
Home & Cell Phone Number (Best time to call Day/Night) :

Most importantly, I'll need your total honesty, organizational skill and ability to carry out the task with less or no supervision. I want to believe you will be committed to the work, you can be sure of a great time while watching over Angie. I will be waiting to read from you.



Regards,
Willy's family

Lost my temper today

Oh boy! I completely lost my temper at the park today. 3.5f told me she had to go potty, great no bathroom at the park! This is why I told both 3.5f and 3.5f (twins) to try and go potty before we left. I did not get upset because she needed to go potty, I got upset because when I asked her if she went potty before we came to the pirate ship park like I asked, and she said no, however at home she told me she went potty. Then I decided to have her try and go potty behind some bushes because we were the only people at park and I didn't want her to have an accident, but she couldn't so I said okay then we have to go home. If course she gets upset about that because we just got there (I'm sad too!) So twin 2 comes over and I tell her we have to go home because twin1 needs to go potty. So I put twin 2 in her carseat, and shut the door. Got twin 1 in her carseat and asked one more time if she wanted to try and go potty so we didn't have to go home, and she said yes. So we tried rifht outside twin 2s door. It's pretty warm today and I had the windows open in car but I decided to open twin 2s door so she wouldn't get too hot. Oh, it's locked! (She's been locking her foot the past couple of weeks and I've been trying to get her to stop doing that because I don't want something to happen and she gets stuck in the car!) So I knock on window and tell her to open her door. Which she can t unlock it, I had the keys so it was fine, she wasn't trapped or anything but it made me angry because I keep telling her to quit locking the door. So then I lost my temper and yelled at the girls because they weren't listening to directions. And I felt terrible during the drive home and tried talking to them about it. So I told them we weren't watching a movie today like we always do, and that we were having some quiet time when we get home. When we got home, twin 1 sat on the potty for like 10 minutes and guess what? She didn't have to go :/ all that for nothing.

I just needed to write down all my feeling from the last hour and a half. I feel terrible! The girls are happy and giving me hugs now so I know they are okay but still.

Nanny needs advice

Hello All,

I am a full time nanny is desperate need of some advice. I work with a wonderful family caring for 2 little sweet boys. I work some pretty long hours sometimes mostly from 55 to 60 hrs per week.

I usually start at 7:30 in the mornings until 7, but sometimes when my boss travels I come in for 6. When I come in for 6, I have to be up at 3 a.m because the trains run local and have to leave home by 4 just to be on time.

My trouble is, the younger child who is still 2, still takes his morning nap, and that is usually the time I take a break, but problem is, parents wants to cut out the nap. If I cut out his nap, he would cry, fuss, fight and be miserable all day. I am a little frustrated about this because, if I am up so early, and the baby is crying all day (without me taking a break) no one would be happy.

Please advice me, I really love my job, and don't want to be force to quit because of this. I am considering the children happiness and also my happiness, sanity and health. Being up so early without a break and a fussy child all day is no good for anyone.

Sincerely,
Concern Nanny.

We received a scam on our email....

God Fearing Nanny Needed Urgently

Me and my family recently relocate to Florida and we will need a God fearing nanny to take good care of our two kids.

Applicant can apply from any country across the global with Attractive salary and accommodation guarantee.
Interested applicant can reply.
Thanks you

hmmmmm CL WTF or Not?

I'm looking for a LIVE IN mother helper to help me with my house chores and two kids (2-year-old and 3-month-old) in the evening and on weekends. Its is 80% house keeping and meal prep and 20% nanny. I would need you to do my laundry, ironing, tiding the house, dishes and light cleaning all week with one day deep cleaning (including bathrooms). Also, you will help with taking care of the young baby while the nanny is taking the older on to library/story time (twice a week for 2 hours). Occasionally I might need you to run errands. I will also need help with meal prep during the week. On weekends, I would like help with the kids and house. hours are FLEXIBLE but no more than 40 hours per week. We will provide room furnished plus food expenses and a cell phone line. If you are interested in this let us know. Thanks

Interesting Post from CL... What are you thoughts?

Nanny Afternoon & Evenings for Twin 6 Year Old Girls (Houston) hide this posting

compensation: Up to $15/hour
employment type: full-time

Nanny to care for twin 5 year old girls, who are healthy, normal, active and are being home schooled.

Nanny to work between the hours of 2pm and 12 midnight, usually in about 8 hour increments, more or less,. You will be able to work between 40 hours per week and sometimes more.

The nanny will take the girls daily out of our house to visit museums, the zoo, the park, and other places where they can learn and have fun.

Nanny must be able to teach our girls how to read using electronic books and computer programs. They already know how to read somewhat and this will be easy for any reasonably intelligent person to do. You will just have to follow our plan. The primary teachers are the parents.

We require that any Nanny be intelligent, computer literate, a fun person, a nice person and have sufficient energy to keep up with our girls.

We also have a 17 month old girl who will generally be cared for be a different nanny. You will never need to take all three children out of our house.

Galleria area location.

Pay up to $15/hour based on past pay rates. Raises might be possible for someone who is extraordinarily good.

We are willing for you to also be a live-in. If so, we would furnish vehicle that you could also use personally, paid vacation, and medical benefits.

Do not apply if you have young children of your own or have a very restricted schedule

If you are interested, please email us to the address below, telling us about your experience and how you might fit this position.

Money Questions...

Just curious, what is the least amount you have ever worked for? What were your duties? How long were you there?

What is the most about you have worked for, what were your duties and how long were you there?

Which just did you get the most satisfaction from?

Thanks for reading and answering!

SS

MOMS - HERE IS WHY YOU NEED A GREAT NANNY LIKE THE ONES HERE ON ISYN

This was posted on facebook back in January. THIS IS SCARY

http://www.ketv.com/…/3-individuals-cited-for-child…/8597798


So I get to my kids' daycare last night (Busy Bees 3602 F ST, Omaha NE 68107) and when i got to the door I heard my son screaming so I rang the doorbell (They keep the door locked so you can't get in without them letting you in) and the teacher inside ignored me until she saw that I was starring through the window and my son is strapped by his waist in a little wooden chair. She came and opened the door and I asked her why my 4 year old is strapped into a chair and she said, "I don't know he was strapped in this chair when I got here." I asked her when she got there she told me 5pm, I look at the clock and it's 6:18pm. I asked her why he was being restrained and why for over an hour, she told me she didn't know... I asked her why shes been there for over an hour and has not let my child out of this chair and she just shrugged like she had no idea what was going on all she knows is Ms Kat put him in the chair. So at this point my blood is boiling and I'm trying not to lose it. To make matters worse the woman stood up and accidentally bumped into the chair he was strapped in and knocked him over and he smacked his head on a table. He couldn't even break his fall bc he was trapped in this chair and he hit his head so hard he immediately started screaming. This teacher gave me no valid reason as to why he was being restrained or why she didn't remove him from the chair. Once i got him into my car and was strapping him in i noticed his pants were wet, so not only did you sick mfs restrain my child he peed his pants and yall just left him strapped into this chair to sit in pissy jeans? I balled my eyes out the whole drive home, I would never do anything like that to my child or any child. I contacted the owner of the daycare, Nicole (Nikki) Halbfass via Facebook and told her what was going on and she told me she would "talk" to her employees. She told me she reviewed the camera footage so I asked her HOW LONG WAS MY CHILD RESTRAINED and her response was, "I only viewed the footage from 5pm when the teacher arrived until you came and left. So I asked her can you go back further and tell me how long he was in that chair and she didn't respond to my message. I do feel as though my son was strapped into that chair for waaaaay longer than an hour which any amount of time is too much. He's 4 years old why is he in this thing? The fact that this chair is a danger to his safety bc of how easily it tips over and they still strapped him into it for lord knows how long or how many times really bothers me :( What if he wouldn't have just hit his head and got a knot what if it was worse than that? Do NOT send your children to this facility bc the lady they call Ms Kat is an abusive woman, none of the kids there like her, I have heard her threaten kids with the "time out chair" not knowing what the hell that even was until I found my own child strapped into it for an insane amount of time. Nikki will not fire Kat and she will not suspend her either even though her negligence and abuse caused my child to be injured. But I have filed charges against the staff and also contacted CPS to make sure these people are never able to care for children again. When the Officers arrived today and met me at the center Ms Nikki and the other staff tried to lie to the police about the purpose of that chair and they messed their stories up so the police could tell something wasnt right. Now I'm sitting here in the daycare parking lot waiting for crime lab to get here. Yall got me and my son messed up and I promise this won't be over until yall pay for this. I feel so guilty that I trusted these people :( Like what if he spends every single day in that chair? Restraining any human being for hours is a former of torture and this is exactly what they did to my son.

Opinions, Thoughts, feelings please!

Ok yall, please indulge me, this is not a nanny story, but is does have to do with children.  I would like your opinions and thoughts on something I heard on the news the other morning.  It is called "Lunch Shaming" For those of you that don't know what lunch shaming is it when a child doesn't have enough money for lunch their hot lunch is taken away and they are given a cold sandwich and milk or juice.   I am not sure what the answer is, but I would like your thoughts and opinions.  How do you think this issue should be handled?

Thanks for reading!

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Ps: here is an article from Fox News about it.

http://www.foxnews.com/politics/2017/04/13/lawmakers-push-to-end-lunch-shaming-at-schools.html

Bad Nanny Sighting - Frustration With Hydration - In Manhattan!

About an hour ago I saw someone's nanny on 22nd St between 5th and 6th Ave in Manhattan being less than gentle with a quiet toddler having trouble with his apparently new "sippy bottle". After harshly telling him that it was the same as his other cups and warning him not to tilt it, she forcefully pushed the long silver bottle-like container (shiny chrome bottle with straw feature) down into his hand. She frustratingly said "I keep telling you over and over". Disgusted, she slows the stroller down to do this with him. No compassion--nothing the mother of these two children would expect to see. There were 2 children: the toddler brother was forward facing on the nanny's left and the infant was rear-facing in the infant seat on the nanny's right. She was a Black woman with a Caribbean accent very short curly haircut (curls with scalp showing) wearing a quilt-stitch brown jacket that covered her backside. She had on dark blue jeans and ankle high weather boots--quite fashionable. She was between 5' 6" and 5' 10" tall with dark brown skin. If not terminated, she should be observed very closely. How do you treat someone else's child like that on city street? Makes me wonder how she treats the poor fellow behind closed doors!

So What Is a Blog?

This article may be helpful to understand what we are doing here...


Let’s begin with some definitions. A bit dry, we realize, but this is a necessary evil. First we’ll define the word this whole site is based around – blog.

A blog is a frequently updated online personal journal or diary. It is a place to express yourself to the world. A place to share your thoughts and your passions. Really, it’s anything you want it to be. For our purposes we’ll say that a blog is your own website that you are going to update on an ongoing basis. Blog is a short form for the word weblog and the two words are used interchangeably.

Originally blogs were known primarily as places for people to write about their day-to-day activities. Their mundane, everyday tasks became fodder for journal entries. Somehow these writers gained a following and the hobby of blogging was born. Today people write about far more interesting topics, but we’ll get to that in a minute.
Who Blogs?

So who are these fearless people who would be willing to post about their lives in as public a forum as the Internet? They are people just like you. Once the haven of technical know-it-alls, blogging has suddenly caught-on as a legitimate hobby and has entered the mainstream. Every day millions of people, some of whom have no technical ability whatsoever, write on their blogs.

To meet this demand some amazing tools have been created that will allow anyone, even people with very little knowledge of computers, to have their own blog. If you can find your way onto the Internet and follow some basic instructions you can have your own blog. It’s just that easy.
Why Do People Blog?

So you may be asking why anyone would want to have their own blog. We believe the answer lies in the fact that every human has a voice and wishes their voice to be heard. The Internet is a medium that is unparalleled in its reach. Never before have average people like you or me been able to reach a global audience with so little trouble. Bloggers have the opportunity of reaching hundreds or even thousands of people each and every day.

There are still many people who like to share the details of their days. They may post twenty or thirty times a day, detailing when they ate lunch and when they headed home from work. On the other hand there are bloggers who give almost no detail about their lives, but write instead about a hobby or interest of theirs. They may dedicate their blog to something they are passionate about.

In fact, today’s blogs can provide hair tips, up-to-date news, technical information, celebrity scandal, political rumor, gets people involved in volunteering, advice on investments as well as there being blogs about niche topics like cooking, health, gardening, sport, blogging blogs (this blog) and of course many personal blogs and quite a few strange blogs.

http://blogbasics.com/what-is-a-blog/