The Best Intentions

I have three daughters, 10, 12 & 15. We have had the same nanny for two years. In this time, she has gained, I would guess, at least 50lbs. I have noticed my 12 year old is also getting a very round belly and weight on her legs. I'd like to address the two things at once and do something positive for them both, perhaps ordering pre cooked nutritious meals for them both and getting them a tandem bicycle? I am fairly sure I could do this without offending either, but how would I present it in such a way that I don't pressure either of them? My husband says it's a bad idea because if one or both don't lose weight they will feel badly about themselves and guilty.
*side note- My 12 year old child is extremely close to her nanny.

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Things You shouldn't Say for $100

This is semi in response to the post from the mom looking for wording on how to ask for a specific nanny. I have noticed my boss make subtle hints about my weight over the winter as it climbed. Subtle meaning, "you should try running", "Do you play raquetball, it's a great workout". Last week, I came upstairs in shorts and I could see my boss literally grimace.

My boss is about 5'1 and 95 lbs. I am 5'10 and 210. After sat about making my breakfast, she ambled over to me, looked at what I was making (steel coat oats, slice of cheese) and said, "I really wish you would make more of an effort to keep yourself healthy. Are you going to be able to play soccer with Evan in the Spring?" I was not prepared for that and chocked back my emotions. I gave a her a confused look. I know I have gained weight but I am not built like her, nor am I unhealthy, nor have I have an outrageous amount of weight. I bike ride about 5 miles per day, every day.

I'd really like to address how she makes me feel about my weight with her in a sensible way. She also has two daughters, one who is a chubby 5 year old and one who is a rail thin 10 year old. I don't think her attitude about my weight is good, and I can't imagine she is not messing with the kid's heads. Having said all this, she is not a bad person. She has been a kind and generous employer.

Advice? I want to make her THINK about the things she says and looks she gives so she makes changes, not make her mad, not show her, etc.