2015 The Firings, #5

So, I quite honestly had to fire my nanny because of her piercings. And not the ones you might think. She had a small piercing in her nose which was fine. She took my daughter swimming at the country club and my daughter came home and described to me that she observed the nanny taking "rings out of her nipple". I was not pleased.

I was fired because I was driving from Chappaqua to White Plains and did not pick up the phone when my boss was calling me. She has hands free high line cell in her car. I don't. She seriously told me, "you need to answer when I call. there is no excuse. You don't have to stay on the phone, just say you're driving". I only wish she had put it in writing.

I got fired on day three because the housekeeper cried to our employer that I got glitter and scrap paper all over the carpet in the family room, after she had vacuumed. It was day 3. It was a snow day. I suddenly had three children to entertain all day long. I thought I did pretty dang good! 

I fired my nanny because of her weight. I know this is a sensitive subject, so let's be clear, I too have struggled with my weight. We were getting into my Volvo and she was my passenger she could not get the seat belt on so she was content to GO WITHOUT. I got out of the car and struggled but eventually got her belted in. She was embarrassed. She looked uncomfortable. I was thinking her weight was just not safe anyway. What if the buckle gave way? And the car flipped and she landed on a child? I also noticed that our one month old sofa was already sagging in one particular spot which happened to be next to the baby's swing, where she sat. I told subsequent nannies why I fired her to gage their reactions. I gave her 2 weeks severance even though we were still in a trial period. 

I got fired from my nanny job after 7 months after the second stupid umbrella stroller got stolen while I was on the job. My boss deemed it "suspicious" and said she was left "questioning my character". After 7 months!

Tomorrow, we have some great stories on why the nanny quit. Care to add yours? Email us at isnyblog@gmail.com. 

The Rants 2015, #1

   

I've been on this site quite a bit in the last month or so. Although I'm no longer a nanny (I pursued a more satisfying career), I still like to see what other's experiences have been like. I just want to say how incredibly disappointing it is to have people on here that think it would be okay to throw a nanny out just because of a difference in opinions and methods while taking care of your child. If you want someone EXACTLY like you, take care of your children yourself. There are people with their own methods and styles when it comes to caretaking, and I'm sure they do their best to suit what your needs are, but for heaven's sake, give some leeway! Nannies are humans too, are you, as other nannies, or parents, or non parents that are trolling the site always perfect? Do you always have good days? If so, congratulations. You are exempt from the rest of the world, continue on your high horse.

       I just finished reading about a nanny that spends a lot of time with the mother, complained by the mother's sister. Now everyone of the comments says to FIRE THE NANNY. Are you kidding me?? Sounds like the mother wants the nanny there, it's none of your business. Why should the nanny suffer because you're insecure? Do you realize that this is someone's livelihood you're playing with? Nannies put a huge amount of trust in families to work for you. Take that responsibility seriously like they do with your children. If you have an actual bad nanny, one you've given many chances to, go ahead and get rid of her. You have one that is great but did something that kind of bugged you or had a bad day? GIVE THEM A CHANCE. If you can't trust someone to work or live in your house with your family, don't work with them.

      I've worked with Manhattan moms and not only am I taking on the responsibility of their child's life, health, and wellness, but I'm always worried that I'm going to trip up. That the baby will cry for no reason and they'll send nasty messages about me. That's actually happened. I had the responsibility of taking the baby to a school, baby hit someone, I removed baby, sat her in my lap and let her play in another area, and then took her back over after she calmed down to apologize to the other baby. I got in trouble for that. The moms said it was 'aggressive' and 'would hurt the baby's ego' that she 'shouldn't feel badly about herself after a mistake'. Sometimes you moms are insane. If a baby hurts someone else, they should know what they did was wrong and apologize when they realize it. If you coddle your baby too much and worry about their self esteem too much, you're going to raise a sociopath. Give them a chance to learn from their mistakes. Also, kids need some space to play and explore on their own. I'm not saying that you should completely neglect them, but I always felt that the parents that are always hovering over their kids crying over every bump and scrape were obscene. Kids need some independance. Safe independence, but distance yourself a little. It'll help you and the baby. I say baby, because I think kids under 10 are all babies. End rant.

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