I have been a nanny for almost two years for one family. I am super close to the children. I know I do a great job and that my employers are happy with me. My problem is that my first year I worked for them I got a $1,000 cash bonus at the Holidays. That was great and made me feel very special. This past Christmas, I had two extra weeks off because they went away for an extended trip. They also wrote me a card saying how great I was and to enjoy this gift of time and that when they got their taxes back, they would award me my bonus. It's April 23 and this has never come up. Part of my feels that they thought about the time off and decided 'that was enough'. But, if they think they can just do this to me, given the way I care for the entire family, I don't think I can go on here. I don't think it should be up to me to bring up either.
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Feeling Lost and Undervalued
I have been a nanny for almost two years for one family. I am super close to the children. I know I do a great job and that my employers are happy with me. My problem is that my first year I worked for them I got a $1,000 cash bonus at the Holidays. That was great and made me feel very special. This past Christmas, I had two extra weeks off because they went away for an extended trip. They also wrote me a card saying how great I was and to enjoy this gift of time and that when they got their taxes back, they would award me my bonus. It's April 23 and this has never come up. Part of my feels that they thought about the time off and decided 'that was enough'. But, if they think they can just do this to me, given the way I care for the entire family, I don't think I can go on here. I don't think it should be up to me to bring up either.
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How do you know they got their tax return back? And, how do you know they even qualified for a refund this year? Don't be so quick to jump to conclusions. Some people file late and if they are due refunds, get them late also.
Since they are the ones who brought it up to begin with, why not just gently ask them?
They might not have gotten their taxes back yet. Even so, this is basically a promise of a gift -- you should get it since they promised, but it's not he same as holding back a pay check. In other words, legally (not morally) they have every right to change their minds about giving you a gift, and you have every reason to see that action as a red flag...
As others have said they may not have received their tax return back.
I can understand why you are disappointed.
That said they don't owe you the bonus money.
They probably should not have mentioned the money to you before they had it.
This alone is not a red flag to me.
Maybe they haven't gotten their taxes back yet. Even if they have and haven't kept their promise, perhaps you can let it slide since you love your job so much. One cannot put a price tag on waking up each day, excited to go to work.
However if it is a deal~breaker with you, then you can leave. But wouldn't it be awful if you gave notice right before they got their tax money back?
Okay, I get that your employers set an intention to give you a bonus this year, and so far they haven't made good on it. That sucks. However, why do all these ISYN nannies (mostly those of you in big cities) feel so entitled to huge bonus checks when the holidays roll around? I feel extremely grateful for what my family gifts me, but definitely never have the expectation.
Meg, I couldn't have said it better. OP, try a little patience.
Are you serious? Of all your possible problems you have an issue that you haven't gotten your bonus when the tax season only closed just over a week ago? You do know these things take time, right? And you do know a bonus is just that...a bonus, right? It just bothers me to hear you say "if they think they can just do this to me" yada yada yada.... as though them simply not being able to give you a bonus even after giving you two weeks (I'm assuming paid) time off...They do not sound bad at all! Either the problems you have with this family go much deeper or you are way too entitled.
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