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Special Bond.... or....
Okay, here's the 411. I live in Larchmont, NY. I was a nanny about ten years ago. I get it. In my current profession, I see a nanny/Au Pair and her twelve year old charge on a multi weekly basis. This nanny/au pair joined the family two months ago. The family has the twelve year old boy and an older sibling whom I don't think the au pair really deals with. This boy is nice enough and the au pair is nice enough. In the capacity I see the two, they are sometimes waiting. When waiting, the twelve year old boy will hug the au pair. This puts his head right so his cheek is on her chest. The parents aren't around during this, but other adults are, so it's not secretive or anything. I just think it's weird. The kid is normal, he's not like special needs or anything.
-Something doesn't feel right
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Does she hug him back?
My 12 year old brother hugs me all the time. He is normal but sometimes gets really clingy and huggy.
Your post is well written and thought out, clearly not a troll. You know - you see these two on a regular basis - possibly you may want to speak with the au pair and let her know it's odd and that these days everyone needs to be aware and careful
People are too damn sensitive to stuff like this. Sure there are plenty of creeps out there. But seriously. What goes through your head? Maybe you are having an inappropriate relationship with a 12 year old? I was a camp counselor and always had campers aged 10-15 hug me...male and female. Am I a perv?
I don't get it. What's this post about?
Lol maybe its me...I just do not get what snow is so upset about???
Snow is upset because spring is here.
If she is an au pair, she is most likely from another country and may have cultural differences on how to express affection.
I would just take a "wait + see" approach OP. Keep your eyes open and if you see something that looks really inappropriate, you might want to have a word or two w/the au pair.
So. she shouldn't hug the kid? Are you trying to say there is something sexual here. Is she reaching for the child and pulling him towards her or is this just a natural loving child giving his nanny/caretaker a hug and because of height, he is somewhere near her breasts?
Seriously, people need to chill out!
Ridiculous! She is hugging her charge. Mind your own business OP and stop trying to say it is something sexual.
I nannied a 12 year old when I was 19 (and his two younger siblings) his mom told me that her friend had asked about 'leaving us alone together' and that she was furious at her and disgusted. I was very naive, it took me a full five minutes to figure it out (I thought the friend meant he should look after his siblings without a nanny)and I was so mortified. I'm still weirded out by that moment. I loved that kid, I went to movies with him and his friends, I laughed at his jokes. But until that moment it had never occurred to me that someone would see that and think those gross thoughts. Yuck on OP.
This just cracked me up. OP, are you imagining some motorboating action going on? Seriously, this is a case of MYOB!
We know who snow be.
I think it depends on the kid, honestly. Most likely it's a very innocent thing, especially since it was done out in public and the two seemed comfortable with everyone seeing them. But 12 is not as young as it used to be. One of my last charges was 11, and his older brother was 13. Both of them were extremely sexual for their ages and there is no way that type of physical contact would be okay for them. I pretty much avoided all of that type of touching, just the occasional brief hug with the 11 year old. The older one went so far as to comment that myself and his other nanny were F@*#-able.
Hopefully for these two it is just an innocent show of affection. In some cases it wouldn't be, so I don't think it's crazy for the OP to wonder.
I think that only you know what you are seeing and you shouldn't need to listen to some bitter women project on to you. Do what you feel is right. Im 22 and guys always want to hug me, but I control the hug, when and how. This sounds like too much. And especially since it is in public. I doubt the au pair realizes it, but they aren't that bright, they come here to work for $45 a week and a space in the horse stall. lol.
Cherry, did you happen to write in the "attractiveness" submission?
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