Time/Date: 3/16 at 3:15 in the afternoon.
Place: In the park at Central Park 95th and CPW.
Nanny: heavy set dark skinned, from the islands maybe, wearing a cream colored shirt with black pants.
Child: boy wearing royal blue long sleeved sweater, maybe 18 months old.
Incident: Nanny was screaming at the child saying "you do what I tell you, when I say come to me, you come to me". It was inappropriate given the child's age. She was also yanking his little arm. I gave her a dirty look.
why are we not allowed to yell at our kids? This little boy could have been running away from her! some kids don't understand when you say "Ok, Timmy you almost got hit by that car, don't do that again, no.no"
ReplyDeleteGranted people will say how kids are smart and yada yada...but they remember when they got screamed at, and they won't do it again. Especially if the kid is a bolter, I wouldn't take my chances
I agree with Phoenix. I'd do the same thing if my child was putting himself or herself in harms way. You don't know the circumstances so you shouldn't judge.
ReplyDeleteYanking on the arm is inappropriate under most circumstances, in fact the only time I would think it would be ok is if the kid is running into the street and you're trying to keep them out of harms way.
ReplyDelete18 months seems to be a bit young to be saying what she said to the child but the op just saw a small snippet of this child's day. The child could as others have pointed out been running into the street or something along those lines. Or it could simply be a bad day for the nanny and she took it out on the child, not that I am excusing her behavior but everyone is guilty of losing their patience on occasion. Or she could just have a difficult child and she's tried all the other ways and she is at her wits end
You can do whatever you want with your own kids, but a nanny screaming in her charge's face and yanking his arm needs to be dealt with. I would say this is a good sighting, but it could do with more detailed information. It is too generic.
ReplyDeleteIf the kid were 5, it probably wouldn't have been a big deal, but 18 months is still a baby to me. I would never yell at a baby.
ReplyDeleteIt's never good to yank on a small kid's arm (they get dislocated awfully easy); besides it was most probably not her child, assuming that she was a nanny (even worse). On the other hand, sometimes kids do react and remember a good yelling in certain situations. The only thing that bothers me is the definite certainty that the kid was about 18 months old. It's just that in my youngest charge's gymnastics class there is a tiny Asian girl, who is three and she is about half the size of the rest of the kids and she looks like a toddler. OP, are you sure the kid was that young?
ReplyDelete18 months old? Phoenix, I don't know how much experience you have with children, but that is definitely too young to be getting screamed at and yanked around. At that age you do not discipline, you re-direct.
ReplyDeleteGet a clue. And as one poster said, you can treat your own child like crap all you want, but if you are a nanny you should watch yourself. And your temper.
That's mean! Nanny or not, it is totally inappropriate... I mean will the kid understand what you are saying in the first place so what good will come out of this? I don't understand. 18 months! You gotta to be kidding! That's no way to treat a toddler.
ReplyDeleteOkay, so we here are mostly in agreement that this is no way to discipline an 18-month-old. So why did these parents hire a nanny without a clue about child development or appropriate discipline? Once again, when the parents try to save a buck by hiring the first nanny off the street, it's the child who pays.
ReplyDeleteIn my opinion. If I were the nanny..lets say the kid tried to run into the street. I would have responded the same way. If the nanny doesn't discipline the kid, the child will not listen. THen you would get a posting about "little boy was running rampant. Poked my kids eye, and that nanny couldn't make him listen"
ReplyDeleteWe can't have contradictory arguments. If the child is not disciplied by the one who takes care of them, they will run amuk...then you would still blame the nanny.
Phoenix,
ReplyDeleteThere is not only no excuse for screaming and yanking a toddler of that age, but also, it serves no purpose other than to teach them: "I am stronger than you and I can yell louder." It teaches them nothing. If there was a nanny whose charge was running amok and the nanny was screaming at them, that would be a bad nanny too. Because it wouldn't work. And if that is a caregiver's regular behavior, it would just go in one ear and out the other. Toddlers need hands-on re-direction.
Again: get a clue!