I saw your nanny today at the park, I know her because our youngest are in the same class together - and she knows I know you - We were at John Jay Park and she sat with your older child on a bench while our 2yo ran around - I only know this because I had to search for you after I ran after them all over the park and your nanny was still reading the paper - When all of our children were playing your nanny told the children that she was going to the bathroom - not once did she look at us (me and my husband) - She was gone for at least 20 min and sauntered back to her bench - I know you and I know you think you have a great nanny - I would have and did think that there is no way that you would hire someone you did not think paid the utmost attention to your girls, but you are very wrong - Your kids were all over the park (having a great time) and they are very young 2 and 5 - 30 min easily would go by before she looked for them -
Friday
John Jay Park - NY
Received Friday, October 10, 2008.
I saw your nanny today at the park, I know her because our youngest are in the same class together - and she knows I know you - We were at John Jay Park and she sat with your older child on a bench while our 2yo ran around - I only know this because I had to search for you after I ran after them all over the park and your nanny was still reading the paper - When all of our children were playing your nanny told the children that she was going to the bathroom - not once did she look at us (me and my husband) - She was gone for at least 20 min and sauntered back to her bench - I know you and I know you think you have a great nanny - I would have and did think that there is no way that you would hire someone you did not think paid the utmost attention to your girls, but you are very wrong - Your kids were all over the park (having a great time) and they are very young 2 and 5 - 30 min easily would go by before she looked for them -
I saw your nanny today at the park, I know her because our youngest are in the same class together - and she knows I know you - We were at John Jay Park and she sat with your older child on a bench while our 2yo ran around - I only know this because I had to search for you after I ran after them all over the park and your nanny was still reading the paper - When all of our children were playing your nanny told the children that she was going to the bathroom - not once did she look at us (me and my husband) - She was gone for at least 20 min and sauntered back to her bench - I know you and I know you think you have a great nanny - I would have and did think that there is no way that you would hire someone you did not think paid the utmost attention to your girls, but you are very wrong - Your kids were all over the park (having a great time) and they are very young 2 and 5 - 30 min easily would go by before she looked for them -
If you know the parents, wouldn't it make more sense to contact them directly than to hope that they maybe see this website and this post?
ReplyDeleteThis sighting sounded so cryptic and mysterious.
ReplyDeleteAnd yeah seriously?, I agree. Weird.
OP
ReplyDeleteWhy so mysterious? Why not go straight to the mom like a woman, and tell her you witnessed her nanny not doing her job --- unless you think she might not believe you?
Why not approach mom directly?
ReplyDeleteDid you see the video of the 15 year old girl who told the 40 year old man at mc donalds NOT to cut in line? He reached over and punched her out cold. And he had his two kids with him.
Yes, be real. You have to think about getting involved. Look what happens when you interfere with someone's cheeseburger. You sure risking someone's livelihood is worth it for you?
OP, I agree that you need to say something to the mother, rather than just sit around hoping she reads this blog.
ReplyDeleteWhy, in the name of Salazar, would you not tell her directly?
I agree with all the above posters.
ReplyDeleteAgreed. My first thought was exactly what the other people are saying - you might want to just tell the parents directly...
ReplyDeletefan of anonymity- she KNOWS the mother it's not as though it is a stranger. IMO opinion she has a responsibility to inform the mother. If the mother reads this she will wonder why you didn't just tell her? On top of that wonder why you preferred to air it in an open forum on some random chance she might encounter it? Odd choice. Unless, your goal is to embarrass and humiliate the mother? Nice.
ReplyDeleteseems like OP may be setting herself up for embarrassment and humiliation: what will the mother in question think of her when she finds out she is posting this info on an open forum instead of being frank and honest?
ReplyDeleteI guess they are not very good friends.
When I read this I hoped she would leave a note with a link to this website in her mailbox or something.
ReplyDeleteYou dont wan those kids getting sick from what you have. But in all honesty if you are so sick how come you are writing on this blog? If you are really that ill you would not be wanting to get on the computer and type this up. You would be in bed trying to get better? Maybe the guilt you are feeling is because you are really not that sick to be staying home from work???
ReplyDeleterachel dawn, I think you commented on the wrong story. Just thought I'd let you know :)
ReplyDeleteI told my neighbor about her negligent nanny who routinely drove the children not secured and ran stop lights and drove recklessly and do you know she got angry at me? She kept the nanny around for about two more months until she was forced to fire her when the nanny LOST her three year old daughter at a water park!
ReplyDeleteSo to all of you who say, "say something to the mother", I understand why you wouldn't. I know damn well that my neighbor bad mouthed me to another neighbor just because she took it in such a way that by telling her that her nanny was no good that I was somehow implying she was a bad mother for employing a bad nanny.
A true story.
see it and comprehend why I dont get involved except anonymously.
ReplyDeleteI guess if you can sleep at night? None of us should ever say a damn thing?
ReplyDeletePersonally, if I saw someone neglecting a child I would do everything in my power to rectify the situation and at the very least inform the parents or if necessary the authorities (and have). I am an advocate for children and mandated. Otherwise, it's just judgment and gossip from a bunch of cowards who put their needs before the welfare of a child. Grow a pair people- step in and speak the hell up.
lutero:
ReplyDeleteso a woman bad-mouthed you for doing the right thing. that is what happened. you did the right thing (if indeed your tales were true, which I am assuming they were) and you told the mom and she bad-mouthed you. Well, sometimes people get mad at us, sometimes the truth hurts. She wasn't a very good friend and anyone worth knowing, anyone who knows you, (if as I said you are a truthful person which I am assuming you are) would know not to believe vicious gossip regarding you.
OP should tell the mother. End of story.
This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.
ReplyDeleteWell a phone call should take care of this problemc. There is no reason why she cannot just make a phone call. Some people do not like confrontations or things that may turn into them. Give the OP a break. None of us know if the employer of this nanny is a fruitcake or has a crappy temper.
ReplyDelete