Received Saturday, April 28, 2007
If your nanny took your little girl with reddish hair and very pale skin to the Kids in Action playground late this (Friday) morning, I have a complaint. The nanny (an Irish nanny by her accent, brown hair, shoulder length, blue jeans, blue sweater) was joined by a short, stocky African American male. Although the nanny did move from area to area to watch your daughter on the train and soft play area, the two were groping each other. While your daughter may have been too busy having fun to notice, other people did notice. This is a child's establishment. Give your nanny a day off so she can GET A ROOM!
We have often heard stories about a CCP’s lack of judgment when it comes to certain social situations, and this seems to be one of those times. There are different levels of flirting (ie., innocent or not so innocent; holding hands or groping), and “sometimes” it may just be due to a lack of maturity. Sit down with your CCP and remind her of her responsibilities, which is to care for the children. Let her know that flirtatious behavior is not appropriate. It can be an embarrassing conversation to have, but it is worthwhile to address this with her. Remind her that she is a role model to your children, and her actions should try to set a good example for your kids.
ReplyDeleteWe also want to clarify what we mean when we refer to “CCP”, as there seemed to be quite a bit of confusion in the blog posting on 4/26 about the incident at the Dunkin Donuts. This term is an acronym for “child-care provider”. Our definition of child-care provider includes babysitters, au pairs, nannies, baby nurses, friends, family, or anyone that you entrust the care of your children. It does not in any way imply pretentiousness, negativity, or malicious intent. It is simply a very generic acronym covering a broad range of positions of child-care providers. If you do not like it, and choose not to use this term when you are writing on this blog, that is your choice. It’s all good….
Kids In Action is not open on Saturdays due to the sabbath. How were you there on a Saturday???
ReplyDeleteHere are the times:
Hours:
Sunday - Thursday: 10am - 7pm
Friday: 10am - 1 hr. before sundown
Saturday Night: 1 hr. after sundown
I think it is very distasteful of this nannny to be acting in this way around their charge. It is part of our jobs to be a role model in what is acceptable and what is not, and clearly this is not acceptable. While the family I work for does not mind if a date spends the night, I would never allow this to happen in fear of setting a bad example for my 2 charges. In situations like this, where a boyfriend/husband of a nanny will be around the charges, it is best to ask the parents what they consider to be appropriate behavior or not. Some parents will not want even kissing to be exposed to their children, and quite frankly, that is the parents wish, so as a nanny, we must obey. To be groping in public would be distasteful and tacky. Grow up, this is not highschool people.
ReplyDeleteI am the OP.
ReplyDeleteI emailed my story at about 1030 Friday night. When I spoke about it occuring today, I was refering to Friday 3/27.
The "(Sat)" was not part of my original post. I am guessing it was an attempt by the blog owner to clarify the date since she obvioisly posted it on Saturday.
Please correct this. It was Friday and before noon.
a good post for more than one reason- The public should not have to put up with these sleazy displays of foreplay under any circumstances and to add children into the equation makes it even more vile.
ReplyDeleteThere is no reason that the child should be comfortable with her nanny groping and kissing her boyfriend. My daughters were accustom to my husband returning from work and giving me a kiss in the evening. When we divorced, he and I both agreed that it would be uncomfortable for the children to witness any outright displays of affection. In one way, it is different and yet in another- if the parent takes the steps - why not the nanny?
ReplyDeleteOf course I do feel for her if she is working for one of those awful employers that has her working Tuesday thru Saturday.
Blek!
I have a question for the working mother and the one who doesn't work, which one of you wrote the above comments or did you co-author the blurb? Or do you take turns commenting? If so, what if one of you disagrees with the other?
ReplyDeleteand also who is the worker and who is the sahm? I am guessing the sahm is the brunette? And why is Al Sharpton on your porch?
ReplyDeleteUmmm . . . what's so awful, 7:28, about wanting a nanny to work Tuesday thru Saturday? If you, for example, work in the theater in New York, your work schedule is Tuesday thru Sunday. There is nothing wrong with wanting your childcare to coincide with your work schedule or just your life in general.
ReplyDeleteMy mistake.
ReplyDeleteThe sightings are indexed on
isawyournannyindex.blogspot.com
by the day that they are posted.
I do try to edit a post to reflect the actual date when someone is looking through the index. Unfortunately, I made an error.
But Annie the point is you're still allotting the nanny two days off, so therefore, she could take care of her personal "business" then.
ReplyDeleteThe OP says give your nanny a day off. Maybe she has seen nanny other places and nanny is always working. But by divulging where else she sees nanny, she could reveal her identity???
ReplyDeleteAnd CCP; I agree with Marge, VETO!
7:52, exactly my point, that's why I was confused about why Marcie thinks that's an "awful" thing.
ReplyDeletemy experence in being a nanny is there is where the classist are. their are certain nannies that are acted better than the rest. then their are another kind of nanny. then their are ou pars. then there are sitters. then their are housekeeper who watch the baby to. if you go the other way the aunt or grandma is above the best nanny, but not the motherinlaw, then the mom and daddy is on the top. anyone trying to lump them together and act like they have anything in common even in the word care has never been to ancient playground. lol.
ReplyDeleteisnt it strange that when it is sunny nice nice outside their are so many nanny stories. then a little bit of rain and their is nothing? it has to be sunny somewhere even if it is not here.
ReplyDeleteI don't think it is acceptable for the nanny to meet her BF in the playground period. If a nanny is live in, she should be able to have him over when she is off the clock, but when she is working her attention should be totally on the children. There may be some exceptions, such as a long term nanny with a husband or BF the parents know well and are comfortable with having help entertain the children, but it should always be with the parents knowledge and approval.
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Do you think that nannies are longing for rainy days when they can stay inside where they are safe from I Saw Your Nanny?
ReplyDelete4:10PM
ReplyDeleteOh man, not this nanny. I hate rainy days!
I think that the only people who would think nannies long for rainy days are people who think all nannies are inherently lazy and incompetent.
ReplyDeleteAre you one of those people, 4:10?
I definitely prefer days when I can take the baby out! I hate being stuck inside all day, especially with an infant. I find is boring.
ReplyDelete9:44:
ReplyDeleteBoring? Lovely.
Yes 12:05
ReplyDeleteBORING! It does get boring when you have to sit inside with an infant all day! As I'm sure most mothers will atest to! At least with the nice weather you can go outside for a walk and get some fresh air!
mika, et. al,
ReplyDeleteexcepting tomorrow evening, the rest of the week in the tri state area should be conductible to long walks on the city's streets and extended play periods in all of the area's beautiful parks. Perhaps with a light sweatshirt or windbreaker. Keep your eyes open and send in your stories. That's what I say!
well, Annie, did you read my post? If you had you wouldn't have had to ask that question.
ReplyDeleteI think annie was asking it ironically, it's obvious to us all that you're a nanny-hater 12:19.
ReplyDeleteI agree, it can be boring stuck in the house day after rainy day with an infant. I have sung Itsy Bitsy Spider and the wheels on the bus 1,476,289 times each. Read every book she has until they are falling apart. Danced around to music carrying the baby until my back hurt. There is only so much you can do with a five month old!
ReplyDeleteNanny who prays for sun.
on a side note, i love that place. and the mural of barney rubble with payos is worth the trip alone!
ReplyDeleteI make a point to go outside every day whether it is sunny, snowing raining or whatever, yes Im a nanny. Theres always something to do if not I make something of my own to do. Im not saying I dont stay inside for a part of the day but more fun and adventure is definitely to be had outside. I have been doing this for a lot of years and the only time I get bored is if Im feeling under the weather. if I have to be inside for too long Ill do laundry, tidy and sort kids room, etc. But I really dont get bored to any extent. If a child is napping one can also read or such or make plans for the next day, how about that, another adventure or play date. Yet unfortunately, i am one of many nannies who aim to make their day to day nanny life interesting for the kids but yet are overlooked and underlooked by society, other parents and their employers too regularly. I admit I do what I do for the kids because I love them. FOR THE KIDS because they are not to blame for anything as kids learn what they are taught. They are born innocent.
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