(The beginning of the following Submission was cut-off. If the Reader that sent the letter in would clarify, it would be much appreciated.)
... under the age of one), and she came over and moved her boy away by grabbing one of his arms and pulling him across the playmat. He wasn't upset, and didn't seem hurt by it, but you cannot do that to an infant!! She could have easily pulled his arm out of his socket, and if she did it this one time, she probably does it often. There are many other things I could say about this nanny, but really the point of this post is to ask you all if you really think parents are oblivious to how their nannies care for their children? One week, this nanny had their grandmother with them, and acted the same way. Every time I saw them that week the grandmother was playing with them, and their nanny was on her phone - so clearly she saw what I see every week.
I could post all the specifics needed for a "bad nanny sighting", but I truly can't imagine the parents not already knowing what I know. To be honest, I don't think she is a bad nanny, I think she is a lazy nanny. She is an older woman, who is not passionate about children, or her job. It makes me very sad, especially because her charges are sweet little guys who would benefit greatly from a nanny who would actually talk to them. I'm sorry this is so long, with so little information, but I really am just wondering - are parents truly oblivious?
I wonder if she's the other grandmother.
ReplyDeleteAs you said, I'm sure the parent know if their grandmother was their and saw what she did and nothing has changed.
Or they know and are just keeping her around because she's cheap or they are looking for someone and haven't found a good replacement.
To answer your question , ye some parents know & do not care, others may be in denial about the situation
I hear that arm socket thing all the time. I'm never seen it happen or known of it happening or hearing of it really happening. Quite frankly I think its a very dumb statement and it isn't that easy to pull an arm out of the socket. Lets say the baby was caught on something or was being held, then it could possibly happen. If the person or baby is going along with the movement they will not be in danger. While I don't think it was right she was dragging a kid around my his arm, but it was not going to be pulled out of his socket. Peoples arms don't just pop off if you pull them. They are not dolls
ReplyDeleteI am the original poster of this sighting. I am not sure why it cut off the beginning, and I don't remember exactly what it said, so I will try to sum it up. I currently nanny for a wonderful family in a small town, meaning that everyone knows everyone. I always see this nanny (I know she is 100% the nanny), and her two small charges. We go to all the same playgroups and outings. She is ALWAYS on her phone, and is never interacting with her boys. I use my phone when my boss texts me throughout the day, and I will check my phone for the time, but it is nothing more than a quick minute… and if we are specifically at story time there is no reason to be on my phone when we are supposed to be singing and listening. I didn't want to put this as a bad nanny sighting just because we have very different nannying styles. I don't think it is my place to judge someone because they do things differently than me. What I was writing about in reference to the arm was an incident at our playgroup. One of her boys (under 1) was playing with my infant charge. I didn't mind, and encouraged them to play together (as best as babies can!), but she got up and grabbed her charge by the arm, and pulled him across the playmate.
ReplyDeleteIf "everyone knows everyone" in your town...why don't you know this family or nanny?
ReplyDeleteAnd if Grandma didn't care about the arm-grabbing, then I doubt Mom or Dad is going to.
OP,
ReplyDeleteThank you for coming back and filling in the blanks.
MissMannah, I doubt that she meant that LITERALLY everyone knows everyone...
ReplyDeleteI know. I was pointing out a bad choice of words on the part of the OP.
ReplyDeleteI also don't think this warrants a sighting, but that's neither here nor there.
I would want to know if this was happening to my child! As far as the arm out of socket- YES it can happen and does happen often!!! It's called nursemaids elbow and the arm has to be reset by a medical professional so to me, that's a pretty big deal
ReplyDeleteYour arm can be pulled out of the socket..
ReplyDeleteI was a runner as a child, one time I tried to run into oncoming traffic, my mother grabbed my hand and I kept running. Don't remember the inciddent but as my mom described it, I never ran after she grabbed my arm again
It happens much more frequently than you would think. I worked at a daycare with one year olds before going back to nannying and we had a fire drill during nap time. One of my coworkers grabbed a little girl by her arm during the fire drill and the child's shoulder dislocated. She was in a cast for over a month.
ReplyDeleteHm. The only "dumb" thing about my post is that I actually posted it. I came here asking a question to other nannies, "are parents really oblivious to poor nanny behavior?" I didn't post this as a bad nanny sighting, and the beginning of my submission was cut off. In an effort to tell the readers the whole story, I quickly rewrote it in the comments. If I had known that a simple question would have turned into people telling me that I said something "dumb" or telling me I had a "bad word choice" I wouldn't have said anything at all. I didn't include my entire life story, but I have only been working with this family for one month, so I don't know everyone in this town, nor do I live here. I do know this nanny, her name, and enough details to give a bad nanny sighting but that wasn't my intention.
ReplyDeleteThank you to those who commented on the arm situation. I also know two people that this has happened to, and I would never do it to a child.
OP,
ReplyDeleteYou did the RIGHT thing posting this sighting - (and I think it should've been posted as a "real" sighting!) You brought up an important subject some don't recognize and that's pulling on the arm of a child. It CAN easily cause an injury, especially to younger children, so Phoenix's comment about it being "dumb" brought out some important facts. Thanks for bringing this to our attention!
OP - please do ignore Phoenix and Miss Mannah. They are the "mean girls" of this forum. Though they have, on occasion, had something constructive to say, it's usually presented in such a snarky, mean, rude or belligerent manner that it detracts from any good advice they may give. It seems they enjoy belittling people.
ReplyDeleteI personally know of a woman who, as a child, was pulled on by her arm and had to go to the E.R. to get her arm put back correctly in its socket. Very painful. Thanks for posting and don't let two on this forum ruin it for you!
Phoenix
ReplyDeleteI dont know where you get your info but I will tell you right now that one of the major things they get in the ER are the kids arm out of socket by a parent or sitter grabbing the kid or daddy lifting him up rough houseing. My sisters 3 year old was running rampant at the park and when he ran by Daddy dad reached out and grabbed him. We spent the rest of the day talking to cops and in the ER. If there had not been 20 people that witnessed this daddy would have been charged with abuse and sent to jail. It happens all the time.Ignore the nitpickers in here because they make themselves feel like the they are superior or something like that. In reality it just makes them look foolish. I refer to them as the Bully Boys.
Re: The Arm Socket Thing
ReplyDeleteWhen I was learning to walk, I stood up and started playing in the dirt of a plant pot, and my uncle grabbed me & pulled my arm out of its socket. So yes, it does happen. The doctor had to put it back in.
Pheonix, you are so very wrong about arms popping out of sockets. My niece is 2 and her dad picked her up by her arms to play and popped one out of the socket. She was rushed to the doctors office where they had to pop it back into place. Not a good practice with children to pull their arms.
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