Bruce Park in Greenwich, CT...I've seen it myself and I have had friends tell me the same thing, always nannies there that do not take care of/watch kids. Last yr I sat under pavilion, saw nanny with infant girl in stroller sit for a good 30 min and didn't even look at her. Little girls was just moving her little arms and legs, as infants do. It was sad. This past week little boy near swings, a lady helped him on and he was on for 20 min and same women helped him off while nanny sat nearby and then was like "oh I was watching". Wtf?! As a mom I would never sit on my ass and let a stranger take care of my kid and then say oh I was watching.If you have a nanny in the Greenwich area and you know they go to Bruce Park I would recommend doing some surprise visits if u can.
Not really understanding if there is a problem or not with these sightings........Maybe in the case of the infant, the nanny was trying to get baby to nap? Infants do not do much, if it wasn't fussing or crying, it was probably ok and the nanny just needed a break.
ReplyDeleteOP you sound like the type of person who is constantly trying to be a in a kids face. you can't always entertain children they don't learn anything that way. I agree that maybe the infant was having down time. It is ok for nannies to take a break every once in a while. It appears that people think they are robots and they don't get stressed or frustrated or tired. Guess what? Sometimes people kids can be assholes and we sometimes catch nannies at a bad time. That few minutes while watching "abusive" behavior we assume that the nanny is always like that. Sure some cases we are right in our assumptions and there are some bad nannies out there just like there are bad parents. But thinking a nanny is bad because she is sitting quietly next to a calm infant is silly. Now if the nanny pushed the baby down a hill in the stroller and laughed then that would be bad. Otherwise the infant sighting is not bad at all. The other one about the boy on the swing is frowned upon but maybe this nanny just needed a break.
ReplyDeleteI am so tired of people thinking that nannies aren't humans. They need rest and need to be respected and thanked for taking care of such bratty awful snotty people's kids all day.
I don't see anything wrong with the first incident. As both a Mother and a Nanny, there have been times when my children/charges have been sitting in a stroller for 30 min. or longer. As long as the baby is not fussing and trying to get out, he or she is most likely comfortable & content in the stroller so why take him or her out just because? It would be pointless. I think the Nanny was most likely trying to get the child to nap since infants do nap multiple times during the daytime.
ReplyDeleteThe other incident was a little more disturbing as it is the Nanny's job to push the child in the swing. But if I was at the park with my charge and someone offered to push my charge in the swings, I would say, "Yeah..go for it!" as long as I was right there, facing them both.
"Little girls was just moving her little arms and legs, as infants do"
ReplyDeleteShe was acting like a normal infant, oh noes!
This post seems a bit ridiculous. How are both of these "bad" nanny sightings? In the first one, the nanny was simply sitting there with her content charge...they were probably both taking a breather and babies like to observe what's going on around them. It's good to let a child sit and ponder for a while, just as it's healthy to teach a child to learn to entertain themselves. As for the second sighting...the nanny was "watching" her charge...isn't that what a nanny/parent is supposed to do at the park? Of course it's good and necessary to play with your child at a park and to push them on the swings, but as long as the child is under constant supervision (and is of age of course) I don't see anything wrong with letting the child explore and play on their own. If that means they are at the swings and another nanny/mother offers to push them, then okay. Big deal. The nanny knew what was going on and was there watching. Next time you post a "bad nanny sighting" OP, I hope it's actually a "bad nanny sighting."
ReplyDeleteDue to the new regulations, all of these responses will be deleted since no bashing is allowed.
ReplyDeleteHowever, MPP probably realizes that this is not even a legit sighting and is a waste of space.
what bashing? No one has called anyone any names or been particularly rude. This thread hasn't been any different than any conversation I have had with other mothers and caretakers. We are all stating opinions and offering different perspectives on the situation.
ReplyDeleteand the only post that should be removed is from "plaket" Looks like spam to me..........
ReplyDeletethis post makes no sense, sorry OP. I highly doubt that all nannies at the park act like they don't care. And while I could see ignoring a child for 30 minutes while they were crying at the top of their lungs as neglect, an infant sitting there for 30 minutes (and by infant that could mean a lot of things) moving and not crying is not neglect. The baby was probably safer in the stroller and maybe she had siblings older who the nanny was watching?
ReplyDeleteThe swing incident I do think the nanny should have helped him on when she saw he wanted to get on, but again not neglect, maybe just laziness.
I have babysat for a little boy that runs wild at the playground. He is really coordinated and can navigate the equipment safely. If I ran around after him the whole time I would be exhausted. I took him to the park to wear him out no me!! Many times (especially if it was really hot - or just a long day) I would sit on a bench where I could see everything and just let him go. There were many times that he would run up to the swings and ask a nearby mom to help him. At first I would feel horrified that another mom was helping and I would hop up and run over but usually in the 10 seconds it to me to get to him, he would have gotten tired of the swing, hopped off and moved onto something else. I felt guilty about it at first but then just figured I would help another child out the same way so it was okay.
ReplyDeleteWhen I go to the park with my charges .. By the time we get there it means I have pushed two girls under two up one of Seattle's notorious hills (aka equal to San Francisco). Not an easy task. If I want to rest for 30 minutes isa gonna do so. I also think the infant was most likely on an outing for some fresh air and stimulation. I bet she enjoyed the view of the trees, clouds and the sounds. Granted I would have been cooing and jabbering with her, but I see no harm w/above nanny. Perhaps we are misreading?
ReplyDeleteAs for the second sighting... You betcha..always with my eye on her, My 2yo charge gets to run around and waste her energy when we arrive. Heck, it wasn't her that pushed 50+ lbs climbing Mt Seattle like I just did =D
The problem I find with this siting is that it does no good, and seems to have no point other than lumping all nannies from this area together, which is highly unfair. One "siting" from a year ago? The other from a week ago, and no identifying information.
ReplyDeleteElla: I think most people here agree with the lack of validity of this post. It would be a shame if any comment here but yours (and the spammer's) were removed since they are all good, thoughtful posts.
@Umass: Thanks...but I was making a valid point..not asking for your opinion. :O
ReplyDeleteElla,
ReplyDeleteAnd I am questioning the validity of your point.
I don't need your permission or a special invitation to give my opinion.
@Umass: And I was questioning the validity of your point as well. I also do not need your special permission to solicit my opinion so get lost.
ReplyDeleteElla,
ReplyDelete"Get lost?"
I don't think so. :)
I agree with others that the infant sighting is nothing. Most likely trying to take a nap, soo it would make complete sense not to give her attention. As for the little boy? I see many sightings that complain when someone other than the nanny does everything for the child. How do you not know that the lady was a friend and everything was fine? I'm a nanny, and am friends with many moms + nannies in the area and we are usually at the park together. We all watch out for and help/play with each other's kids. No need for anyone to get frazzled! If the kid was on the swings for 20 minutes by himself + just needed help on + off + not to be pushed, it's not like he was a young toddler that the nanny should be trailing. We're talking probably at least 4 years old? I don't think there's anything wrong with the nanny of a 4+ kid watching them from a not too far distance and making sure that there was not a "stranger danger" situation, but let them explore and learn to function independantly in the world- isn't that what caring adults are supposed to do in order to create well developed children?
ReplyDeleteI agree with other posters that the infant was probably settling in for a nap. As for the little boy, I've helped kids on or off swings before. Never had anyone help my kids as they're 6 years apart, so I never had to worry about an infant and a young child at the same time.
ReplyDeleteI know this will probably be removed, but I'm disheartened to see that umass is acting similarly to how she did before all the drama when she left for a period of time. She questions validity of posters points, has no problem telling others they're wrong, not to take offense when she is rude, but when she is questioned or someone simply writes back, she goes on the attack. I really think her behavior is inappropriate. I know I'll get flamed for this, but it needs to be said.