Received Friday, May 21, 2010
I was in Central Park today and witnessed these nannies being neglectful and abusive to 3 toddlers. Nanny 1 was sitting on the blanket with a small girl who looked to be around 11 months old. The little girl was crying and the nanny covered her mouth to silence her as well as pulled her down on the ground by the back of her shirt. Nanny 2 was laying down on the blanket with nanny 1. The children that nanny 2 was in charge of were in the stroller asleep, but when one child woke up, she let the child cry for at least 20 minutes without acknowledging it. I walked up and confronted them about the crying child in the stroller asking if she was planning to take her out. Nanny 2 replied "It's not your business". I told her that it was my business since she was a nanny and those weren't her children and i asked who her employer was, whereas she replied "mind your business". I told her that i saw her cover the babies mouth and it was inexcuseable. They were mean, abusive and neglectful. If you know the parents or who these nannies work for, please let them know.
I am the poster and the nannies were at 85th street and central park west. I believe the children live in that area.
ReplyDeletethey say a picture is worth a thousand words, but in this case the pictures fall short. All I see are two regular nannies. How come you couldn't snap a picture of neglectful behavior if there was so much of it going on?
ReplyDeleteFirst of all, the picture was taken after i confronted them in which Nanny 2 decided it would be a good idea to get off of her lazy ass and rock the kids in the stroller and check on them. Nanny 1 put the child in her lap. This ia AFTER i told them i was calling the cops! You are no help obviously, unless you are a nanny too!
ReplyDeleteThis picture is to identify nannies! A picture is worth a thousand words...not in so many cases. Nice try!
ReplyDeletesorry but I call them like I see them. Your many anon posts are irritating. Choose a moniker. Also, you seem illiterate. Why did you wait to take the picture afterward?
ReplyDeleteFurthermore, it never fails to amaze me how many people are stupid enough to confront strangers angrily in NYC. I mean, how stupid can you get? Do you want a cap in your ass? You want to die? OP, keep doing what you are doing. Someday someone will throw a punch at you.
Go blog about that.
Why are you attacking the person who submitted the sighting?
ReplyDeleteIt takes a lot of courage to take a photo!
ReplyDeleteSometimes the OP of a Sighting will use Anonymous instead of a moniker... in those cases, we do not remove their comments!
ReplyDeleteNanny Two was correct. You needed to mind your own business. Her employment has nothing to do with you. If these nannies were so abusive that you felt it was your business, you should have called the proper authorities.
ReplyDeletewhat?, NYC is really not dangerous. You clearly have no idea what you're talking about.
ReplyDeleteAnonymous said...
ReplyDeleteUnbelievable! If this were my child, I'd be pissed and I'd be glad that someone brought this to my attention. Leaving that child to cry for 20 minutes is inexcusable. If you see something and you don't feel comfortable with what you see, you should act on it.
This website has become useless with trolls making it difficult for moms or other caregivers, including nannies, to post legitimate posts expressing their concerns. That particular post calling the OP illiterate and then asking if she wanted "a cap in her ass? You want to die?" speaks VOLUME about the type of idiotic unhelpful comments posted on this site.
Finally, to oh_please, the PURPOSE of this site is encourage the community to act as a monitor on BAD behavior and to report it here so that other caregivers can take note. If you don't like the behavior, why don't you start the website wwww.I_like_to_make_stupid_comments.blogpost.com
I am totally disgusted with this. OP, don't let ugly trolls bully you into not posting.
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Couldn't have said it better myself, thank you! - MPP
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ReplyDeleteThank you for posting this.
And having courage to say something. How many people turn a blind eye
I don't get it. When the nanny actually does something, she is called stupid. When she does nothing, she is flamed for not trying to help the poor children. Heck, I was once flamed for providing too much detail about a neglectful nanny. Someone asked what my charges were doing while I was taking notes on the nanny! No one bothered to think that I was there with another adult! People are going to be afraid to post if everyone keeps jumping down the op's throat!
ReplyDeleteThese nannies sound horrible. I hope the parents see this and fire them.
ReplyDeleteOh please, I cannot believe you are an ignorant A-hole enough to actually condone the behavior of these worthless slug A-hole nannies and tell the OP she should mind her own business. In case you couldn't figure it out by the title of this site, the URL, and the headline at the top, this is a site for reporting crappy nannies taking crappy care of kids. If you are so annoyed by that concept, why waste your time here? Go to "ilovetobeatbratsandgetpaidforit.blogspot.com" instead.
ReplyDeleteI posted and i will continue to confront and call the authorities and snap pictures and post them. These nannies were rude and irresponsible. I am not threatened by these women either. The only ones that will try to "put a cap in my ass" are those that belong in jail in the first place and not around kids. I keep my camera handy at all times...Ha!
ReplyDeletewhy are you attacking the op unless you either know the nannies or are the nanny in question, makes me wonder!!
ReplyDeleteYes in the pictures the nannies do look like they are doing their jobs but I believe the op is telling the truth in that she took it after she confronted them and they were then trying to do their jobs. And seriously, I highly doubt (although it could be possible) confronting a nanny is a bad thing and that the nanny would do something. Bad nannies need to be confronted so they know someone is watching, which in this case it made them start doing their jobs.
But... letting a child cry for 20 minutes in a stroller out in public is not right, nor is covering a child's face.
You wrote: "The only ones that will try to "put a cap in my ass" are those that belong in jail in the first place and not around kids."
ReplyDeleteYes, that is my point exactly. But do you really want to get shot for being nosy and snapping pics to post on a blog? I wouldn't. Is it really worth it?
You will get your ass kicked someday. I hope I see it on this blog.
You obviously have serious issues! lol. Snapping pics and posting anonymously isn't going to get my ass kicked. No one says i have to get confrontational. Just having a site like this is enough to get bad nannies fired. All i need is a camera and a bad nanny!
ReplyDeleteAre you seriously trying to say that there is no purpose to this site because anyone confronting bad behavior is surely going get beaten up or shot? Really? Why are you here then? If you don't believe in the premise of having a community look out for each other, then you should go away. This website is called "I Saw Your Nanny." You are not on "Ignore Abuse, The Kids May be Small and Helpless but Who Cares!"
ReplyDeleteOf course, I, and I'm sure many othe caregivers, would completely step in. The chances of something happening to me in confronting someone is small. The chances that there is serious neglect happening to innocent helpless children who don't have a VOICE in what is going on is HUGE. Anyone with any bit of a conscience will feel COMPELLED to step in.
I feel sorry for you... your approach to life and responsibility is obviously about self-preservation and your quick conclusion about violence indicates serious issues with it in your life. I hope you do not care for children because we know where your priorities lie if you are confronted with a difficult situation that involves you and other young children.
Again, Unbelievable!
I don't think snapping pics and posting anon is going to get your ass kicked: OP clearly stated that she confronted the nannies verbally. in person before snapping pics. one can post anon and subtly snap pics without being stupid and confronting a nanny who may be freaking crazy.
ReplyDeletej's mommy: I live in a city, and sorry to say, yes. it is about self-preservation. you need to think about yourself and your own kids first: confronting strangers angrily in a major city like NY is flat out stupid. if you see real abuse, pick up your phone and quietly call the cops. What do you think will happen if you confront a caregiver who is really abusive? they will probably beat the child senseless when they get home.
sorry, but wake up. just wake up.
If one of those "Nannies" were my children's nanny, I'd fire her on the spot and I'd make sure she never worked again as a Nanny, at least in my city.
ReplyDeleteAnonymous, quit being an ass. It clearly says you are supposed to pick a moniker. You'll see when all your posts are deleted.
ReplyDeleteI don't know. I'm kind of on the fence about this one. I think it is one of those "two sides to every story" kind of situations. I have just all sorts of unanswered questions, the biggest one being: why would someone threaten to call the cops and not expect the nannies to get belligerent? It is also in my experience that people tend to not have an accurate idea of time passing. ie: 5 minutes can seem like 20 when you're listening to a baby crying.
But hey, who am I to judge? This nanny isn't me, nor am I the parent of the children. I can think the OP is nosy, but it really isn't my concern.
I agree that confronting people these days is dangerous..good neighborhood or not. You NEVER know how people will react.
ReplyDeleteTurn a blind eye..absolutely not. But be responsible and smart and do not put your own child or a child you are being paid to watch in possible danger. Such confrontations should take place when you are childless.
Of course if it is life or death and time is of the essence that might be a little different.
If it simply that you veiw the nanny's/moms care giving skills as neglectful(such as this case)..a call to police(though they will most likely make it a very low priority unless pysical harm is happening)..a post to this site or asking around to try & locate parents is a good idea.
Outright physical abuse ALWAYS merrits a call to police.
Emotional abuse is not going to be a seasy to get a cop to show up..but social services will if you can get an address.
I don't have a nanny but if my sitter(ocasional ) were to confront a neglectful nanny, mommy or anyone else for that matter, while caring for my child,I would be very upset.
This post is completely appropriate. If the OP thought the nannies were neglectful, she did the right thing by posting here. Choosing to confront these nannies is her option.(hopefully she was smart enough to be childless at the time) she is an adult and can excersise freedom of Speech. It is also her right to face any consequenses she brings upon herself.
On the fence, OP never said that she threatened to call the cops. She says she confronted the nannies and then asked them who their employer was.
ReplyDeleteCali mom, look at the second anonymous comment. I'm assuming it is the OP like it claims to be. She said she was going to call the cops and then accused the poster "what?" of being a nanny as if it is a bad thing.
ReplyDeleteAnonymous said...
ReplyDeleteTHANK YOU FOR POSTING THIS!!! More moms need to step up and help each other..... and great job taking the photos. We need more people like this!
I wouldn't have said anything. I don't enjoy talking to strangers. Especially when they're working. If the behavior of the nannies was that bad I would have called authorities anonymously and walked on...
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