I was so angry I was shaking. I saw a morbidly obese black women dressed in very loud prints. her pants almost resembling chef attire and her shirt emblazoned with a gold embossed logo over multi colored graffiti. Her eyes were somewhat buggy, but otherwise she was attractive, she wore her hair in lose braids, just below her ear and wore gold earrings that were fairly large. She had with her an older child who must have been her biracial daughter. The daughter was lighter skinned, but had the same features as the mother and although the child was only 8-10, she had on long, false nails that were painted psychedelic green, very bright. The little girl was helping Mom with the child, a cranky baby girl of about 8 months. The baby was dressed in a plum colored jacket with a bow tie at the top and she had very sparse, blonde hair. The baby sucked on a boinky and seemed to be trying to find comfort (teething), when she could not find relief, she would hurl her boinky as far as she could. The child would also bang her little fists on the stroller. She might have been as old as 12 months, now that I think about it. She was wearing traditional baby shoes in style, but in patent black leather. The nanny was on her phone laughing and gabbing it up. The child was crying and the older girl was trying to keep her calm when the nanny yelled at the older child not once or twice, but a number of times. She then put her hand over the cell phone and screeched, "maybe she wants out of the stroller, you think a' that" and the little girl tried to get her out. The baby was being uncooperative and so it was a struggle. The nanny reached over and flicked the older girl on the back of the head. The girl reached up and rubbed her head and said something like "I'm trying". The mother went back to the phone talking about clothes and weekend plans and the little girl now had the child out of the stroller and was trying to hold on to her (awkwardly) and trying to sooth her (unsuccessfully). The baby continued to throw her boinky and the child would attempt to get it and the way she bent with the child, I was certain she was going to hurt the child or drop her. One of the last times I witnessed the boinky fall, I scuttled over there and grabbed it and I said words to "you look like you have your hands full". The little girl smiled shyly. I told her, "I think she's teething". Now the mother of the older child/nanny looks over at me and once again covers the phone and says, "what what WHAT, WHAT WHAT", about nine times. I had no words. The woman was SCARY the way she responded to me just helping her child with the boinky. Please don't tell me that the older child should be learning responsibility, the baby was in pain and very uncomfortable and the nanny should have gotten off the phone. I would never hire a nanny for my child that mistreated her own child, especially physically abused her child. I have to imagine this is a recession era nanny, she clearly had no regard for children and no common sense. ** There was nothing here for the baby to do, the older child was busy with the baby but the nanny ate and ate and ate. In fact she was shoving pizza in her mouth while she was gabbing on the phone and she had zero etiquette. I shudder remembering..
Thursday
Chuck E Cheese in Paramus, NJ
Received Thursday, March 26, 2009
I was so angry I was shaking. I saw a morbidly obese black women dressed in very loud prints. her pants almost resembling chef attire and her shirt emblazoned with a gold embossed logo over multi colored graffiti. Her eyes were somewhat buggy, but otherwise she was attractive, she wore her hair in lose braids, just below her ear and wore gold earrings that were fairly large. She had with her an older child who must have been her biracial daughter. The daughter was lighter skinned, but had the same features as the mother and although the child was only 8-10, she had on long, false nails that were painted psychedelic green, very bright. The little girl was helping Mom with the child, a cranky baby girl of about 8 months. The baby was dressed in a plum colored jacket with a bow tie at the top and she had very sparse, blonde hair. The baby sucked on a boinky and seemed to be trying to find comfort (teething), when she could not find relief, she would hurl her boinky as far as she could. The child would also bang her little fists on the stroller. She might have been as old as 12 months, now that I think about it. She was wearing traditional baby shoes in style, but in patent black leather. The nanny was on her phone laughing and gabbing it up. The child was crying and the older girl was trying to keep her calm when the nanny yelled at the older child not once or twice, but a number of times. She then put her hand over the cell phone and screeched, "maybe she wants out of the stroller, you think a' that" and the little girl tried to get her out. The baby was being uncooperative and so it was a struggle. The nanny reached over and flicked the older girl on the back of the head. The girl reached up and rubbed her head and said something like "I'm trying". The mother went back to the phone talking about clothes and weekend plans and the little girl now had the child out of the stroller and was trying to hold on to her (awkwardly) and trying to sooth her (unsuccessfully). The baby continued to throw her boinky and the child would attempt to get it and the way she bent with the child, I was certain she was going to hurt the child or drop her. One of the last times I witnessed the boinky fall, I scuttled over there and grabbed it and I said words to "you look like you have your hands full". The little girl smiled shyly. I told her, "I think she's teething". Now the mother of the older child/nanny looks over at me and once again covers the phone and says, "what what WHAT, WHAT WHAT", about nine times. I had no words. The woman was SCARY the way she responded to me just helping her child with the boinky. Please don't tell me that the older child should be learning responsibility, the baby was in pain and very uncomfortable and the nanny should have gotten off the phone. I would never hire a nanny for my child that mistreated her own child, especially physically abused her child. I have to imagine this is a recession era nanny, she clearly had no regard for children and no common sense. ** There was nothing here for the baby to do, the older child was busy with the baby but the nanny ate and ate and ate. In fact she was shoving pizza in her mouth while she was gabbing on the phone and she had zero etiquette. I shudder remembering..
I was so angry I was shaking. I saw a morbidly obese black women dressed in very loud prints. her pants almost resembling chef attire and her shirt emblazoned with a gold embossed logo over multi colored graffiti. Her eyes were somewhat buggy, but otherwise she was attractive, she wore her hair in lose braids, just below her ear and wore gold earrings that were fairly large. She had with her an older child who must have been her biracial daughter. The daughter was lighter skinned, but had the same features as the mother and although the child was only 8-10, she had on long, false nails that were painted psychedelic green, very bright. The little girl was helping Mom with the child, a cranky baby girl of about 8 months. The baby was dressed in a plum colored jacket with a bow tie at the top and she had very sparse, blonde hair. The baby sucked on a boinky and seemed to be trying to find comfort (teething), when she could not find relief, she would hurl her boinky as far as she could. The child would also bang her little fists on the stroller. She might have been as old as 12 months, now that I think about it. She was wearing traditional baby shoes in style, but in patent black leather. The nanny was on her phone laughing and gabbing it up. The child was crying and the older girl was trying to keep her calm when the nanny yelled at the older child not once or twice, but a number of times. She then put her hand over the cell phone and screeched, "maybe she wants out of the stroller, you think a' that" and the little girl tried to get her out. The baby was being uncooperative and so it was a struggle. The nanny reached over and flicked the older girl on the back of the head. The girl reached up and rubbed her head and said something like "I'm trying". The mother went back to the phone talking about clothes and weekend plans and the little girl now had the child out of the stroller and was trying to hold on to her (awkwardly) and trying to sooth her (unsuccessfully). The baby continued to throw her boinky and the child would attempt to get it and the way she bent with the child, I was certain she was going to hurt the child or drop her. One of the last times I witnessed the boinky fall, I scuttled over there and grabbed it and I said words to "you look like you have your hands full". The little girl smiled shyly. I told her, "I think she's teething". Now the mother of the older child/nanny looks over at me and once again covers the phone and says, "what what WHAT, WHAT WHAT", about nine times. I had no words. The woman was SCARY the way she responded to me just helping her child with the boinky. Please don't tell me that the older child should be learning responsibility, the baby was in pain and very uncomfortable and the nanny should have gotten off the phone. I would never hire a nanny for my child that mistreated her own child, especially physically abused her child. I have to imagine this is a recession era nanny, she clearly had no regard for children and no common sense. ** There was nothing here for the baby to do, the older child was busy with the baby but the nanny ate and ate and ate. In fact she was shoving pizza in her mouth while she was gabbing on the phone and she had zero etiquette. I shudder remembering..
Hah, recession era nanny. Sounds like it. Seems like she has a few screws loose.
ReplyDeleteI couldn't quite follow. Was it a nanny? A mom? Or a mom and a nanny?
ReplyDeleteWhatever she was she is a piece of work. The word boinky was getting on my nerves (sorry) I'm used to binky, or paci, or dummy (British) or pipila (Greek) But I never heard boinky before.
WOw that is a shame for both kids. . Too bad you couldnt find out who the parents were,
ReplyDeleteSounds like the kids were interfering with nanny trying to conduct her life as normal, but with a couple of pesky kids in tow in order to score a couple of extra dollars in tough times.
ReplyDeleteYou know, it can be very frustrating when you're trying to completely ignore kids and pretend they're not there...especially during the infant/toddler years, when they are in need of a lot of care and attention (natural curiosity and trying to learn about the world, etc., you know)...and especially in that interim period before they have learned to just shut the heck up and lay like a slug in the stroller all day long, asking for and expecting nothing more, because they finally realize that nobody's going to help them even if they cry, and that causing a fuss will more than likely just land them a lump on the back of the head anyway.
Give the nanny a break. She's obviously working very hard to get this baby to give up any sense of self importance or personhood...to squelch her pesky desire to learn and play...to break the curiosity and fight right out of her. It takes a special kind of person to be able to do that with a child. Fortunately for nanny, it probably won't take all that long. :(
I'm confused. There are several times you say "the mother" and then you go back to saying the "nanny". Are you unsure if it was a mother or a nanny?
ReplyDeleteGood sighting OP, that nanny deserves a swift kick in the ass. I feel bad for her daughter.
ReplyDeleteI also wanted to mention the "Boinky" I think that word is hilarious. That's the first time I have heard it (assuming you were talking about a pacifier.) When I was a baby I called it my FuFu. I have heard many names for it but boinky is too funny.
Good post!
I really feel for the womans daughter. Poor kid.
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ReplyDeleteThe crazy fat lady was the mother to the older child and a nanny to the blond haired baby.
That's what I understood at least.
Boinky. LOL.
ReplyDeleteFirst of all, I think you meant "binky" the boinky was driving me nuts!
ReplyDeleteSecondly, i got the impression that this was a nanny who had her child 9the older child) with her for the day.
Thirdly, poor kids, both of them
good post op.
ReplyDeleteand.... the word 'boinky' was really bugging me too. :) glad im not alone.
but good post all the same! that woman needs help.
Who cares what she called the stupid pacifier.
ReplyDeleteHopefully someone will see this. Even though Bergen County is large, you do get to see the same people over and over again. Especially, that area near the Bergen Mall. So lets hope someone recognizes the description
Wasn't there a post a couple weeks back about another "morbidly obese" black woman with buggy eyes??? Just curious, because it sounds like the same person. The writing style seems similar.
ReplyDeleteParents put their babies at risk the minute they opt (and yes I said opt) to have a double income. I work weekends, my husband weekdays. No nannies, ever. If you have someone you trust wholeheartedly then good on you, but I would not take the chance. We chose this no-frills lifestyle rather than risking the welfare of our babies.
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