Charitable Employer lacks good will toward others

Received Wednesday, September 3, 2008. - Perspective & Opinion
My boss is driving me crazy. I am used to just dealing with the children (2 girls, 4 & 10) on my own, but this August she "took a breather" from all of her "busy work". Her busy work seemed to consist of the stereotypical luncheons, charity work and salon appointments.
This is not the sort of woman anyone would find admirable, except that she married a very rich man who loves her to bits.

Here is where I come in. I take care of the children all day every day, monday through friday, whether mom is home or not.
What is bothering me? I have three bones of contention. Let me rant and tell me if I have a point or if I am just burning out in the nanny world.
#1) She never gives me credit for what I do during the day. Her husband makes all of the money. I am paid quite handsomely. I have a sound work ethic so I do everything that needs to be done. At the end of the day, I have caught her recounting to her husband what she has done, and most often, at least half of those things she claims as her own.
Yes, I know that this is how things happen in the corporate world. Bosses take credit for the work of their subordinates, but he pays me. What must he think I do all day long?
#2) The cars. Sometimes she will take the nanny car to the carwash. That is rare. Sometimes a detailer comes to the house and does all of the cars. When this happens, she will go out and get the personal things out of her car and her husbands and mine. In the middle of the car, there is a space for two drinks and a place for coins. Three times, she has swept all of the coins up and thrown them in the garbage. In the garbage. That isn't nanny money, it's my money. (I am the only one that drives the nanny car). Besides the fact that she throws my measeley dimes and nickels away, she throws hers away and I have seen inside her middle compartment, she has quarters for days. And she will scoop them all up and throw them right in the garbage can. Once I remarked about it and she said the money was dirty or there was coffee on it. We are not talking about $1.50 here. Easily $20 or more in her car.
#3) She has a huge pet peeve about people speaking Spanish. She doesn't pay the landscapers any mind, but she will not allow the housekeeper to talk in Spanish - even if she is talking to her mother on the phone. Granted the reasoning is that she shouldn't have to hear that because the housekeeper isn't getting paid to speak to anyone on the phone, but she is completely, completely rude.

Sometimes she and I are out together and my God. One time a woman asked me if I spoke Spanish and my employer butted in and said, "the question is, why don't you speak English".
My employer has also told me that she speaks Spanish "fairly well" and bragged to me in front of her daughters, (the oldest of whom is 10), that on at least two occasions - which she told us specifically about, Spanish speaking people have needed assistance and she has just shook her head and said, "I speak only English".

Is it me but is this out of whack for a woman who spends 20 hours a day out of the house volunteering? She has also bragged that she sets an example of generosity by demonstrating charity to her children (and then she cites the boards she sits on and the actual volunteer work she does). She does work with one agency that does a lot of great work for battered women - but doesn't her lack of good will towards the non English speaking send a mixed message? I tell my friends about this and they say I should stick it out for my year and write a book. Am I being picky? Are these things I should just shake my head at and move on or should I be a little upset?