Received Wednesday, March 5, 2008- Perspective & Opinion
I went to work on a very part time basis for a family last November. It's not working out for me. I am unable to warm up to the children, mainly because my child care values are grossly different from the parents. I feel a child should say "Please" and "Thank -You" they feel a child should not have to beg. I feel children shouldn't interrupt adults, they feel a child should speak when they please. I feel a good breakfast is needed before sweets can be given and they feel the children can eat whatever they please beginning at 6AM. I want to be as diplomatic as possible and I am not very good at resignation so I am seeking help in how I should say it. When I was hired the mother told me their last sitter left to go to college but now the dad told me a few weeks ago they have had quite a bit of trouble keeping sitters because no one gets their children. So at least I know, It's not me! Thanks!
I say line up some interviews, let the families know that you are in a current position and will want to give your two week notice, and then once you find a new family, do just that!
ReplyDeleteI would just leave it at "sorry it just isn't working out." I wouldn't say, "Your parenting skilss are driving me up the wall!" because that could lead to a bad reference. :)
I know after I left my last family I wanted to go all "super nanny" on thier butts so that they could get a better grip (the mom constantly complained to me that her children didn't respect her like they did me, what was my secert?) I was like, "Lady if I told ya, you'd hate me, then take my advice and have a better family."
But, alas, if I ever chose to work again, I would want a good review, and I know if I just left it as, "I am leaving to start my own family." I would get a better review...
Make sense?? GL with whatever you decide!
just say: you guys are nuts. im out of here!
ReplyDeletejust say good bye..and close this chapter behind you. sometimes parents just dont get it and they want to be "friends' with there kids not parents..its way easier there way. why should you do the dirty work?..good luck
ReplyDeleteUm, yeah.
ReplyDeleteYou're worried about manners with this family?
How about, "I'm really sorry to say that this isn't a match."
And inside your head you can still be shrieking "Ack! You people are raising beasts!"
you need to leave and thats it, but give them a 2 week notice at least, its not the kids fault but the parents, they are crazy and i just feel sorry for those kids growing up without any discipline, the parents are going to realize the mistake they are making by raising them this way, pretty sad, but there is nothing you can do, look for another job now! and good luck with everything!
ReplyDeleteThanks for the advice!
ReplyDeleteThis is a very part-time on call thing so 2 weeks is not needed and I couldn't care less about a reference. I have a regular afternoon job. I just never had to resign before. I just kind of moved on as kids aged out of needing me so this is the first time I've had to quit! Again, thanks everyone!
ROFL @ "no one gets their children." Could these people be more clueless? Poor kids, being raised up as rude little boars.
ReplyDeleteDid you really need advice? If you don't care about a reference and don't think giving notice is necessary, where is the issue? You're not going to have to interact with them again, so why does it matter what you say?
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ReplyDeleteI kind of thought the same thing ... if OP is ready to let go of a meaningless job, and doesn't care about a reference, I honestly don't see a problem.
You'll be fine, OP. Move on.
They are used to sitters leaving them, one after another. One day they will get it. In the meantime, they will just think you are one more person who "doesn't get their kids." I can't stand parents like this, and their children do turn out like beasts. But the parents go on thinking (and teaching their kids) that their kids are simply "superior" to all of the other kids, which helps them explain it all away in their whacked out minds. Run!
ReplyDeleteI like that too..."no one GETS their children"..they don't "GET" their OWN children! All children need guidance and when the parents aren't willing to give it, it is US (the child care providers & nannies) who have to provide that guidance. I hear too often in my business the PC phrase "different parenting styles". I sooooo sick of it.....these parents you speak of sound like they have a totally hands OFF "parenting style" (they aren't parenting AT ALL) and that is a shame. Good luck OP.
ReplyDeleteI would give the 2 weeks notice. They may get mad and tell you to leave right away but at least that would be the right thing to do.
ReplyDeleteJust remember you can be the mature
ReplyDeleteand respectful person and
give two weeks notice..they dont
need a freakin reason...if they
ask say its just personal stuff...
What they just said.
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