Received Thursday, October 25, 2007
Where: Garfield Tot Lot in Brooklyn
When: Today between 3:30-4:00
What: Nanny pushing two year old-ish white child with hair in pony tails wearing yellow rain slicker and yellow and red rain boots. Stroller had a rain plastic guard on it and was navy blue. Rain was light and variable. Nanny walked in park and walked around. Child, understandably remained in stroller. Nanny saw a male outside the park and went to him. The two intermingled for a bit and left together. The guy was of Mexican descent, wearing no jacket and a black t-shirt with an insignia over a grey l/s shirt. Young gals might consider him, "hot". The nanny was petite, attractive, I would guess-not sure-Puerto Rican and was wearing tight jeans, a red sweatshirt with a hood and gold earrings. The guy was eating something when he approached. Turns out to be Twizzlers. The two of them shared a Twizzler eating it down to the stem. My thought was "get a room". But after they left together, hand in hand I wondered if the child's parents knew nanny was hooking up with her BF while on the clock. Not a bad nanny sighting. Just an FYI.
I assume when they "left together", she took the child? If not, that would be a BAD nanny sighting.
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ReplyDeleteWhat kind of nonsense is that?
The kind we don't tolerate!
ReplyDeleteThis is silly. So she shared a twizzler with her BF? Big Deal.
ReplyDeleteShe took the child to the park on a rainy day for no purpose except to encounter said boyfriend. The problem is not the lewd and lascivious way she bobbed on her side of the twizzler but the fact that boyfriends of babysitters and nannies should always be cleared by the family first. Always. They have a tendency to beat, kick, run over and molest the children in their girlfriend's care. Obviously not always, but if you read the stories in the news- the parents NEVER new that the boyfriend was visiting the nanny in their home or that the nanny was taking the child to the boyfriend's apartment.
ReplyDeleteI would so GPS my nanny. Not her car. Her. I would want to know where my child is every minute of the day. But if you don't, so be it.
...how do you know the boyfriend wasn't cleared by the parents?
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read the last sentence of OP's post.
He may have been. He may not have been. I worked as a nanny for 3 years and I regret how I behaved as a nanny. Two days out of the week I might take the kiddos to the places I said, but othertimes, I would chill with my peeps. Even smoke the ganja. And sex wasn't out of the question either. Leave the children strapped in the stroller, parked in the corner and muffle our voices.
I'm not proud. Honestly, I'm ashamed. As a mother now, I am uber suspicious about everything because not only was I a nanny, but I spent a lot of time in the nanny cirle. Swapping war stories and how tos.
And we weren't discussing how to do our job better or swapping recipes.
Blimey, It's 240 in the morning!
well, clearly you are projecting your behavior on this nanny. you are insane and I actually fear for YOUR kids.
ReplyDeleteThis is a waste of forum space.
ReplyDeletethey have a tendency to do so? So-now we are grouping all husbands and boyfriends of nannies as abusive to children? Niiice
ReplyDeleteDoes anyone really beieve this? I was in the garfield tot lot with my child at that time and I did not see any of these "characters".
ReplyDeleteAn adult man entering the park without any child would immediately draw attention. Two adults sharing a twizzer a la that dog scene in the disney cartoon would be yelled at by other mommies.
As I mentioned... I saw nothing of the sort.
Geez...10:34....might YOU be the skanky nanny in question? This IS a bad nanny sighting.....I'll bet 100 bucks the creep who's sharing a twizzler with said nanny (gross me out) is NOT cleared by the parents....and if someone is watching MY child....she'd better not be meeting up with ANY man. You people that defend a nanny being overly affectionate in front of her charges make me ILL! She is on the CLOCK! She has NO business BEING with a boyfriend. I gotta quit reading this blog. UGH. It makes my blood boil.
ReplyDelete10:48, you must be incredibly stupid as well.
ReplyDeleteAs I mentioned, any man entering that toddler park without a child by his side will elicit notice from other mothers in the park!
All mothers know exactly what I mean. Any couple deciding to smooch it up in a children's park will be told where to go by at least 20% of the mothers in the park!!!
I believe the OP is a nanny herself, trying to scare parents.
10:48, I'm not defending anyone, since I was in the park and did not see any of these characters mentioned!! How can I defend someone who doesn't exist
Nanny saw a male outside the park and went to him.
ReplyDeleteNanny saw a male outside the park and went to him.
Nanny saw a male outside the park and went to him.
10:34
When did the BF ever enter the park? You naysayers are of no help. If this is YOUR child and you know the bf spends time with your child than no big deal. If you don't, here is the info you need. If this isn't your child, please add something constructive to the debate.
And what were you ( 10:34) doing at that park at that time? I wanted to take my child to our neighborhood park but it was raining.
Kate in Co... I live in Brooklyn, and regularly take my kids to that park.
ReplyDeleteThe only people allowed there are toddlers and caretakers. Adults without children will quickly draw the attention of Parks Department employees, and be asked to leave. Older children are not allowed to play there by themselves.
People like you make my blood boil.
Yes, 1034, it rained up until 4 or so and even then the playground equipment would have been wet. I don't think you were there.
ReplyDeleteand why would a nanny try to scare parents?
ReplyDeletestep away from the crack pipe.
11:08, it was a light drizzle, almost like a mist. You and I know the weather wasn't bad for a toddler wearing the proper clothing.
ReplyDeleteI cannot say I regularly take my children to this park because I have an older child with SN, but I have been to this park enough.
ReplyDelete"Nanny saw a male outside the park and went to him. The two intermingled for a bit and left together."
It doesn't sound to me like the make was inside the grounds. The park is surrounded by buildings, so it sounds to me like they used the park to meet up and then went elsewhere. I think that is the point of the post.
And all of this is harmless unless the parents do not know about it. The nanny took the child to the park and the child did not get out and they left. Hmm... Don't you ever wonder the percentage of nannies who tell the parents they are taking the children to the park and end up elsewhere? running nanny personal errands? My sister fired her live out nanny because she took the child home to her apartment to clean, do laundry and often start dinner.
Parents- Know where your children are.
You don't believe I was there due to the weather; but you believe the OP was there, with her storybook characters, in the park... by herself?
ReplyDeleteI see stupid people, populating this board.
1117-
ReplyDeleteI don't know that. I'm not Sam freaking Champion. And I don't know you. But clearly you have an agenda.
Maybe you are one of the SAHMS who uses the park excuse to get out of the house, lose reception and boink the assistant manager of Starbucks? Don't want hubby to catch on that sometimes "taking the child to the park" doesn't mean staying at the park at all??
And by the by, I am a bench sitting mama and proud. When I take my eyes off my child, it is because an interesting scene happens on the sidewalks outside the gates of the park. Which is how I pictured this going down. Not that I know. But at least I dont have an agenda.
Parents who leave their children with a stranger they met on craigslist deserve to be put in prison.
ReplyDelete"stroller" with "rain guard"
ReplyDeletewalked around- doesn't sound like nanny "sat"
saw a male "outside" the park-went to him.
Havent you "ever" picked a meeting place for a rendevous? You gotta be all descreet and shit.
11:22, stop projecting your own perversions onto others.
ReplyDelete11:25 is another person projecting her perversions.
ReplyDeleteNow I know why children grow up to become skanky sluts. They get it from their parents and caretakers.
Yes, finally some words of wisdom in this now off topic post.
ReplyDeleteIn the future, I would like to see parents convicted of a crime and their children taken away from them if they provide unsavory, unskilled people to care for their child. The care of the child must be on the same scale as providing food, nurturing and a roof over the child's head.
These parents need to be charged with child neglect. ESPECIALLY the parents who get nanny cameras after "feeling something was wrong"
What do you do with your child on wet playground equipment? Do you bring a mop?
ReplyDeleteIt sounds like the nanny came to the park, left the child in the stroller, walked around, saw her meeting person and left the park. Went to him and left with him. An activity involving a twizzler may have transpired. Sounds to me like this took less than 3 minutes. The same 3 minutes OR claims to have been there. I say something is rotten in Denmark. Go look for a good nanny sighting and post it. Don't be a saboteur. Don't deconstruct information that may aid a parent in recognizing his or her nanny.
ReplyDeleteHey, 11:31........good post!!!!
ReplyDelete10:34, 11:06, and 11:21--all likely written by the nanny in question.
ReplyDeleteEspecially suspicious is the statement that any kissing inside the park would be protested by about 20% of the moms in attendance.
How many times do you think people come to the toddler park to make out that this poster is able to make an estimation that one out of five moms will protest? I think she had done this before, INSIDE the park, and now knew to meet the boyfrined only OUTSIDE the gates, lest the mothers inside heckle her ONCE AGAIN.
10:34, 11:06 and 11:21, you protest too much. You are BUSTED!
I hope the family that hires you sees this and realizes not only that you are a disgusting nanny, but also how manipilative you are in trying to condem the OP in order to save your sleezy behind.
I cannot imagine how many children sit strapped in strollers all day long while thier nannies have sex, do their errands, or who knows what! Anybody who is a nanny and treats a child like this is disgusting. You are a horrible employee and a reprehensible human being.
re 1034, my cousin claims he was in the book depository trapping rats on that day back in...
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ReplyDeleteI don't think just because people have opinions, this makes you stupid. What's wrong with everyone having their own opinion...not everyone has to be on the same page?
ReplyDeleteThere are worse things nannies can do, than to meet up w/ a friend of boyfriend.
If you want to GPS your nanny, YOU WATCH YOUR OWN KIDS. That is just ridiculous.
If you're a stay at home mom who spas all day,yet has a nanny and comes here and complain. That's messed up. If you have control over who cares for your children, namely you-don't complain when trite situations such as this arise.
2:33,
ReplyDeleteAre you the nanny in question AGAIN?
First, you are correct that having opinions does not make us stupid. However, posting stupid comments does make people start to wonder....
Clearly you are a defensive nanny. (Which again makes me wonder if you are the irresponisble porno nanny mentioned in this post.) There are worse things a nanny can do than meet up with a friend or boyfriend? Yes, but because something could be worse, does not make it right.
I can guarantee that probably even really bad parents don't want this happening with their kids...which means if you are a nanny doing this, you are a horrible nanny. Where did she go with this man and the child? Perhaps the child sat strapped in his stroller all afternoon while she had sex in some seedy apartment with this guy. Nobody will ever know. If it were my child that nanny would be fired immediately and I would do all I could to alert others so that they wouldn't be duped by her too.
If I had a nanny with a respectable boyfriend, who I had met and felt comfortable with, I would not have a problem with him coming to sit at the park with her and my child, if she asked me first whether I had a problem with it (since I would be paying for her time.) I would not, however, be happy to hear that they were behaving in such a way that "20%" of mothers nearby were offended enough have to speak to them about it. I would not, under any circumstances, want her taking the child to his apartment, her apartment, my home, or any other location that I had not expressly approved in advance. I would want my child to be the FOCUS of the nanny's attention, not an inconvenient appendage to her social life.
So, YES, what she did is very bad. None of us will know how bad it actually got, because she took the child away with the guy.
You have no business being a nanny if your work ethic does not cause your brain to scream "wrong" when you hear about something like this!
I don't care if my nanny has a personal life. That may make me in the minority, but since I have one too, it's all fine. What this post leaves me really wondering is, why so many of you have so much contempt for the women you leave your children with. Because that's got to rub off on your kids and ultimately be far more damaging.
ReplyDelete11:10...so are you saying that if I had my children in this park and my husband was to meet us there later, when he arrived, alone at first as he came to meet us, he would immediately be pounced on? I find that hard to believe.
ReplyDeleteI am sure an momentarily childless adult, who was meeting his girlfriend and her charge or his wife and their children there could safely do so. I can understand if an adult was lurking about alone, but not one there to clearly meet someone.
Beside the point anyway, since the OP clearly states he was outside the play area.
5:28,Speaking of stupid comments....I agree that 2:33 sounds like A nanny, if not THE nanny, but "porno nanny?" Give me a break. If you think what this nanny did was wrong, that's fine, but it was hardly porno.
ReplyDeleteI don't care if my nanny has a social life either, if it coincides with her work since she lives in our home. I do like to meet the people that my children spend time with or atleast here about them, but I have never had to ask. My nanny is pretty open and tells me pretty much anything I need to know. And that very well could be the case here, we don't know. Only one person knows. (Her employer).
ReplyDeletememe,
ReplyDeletethere are just some hopelessly clueless people on here that no matter how clear the situation was to you or me, it's clear as mud to them and they have selective vision besides. Good on you to keep trying, though.
I was just being silly meme!
ReplyDeleteOMG, 11:22, who likes to visualize SAHM's ducking out to the playground and bonking the Starbucks guys on the sly...Is that the kind of people you hang out with? I have to wonder what kind of influences you expose yourself to to conceive of such plots. Seriously, if you haven't already, you should get yourself hired by a porn film company with that vivid imagiination of yours.
ReplyDeleteBTW, if you are actually taking care of your child, as SAHM's *supposedly* do, you're way too busy to bonk anyone anywhere. IF you are doing YOUR job properly, that is.
The nanny clearly should leave her pheromones at home when she goes to work. Being a nanny comes with certain moral obligations, so she needs to switch off the sensual undertones when she goes to work.
ReplyDeleteI'm of Irish descent & some of my cousins are married to Latin-Americans. How do you know they weren't related? Why do you assume it's a nanny?
ReplyDeletef.g....thanks. I know it's hopeless, but I just can't help myself!
ReplyDeletecali mom...stay at home moms "supposedly" take care of their children? You sound a tad bit like a mother who is resentful of other mothers who actually stay at home and care for their own children. I suppose you think that you can care for children better from your office than you could if you were at home.
ReplyDelete12:51: maybe I am wrong, but I think Cali Mom is a SAHM.
ReplyDeleteI asked Cali mom a while back. She is a SAHM with a three year old son, I believe.
ReplyDeleteI asked because her opinions vary from subject to subject, instead of towing the traditional "SAHM party line," so I was unable to identify her from her posts as belonging to one of the specific "mom groups."
I am often surprised by the variety of opinions she posts. Just shows that she takes the time to think about each individual issue before making a "politically correct" post.
Just goes to show that, just as the working moms don't like to be all lumped into one category because they are all different, SAHMs are also capable of independent thought and should be considered individually.
12:51, I also think Cali Mom is a SAHM, she just seems to use more of her brains than the typical sanctimommy, maybe this is what got you confused?
ReplyDelete4:07 and 5:19,
ReplyDeleteSo true. We may not always agree with her, but at least her comments sound like she actually thought them out and has reasoning to back up her opinions. Unlike, many, many others on here....mostly posting as anonymous.
I am really getting tired of every single thread getting hijacked by SAHM's vs everybody else. Let's stick to the subject, people!!!
ReplyDelete12:51, as other posters have clarified (and thank you ladies!) I don't have an office. I AM a SAHM and I truly enjoy spending a lot of time with my little guy in his formative years, and wouldn't miss it for the world, though thanks to his wonderful daddy, I do have opportunities for some alone time on a regular basis. Kind of blows your stereotype out of the water, but thanks for keeping the conversation rolling!
ReplyDeleteWow, 8:54. Defensive much?
ReplyDelete5:19
ReplyDeleteI wasn't trying to criticize other SAHMs by complimenting Cali mom. In fact, I'm a SAHM too. I like that she expresses her opinions. We all have opinions, and my point was that, just because somebody may be a SAHM or a working mom, it doesn't mean we all think alike based on our situations...or that we automatically dislike working moms.
Did it ever occur to anybody that SAHMs advocate you staying home with your kids, not because we want to judge you or look down upon you, but because we have experienced something very special by doing so with our own children and simply want to let you know, before it's too late, that there is an incredible opportunity for you and your child to share some very magical times together during their formative years? Did you ever think that maybe it's the sort of thing you can't possibly understand and appreciate fully until you have actually experienced it for yourself? That maybe it's like giving birth and holding your new baby for the first time...you just can't possibly adequately explain it to anybody who has not been there themselves...and it's really wonderful, so you really wish you could? Did it ever occur to you that you might just be getting defensive for no reason?
Or maybe we have seen one too many kids at the hand of a cruel or negligent nanny and assume that you have no idea what is happening or can happen behind your back, and we just want to make sure you know what we see too often, because we would want somebody to let us know if it were our child?
We have no reason to be jealous. We can all work if we want to. What reason do we really have to judge? Maybe it's that we really just care about kids and their well being, and about you moms out there who might not even realize what you are missing?
Is it possible that we are not actually judging you, and that we don't really want to fight? Is it possible that we really do just actually CARE?
Right on, Mom. I couldn't have said it better.
ReplyDeleteI could work if I wanted to, but as a former child care worker and knowing people who have had experiences with nannies, I have concerns about that, plus only someone who has been a SAHM can fully know the pure joy of spending your days with your children and never missing out on anything.
That does not mean I look down on moms who work, particularly ones who have to work, it is just that we SAHMs have a much different perspective to offer.
Mom and Meme,
ReplyDeleteAre you by chance one and the same person? It sounds like it.
No, I am mom. (Not that that helps you believe me.) I have three kids, 21, 17, 14. Meme has two little ones, 3 and a toddler I believe? (I pay attention.)
ReplyDeleteI think meme is nice and I like what she says, so sometimes I defend her when the fighters come out, that's all.
I like meme
ReplyDeleteWho cares about any of you. I just want to read the posts and respond to the stories. Who gives a shit if you are a SAHM/Working mom. Blah, blah blah. Looks like mothers spending too much time on here fighting while your kids are doing god knows what.
ReplyDeleteCollege years,
ReplyDeleteIf...
you just want to respond to the stories, why didn't you?
College years,
ReplyDeleteYou sound like a lovely girl. Your mother must be proud.
fg
ReplyDeleteI got wrapped up in all this bull-- like everyone else on here.
And of course my mother is proud of me 9:01. Why wouldn't she be. I study really hard, make good grades, and will have a good future for myself..what more could someone want for their child.
2:01
ReplyDeleteI'm assuming that the comment was in reference to your charming language.
But maybe you're right. If you have an impressive resume, who really cares whether you have any manners or class? (BTW Hope you can secure a respectable job without being screened by that pesky formality they call an interview.)
2:46
ReplyDeleteYes, thats why I am studying to be a lawyer.