Received Monday, September 17, 2007
On Friday (Sept. 14) I witnessed a nanny of three children. Ages were probably 9 month old girl, 5 year old boy, and a seven year old boy. The nanny was reading a magazine with the baby in the stroller. The older boy was teasing the four year old so the nanny went over, not saying a word to the children, and grabbed the older boy by his arm and DRAGGED him across the carpet for a good twenty feet. Nanny was probably mid-upper 30's. African American...maybe Jamaican. She was about "5'6 180ish pounds.
Maybe this is a common problem with this boy.
ReplyDeleteyes. so by all means teach him by be physically agressive. Who are the asshats that make such comments?
ReplyDeleteGive me a nanny who loses her patience and raises her voice or outright yells, but keep your fucking hands off my kids.
Wow Emily...what a classy lady you are!
ReplyDeleteoh right 12:16 AM,
ReplyDeletewhat spells classy is the attitude that children deserve the abuse they get. (11:52 PM) THEY MUST HAVE DONE SOMETHING To deserve it. Yeah, what class.
Team Emily!(11:55 PM )
I think there is more to this story. MAYBE the nanny was dragging him to his time out for being so mean to his sister. Older kids can be very challenging. Some people are unfortunate enough to have very difficult children. Others are lucky that simple words get things done.
ReplyDeleteI was a nanny for a very difficult 10 year old kid, who one day lay across the road to protest going home for the day. People in cars and walking by were staring at me and making comments. The only way I could get him moving was to drag him out of the road, and as luck would have it, his mother showed up and screamed at me for dragging him. I quit right away. She would have screamed at me if I left him lying on the road, so I was a sucker either way.
846,
ReplyDeleteI question what you were doing up to that point that allowed the troubled child such access to the road.
Having said that, DRAGGING a child is not acceptable. Bend at the knees and pick the child up. What, you can't do it and you are working with a troubled 10 year old?
You're NOT fit to do the job.
Yes, children need to be removed from danger or put in time out but you pick them up and remove them from place a and put them in place b.
Its not rocket science.
Its not even nannying 101,
its common sense.
"Bend at the knees and pick the child up"? Are you kidding me! Try picking up a 10 year old who weights as much as you do. Oh no, not getting a hernia!
ReplyDeleteHis mother's instructions were that he be home at a certain time, and when the time neared, I reminded him, but he decided he did not want to go home, so he ran into the road in protest. This was not the first time he had done something outrageous.
I am happy I left the job because there are too many parents out there (like you) with dysfuntional behavioral genes who are in denial about getting psychiatric help for your kids. You hire a nanny to enforce the rules because you are too darn scared of your own kids.
if you are taking care of a troubled child and you aren't strong enough to pick him up-
ReplyDeletethen you are not fit to do the job.
best for the child that you and your violent ways moved on.
Children tend to be difficult and act out when they aren't getting the attention of their parents. Children aren't really meant to be left with a nanny for 9 to 12 hours a day. He might be hoping that if he's bad enough, his mother or father will come home.
ReplyDelete11:27 - I don't think she was being violent. As a former nanny and preschool teacher, I've had to physically move children many times, usually because they're being a danger to themselves or others - including a time when a child broke my grip and ran into a parking lot. In that situation, it would be (should be?) a person's first instinct to get the child out of harm's way, even if it means dragging them. If you were in that situation, would you have stood on the curb politely asking them to come back? No. And don't say "I wouldn't have allowed that situation to happen."
ReplyDeleteYou sound like one of the nutso parents I'm so glad I don't work for anymore.
That said, judging by what was posted (the nanny didn't say anything to the kids before grabbing the boy), she probably is untrained and uneducated. The parents should fire her and get someone with an education.
11:55 - Well said.
ReplyDeleteEmily is most likely the type of parent or caregiver I see in public everyday...they may not drag or smack a kid, but they scream and use foul language at them. She can't even make a simple point on a blog without using profanity. This is more harmful to child than an occasional smack or drag. Not that I am condoning either.
ReplyDeleteAlso 12:21 (who probably is Emily again anyway), I dont think 11:52 said that the child deserved it, but they may have an ongoing issue with this child and the nanny blew her top (can happen to anyone) or the OP may not have properly described the situation; one observer's "Drag" is another observer's "Guide."
This is 11:55 again. I'm amazed at what people are expecting out of someone they're paying probably less than $15 an hour. Gee, are you really surprised that the nanny doesn't have the best training? If she was trained, she'd be doing something that paid better.
ReplyDeleteI don't think it is wrong to expect caregivers to know how to patiently care for children. There are other ways to make money if the nanny hates it so much.
ReplyDeleteIf that was my child, I would want to know if that is how the nanny was treating any of my children
11:27 AM
ReplyDeleteDo you have the vaguest idea how tall and heavy a typical ten year old boy is? I guess your idea of a "qualified" care giver would be a 6'2 200lb manny who can pick them up when they are uncooperative without dropping them as they struggle.
To the idiots who post that if you cannot lift a troubled child, you are not fit for the job. My daughter is 14, autistic and taller than me. 99.9 percent of the time she is an angel and acts very typical, but when she has an episode as I call it, I drag her if I need to to get her to a safe place because I cannot lift her and have not been able to since she was about 8. Geta grip!
ReplyDelete11:27 is probably one of those armchair experts who claim to know everything about raising children and yet they have never really been around kids. LOL, when you have a few of your own children like I do, reality hits you, otherwise you will spend all morning pleading with your kids to get ready for school. My teenagers are really good, but the yournger ones, I still have to pick them off the kitchen floor and strap them down in their car seats, otherwise the whole day will be spent on negotiating.
ReplyDelete7:53pm, power to you!
ReplyDeleteI babysat for the sweetest little boy who was also autistic. I lost touch with the family after they moved, but I hope he is doing great.
11:55
ReplyDeleteI agree, that its not normal for kids to be left all day with a nanny or daycare. I do understand some parents have to work. It's hard making ends meet nowadays. On the other hand the mothers that have a nanny all day and stay home too thats unbelievable to me. Why do they have kids?? I can see maybe a babysitter once inawhile, but not a full time nanny.
Did anyone see what that British pop start stated. Forgot her first name her last is Churchill? Shes 21 and expecting. She says she wants to be a housewife. That way she can stay home and watch soaps all day and eat bon bons. I guess if we had her money, it could happen. I am sure she will have full time help. Nannies, housekeepers, cooks, etc.
Thanks
7:12:
ReplyDeleteIt is very rare that a family who can afford a full or even significantly part-time nanny are hurting for money that bad. Kids with seriously financially strapped parents either end up daycare, which is cheaper, or being cared for by relatives.
Hi 12:18
ReplyDeleteThats my dilema at the moment. I haven't worked for 20 months. Occasionally, I would do a weekend babysitting job, etc. I can't afford a nanny. I don't want to work full-time. Even if I work three days a week in time, I have no one to help me. So I will have to rely on daycare. I have parents that live next to me, but they are not the type that would watch my son for two full days. And its not their problem. If I am only make 300-400 working three days by the time I pay for day care its around $170 for those times. So I would bring home only a little over 100-150.
8:50 you must be mad!!!
ReplyDeletePick up a 10 yr old in this obese country?
And why did the nanny have to do something for him to lay in the road?
again you must be mad!!!
I’m sick of people whining that they “have” to work and that’s why they have a nanny- bullsh*t. I managed to be a SAHM when my son was a baby & until he was in school- with no help, as a single mom with some serious obstacles. Why have children? I understand perhaps getting a nanny when the kids reach pre-school age, or PT- but most with nannies are irresponsible & negligent people who have no business pro-creating. If you have a problem with that statement then I suggest you use that guilt to motivate you into spending some quality time with your kids. The nannies are sick of hearing things from them like “I wish you were my mom.” :( Sad.
ReplyDeleteIgnorant arrogant ass at 8:17, you must be one of those people who keeps the money fairy and a herd of golden-egg laying geese penned up in your back garden.
ReplyDeleteOR you live in Armpit AK where housing is $.06 a square foot and you raised all your own food, knitted your own socks from your own sheep's wool and medical care was free for you. (No offense meant to anyone in other states, this is just an example of housing costs and how they vary from state to state).
Please do explain HOW as a "single mother" you managed to be a SAHM for the first 6 years of your child's life without 100% financial support AND handy, capable relatives nearby who were able and willing to provide you with free childcare services on demand. This should be quite interesting.
Self employed I ran OM Kids Yoga out of my home and I also did graphic design by contract whenever I had time.
ReplyDeleteYou're a complete ass. Not everyone is some bumpkin who can run some weirdo yoga out of her home. I think you just resent educated and intelligent mothers.
ReplyDeletePS NO family as I was an orphan and my son's father died in a car accident when I was 5 mos. preg. I pulled in more than enough $ to live in comfort because I was creative. When my son started school I started a company and still manage to work during school hrs and after hes asleep- he's now 13. Bite me.
ReplyDeleteBumpkin? I live in Upstate NY, orig from SF! I have 2 degrees! LMAO
ReplyDeleteShocking!
ReplyDeleteThe only people I have ever heard use the expression, 'bite me' were illiterate assholes with bastard children who traded their foodstamps for beer money.
wow you're "klassy" lol
ReplyDeleteSounds like 9:55 falls into the "most" catagory of irresponsible & negligent and was personally offended. Jealously will eat you up- get help, bitterness just makes you look old.
ReplyDeleteanyone know why we are revisiting this post? does this have anything to do with the dr. laura show today?
ReplyDeleteyawn.....
ReplyDelete& the bitter comment was right on.