Received June 12, 2007
I came across this add concerning Lexie, and I'm a acquintance with the child and the mother. And I knew the child, and she has behavior problems. Since they hire the nanny the child is much better. The child loves the nanny. Lexie is a verbal child, if she was being hurt she would have told her mother.You have to be stren with Lexie, and if you see the nanny grab her wrist it has to be something she did wrong. I'm talking from my personnel experience with her. Stop bleaing the nanny for what you see and do not know the situation. She is a very very good nanny. To change that little girl from her behavior. Stop sitting in the park and judging people. Get a life.
not to be like so many others, but you totally sound like the nanny! are you saying it's ok to grab her wrist so that people won't call you out on it in public?! your spelling and grammer are atrocious! nice job trying to get great word of mouth about you spread around you "very, very good nanny". yeah right, i don't buy this one for a second!
ReplyDeleteOriginal post on Lexie's nanny says: "The nanny is always on the phone and always sitting on benches. She is rough with the child too - grabs her wrists and pulls her along."
ReplyDeleteYou say: "and if you see the nanny grab her wrist it has to be something she did wrong".
Are you saying that:
-It is okay that Lexie's nanny is always on the phone?
-It is okay that Lexie's nanny is a bench nanny?
-It is okay to grab a child who has "behavior problems?
You friend needs to be fired. I took care of an autistic child and never grabbed him. Lexie's mother needs to find someone qualified to take care of a child with 'behavior problem's. Now do Lexie a favor and show Lexie's mother, and your boss this website .
Are you Lexie's nanny? You are trying to damage control. You are so obvious. Go work at Rikers Island. You don't belong near children.
ReplyDeleteOBVIOUSLY THE NANNY.
ReplyDeletePoor english - CHECK!
Self-promotion - CHECK!
sounds like a nanny to me. this child needs help. OP- if you aren't the nanny, then you should still show this to your friend because she can make her own decision but has a right to know what others are seeing that she may be missing. so if you really do care. show her.
ReplyDeletebut my guess is you don't care because its you and you want to get away with it.
Meanwhile, poor Lexie. My heart breaks for this girl.
ReplyDeletelexie's nanny, for sure
ReplyDeleteYou should be ashamed of yourself treating a child like that and even more ashamed coming on here to try to defend your beastly behavior, you vile wretch. Grow a heart and ask yourself why you would treat a child the way we know you treated Lexie. You make me sick.
ReplyDeletePersonally, (not to play devil's advocate) I don't think it's the nanny. If the nanny knew about this site and visited it, she would never mistreat the child in public or do anything that would be seen as mistreating her.
ReplyDeleteAlso, I think it's so judgemental to show distain for someone because they don't speak English well. Obviously the poster's native language is not English. And it could very well be a friend or relative of hers or someone who really believes that she should be stood up for. It is possible that the person who complained misunderstood the situation or made too much of it. If I were in the nanny's situation in that case and someone accused me of something that I didn't feel I was guilty of, I would feel happy and lucky if a friend or relative pointed out the post so that I could defend myself. And if it is really the nanny defending herself, good for her. People are falsely accused of things every day for many reasons, why should it be any different on this board?
8:40 are you the abusive nanny STILL trying to defend herself?! also, i'm not judging the OP because english is obviously not her native language, i just don't understand why she feels the need to prove herself to be such a "good nanny" on this website to a bunch of strangers. for how many times this story has been revisited, i can't believe that poor girl is still with that nanny. right on 7:11, my heart is breaking as well. :(
ReplyDeleteI agree, it sounds like the nanny. If Lexi is indeed a special needs child, as the poster indicates, all the more reason she needs an attentive and caring nanny. Her nanny was described as sitting on a bench talking on her phone, while ignoring her charge, and handling her roughly.
ReplyDelete5:39 PM
Not all nannies express themselves poorly in English, which you failed to capitalize by the way.
A Nanny
Looks like the evil nanny got her English -speaking nephew to pose as 8:40PM.
ReplyDeleteOP, in this country you will definitely catch a beatdown for treating a child this way.
ReplyDeleteCaring for a special needs child does not mean that she should be ignored, touched inappropriately, etc.
Watch your ass. We're coming for you. We will be there like flies on shat.
I will most certainly sit in judgment when anyone dares to harm a child in my presence. And coming home to blog about it rather benign. Do expect that if I see you touch a child at all inapproriately, I am not going to borrow some ass backwards story about a child needing or derserving to be handled harshly.
ReplyDeleteI will make it my business to follow you home, photograph you and make sure you NEVER work with children again.
The only thing worse than some of the nannies seen on these pages would be anyone who thought such behavior was at all excusable!
I was just at the second page (?) to this blog reading the children's bill of rights. Do you people who say "get a life" even know that such a bill exists?
This is clearly either the nanny herself or one of her friends. no doubt about it. Poor Poor Lexie.
ReplyDeleteOutrageous ... this post stinks to high heaven. I agree that it is either the Nanny, or someone she put up to write this when she ran across the post of herself "man-handling" Lexie.
ReplyDeleteTo 8:40 ~ Your pathetic ... how dare you make any excuses for that POS Nanny? Who's to say that Nanny even knew about the site to begin with? Your post makes no sense ... otherwise, ALL Nannys would be on their best behavior out of fear of getting reported on this site ... and we all know that is bullshit.
To 9:29 ~ You are exactly right ... a child w/ special needs DESERVES a Nanny that is patient, caring, attentive ....
And if by some chance I am totally wrong (I doubt it), then this OP needs to do the right thing and INFORM Lexies mother of this Nannys behavior toward the child. If not, she is doing that little girl a huge disservice.
8:40 here, wow! Didn't realize I would cause such a stir!
ReplyDeleteI actually live in another part of the country, and I am definitely female, not someone's nephew, but thanks for the giggle! I think it's strange how nobody is even allowed an opinion if it differs from the rest, and how words are twisted into something completely different from what people are trying to say in the first place. Twisted to fit how you think.
This quote is sadly ignorant: "OP, in this country you will definitely catch a beatdown for treating a child this way."
Really? Do you have any idea of how people treat their children every day in our country? Do you think America is immune to child abuse? You are ignorant, because America is filled with child abusers. We like to think of ourselves as the greatest, most liberal country in the world, but we're not. This board shows that: a lack of ability to be open-minded and see issues from all sides.
It certainly doesn't excuse this nanny's behavior if indeed it was bad. However, if everybody who mistreated their child (and this includes well-off people who use emotional abuse, neglect, etc.) got a "beat down" there would be alot of broken bones in America.
I would personally never harm a child, I am a parent myself. I was just exploring all different sides of the issue. An issue has many sides, not just one, yours. We assume alot on this board, and that is wrong. We must strive to keep open minds. Of course if in fact the nanny was abusive it was inexcusable. My point was that we don't really know the whole story and if she was in fact abusive.
8:38...THANK YOU! It is called freedom of speech. People forget that. The minute you do not side with people on this board they curse your children and wish bad things against you. Its sick and sad. The scary part is that the people that do it are parents and caregivers. So sad.
ReplyDeletewhat i think is funny is the number of posters who are sure the op is the nanny because of her poor spelling and "grammer" [sic]
ReplyDeleteIt had nothing to do with poor spelling or grammer ... it is the wording and defensiveness of the post that lead me to believe it was the Nanny.
ReplyDelete8:40 OP, 10:57 here : Even though I still don't agree with your original post, you make alot of valid points in your 8:38 posting -maybe I judged too harshly. We tend to get very sensitive when a child is mistreated, and sometimes we find it difficult to have anything more than a one track mind.
ReplyDeleteTo the mothers in this forum, a word of advice. Before starting a family, consider the COST of childcare in all aspects. The majority seem to hate and think negatively of nannies. Let me tell you, NO ONE will love and care for your child as the child's mother will. If you think so negatively of nannies, YOU STAY HOME AND BE JUNE CLEAVERS AND TAKE CARE OF YOUR CHILDREN. If you can't afford to do so, then do not have children. Even if you place your children in Day Care, they are still abused and neglected. Stop being selfish and only caring about your "careers" and be mothers.
ReplyDeleteCaring people risk erring on the side of the child. We do not know, when we see a child being treated roughly, that there may be "special circumstances" that allow for that child to be treated harshly, and it is difficult to believe that any child ever deserves such treatment for any reason.
ReplyDeleteto "sprak" (?)
ReplyDeleteCaring people may risk erring on the side of the child, but crazy mothers on this board are always ready to linch a nanny based on the most inacurate and fragmented bits of information. We should take every post with a grain of salt. The question is whether or not the child was in fact mistreated: obviously if she was in fact mistreated, the nanny was wrong.
lynch lynch lycnh lynch
ReplyDeleteif we actually did lynch nasty nannies, abusive parents and child predators; the world would be a safer place and there would be less dysfunctional adults walking around.
lynch. not linch.
Oh, sorry for the spelling error.
ReplyDeleteI'm also sorry you believe in lynching. My parents, crazy as it sounds, raised me to believe in peace. Are you actually saying that we should lynch people? Although you know how to spell it, I wonder if you really know what it means.
To 925, I work in a preschool as an infant teacher and have actually been in all the classrooms, and I love those kids like they are mine from whatever time they get there till they leave. If I feel they have a rough situation at home or have just had a bad day i will come home and think about it all night. There are parents bringing me thier 6 and 7 week old infants and not having a worry because they know I love them. Mine and my co teachers room is a family and parents see this and this is why they trust us so much. It would be nice if people though better of daycares and preschools and the people who gave all thier energy to be a great teacher at one.
ReplyDeleteI have an autistic child. If I speak in normal, conversational tones, she does not hear me 90 percent of the time. I have had to take parent training courses to learn how to speak in a commanding, louder voice. If she sees a cat on the other side of the street, with a Mack truck speeding up, my daughter will walk in the truck's path to pet the cat. Often, I grab her by her wrist to stop her from self injurous behavior because I can't risk speaking a command and having her get hurt because I am tuned out.
ReplyDeleteI think this poster is saying mama needs CPS called on her and the nanny. No problem child needs this treatment and they can blame the poster of this post for saying mama gives nanny permission to abuse Lexie. Nanny should also be deported for abuse.
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