My reaction to having my nanny stolen away from me in August of last year- while we were on vacation. I flipped out. I came home to start the school year and I found a Dear John letter left on our dining room table by our nanny (of 14 months yrs) along with the housekeys, carkeys. The good news is that 2 months later, she was begging to come back. (We couldn't take her back). But beware young nannies- the grass isn't always greener...
i think we had this debate awhile back. posters were returning to the blog all throughout the day looking for updates. so blog administrator decided she would post something every day. the welcome comments keep getting deleted. but that is where i originally heard about this. and i noticed that these filler posts usually disappear once there is a new post. so keep your eyes and ears open. the playgrounds are packed today on the UES. how about where you are?
It seems like some moms never learned how to "play nice" in the sand box! Not only does it make the mom look bad (greedy and inconsiderate come to mind), but, their kids will ultimately suffer from this selfish act. The other moms and nannies will all find out what happened (yes, this will be the hot gossip discussed over coffee), and the kids who are now being cared for by the "poached" CCP will now be shut out from play dates. Think twice before you act. The repercussions may not be worth it.
I don't quite agree with the working mother and the SAHM. 'To the victor go the spoils' Why shouldn't the great nannies move on and take the best jobs for the most money? And why shouldn't employer's willing to offer the best benefits and positions headhunt freely on the playgrounds? Is there a better place than to observe a nanny in action? As a SAHM of 3, with FT help, I can say for certain-no one gets shut out from playdates. If anything, those with the scandalous stories are sought out. If you want the scoop, you go to the source!
We are all for moving on to bigger and better things. And, more power to the CCP who can double their income by a chance meeting at the park. However, this is like swooping in and taking the last parking spot at a crowded mall, or on a busy NYC street. Is it fair to bump the car who played by the rules and waited patiently with their blinkers on for that exact spot? There is such a thing as etiquette, and being respectful. It is one thing to do this anonymously. On the other hand, if this happens between mothers who live within the same neighborhood, or the same playgroup, be careful what they put in your coffee!
NP here- I agree with Working & SAHM but, if mother B is in a position to swoop in and offer more and better than mother A; isn't it more than likely that mother B is higher up on the status pole than mother A? Proper playground etiquette does dictate that no matter how hateful, spiteful, ignorant or loathsome a mother is; she who has the most cash in the bank gets to say and do anything she wants. And everyone around better just sit there and take it.
In any job market, this kind of thing CAN happen. The nanny could have said, "I've been approached .... and this is the offer I received." Then, the employers have a chance to match or improve upon the offer, if they want to keep the nanny.
fg, but many unscrupulous nannies concoct false stories. For example, this man tried to buy your baby from me. Or this mom asked me to come and work for her for $200 more a week and Friday's off.
so i'm guessing nothing for today!
ReplyDeleteperhaps that's good.
Nice scene. Definitely better than "no new sightings today".
ReplyDeleteHa!
where is that?
ReplyDeleteMy reaction to having my nanny stolen away from me in August of last year- while we were on vacation. I flipped out. I came home to start the school year and I found a Dear John letter left on our dining room table by our nanny (of 14 months yrs) along with the housekeys, carkeys. The good news is that 2 months later, she was begging to come back. (We couldn't take her back). But beware young nannies- the grass isn't always greener...
ReplyDeleteOh, is that your vacation footage? Maybe you should have taken her with you? Looks like a nice place.
ReplyDeleteTaken Who?
ReplyDeletei think we had this debate awhile back. posters were returning to the blog all throughout the day looking for updates. so blog administrator decided she would post something every day. the welcome comments keep getting deleted. but that is where i originally heard about this. and i noticed that these filler posts usually disappear once there is a new post. so keep your eyes and ears open. the playgrounds are packed today on the UES. how about where you are?
ReplyDeleteIt seems like some moms never learned how to "play nice" in the sand box! Not only does it make the mom look bad (greedy and inconsiderate come to mind), but, their kids will ultimately suffer from this selfish act. The other moms and nannies will all find out what happened (yes, this will be the hot gossip discussed over coffee), and the kids who are now being cared for by the "poached" CCP will now be shut out from play dates. Think twice before you act. The repercussions may not be worth it.
ReplyDeleteI don't quite agree with the working mother and the SAHM.
ReplyDelete'To the victor go the spoils'
Why shouldn't the great nannies move on and take the best jobs for the most money? And why shouldn't employer's willing to offer the best benefits and positions headhunt freely on the playgrounds? Is there a better place than to observe a nanny in action?
As a SAHM of 3, with FT help, I can say for certain-no one gets shut out from playdates. If anything, those with the scandalous stories are sought out. If you want the scoop, you go to the source!
We are all for moving on to bigger and better things. And, more power to the CCP who can double their income by a chance meeting at the park. However, this is like swooping in and taking the last parking spot at a crowded mall, or on a busy NYC street. Is it fair to bump the car who played by the rules and waited patiently with their blinkers on for that exact spot? There is such a thing as etiquette, and being respectful. It is one thing to do this anonymously. On the other hand, if this happens between mothers who live within the same neighborhood, or the same playgroup, be careful what they put in your coffee!
ReplyDeleteNP here-
ReplyDeleteI agree with Working & SAHM but, if mother B is in a position to swoop in and offer more and better than mother A; isn't it more than likely that mother B is higher up on the status pole than mother A?
Proper playground etiquette does dictate that no matter how hateful, spiteful, ignorant or loathsome a mother is; she who has the most cash in the bank gets to say and do anything she wants. And everyone around better just sit there and take it.
In any job market, this kind of thing CAN happen. The nanny could have said, "I've been approached .... and this is the offer I received." Then, the employers have a chance to match or improve upon the offer, if they want to keep the nanny.
ReplyDeletefg,
ReplyDeletebut many unscrupulous nannies concoct false stories. For example, this man tried to buy your baby from me. Or this mom asked me to come and work for her for $200 more a week and Friday's off.