Tuesday, October 17, 2006
Saw a nanny this afternoon at 3:30 with two young girls (clearly sisters). The older one (maybe 7?) had on a colorful polka-dotted Jansport backpack; the younger one I believe is Sadie or Zadie. She made a couple of unremarkable comments, like "I'm looking at the stuff" at the store on 7th Ave. and 5th Street and the nanny was really harsh with her the rest of the time they were in the store "Yes, I know you are looking. EXPLAIN TO ME HOW I COULD NOT KNOW WHAT YOU ARE DOING. HUH? Tell me how I could possibly not know what 'looking' means." After a pause, Sadie said something like "I just said I was looking" and the nanny went off on her again. She really berated her for the rest of the time in the store and when it was time to go, the older girl urgently said to her sister, "Come on Sadie! Come on!" looking nervous; maybe she thought they were in trouble?
We all lose our patience sometimes but I saw no love or affection or kindness in this nanny's dealings with your children. She was excessively sarcastic and cold to two kids who were doing nothing wrong. Take note.
October 24 is a week in the future.
ReplyDeleteMy mistake.
ReplyDeleteI believe I know this family, and I'm surprised to hear that this nanny was so harsh with the little girl. I think it's horrible to talk to kids that way, and I sincerely hope it was a rare occurrence (just a bad day for the nanny, perhaps).
ReplyDeleteI think it's a little extreme to conclude that one bad scene like this means that there is no love or affection btwn the nanny and the little girls. I know I have days when I snap at my daughter and that in no way means that I don't love her. If it happened every day, it would constitute abuse, but we don't know that that is the situation with this family.
I'm curious what you mean by "take note."
Why so quick to defend the nanny? A window into someone's true character is what you have when you observe someone when they don't know they are being observed.
ReplyDeleteIf you know this family, maybe you could alert them to this post so they could decide for themselves--talk to their daughters, etc., rather than you deciding for them.
ReplyDeleteWHY ARE YOU DEFENDING THE NANNIES? DO YOU TROLL THIS BOARD LOOKING TO DEFEND THE NANNY? YES, OBVIOUSLY THE GOAL OF THE BOARD IS TO CAUSE THE PARENTS TO LOOK CLOSER AT THEIR OWN SITUATION. WTF??????WHAT DO YOU THINK "TAKE NOTE" MEANS?
ReplyDeletePEOPLE LIKE YOU MAKE ME HATE NANNIES.
Um, I think the woman you are responding to -- the one who makes you "hate nannies" -- is actually a mom, not a nanny. So you might want to reevaluate your hatred for an entire group of people...since it seems to be based on comments made by a person not even IN that group. Just a thought.
ReplyDeleteI am the nanny involved. This post on I Saw Your Nanny was put on the Park Slope Parenting Lists. I am very offended! Don't tell me how to care for my girls. They have a lot of love and patience from me all day long. These girls parents are good hard working people and don;t need the hartache! SHAME!
ReplyDeleteYou above me,
ReplyDeleteYou are? Are you boasting of this? What girls are good, hard working people? The children? What are you talking about and why can't you spell heartache. PLEASE PARENTS, hire REAL NANNIES. Not angry, ignorant women with rage disorders who can't even speak/write properly. PLEASE. And I hope to hell the parents saw it, not just YOU. Rageaholic. You are scaring me from this post. Yikes. Those poor children!
Just foul. I hope you got fired and I hope you don't ever work with childen again. You really are scary!
ReplyDeleteI would be offended if someone misinterpreted my actions and would explain what was going on. But I would never be offended that someone tried to stand up for a child.
As for the second anonymous poster who suggested she might know the woman involved and was "surprised" that the nanny would talk like that. Are you serious? A good nanny talks to her children the same way whether the parents are around or not. My children now old enough to speak up for themselves are well aware of nannies who "act one way when people are around and another way when it's just the kids". Scary stuff.
Wait, maybe I should rephrase that. A nanny always speaks the same way. It's these immigrants and babysitters with their fierce tempers that dont know how to conduct themselves properly. And why should they? They are NOT professional childcare providers. They are just the people you hire to save yourself a buck.
Off the books sitters are not nannies. 98 percent of bad childcare providers is the fault of sloppy hiring, lazy employers and just all over tightness.
You get what you pay for.
Ms. Rite Aid Sitter, I wouldn't let you groom my one balled poodle. And that's a fact.
Anon said at 4:17:
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You above me,
You are? Are you boasting of this? What girls are good, hard working people? The children? What are you talking about and why can't you spell heartache. PLEASE PARENTS, hire REAL NANNIES. Not angry, ignorant women with rage disorders who can't even speak/write properly. PLEASE. And I hope to hell the parents saw it, not just YOU. Rageaholic. You are scaring me from this post. Yikes. Those poor children!
4:17 PM "
Um, you are ranting about illiteracy and you didn't even understand the part of her post where she said the PARENTS of the girls were hard-working people?
And neither did Ms. hb the Racist above, for all her ranting and hand wringing about "immigrants with their fierce tempers".
let us not loop together comments. I agree DO NOT HIRE IMMIGRANTS to take care of your children. For many reasons. Best of all that they are not tracable, you cannot check their references. Also you need to pay your emplployees on the books. And if you dont have the good sense to stay home and raise your children, then hire an American citizen who is educated and intelligent and is working with children because she loves working with children. Having said that- I also agree that the angry poster does seem to have some sort of rage issues. And I did not understand who it is she was saying was hard working or how is it relevant. Many people are out there working hard and have no choice but to leave their children with a nanny. That doesn't give the nanny a licence to treat the kid's like crap. They should have a mugshot of this nanny at rite aid. I think she has been in there before. And let me guess, she makes less than 500 because her employers are tight ass thugs who dont care as much about their children as they do about saving a buck. Go Brooklyn.
ReplyDelete90% of children in this country are abused by their own parents and by american citizens!! Check your facts. Racist basterds!
ReplyDeleteIn response to the persing making disparaging comments about immigrant nannies ...... there is a very low percentge of American nannies. Americans don't like taking care of their own kids. Some havae to hire nannies because they work but many nannies are much smarter than their employers. That has been my experience. Have you ever travelled and seen life outside the US? There is poverty my dear but the people are so wholesome generally speaking
ReplyDeleteThe Brooklyn Heights public library is being used as an escape for nannies.I have seen an incident where two nannies were sitting,and deep in conversation, while the little boy wandered off.This child was half white/ half black.They were absolutely no supervision what so ever.
ReplyDeleteok it is agreed that this nanny is just bad news and is awful ; but the woman or person on top whom just hate immigrants should hate this country for she lives on land that was founded by immigrants .I am a born and raised American like her and if she feels this way there are groups she can join to fufill her hate i recommend the KKK for starters and if you especially have a problem with immigrants i suggest you leave and major cities and live in a smaller state where there are not many minorities.
ReplyDeleteI am baffled by the ignorance, racism and rage exhibited on this site. I feel sorry for the children who are raised by parents who think and talk that way. Oh wait, perhaps their "immigrant nannies" will instill some great American values in them such as tolerance, open-mindendness, respect for difference and the like.
ReplyDeleteAnd BTW, the posters who advocate hiring only "educated American nannies" do not seem to be able to publish a five-line post without grammatical errors.