Received Friday, September 29, 2006
This story has a rather sad ending. The parents have been informed of all the nanny's actions and have decided to "keep an eye on her" for anything further, but have "spoken with her" and let her know their concerns. They did say if she did anything further she would be let go, but you have to wonder what the next step might be that they would consider abusive enough to fire her. It ultimately is the parents decision and I have no idea what the nanny's reasoning for this behavior was. (To read the original submission, click here).
Unfortunately, not every story ends well, but thank you so much to everyone who put in a positive comment and really tried to help.
From reading the original submission, I already wondered if the nanny was engaging in behaviors condoned, encouraged, or even required by the parents. After all, the nanny was putting the boy on the phone with a parent during the chastisement re: time outs, so it's not like the parent doesn't have a clue what's going on.
ReplyDeleteThose poor children need not only a different nanny. They need different parents!
The parents are as bad as the nanny. What gems.
ReplyDeleteSo basically, one day these children are going to realize that someone was so upset by the way that they were being treated that they tried to find a way to connect with the parents. Then they find this blog which happens to be in the new york times, new york magazine and several news programs all within the same program attracting many visitors so the parents are somehow clued in. And the parents knowing not only that the observer thought it was so bad that atleast one person reached out in the interest of the child have decided to just wait it out. I am quite certain these child if questioned in the right way would have still more stories to tell about this nanny who sounds like a control freak and all around beast. But let your children go one carrying this sad and still torture in their tiny hearts. I judge you and I judge you harshly. For whom is your regard? Not your children, obviously. But you do realize that other people very close to you are now realizing that you knew all along how awful she was and you continue to tolerate it. Suffer, the children.
ReplyDeleteI think the parents are dictating the tune here not the nanny. Still incredibly FUBAR no matter who's in charge of the music. But how many of you classist, eltitist shits are going to take it all the way now that it's clear the parents are the abusers? Please, for the love of God, prove me wrong. I'd LOVED to be proved wrong in this case.
ReplyDeleteI recognize your posting style. Didn't you post some ridiculously hostile and agressive, threatening comments on the welcome page regarding grammar? Please get help before you hurt someone.
ReplyDeleteIf that poor baby had anyone in his corner, maybe he wouldn't be acting out in the first place. Ultimately, the PARENTS are ALWAYS responsible. They hire the nanny, they contract out the care. Once you abdicate responsibility, you lose control over situations and circumstances.
ReplyDeleteThe whole concept of asking your nanny to care more for your children than you do is just patently insane. It's as true for the UberYuppie as for the teen mom -- if you can't/won't/don't want to care for your babies, don't have them!
Having a child is not like having another Bimmer in the garage. It's 20 years (at least) of hard, demanding work. That's if you do it paying any attention at all. And, oh yeah, it's a person, not a possession.