Wednesday, September 13, 2006 11:00 AM
To the mother of "Samantha". You sent your two year old to Fun For All on Wednesday morning. I overheard your nanny speaking on the phone to you, it sounded like you were calling to make sure she got there and that she (the nanny) could keep Samantha occupied until 3. The nanny said, "I should keep her here until 3".
The two year old was tired of things by noon. The nanny then bought her lunch there but didn't even appear to have enough money to cover the two year old's drink and food! She was counting out change from the bottom of her pocketbook! After the child was finished eating, the nanny ate her leftovers. I don't know who your are but I made sympathetic eye contact with your nanny while she spoke to you. I could hear your shrill voice emanating from beyond the ear piece. The next time you need your tiny two year old out of the house, maybe you could give the nanny five extra dollars so she can buy herself a hotdog instead of being relegated to eat the toddler's picked over food! And what were you doing that was so important that you needed your daughter kept out of your home? Shouldn't she be home napping? When the nanny finally did leave, I heard her say she would drive slow. God forbid, you should be inconvenienced with the presence of your child! So basically I saw your nanny dealing with the horror that must be you and your aversion to your own child.
This sounds like mommy bashing to me! I think Janice the nanny snuck this one in!
ReplyDeleteGive me a BREAK! The writer of this post is purely SPECULATING that the MOM is out having a massage and facial or some other luxury. For all this ignorant writer knows, the mom could be recovering from surgery. She could be a trial lawyer out pleading a case. She could be attending to another child who is sick. How's that for speculation??? Kind of changes the picture doesn't it? Please don't "Mommy - Bash" when there is absolutely no factual basis for it at all. You are a loser.
ReplyDeleteWow...I never expected to be credited for every post to this site that either agrees with my viewpoint or has to do with anything other than sightings of bad nannies.
ReplyDeleteThis is a moderated site. Every post has to pass through the moderator, who calls herself Jane Doe. Jane Doe herself posted this particular sighting.
If I have anything to say, I will sign it with my name and job title. I teach my nannykids to speak the truth, even if their voices tremble...and I set a good example. I have been very straightforward here about what I believe, and if my input is spurned, I'll move on to other places where I can accomplish some good. I wouldn't waste my time sneaking my thoughts in where they had already been thrown out, out of hand. Jane Doe has shown her openmindedness by providing a forum for all these differing points of view.
I think that seeing every non-nanny-bashing post as being snuck in by me is a symptom of a destructive prejudice against caregivers that some individuals hold against all reason. Some even post that we are all "crappy", and not worth any respect or consideration. Apparently some people can't believe that parents would visit a site like this and NOT devote all their attention to bad behavior on the part of caregivers, or that can be any reason to come here besides rage. And any view that does not jibe with their bias must be ridiculed or denounced. It's sad.
All the more reason to move toward balanced presentation in a site like this. Jane Doe and some others who post here are clearly devoted to helping the kids who are being victimized, not toward victimizing another group in the process, or turning parents as a whole against the very people who take care of their beloved kids. It's long past time for the hate-mongers to get with the program.
calm down people.
ReplyDeleteremain calm.
I try to post or publish everything that is submitted. There have been incidents I personally did not view as problematic, but in reading the posts I see that others clearly do.
ReplyDeleteJust like not all NANNIES are perfect, neither are PARENTS!!! IT's not mommy bashing to comment that she beleived this was a case of a mother who wasn't being fair to her child or her nanny.
ReplyDeleteI was put into a similar situation when I used to babysit in High School. I took a job working for a Real Estate Agent who needed me to care for her son most days for three hours in the evening, while she showed houses.
ReplyDeleteOne day, the mom said that we were going to have a special evening, because the kid and I would be allowed to go to Chuck E Cheese. OOOH! I never got to go as a kid, so I thought, this will be fun.
But the mom gave me 20 dollars, and left me with her son for three hours, without my own car, and a good ten miles from her house.
20 dollars for food for the kid, for me, and for all the games that he could play in three hours. Chuck E Cheese can be expensive. I was careful with the money, but still ran out before the three hours were up, and I was forced to pull out my own.
Then she called to say she was running late, and arrived almost a whole hour later.
He cried a lot because he was so used to being indulged that when I ran out of money entirely, or when we didn't win a prize, it made him sad. I felt horrible! I became the bad-guy instead of the good guy, and all my efforts to play guessing games and hide and seek failed miserably.
I quit shortly after, because I realized the mother didn't have any respect for me.
This story is being told so that parents become aware of the way that breaking a routine without giving enough support to the nanny can put the nanny into an uncomfortable position, both in terms of current effects, and in terms of longer term ramifications.
I might have stuck with the job awhile longer if the parents had been more considerate, and I'm a good teacher/play-mate/baby-sitter.
What if the mother is sick, like I was just yesterday. I know that if my daughter comes home, then she will want me to take care of her, which I was in no position to do. So sometimes it is necessary to keep your child away from home for a little while.
ReplyDeleteAnd what happens when the nanny is sick? Having children involves a certain amount of self-sacrifice.
ReplyDeleteAnon said..."Please don't "Mommy - Bash" when there is absolutely no factual basis for it at all. You are a loser."
ReplyDeleteYeah. Only nanny-bash when there is absolutely no factual basis for it at all. At least that way the bored stay at home egg donors can be properly entertained while their kids are being looked after by the cheap crappy nannies they hired.