tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post8966297536978535192..comments2024-03-19T03:27:24.068-04:00Comments on I SAW YOUR NANNY: The Grateful Critic...Leigh Raymerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18210572527823459842noreply@blogger.comBlogger30125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-50545229312135367382010-03-09T01:21:31.994-05:002010-03-09T01:21:31.994-05:001. Look, I want to focus on the children in my car...1. Look, I want to focus on the children in my care, but I'm also there to make the parents' lives easier. I can understand not wanting to be the housekeeper, but to flat out reject the very notion of doing a few things because it isn't with your status as a professional nanny is a little narcissistic yourself. <br /><br />2. So what if she wants her daughter's hair blow dried every day? I bet she wants a bath every day too.<br /><br />3. I tend to be honored when my help is sought, especially in as it relates to computers, but then again I've been known to meet perfect strangers via Craigslist to solve their problems, at no cost.<br /><br />I do agree:<br />1. Henry shouldn't play with his mini Henry near the table.<br />2. You should say something about the slurping kisses. It's alright to admit that you're not comfortable with that.<br /><br />Since you are disconnected from this family, I would suggest saving all the money you can - you never know when they might notice the disconnect and treat you like those diet coke cans.a seattle nannynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-21977665825670621522010-03-02T19:59:24.646-05:002010-03-02T19:59:24.646-05:00Oh my goodness. People chill, I think you all miss...Oh my goodness. People chill, I think you all missed the point. I think she meant that in this economy we all have to tough it out with jobs that we wouldn't normally keep. Then she decided to give us a good laugh. I found the post extremely entertaining, probably because I am a nanny and I have worked for people like this before. "Personal Penis" story, hysterical! Here's to jobs that pay the rent. (clink clink:)Chitown Nannynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-26093425783088911312010-03-02T10:22:40.277-05:002010-03-02T10:22:40.277-05:00Anyone know who "fuck"-head is yelling a...Anyone know who "fuck"-head is yelling at?cali momnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-30100431993977506232010-03-01T15:08:59.781-05:002010-03-01T15:08:59.781-05:00The way all you single moms are responding to the ...The way all you single moms are responding to the OP's comment is the very reason she doesn't want to work for one. <br /><br />i myself yould never work for a single mother. Hell I don't really even like working with them as a peer. In the event that parenting comes into conversation most think they know everything. They think they have it the hardest. When in fact they have it the easiest. It is much harder to maintain a healthy relationship with your man if you have kids. A single mom does't need to worry about anything but her kids.<br /><br />So I agree with OP about the single mom thing.Phoenixnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-26069470344837912912010-02-28T18:19:22.924-05:002010-02-28T18:19:22.924-05:00As others have said, the nanny seems like she'...As others have said, the nanny seems like she's a rigid, judgmental little thing. And Mom is not being crushed under the weight of her brilliance, or her sensitivity to others. BUT -- they love each other, they pay her on time, and Dad likes his kids enough that he often prefers to stay home and be with them!!! Gosh, this job must be hell.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-48201427866706684902010-02-28T17:00:44.003-05:002010-02-28T17:00:44.003-05:00This family does not sound too bad. Every employer...This family does not sound too bad. Every employer has annoying quirks. They pay you on time and seem to respect and trust you. To me it does not seem to be so much a case of "suck it up" as of "count your blessings".oh wellnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-61613552577545213252010-02-26T21:09:15.747-05:002010-02-26T21:09:15.747-05:00Meh! This post is ridiculous. Shut up, take your ...Meh! This post is ridiculous. Shut up, take your check, do your job. Honestly, I wouldn't want to deal with either of you.Vanessanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-51652154155915043802010-02-26T18:27:09.420-05:002010-02-26T18:27:09.420-05:00It sounds like you would get this kind of mother f...It sounds like you would get this kind of mother for the types of jobs you are willing to accept. <br /><br />Laugh it off nanny, I was laughing through everything you said the mom was doing, especially the internet part - sounds like my mother.Ravenswood Nannynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-12015563279581892222010-02-26T10:41:06.941-05:002010-02-26T10:41:06.941-05:00About the single parent thing: My dad was a single...About the single parent thing: My dad was a single parent for several years before marrying my step-mom and hired babysitters to watch me and my older sister. There was never a problem and that was that.<br />I think the OP has other issues unmentioned that must have to do with single parents. They're still people. Maybe she just had a few bad experiences but never should she ever stereotype single parents! They are just trying to do right by their kids, like all good parents!About the authorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16808534122727852412noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-20875647979467417382010-02-26T10:32:38.331-05:002010-02-26T10:32:38.331-05:00I have to comment on the PDA thing. When I first ...I have to comment on the PDA thing. When I first started at my job, there was such a weird distance between the parents. When they were in the room together, you could feel the tension. Luckily, the kids were young enough that they didn't see it. I knew they didn't believe in divorce, but the petty little snide remarks I heard were AWFUL. <br /><br />Eventually, I think they went to counseling and now they're much better.<br /><br />But I think that's a million times worse than seeing your bosses get all kissy-face. I was worried for a while that all the snarky remarks were going to effect the children negatively. <br /><br />Yes, your boss sounds a tad obnoxious and in her own world, but a lot of bosses are! I like the idea of giving her a little comment back, or pissed off expression. You either need to tell her to back off or find another job.chgonannynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-71033672081480735052010-02-26T10:08:04.045-05:002010-02-26T10:08:04.045-05:00I worked for a single mom for over 3 years and the...I worked for a single mom for over 3 years and they were one of my favorite families. She never had any boundary issues and was really grateful, generous, and fun to work for. I now live halfway around the world and still speak with her once/wk. Don´t count out single moms... or dads for that matter!Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17313003219248936347noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-76198119779600655592010-02-26T06:55:11.951-05:002010-02-26T06:55:11.951-05:00I've got to tell you, things don't seem al...I've got to tell you, things don't seem all that bad. So you have a shallow boss? Who cares? They are paying you, they're not overworking you, so what's the big deal? I have to say your grammar leaves much to be desired so don't think yourself better than the mom.world's best nannynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-49219034930728394932010-02-26T06:46:43.593-05:002010-02-26T06:46:43.593-05:00As a nanny- I would never work for a SAHM. These ...As a nanny- I would never work for a SAHM. These SAHM with nannies are my ultimate annoyance. Lazy much? <br /><br />To the Nanny- lighten up. Have fun. <br /><br />I LOLed at the penis out at the table thing. <br /><br />Next time your BossMom is on your last nerve squint your eyes and look at her closely. Say, "When is the last time you got your upper lip waxed? I think I see some stray hairs popping up." I am sure she will run to the bathroom as quick as she can leaving you with a little piece and quiet.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-51787317078675460332010-02-26T00:58:25.606-05:002010-02-26T00:58:25.606-05:00I have to agree: This was entertaining. Of cours...I have to agree: This was entertaining. Of course, the mom seems hilarious. The nanny (if she's real) seems like the nutcase. Funny post though.uwouldn'ttakecareofmykidnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-22253524864758408842010-02-25T21:39:30.566-05:002010-02-25T21:39:30.566-05:00Good post. The parents still in love with each oth...Good post. The parents still in love with each other is a reliable sign of a balanced household, and happy, secure children.Nannycams4evernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-31353295454524631522010-02-25T20:57:08.825-05:002010-02-25T20:57:08.825-05:00I understand annoyance is all relative, but I thin...I understand annoyance is all relative, but I think things could be much, much worse. It sounds like your contract is being faithfully honored and you're well taken care of. I am not a nanny, nor do I employ one. But, nobody is perfect and when you spend as much time in a family's environment as nannies do, you are bound to become privvy to all the little human flaws that each of us posess. Overall, your situation doesn't sound horrible. I think you should just suck it up and not make a big deal about your issues. <br /><br />While PDAs make many of us uncomfortable, think about how much worse it would be if they were awful to each other. At least their children are having a loving marriage modeled for them, rather than an abusive one.<br /><br />On the computer thing: I work for one of the most seriously brilliant men in his field. His brilliance, however, does not extend to technical isseus. He recently called me in to his office because he wanted to know whether it was possible to move the contents of an Outlook email to a Word document without having to retype it. To this day, he praises me as a genious for making that happen in approximatley 5 seconds... cut & paste. It's a beautiful thing. My point is, there are brilliant people who are absolutely clueless about things that are second nature to others of us. And, because they are the ones paying our salaries, we do what we have to do... end of story.JacksMomnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-54843917509619140072010-02-25T18:16:41.809-05:002010-02-25T18:16:41.809-05:00Yeah, the mom sounds annoying. Next time she recco...Yeah, the mom sounds annoying. Next time she reccomends one of her expensive products, tell her you wish you could afford it. Hey, maybe she'll buy some fancy lotions for you. Maybe you could reccomend a computer class or a cooking class that she should try. I'd just laugh her off. If you really can't take it, start looking for another job, otherwise suck it up.nannyneedsanapnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-14659613907969083972010-02-25T17:57:10.334-05:002010-02-25T17:57:10.334-05:00If I wanted my trains to run on time, I would call...If I wanted my trains to run on time, I would call this nanny, but otherwise, I wouldn't want to be around her. A little too rigid for me. I think the Mom sounds like a hoot. A little bit of humor goes a long way. The nanny should try it.Villagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08578209959445019807noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-45178592893599807482010-02-25T17:28:26.902-05:002010-02-25T17:28:26.902-05:00She is not asking for advice. It says "Rant&q...She is not asking for advice. It says "Rant" at the top.<br /><br />And, I can see why some may be offended by the single mom thing. But really, it doesn't make her dumb.<br /><br />When you make comments like that- even if you're right, you're wrong. Because you sound just as bad.<br /><br />Personally, I don't think it was offensive. Just their opinion.<br /><br />And as for the spelling- It would have made a bigger impact had she used spell-check before sending. But there weren't that many mistakes, so if you couldn't get through it because of "how bad" it was, I think you have bigger issues.<br /><br />:)seattlenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-55830409295940344962010-02-25T17:10:10.292-05:002010-02-25T17:10:10.292-05:00I found your post entertaining. I respect your app...I found your post entertaining. I respect your approach much more than the prior rant. I don't take issue with your numerous requirements, just as I don't take issue with employers who are demanding. As long as you are honest and direct at hiring AND stick to the mutually agreed upon Work Agreement I have no issues. You don't want to do Housekeeping and you make that clear when interviewing? Fine. Just as employers who want a shared Nanny/Hker position and state that at hiring is also equally valid.<br /><br />Your employer sounds about the polar opposite of me in every way, but I'm sure I have some equally annoying quirks. And I too found the internet comments hilarious. I hope you find a balance in this job, or a future one that makes you happy.nyc momnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-3807612404652243422010-02-25T16:32:18.402-05:002010-02-25T16:32:18.402-05:00Your Momboss sounds quirky, but frankly, I would f...Your Momboss sounds quirky, but frankly, I would find her entertaining. I laughed out loud at the paragraph about the computer..<br />Some moms do have boundary issues. It has nothing to do with whether they are single, married, divorced or in a menage a trois. Rather than avoiding single moms, I think you should avoid SAHM's. If they are at work they won't be worrying about your hairy arms.Manhattan Nannynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-25900840552787709652010-02-25T15:24:40.870-05:002010-02-25T15:24:40.870-05:00This was in response to the rant before mine, &quo...This was in response to the rant before mine, "Nanny drops a big hint". My point was she is going to have a helluva time finding a new job. <br /><br />Rrrrrrearrrr phtttt phttts, kitties with claws out today.gretchennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-29481386161982195322010-02-25T14:53:11.941-05:002010-02-25T14:53:11.941-05:00I don't get it. Are you asking for advice or ...I don't get it. Are you asking for advice or just wanting to gripe? Because to be honest, I don't think you really have anything to gripe about. The mother is weird, I'll give you that. But start enforcing your boundaries and tell her when she's making you uncomfortable. (Except the kissing her husband--it is their house and you don't have to watch.)<br /><br />If you have such a long list of family requirements, why didn't you consider stay at home moms? They are #1 on my list of families I won't choose, and I know several nannies who agree with me.MissMannahnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-41149240309367742752010-02-25T14:49:18.658-05:002010-02-25T14:49:18.658-05:00Gee nanny, I can't decide who is more unlikeab...Gee nanny, I can't decide who is more unlikeable, you or the woman you work for.<br /><br />What is the point of your post?hardtodetermine . . .noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-7073190196967240502010-02-25T14:44:02.633-05:002010-02-25T14:44:02.633-05:00The mom's annoying. In fact, she kind of remin...The mom's annoying. In fact, she kind of reminds me of myself. And yes I know, that is not a flattering fact. The arm hair thing sounds like something I would completely say. Even the walking up the stairs comment. It's something I'm working on changing. Sad but hey, that's me. In the end of the day she chooses to live her life the ways she wants to, she has a happy relationship, and a comfortable life. I'd say that makes her the smart one. Ignorance does not mean you are stupid. Just unaware.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com