tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post8926913606977543270..comments2024-03-19T03:27:24.068-04:00Comments on I SAW YOUR NANNY: Nanny's Honeymoon Plans...Leigh Raymerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18210572527823459842noreply@blogger.comBlogger46125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-89288339247495093742008-07-28T06:06:00.000-04:002008-07-28T06:06:00.000-04:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-29065108647974809252008-01-27T06:46:00.000-05:002008-01-27T06:46:00.000-05:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-69556219740559153782007-12-30T07:04:00.000-05:002007-12-30T07:04:00.000-05:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-48178463188127247502007-12-28T20:34:00.000-05:002007-12-28T20:34:00.000-05:00MomI disappeared for a short while, and came back ...Mom<BR/>I disappeared for a short while, and came back under a new pseudonym. I had other things to deal with. But I've always "been around". <BR/>It's good to 'see you', though!<BR/>;)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-16277578284388001812007-12-28T18:32:00.000-05:002007-12-28T18:32:00.000-05:00Well then, hello.I had thought about posting and a...Well then, hello.<BR/>I had thought about posting and asking where you went...but then I figured something must have happened to either sour you on the site entirely, or make you "go underground" for a while...in which case, ferretting you out would not be what you wanted anyway. Glad to know you're still here! ;)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-55006744898679773952007-12-28T16:51:00.000-05:002007-12-28T16:51:00.000-05:00Mom"I think I have an idea now. I looked back at 1...Mom<BR/>"I think I have an idea now. I looked back at 10:39. You don't live there, right...but I once inquired as to where you might live? (This would likely only be remembered by you since nobody else would have cared.)"<BR/><BR/>Right.<BR/>;)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-29447879955210585582007-12-28T14:57:00.000-05:002007-12-28T14:57:00.000-05:00I think I have an idea now. I looked back at 10:39...I think I have an idea now. I looked back at 10:39. You don't live there, right...but I once inquired as to where you might live? (This would likely only be remembered by you since nobody else would have cared.) <BR/>If you're who I thnk you are, I (and probably several others)have missed you. Don't let "her" scare you into hiding. (Although I do know what you mean about making any possibly controversial comments anonymous to avoid the backlash. Sometimes it's just not worth the hassle.) <BR/>I try to point out "she who shall not be named" when I recognize her here so that others will be warned to keep from getting drawn into one of her fights. I have noticed that some others do the same. Just be yourself, and point her out when she shows up.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-19516444192281047132007-12-28T12:51:00.000-05:002007-12-28T12:51:00.000-05:00That's certainly o.k., mom. lol You are one of my ...That's certainly o.k., mom. lol <BR/>You are one of my favorite posters! The 10:39 in Edinborough comment is in the 1st thread (Edina) ... you responded to my comment at the bottom, and that's why I brought it up. I was trying to get across who I was, without really saying "who I was".<BR/>Anyway, I am quite familiar with 'she who shall not be named'. I am only one of her many victims, which is why I tend to post anonymous sometimes. It just isn't worth the hassle. I go by a different name now, and as I said, if I have an opinion that might pull particular people out of the woodwork, I stay anonymous. I'm sure you can understand, lol.<BR/>I'm with you, though. I miss some of the regulars that used to post here. 'She' probably scared them off.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-73956734305859387062007-12-28T11:10:00.000-05:002007-12-28T11:10:00.000-05:0010:49,I apologize for confusing you with she who s...10:49,<BR/>I apologize for confusing you with she who shall not be named. That would certainly be a huge insult.<BR/><BR/>I looked back to figure out why I thought that. I think it is because I assumed Cali mom was referring to 11:44 (who may well be "her") when she made her comment...and then the 10:49 comment seems to respond to that by saying "I am far from illiterate." So I assumed you were her...especially since "she" has such a propensity to write in as multiple people to make it look like a bunch of people are defending her...and also because she tends to contradict herself so much.<BR/><BR/>Anyway...again, I am sorry. I am also curious as to who you are. There are a couple of people here who have not been writing anymore and I have wondered where they are. I don't see the 10:39 in Edinborough comment.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-16295890251731399962007-12-27T15:52:00.000-05:002007-12-27T15:52:00.000-05:00BTW mom, I'm 10:39 in Edinborough.BTW mom, I'm 10:39 in Edinborough.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-77580157143317521212007-12-27T15:46:00.000-05:002007-12-27T15:46:00.000-05:00Sorry, but you're wrong mom. 11:44 and 10:49 are 2...Sorry, but you're wrong mom. 11:44 and 10:49 are 2 different people. I'm 10:49/SAHM. But 11:44 could be 'her'. I know I stuck up for 'her' ... but I do think she made a good point.<BR/>Please don't make me reveal myself ....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-20600714962270310222007-12-27T12:37:00.000-05:002007-12-27T12:37:00.000-05:00And before you try to start a long thread of hatef...And before you try to start a long thread of hateful denials and begin screaming at us in all caps that we don't know you...you already exposed yourself as our resident liar by posing as nanny at 11:44PM and a SAHM at 10:49AM. Cali mom is right. You are posting repeatedly and pretending to be several different people.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-75914207144513803192007-12-27T12:24:00.000-05:002007-12-27T12:24:00.000-05:00Looks like she who shall not be named is starting ...Looks like she who shall not be named is starting to have trouble controlling herself...again.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-4927143172590771842007-12-27T10:49:00.000-05:002007-12-27T10:49:00.000-05:00Cali mom We usually see eye to eye (I post anonymo...Cali mom<BR/> We usually see eye to eye (I post anonymous when I feel a little fire, and don't want the backlash) - but I am far from illiterate, thank you very much. People make mistakes, and "YOU'RE" being too harsh also.<BR/>I thought 4:51/12:08 was mean, and gave my opinion.<BR/>And I am not a bitter nanny, I'm a SAHM.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-67657145490548430242007-12-27T01:39:00.000-05:002007-12-27T01:39:00.000-05:0012:08, pay no attention to the bitter illiterate (...12:08, pay no attention to the bitter illiterate (Y-O-U-'-R-E) nanny pretending to be multiple people. I'm with you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-81927245905572874882007-12-26T21:26:00.000-05:002007-12-26T21:26:00.000-05:0012:0811:44 may have pegged your 'title' wrong, but...12:08<BR/><BR/>11:44 may have pegged your 'title' wrong, but definately not your personality. I thought her response was dead on:<BR/><BR/>"5 months notice for extra time off, a suitable substitute offering from the nanny, and advice seeking before nanny over-reacts is not flighty and inmmature. It shows that she is pretty level headed."<BR/><BR/>Your the one that sounds bitter. Did you find your husband boffing the secretary or something?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-33883128064944887642007-12-26T12:08:00.000-05:002007-12-26T12:08:00.000-05:0011:44Don't ever try to become a detective. I'm a S...11:44<BR/>Don't ever try to become a detective. I'm a SAHM. You are right about one thing; you would never work for me.<BR/>If I were to ever hire a nanny, I would choose one far less bitter than you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-5931341952273542282007-12-25T23:44:00.000-05:002007-12-25T23:44:00.000-05:004:51 sounds like one of those self-absorbed mom's ...4:51 sounds like one of those self-absorbed mom's who's children are an accessory and the nanny is the<BR/>"help" and deseerves no respect, I can smell your type a mile away and I usually work for you once and never again, by MY choice. I simply can't stand your ilk and have no respect for these types and cannot work for those I don't respect.<BR/><BR/> <BR/>5 months notice for extra time off, a suitable substitute offering from the nanny, and advice seeking before nanny over-reacts is not flighty and inmmature. It shows that she is pretty level headed.<BR/>Personally, I think the mother is being unreasonable. Having recently decided to take two weeks off instead of one for MY vacation this summer, and talking to the mom I work for, she agreed with no problem. To be honest, had she been disagreeable about it I would not have quit, but like the other poster said earlier, my flexibilty to work longer days or extra days as needed would have disappeared.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-53406957270545409962007-12-21T16:51:00.000-05:002007-12-21T16:51:00.000-05:00I say go ahead and quit. Once your employer realiz...I say go ahead and quit. Once your employer realizes how flighty and immature you are, she will probably be glad you did.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-12225351110106797572007-12-19T10:55:00.000-05:002007-12-19T10:55:00.000-05:009:40Well said.9:40<BR/>Well said.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-73468279056417407672007-12-19T09:40:00.000-05:002007-12-19T09:40:00.000-05:00Ok,First off, most teachers already have had the f...Ok,<BR/><BR/>First off, most teachers already have had the full federal background check done and should be able to easily supply a copy of it to the parents. While it's not unreasonable to want a background check done this should be a simple matter because the woman probably already had one. <BR/><BR/>To the person who posted that if you work for a large corporation you would not be able to take extra time off I beg to differ. My husband works for a very large, international corporation and is very much allowed to take extra time off as long as he doesn't abuse the privilige. They are especially accomodating for change of life events like weddings.<BR/><BR/>This woman is looking for an extra week in May and this is December, that is giving a full 5 months notice so I think the mother is being a bit unreasonable but, it is her right to be so. She is the employer and you are the employee. You, nanny, agreed to certain terms upon being hired and were happy with them.<BR/><BR/>I would go back to the mom and ask to come back to work that Wed. That gives you 10 days for the honeymoon, which is more than reasonable and beyond the mother's obligation of genorosity. If she absolutely refuses to budge (It's only one day longer than she offered and 3 less than you wanted) Then you have a good snapshot of how willing this woman will be in future to work with you. And you need to then evaluate how willing you will be to accomodate any special needs On the mom's part that may arrise in the future. Abilty to work overtime and extra days. I ran into this situation myself once and when I foudn the family I worked for to be absolutely uninterested in working with me for extra time off during a difficult time I was having I accepted that as being their right but my attitude towards them (NOT THE KIDS) changed drastically. From then on I was rarely able to work extra days or late.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-39559373321416351132007-12-19T08:42:00.000-05:002007-12-19T08:42:00.000-05:00Hmmm....as a parent, I would not mind giving you t...Hmmm....as a parent, I would not mind giving you that second week for a honeymoon. HOWEVER...considering you just started and are now looking for four weeks of holidays (irrelevant whether it is paid or unpaid...it's about the child, not the money) - though I think you said they went on vacation right after you started - I would not be happy. What it amounts to is a month of vacation in less than 6 months working time. Since you have not established that crucial bond of reliability and trust that can only come with time...I think you need to step back and think about it. As well, it is not unreasonable for the parent to want the replacement caregiver to have a background check and to meet the child. That just makes sense.<BR/><BR/>Sorry....you have a right to a honeymoon and your vacation time but it sounds like you might be forgetting that this isn't a job at the 7/11. Time off isn't that easy when you are a nanny.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-42101293574986574542007-12-18T16:23:00.000-05:002007-12-18T16:23:00.000-05:00How is it unreasonable for the mother to ask that ...How is it unreasonable for the mother to ask that your friend get a background check done and make sure her daughter will be ok with her before agreeing to allow her to cover for you?? <BR/><BR/>Your employer sounds like a VERY responsible parent who is concerned for her child. During the interview you agreed to 1 week of vacation. As with any employer, yes you have 2 weeks paid vacation but that does not mean you can take it whenever you want to. A nanny is a position in which you cannot simply be replaced easily. And in most cases the parents are paying more than double for the week that you are gone b/c they not only have to pay you for your vacation but pay a replacement at usually a higher rate. <BR/><BR/>If I needed a nanny and had found out you quit your last job over this I wouldnt hire you. To suggest your employer is being unreasonable for looking out for the best interest of her child is ridiculous. I would never allow someone I didn't know to watch my child just b/c my nanny who desperately wants that time off recommended her.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-78102211829504708412007-12-17T18:25:00.000-05:002007-12-17T18:25:00.000-05:00It seems like the OP is asking for a lot too early...It seems like the OP is asking for a lot too early in the relationship. When you are new to a job, any job, it is not a good idea to appear as though you are trying to get more out of them.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-452746227814972222007-12-17T14:14:00.000-05:002007-12-17T14:14:00.000-05:00Definitely stand your ground. You aren't asking fo...Definitely stand your ground. You aren't asking for an extra week to sit around on your butt at home. This is a big trip, a big deal, and a once in a lifetime thing. Your employer is being extremely unreasonable about this.<BR/><BR/>Also, stop taking unpaid weeks. If it is their decision to take the time off and not need you, it is their responsibility to pay you. You have bills to pay, don't let them screw you over on that. Basically with all my employers, I had a 30-day notice policy, because this started to be a problem with all but one of them. If they couldn't give me 30 days' notice about a vacation or day they were taking, I would have it paid in full. If they gave me more than 30 days, I could budget ahead of time and take it unpaid. It is wrong of them to take advantage of you and suddenly pick the weeks you are supposed to be on your vacation.<BR/><BR/>Also, everyone is saying that she shouldn't get both weeks paid so soon into your job.... keep in mind that she CHOSE not to be paid for the 2 weeks they already forced her to be off. So the employer would be paying her anyway.<BR/><BR/><BR/>OP- stick to your ground, schedule your honeymoon, and if it comes down to it give them their 2 weeks notice. And yes, 2 weeks not 30 days, these guys sound like the type who would fire you after you give your notice. Make sure there is some type of severance in your nanny contract so they don't do this.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15815542349245090209noreply@blogger.com