tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post8690022525427404508..comments2024-03-19T03:27:24.068-04:00Comments on I SAW YOUR NANNY: It wasn't a "Bad Nanny", but a "Bad Mommy"Leigh Raymerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18210572527823459842noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-46994116539561255092008-03-13T19:39:00.000-04:002008-03-13T19:39:00.000-04:00Hey OPYou're as guilty as the mother.Hey OP<BR/><BR/>You're as guilty as the mother.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-23803651173215336682008-03-05T05:10:00.000-05:002008-03-05T05:10:00.000-05:00I don't think this is a fake post but it does appe...I don't think this is a fake post but it does appear that the OP has dropped the ball....was it stated in an earlier sighting that someone else was familiar with this child? Is anyone else willing to help??Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-68578513291416413972008-03-04T08:08:00.000-05:002008-03-04T08:08:00.000-05:00Where did the OP go?Is this a fake posting??Where did the OP go?<BR/>Is this a fake posting??Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-81186483928873198042008-03-03T18:12:00.000-05:002008-03-03T18:12:00.000-05:00OPI am concerned too....did you do anything? You'...OP<BR/><BR/>I am concerned too....did you do anything? You've posted here a couple times, would you please post to let us know how the child is??Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-24936970783576223992008-03-03T13:46:00.000-05:002008-03-03T13:46:00.000-05:00Mag's Mommy-First rate advice.Ditto that, OP.Mag's Mommy-<BR/>First rate advice.<BR/><BR/>Ditto that, OP.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-28041489777421658592008-03-03T13:41:00.000-05:002008-03-03T13:41:00.000-05:00Obviously someone needs to address this woman's be...Obviously someone needs to address this woman's behavior and it is noble that you are looking out for the well being of her child. However, I do not think contacting the agency that she adopted through will do any good if the baby has been with her for a year and the suggestion of it makes me a little uncomfortable. "Good" parent or not, once someone has successfully adopted a child (post termination of parental rights, post finalization) the agency (to my knowledge) has no legal right to intervene with the child. Please contact someone involved in her day to day life (spouse, personal friend, grandparent) or, if you are truly concerned, contact your local children's welfare service.Caitlin's Sisterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01398391625747131769noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-12382109995592925012008-03-03T11:44:00.000-05:002008-03-03T11:44:00.000-05:002:44 it was not Kate. it was me joan fron new york...2:44 it was not Kate. it was me joan fron new york.what do you care...its more worrisome about this little baby not my mane or who i am...get things in order...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-41560327990000101172008-02-29T18:36:00.000-05:002008-02-29T18:36:00.000-05:00Hey OPWould you please update us?? Did you follow...Hey OP<BR/><BR/>Would you please update us?? Did you follow through? A lot of us are worried, please let us know if she's okay...........thanks.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-75694952306897568092008-02-29T10:20:00.000-05:002008-02-29T10:20:00.000-05:00Adopting a kid doesn't mean that you'll be a good ...Adopting a kid doesn't mean that you'll be a good parent, or even an adequate one. People adopt for lots of reasons, and a whole bunch adopt because they envy other people who have kids, and their envy blinds them to the possibility of making a different kind of life (ie, without kids). For these people, kids are a social accessory, not actual humans.<BR/><BR/>A child who is treated this badly will be treated even worse once the bio kid is born. This child already is not meeting expectations, and has been found wanting. She'll be even more defective in her "loving" mother's eyes once the bio kid arrives. This mom cares about herself, her ego, and nothing else. That's not going to change.<BR/><BR/>Yes, tell everyone. Send the original article (anonymously, if need be) to everyone in the family, including the mother, and especially the dad, if he exists. Notify child protective services; the paper trail may be important. And tell the adoption agency, too. Something slipped through a gap there; telling them may give them a head's up, or stop them from giving the next child to a marginal personality.<BR/><BR/>It's been a year. Don't let another year go by! You've got a conscience, OP, which the mother clearly lacks. You can act on yours.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-41770743537668856892008-02-29T09:59:00.000-05:002008-02-29T09:59:00.000-05:00what's the big deal with posting anonymously?...I ...what's the big deal with posting anonymously?...I don't get it. Anyone care to explain the disdain by some (kate in co?) for doing so?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-32335309074874095402008-02-29T09:51:00.000-05:002008-02-29T09:51:00.000-05:00Well, no 9:55....2:44 was not me. (I would never ...Well, no 9:55....2:44 was not me. (I would never behave like you and not leave a moniker.) However, I do totally agree with 2:44. Something should definitely be done immediately..........I would personally talk to the Mom myself....it takes courage but, the little girl deserves a voice.Kate K.https://www.blogger.com/profile/17244152308493320600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-75530057853167501082008-02-28T21:55:00.000-05:002008-02-28T21:55:00.000-05:00hellcat2:44 is Kate in Co. I think she forgot to l...hellcat<BR/>2:44 is Kate in Co. I think she forgot to leave her moniker. <BR/><BR/>I don't see how someone with her mental deficiency can adopt? Don't they do rigorous testing? Either way, go to CPS and report this. IMMEDIATELY please! This mom is psycho.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-56340939466576752092008-02-28T19:03:00.000-05:002008-02-28T19:03:00.000-05:00i knew it, another parent, and people always think...i knew it, another parent, and people always think its the nanny, there are bad parents out there too!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-13145368063275763662008-02-28T19:01:00.000-05:002008-02-28T19:01:00.000-05:00How do you know she's from a bad place, 2:44?She c...How do you know she's from a bad place, 2:44?<BR/>She could have been put up for adoption at birth because the biological mother (assuming she'd go to a wonderful home) thought that would be best for her. <BR/><BR/>I don't know why anyone would adopt a child and proceed to treat it like shit, anyway.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-25836696060672799872008-02-28T17:25:00.000-05:002008-02-28T17:25:00.000-05:00id forward her the post from an anonymous email .....id forward her the post from an anonymous email ... and say you know me and you better watch yourself!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-69291148182092092172008-02-28T14:44:00.000-05:002008-02-28T14:44:00.000-05:00yes please, do something for this poor little chil...yes please, do something for this poor little child....out of one bad place into another...and now a birthbaby..this poor little one will be pushed a site even more..do something please....<BR/>dont let to much time pass by...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-37763853780898988362008-02-28T14:35:00.000-05:002008-02-28T14:35:00.000-05:00Don't wait any longer. A year has past, don't let...Don't wait any longer. A year has past, don't let another year go by. Do what the above posters are stating. Give as much information as you can to child services. School she goes to, where she lives, etc. And tell them what you see. <BR/><BR/>I hope you do something quickly. With a new baby on the way, the abuse more likely will get worse.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-8015358577705562222008-02-28T14:00:00.000-05:002008-02-28T14:00:00.000-05:00Yes, contact the Grandparents, the Father, the ado...Yes, contact the Grandparents, the Father, the adoption agency.<BR/><BR/>Contact everyone you can until someone listens.<BR/><BR/>Every child deserves a voice so please step up and be the voice the child deserves.Sue Doe-Nimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03990788006210495760noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-53507929739901599062008-02-28T13:04:00.000-05:002008-02-28T13:04:00.000-05:00Abuse is abuse. Whether physical or verbal. Verb...Abuse is abuse. Whether physical or verbal. Verbal abuse has long lasting scars....You have taken the first step w/your concern...PLEASE, for this child's sake, follow through with your gut and report this abuse. You don't want to see the fall out from this ten years from now and regret not taking any action. Your name will be kept confidential. Please, please, follow through.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-71815721752632281892008-02-28T12:15:00.000-05:002008-02-28T12:15:00.000-05:00I'm horrified. As an adoptive parent in Colorado, ...I'm horrified. As an adoptive parent in Colorado, I find this particularly disturbing given the state's strict training requirements. If she made it through the agency's review the first time, contacting the agency will do nothing now. The only useful thing you could do is report this woman to child/protective services, which I would highly recommend. If nothing else, it would trigger an investigation. If, God forbid, this child becomes victim to further abuse, and no one ever reports it, that would be the real tragedy. Also, if this is how she treats her child in public, I'd be afraid to know what she does behind closed doors.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-23234622457678524182008-02-28T11:29:00.000-05:002008-02-28T11:29:00.000-05:00Other than reporting this "bad mommy" for suspecte...Other than reporting this "bad mommy" for suspected neglect and/or abuse to your local Child Protective Services, I don't think there is much you can do. You said this child has extended family: a father, grandparents, etc. Hopefully, (and yes, keep praying), someone in this family will intervene to protect this poor child, and the tiny one on the way.<BR/><BR/>Trying to HELP someone with "borderline personality disorder" who is undiagnosed/untreated/unmedicated is impossible. They need to own-up to having, and being, the problem in order to accept the professional help that will help them learn to "manage" the symptoms of their disorder. Unfortunately, two of the primary symptoms of BPD is 1) creating lots of drama and misery, then 2) blaming everyone else for it. Very toxic,narcisistic creatures! <BR/><BR/>Maybe if enough people report this woman's mis-treatment of her child to the child protection authorities, SOMEONE will step in on behalf of the child(ren).Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com