tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post845013294304915422..comments2024-03-19T03:27:24.068-04:00Comments on I SAW YOUR NANNY: Lost Cause?Leigh Raymerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18210572527823459842noreply@blogger.comBlogger136125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-22860811186308757002008-10-01T03:05:00.000-04:002008-10-01T03:05:00.000-04:00Thanks for the nice article.Thanks for the nice article.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-59288979658009476892008-06-21T13:49:00.000-04:002008-06-21T13:49:00.000-04:00hs! I can't believe that! Psycho!hs! I can't believe that! Psycho!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-19662675315911066342008-06-20T17:48:00.000-04:002008-06-20T17:48:00.000-04:00oooh how hilarious if she read the blog! employers...oooh how hilarious if she read the blog! employers need to be careful though. their nannies who are dismissed usually spread awful rumors. i've seen it happen and it is not prettyMarissa M.https://www.blogger.com/profile/09670316761454871953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-85309643362102194202008-06-20T09:20:00.000-04:002008-06-20T09:20:00.000-04:004:09Did you read his post? They never said anythin...4:09<BR/>Did you read his post? They never said anything to her about the prior missing items because his wife didn't want to. <BR/><BR/>Did you read his update? She had a psychotic episode when the wife asked her about the latest missing item WITHOUT mentioning the possibility of theft. <BR/><BR/><BR/>I am thinking you may either be the nanny in question or one of her friends. When I saw OPs update and the posts suggesting maybe nanny read this blog I had a pretty good feeling we would be hearing from her, defensively and angrily, if that was the case. Hello.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-9682032984996152472008-06-20T04:09:00.000-04:002008-06-20T04:09:00.000-04:00Let me get this straight. Over the course of a few...Let me get this straight. Over the course of a few months, some of your kid's things got lost along the way - specifically, a blanket and a jacket. Not great for you, since you have such expensive tastes (hey, I wouldn't say anything, but you made it VERY CLEAR that your kid's accessories are expensive), but definitely not outside what I would consider normal in the course of caring for a small child. <BR/>Your nanny reports that the diaper bag was stolen. You don't believe her. I'm assuming, based on your tone, that you have probably indicated that you don't believe she just "lost" the other items either (either directly or indirectly).<BR/>Then something else goes missing and you think this woman is out of line for getting angry that you repeatedly accuse her of theft?<BR/>You repeatedly, and without any justification that I can see, insinuate that your nanny is stealing from you. Stealing things like a baby blanket and toddler-sized jacket and stuffed animal, which for the life of me I can't understand why your nanny would bother to steal (honestly, the black market for baby goods ain't that lucrative). <BR/>I think your nanny was being perfectly reasonable. I think you sound like a nightmare of an employer. I hope you'll tell everyone here who you are and where you live, so that other nannies can avoid your family.<BR/>And if you don't, that's OK. Your new nanny will figure it out from your incessant price-dropping, and I hope she leaves you at a most inconvenient time.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-71937838872749572562008-06-19T16:52:00.000-04:002008-06-19T16:52:00.000-04:00Wow...I wonder if she reads this blog?Wow...<BR/><BR/>I wonder if she reads this blog?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-32795944121884726642008-06-19T16:05:00.000-04:002008-06-19T16:05:00.000-04:00EXCELLENT point fox!EXCELLENT point fox!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-74676122790012422432008-06-19T15:54:00.000-04:002008-06-19T15:54:00.000-04:00OP, you must have sensed something big was coming ...OP, you must have sensed something big was coming and that sense prompted you to post here. It's GREAT that you got rid of this forgetful psycho. Just remember that for next time, you have to be super careful about anyone with whom you leave your child. <BR/><BR/>I have learned this. If there are ever ANY red flags, however minor, get rid of the person (or do not hire her/him). By red flags, I mean things that you notice that are a bit off, however slight, or things you might have to mull over for one reason or another. If there are ANY red flags, it is an indication of something else, and you should not go with this person. <BR/><BR/>Good luck!<BR/><BR/>Where did you find the forgetful psycho in the first place?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-67515863128287628072008-06-19T14:50:00.000-04:002008-06-19T14:50:00.000-04:00good job, OP! hope you find someone great!good job, OP! hope you find someone great!UmassSlytherinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15647516080217006351noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-8291506513504846192008-06-19T14:41:00.000-04:002008-06-19T14:41:00.000-04:00If her reaction to your wife asking about somethin...If her reaction to your wife asking about something she couldn't find was "you are calling me a thief", either she has a guilty conscience, or she reads isawyournanny!<BR/>You are well rid of her. I hope you find a wonderful new nanny for your little boy.<BR/>A NannyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-4620597784024588232008-06-19T14:00:00.000-04:002008-06-19T14:00:00.000-04:00NO, I would not have felt different if the items w...NO, I would not have felt different if the items were cheaper (although it would have probably laid to rest any suspicion that she might be stealing them.) <BR/><BR/>I find it very "interesting" that her first instinct was to be defensive about being accused of stealing if your wife never offered this as a possibility.<BR/><BR/>Glad she's gone. She sounds unstable. And I can hardly believe you even had to come home to fire her. After throwing things and screaming at your wife you would think she might kind of realize it was a done deal and simply left then and there. What did she do? Turn on her heels after her outburst and go back to working? This scares me for how your child may have been treated in your absence.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-26928951780714048262008-06-19T13:36:00.000-04:002008-06-19T13:36:00.000-04:00I am glad you fired her. She seems unbalanced. T...I am glad you fired her. She seems unbalanced. To even get aggressive with your wife. Thats just crazy. You never know maybe she was rough with your son as well. I guess we won't know. But I am glad she is out of the picture.<BR/>I hope all works out for you.<BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/>Just wondering if maybe she stumbled upon this site???<BR/><BR/>Quick question to everyone that posted. If the items that were lost were more on the low price (example: K-mart, Target brands, Walmart) would people feel different about her losing/stealing all these items?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-85874270352599640182008-06-19T12:34:00.000-04:002008-06-19T12:34:00.000-04:00Hey, OPGood for you!Hey, OP<BR/><BR/>Good for you!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-50092742627222436512008-06-18T20:51:00.000-04:002008-06-18T20:51:00.000-04:00First of all, I think it's easy to pay $150 for a ...First of all, I think it's easy to pay $150 for a diaper bag. Mine was that much. Even the ones at the GAP are $80. If you can buy pricey stuff for your kid, go ahead. You worked for it, your kids deserve to benefit from your ability to earn. Second of all, I would let the nanny know how much the stuff she lost cost (maybe she's careless because she didn't know they were expensive). If she was well aware of their cost, she's either disrespectful or selling it. Ebay, craigslist, consignment shops. Easy cash. I would have a serious talk with her about not taking stuff out of the house if she can't return with it. The next time it happens, the discussion involves restitiution. If it happens again, the next conversation involves end date.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-15195249539868232492008-06-18T17:27:00.000-04:002008-06-18T17:27:00.000-04:00OP, your nanny could never handle it if you have a...OP, your nanny could never handle it if you have a second kid. I say get rid of her. It is inappropriate for her to constant lose the things that are important to your child, whether they cost $3 or $300. The cost is secondary. The important point is that these things are important to your child. It does not sound like you or your wife thinks she's perfect otherwise, so I don't understand how you can keep her. A nanny is someone that you as a family rely upon to help you. It is not someone who should be causing you concern because you must worry about when will be the next time she will lose your child's important lovey.<BR/><BR/>And to Smackyou, your post really cracked me up. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-9126599246921490392008-06-18T17:19:00.000-04:002008-06-18T17:19:00.000-04:00Wow, TXNanny, lucky you about the 8-9 figures :). ...Wow, TXNanny, lucky you about the 8-9 figures :). Anyone here who is ridiculing you for that is undoubtedly just jealous of your good fortune. It sounds like you know what you enjoy doing and are able to do it without financial headaches, and it's a very important job so good for you. You don't need to justify anything to anyone, but it's interesting to learn about people, and I enjoy your posts so don't go away!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-25930343769422894342008-06-18T16:45:00.000-04:002008-06-18T16:45:00.000-04:00My diaper bag was as heavy and big as my Prada bag...My diaper bag was as heavy and big as my Prada bag.<BR/>It weighed a ton, and I had teething rings, bottles, wipes, diapers, powder, Mustela rash cream (the BEST), cheerios, etc ........<BR/>And in my big ass Prada bag .... everything BUT the kitchen sink.<BR/>So ......<BR/>HOW do you lose a diaper bag???Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-86987994198477902362008-06-18T15:40:00.000-04:002008-06-18T15:40:00.000-04:003:27,I was once a nanny too. And I was not always ...3:27,<BR/>I was once a nanny too. And I was not always appreciated for what I felt was a good job taking care of the children for very long hours. <BR/>That being said, I don't think I ever lost anything. I used to keep very good track of the children's things, and come on, an ENTIRE diaper bag? Shouldn't the diaper bag always be in plain sight? <BR/>I think OP deserves some understanding. The cost of the items to me is not the point at all. If a nanny is losing that many things, regardless of the price, to me that really is quite irresponsible. <BR/>Just my opinion.UmassSlytherinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15647516080217006351noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-17331742020937582602008-06-18T15:27:00.000-04:002008-06-18T15:27:00.000-04:00Well let me start off by telling you that I am a n...Well let me start off by telling you that I am a nanny and have been for over 5 years now. <BR/><BR/>First things first...if you are so overly concerned about the price of the items lost, then why do you continue purchasing such ridiculously expensive items for a child young enough to still be in diapers?!<BR/><BR/>Kids will be kids and with that being said, things are going to get misplaced and lost. <BR/>I can understand how frusterating it would be to come home and "have" to actually be a parent to your child and not have the certain comfort items that he/she is used to, but honestly...to get this upset and write about her on the internet?! How do you think she would feel if she stumbled across this? I will tell you what I would do and that would be quit. Their are a lot of great nanny opportunities out there and life is way too short to work for someone who is willing and able to treat her the way you do.<BR/>I would also be very upset with you if you were trying to "re-trace" my enitre outing with your child, especially after working for 8+ hours without a break!<BR/><BR/>Your wife seems to have a very good head on her shoulders realizing that yes, things will get lost! And if you're this worried about it when you're child is in the diaper stage...wow do I feel bad for any teacher that your child will have in the future!!! <BR/><BR/>The ammount of things that have been listed as "lost" or "misplaced" are very important items to your day to day living, but if you're that worried about them, you should always have a back up!!!<BR/><BR/>Take it easy on your nanny...Just remember...she is in charge of nurturing, loving, and caring for your most prized posestion!!!The Cutlershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01005154032945309724noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-90152746431536532092008-06-18T15:07:00.000-04:002008-06-18T15:07:00.000-04:002:31,I agree. Loveys are important, although I nev...2:31,<BR/>I agree. Loveys are important, although I never had one as a child. But one time when I was 9 my dad did drive around for five hours with me in the San Fernando Valley trying to find Jason Bateman's house.<BR/><BR/>...does that count?UmassSlytherinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15647516080217006351noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-17771806864900678062008-06-18T14:31:00.000-04:002008-06-18T14:31:00.000-04:00On a family trip we had to backtrack 150 miles for...On a family trip we had to backtrack 150 miles for a "lovely" our son had left at a motel. How many of us have done this? Those "loveys" are important.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-24297385750873963082008-06-18T00:25:00.000-04:002008-06-18T00:25:00.000-04:00Hi, I am a SAHM and my child has a favorite lovey,...Hi,<BR/> <BR/>I am a SAHM and my child has a favorite lovey, a stuffed teddy bear. There has been several occasions in public where it fell out of her stroller without my knowledge, but as soon as I discovered it was lost I retraced my steps and was able to find it. She has a hard time going to sleep without it and I was determined to find it. <BR/> <BR/>At times we can lose a child's belongings because we're busy looking after our little ones and some items can get left behind, but I do see a pattern with your nanny. Important personal belongings such as blankets, jackets, diaper bags and your child' favorite lovey should be accounted for constantly ( and I say that from experience). For example, forgetting or losing a diaper bag is hard to believe because it holds all the essentials for your child. Aside from that, what thief would want to steal a diaper bag unless they happen to know the worth of the bag and believe they can sell it on Ebay? <BR/> <BR/>From what you mention in your story, something does sound amiss with your nanny. At the very least the nanny should except financial responsibilty for the items she has lost. Perhaps a lesson in replacing the lost items will make her less "forgetful" and more attentative.<BR/> <BR/>Good luck,Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-76821191922990602322008-06-17T22:46:00.000-04:002008-06-17T22:46:00.000-04:00ah, shucks, 10:10- but thanks!ah, shucks, 10:10<BR/>- but thanks!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-35088823869021656982008-06-17T22:16:00.000-04:002008-06-17T22:16:00.000-04:00TxnannyI'm soooo glad you posted back!You said you...Txnanny<BR/>I'm soooo glad you posted back!<BR/><BR/>You said you couldn't believe how many hateful people were out there? Well, try to remember the good ones like me that want you HERE! You have a lot of NICE people supporting you!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-82296324905138197512008-06-17T22:10:00.000-04:002008-06-17T22:10:00.000-04:00ANON1GREAT post!!!! You said it all!ANON1<BR/><BR/>GREAT post!!!! You said it all!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com