tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post8002424647057699829..comments2024-03-19T03:27:24.068-04:00Comments on I SAW YOUR NANNY: Fired Nanny Fired Up Over DismissalLeigh Raymerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18210572527823459842noreply@blogger.comBlogger60125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-30636068106540721962009-12-09T20:04:44.316-05:002009-12-09T20:04:44.316-05:00While I do feel sympathy for this nanny being preg...While I do feel sympathy for this nanny being pregnant and unemployed...I must say, this post (among a scad of other nanny nightmare stories) is just the billionth example for WHY NANNIES NEED A CONTRACT. It'd be nice to use honor system regarding the verbal agreement prior to starting employment, but anyone with any experience and sense knows that's a lot easier said than done. (Pun intended.) <br /><br />Judging from what you said, these people didn't sound saintly...but, they ultimately have the right to decide what they think is best for their daughter...even if they're being stupid about it. It's their child.<br /><br />Contracts are tough enough to stick to as it is (my contract has been breached multiple times as a nanny, sadly), but at least I know if the you-know-what ever hits the fan...I'll have something concrete to protect myself with.Sorry To Hear All That, But...noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-83048154288750357262009-12-03T02:25:29.282-05:002009-12-03T02:25:29.282-05:00geez. no, u couldn't keep my child after your...geez. no, u couldn't keep my child after your tantrum. and, the family never should have purchased a car for you. poor boundaries all the way around! i don't know if i would have given you 3 weeks pay after you no-showed. well, i do know: i would not.nothanksnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-41148120210315663832009-12-02T13:45:48.024-05:002009-12-02T13:45:48.024-05:00Dad,
I totally agree. Many young college co-eds t...Dad,<br /><br />I totally agree. Many young college co-eds think they can just slide right into a cushy 15-20 dollar an hour job. I would much rather pay someone who is more experienced: not just with kids, but in life!dadiswrongonthisonenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-10014532401683396052009-12-02T11:54:45.848-05:002009-12-02T11:54:45.848-05:00Curious Dad, your idea has some valid points and t...Curious Dad, your idea has some valid points and that may well be the case in many circumstances. I also find there are a lot of people out there who just want to skimp when it comes to childcare. And yes, there are way too many [people who want the luxury, and a professional nanny is a luxury, of a private nanny for their kids and care at home when they really can't or won't pay well enough. Whatever the reason, they often end up with sub-par care. Then who suffers? The kids.Bloomfield babysitternoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-60002924151904901392009-12-02T10:18:35.284-05:002009-12-02T10:18:35.284-05:00Ever thought on why a nanny is paid less then a ga...Ever thought on why a nanny is paid less then a gardner or a mechanic?<br />While you may have charge of their prcesious children. It probably is thought of as an entry level position by most parents. Besides those that cannot really afford an actual nanny wanting a glorified babysitter. Something someone does while going to school before going on to a career.<br />I am basing this thought on the great number of nannies advertising for work of young college students. In many minds someone 18-25 is an entry level worker. Especially if it is a job they are doing while going to college. And they Will not equate all those years of babysitting and helping their own family prior to 18 to be nanny work experience.CuriousDadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04344420270102218927noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-75287153808489693812009-12-01T21:20:34.237-05:002009-12-01T21:20:34.237-05:00Mary L Amen!
And I never said the parents were ri...Mary L Amen!<br /><br />And I never said the parents were right to treat the nanny this way. Hopefully she will live and learn.<br /><br />One would hope the nanny would be treated better then a gardener or mechanic, but sadly that is often not the case. Often the nanny is paid less per hour than the hairdresser, the mechanic, the housekeeper or the dog walker. I happen to be lucky to work for an excellent family, some of us do get lucky that way. I am treated well and am happy but I attribute a large part of that to the fact that my expectations as well as my employers are spelled out and regularly reviewed so we are all on the same page. <br /><br />I stand by my earlier statements. A great, close and family like relationship with your employers is fine but a solid, clear contract is the B E S T bond a nanny can have with her or his employer.Bloomfield babysitternoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-22107496745644115522009-12-01T20:51:32.102-05:002009-12-01T20:51:32.102-05:00You are part of the family as long as the family&#...You are part of the family as long as the family's goals and your goals are completely in sync. <br /><br />If your priorities or their priorities change significantly, so does the relationship.Mary L.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-22326033522802842712009-12-01T16:36:13.650-05:002009-12-01T16:36:13.650-05:00I also take issue with the people who keep saying ...I also take issue with the people who keep saying that a nanny can't be part of the family, and can only ever be an employee. In my experience, it usually ends up being a strange mix of the two that simply doesn't occur in any other situation. As a parent, bringing a nanny into your home takes much more faith and trust than hiring someone to make espresso drinks or keep books. It's true that it's naive to expect to find yourself on par with a family member as a nanny, but at the same time, I think it's reasonable and fair to expect that giving their child love and care full time will earn a nanny a little more consideration than the gardener or the grocery store clerk.Andreahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13897532029685206464noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-4271505442151488952009-12-01T13:10:19.706-05:002009-12-01T13:10:19.706-05:00Bloomfield: This is simply an "agree to disag...Bloomfield: This is simply an "agree to disagree" situation based on two individual's different experiences. Let me also say that your term "paling around" does not adaquately describe our relationship but thank you for your attempt at labeling something you know nothing about. <br /><br />Don't Bash: Very good points. I too agree that it was wrong of the PARENTS to pay for a car for nanny. And thank you for validating that it is, in fact, possible to have a strong familial bond with families you have worked for.VAnannynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-28668222464404758852009-12-01T11:29:04.827-05:002009-12-01T11:29:04.827-05:00Bloomfield Babysitter,
I don't really think a...Bloomfield Babysitter,<br /><br />I don't really think anyone is doubting that it is right to put your own family first. But I do agree with the posters who have said that OP is being unfairly attacked. These parents waffled and did not stand firm on what they wanted and jerked her around until she was too pregnant to easily get another job. And I think that is unfair. I am not suggesting that it is wrong for them to put their own child first. On the contrary, I would not want my nanny to bring their newborn with them. I would rather have my child in an accredited childcare center where they would have regular curriculum and evaluations of their goals. (Yes, good infant rooms plan curriculums.) <br /><br />However, I think all in all these parents sound like jerks. They should have stuck firm on their original decision and given plenty of notice to OP without changing their minds.<br /><br />As for the car issue, it was wrong of the parents to offer their nanny a car. They are not a bank and they shouldn't have acted like it and solicited Nanny into a false sense of security with them. <br /><br />And for the record, you can have a family relationship with your nanny family. I am a nanny to a little boy and have been since he was a newborn. He is a family member to me and the parents treat me with the utmost respect. He and my child are like brother and sister. I would not, however, take a car from them if they offered, nor would I take it from any of my own family members. But to bash OP for a bad decision and fail to see how she was treated meanly (they actually asked her if she would now be cruel to their daughter? How presumptuous and insulting!) is just failing to see her side of it. <br /><br />Is she perfect? No. Are these parents a-holes? Yes.don't bash OPnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-89845357022995458542009-12-01T10:37:36.743-05:002009-12-01T10:37:36.743-05:00VAnanny...I read your entire post and I stand by w...VAnanny...I read your entire post and I stand by what I said. I am not negative I am realistic. I would never put anyone's needs above what's best for my family and if people were honest here I doubt they would as well. Would YOU put someone else ahead of your own family? I doubt it. And when it comes to money, people get strange. Even among close families. <br /><br />I stand by what I say. Paling around with your employer is great. Getting nice perks and gifts and being like a sister to the mom all great. But when it comes to money even sisters can turn on each other. Nothing shows a professional nanny more respect and honor then a work agreement in writing that ensures her protection should anything change.Bloomfield babysitternoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-32235380788309725062009-12-01T08:43:24.662-05:002009-12-01T08:43:24.662-05:00I'm sorry : (
Best of luck to you OP, and en...I'm sorry : (<br /><br />Best of luck to you OP, and enjoy that little miracle you're about to have. That's where your focus should be. Let this go. Be happy.YOU'RE RIGHT VAnannynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-76473891066392114002009-11-30T20:52:55.100-05:002009-11-30T20:52:55.100-05:00Well said, Mary L.Well said, Mary L.VAnannynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-87967172257576176752009-11-30T20:40:57.356-05:002009-11-30T20:40:57.356-05:00Well, we're only going to get OP's version...Well, we're only going to get OP's version of this story, and she's claiming their were no attendance or performance issues that resulted in her discharge...I don't think it's worth parsing her statements to try to twist things around and claim dishonesty...It's not like this was courtroom testimony.<br /><br />It's obvious that the employers in this case were generous to a fault up until the point that they realized they would be paying for OP to divide her time between their child and hers. It was not a sacrifice they wanted to make, and they should have been more firm upfront with OP rather than waffling on her until she reached the advanced stage of pregnancy and let her go with no prospects and a bill for a car payment. <br /><br />OP,if it seems too good to be true, keep one eye open in the future.Mary Lnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-44694902375953565862009-11-30T19:52:22.813-05:002009-11-30T19:52:22.813-05:00Exaggerate: I'm sure most people would not tak...Exaggerate: I'm sure most people would not take the term "crucify" literally. Sorry you did. I'm not saying anyone has to believe OP is a victim. Everyone is certainly entitled to an opinion. I just think most of the people who have commented are beating a dead horse. Don't take that phrase literally either. I also think there is a nice way to state an opinion. It comes across much better. I think Mom does a great job of doing so. Others, not so much.VAnannynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-62325270968298469652009-11-30T19:45:47.084-05:002009-11-30T19:45:47.084-05:00VAnanny--
Since when is not believing somebody is ...VAnanny--<br />Since when is not believing somebody is an innocent victim the same as a crucifixion?Exaggerate much?noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-15775824824559433732009-11-30T19:07:03.757-05:002009-11-30T19:07:03.757-05:00Geez you guys are crucifying this girl! This is a ...Geez you guys are crucifying this girl! This is a RANT! She did not ask to be picked apart. It sounds like she was an amazing nanny that was perhaps a little naive in that she did not have a contract in place and trusted that this family would be there for her. OP, you have a baby on the way! And at least you have a job, no matter how small it may seem. Many are not so lucky! Good luck!!!!!!VAnannynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-53944218634943464622009-11-30T17:37:45.130-05:002009-11-30T17:37:45.130-05:00Amanda.....poster. said...
"Just so everyone ...Amanda.....poster. said...<br />"Just so everyone knows...I was on time everyday..if I knew I was going to be more than a few minutes late..due to traffic..I called."<br /><br />On time every day? <br /><br />When you were "MORE THAN A FEW MINUTES LATE", you called? <br />This does not jibe with your claim of being on time everyday. According to you, you were late enough to have to call on more than one occasion. It also indicates that there were additional times when you were late, but not late enough, IN YOUR OWN ESTIMATION anyway, to even bother to call.<br /><br />"Due to traffic?" How many times must one be late going from the same point A to the same point B at the same time of day to learn what the maximum travel time may be (barring some truly terrible unforeseen road situation, which may legitimately happen ONCE or TWICE max in a year) and be sure to leave home with enough time to navigate minor accidents, traffic jams, etc., which are a part of everybody's daily commute?AND WE GET A LITTLE MORE OF THE STORY FROM OP HERSELF....noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-15738636798860436492009-11-30T11:38:02.633-05:002009-11-30T11:38:02.633-05:00Bllomfield: You must have not read where I said th...Bllomfield: You must have not read where I said that I have not worked for them for 6 years and we still continue to have close contact. I just got back from a Disney World trip with them. I think it is very sad that you have such a negative point of view.VAnannynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-44566180280060207432009-11-30T10:29:36.178-05:002009-11-30T10:29:36.178-05:00VAnanny...I think you are confusing having great e...VAnanny...I think you are confusing having great employers-which I have had both in the corporate world and as a childcare provider...as becoming part of the family.<br /><br />The family I work for now is great and they keep in touch with most of their old nannies. However I never kid myself into believing that they would ever put my needs, comfort or well being above heir own. Because they are great employers, they had no qualms about having a work contract written out one that is renewed every year. That to me is the sign of a caring and responsible employer. They thought enough of me and my worth to sign on the bottom line and ensure I am not left in the lurch should things change in their lives or mine. <br /><br />As for the story OP is giving well there is always three sides to every story. One side, the other side and the truth, which usually lies somewhere in the middle.Bloomfield babysitternoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-76124827514949245342009-11-29T17:57:06.926-05:002009-11-29T17:57:06.926-05:00"WELL...I didn't call her on Monday...I h..."WELL...I didn't call her on Monday...I have no idea why she expected me to. " <br /><br />I'm assuming she left upset and the conversation wasn't over. She didn't get back to them and Mom assumed she just up and quit. <br /><br />There's still more to this story than we're ever going to find out from OPChiNannynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-80845240086448079912009-11-29T15:52:48.899-05:002009-11-29T15:52:48.899-05:00Well Amanda (OP), I'm confused now. IF you had...Well Amanda (OP), I'm confused now. IF you had Mondays off anyway, why did the mom assume you were not coming in Tuesday (or any more after that?) The parents had told you they wanted you to keep working for another few weeks so something is missing...cali momnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-69384686696828324642009-11-29T15:19:34.687-05:002009-11-29T15:19:34.687-05:00I get the impression that the family realized just...I get the impression that the family realized just how much it would be costing them in maternity leave, and paying for another nanny for that time. So, as far as saying how generous the family was being with the leave time, bullocks! OP didn't receive any benefits as far as that's concerned.<br /><br />As far as I can see, the only perk she got in this arrangement was them acting like the bank when they financed her car for her. And now she still has to pay that back, (rightfully so). But they took away her employment, giving her a one month grace period to find another job. Being heavily pregnant diminishes her chance in finding employment.TwistedNoodlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15580213872293358268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-34190940138276834142009-11-29T14:52:50.876-05:002009-11-29T14:52:50.876-05:00Just so everyone knows...I was on time everyday..i...Just so everyone knows...I was on time everyday..if I knew I was going to be more than a few minutes late..due to traffic..I called. I worked weekends for them when they asked and stayed late. I wasn't a no call no show type of person.Amanda.....poster.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-41416876596900285942009-11-29T14:42:15.682-05:002009-11-29T14:42:15.682-05:00Blunt and Honest....
I didn't have to show up...Blunt and Honest....<br /><br />I didn't have to show up for work on Monday..I should have put that in. I was off on Mondays.Amanda..poster.noreply@blogger.com