tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post7966569309663969923..comments2024-03-19T03:27:24.068-04:00Comments on I SAW YOUR NANNY: Dinosaur Park in NYCLeigh Raymerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18210572527823459842noreply@blogger.comBlogger50125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-69411717617400236522009-10-09T00:53:31.132-04:002009-10-09T00:53:31.132-04:00Nanny and mommy, just catching up here. I'm tr...Nanny and mommy, just catching up here. I'm trvling. Sorry if my prv post came across as attitde. It's always late when I have a chance to come here so not always diplomatic. My post wasn't directed at you as I thought most people were not understanding the op. Nothing personal to anyone. Ps Maggie iave a dd with auti so l know what it's like. Hang in there!NVMomnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-80460632270299932382009-10-08T20:27:26.604-04:002009-10-08T20:27:26.604-04:00Hahahaha that was hilarious.Hahahaha that was hilarious.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-38321622051524611082009-10-03T21:57:57.793-04:002009-10-03T21:57:57.793-04:00Elizabeth you need a hobby.Elizabeth you need a hobby.MinuteMugglehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18219835884927406283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-14930182145150232742009-10-03T04:26:54.311-04:002009-10-03T04:26:54.311-04:00Elizabeth
WTF are you talking about? You are think...Elizabeth<br />WTF are you talking about? You are thinking I made this up? Sorry, but good or bad, I do not have the time to come up with something so colorful or creative.<br /><br />If you think for one second that there aren't people out there that exist that actually write like this, you my friend, are very naive.<br /><br />Next.MaryPoppin'Pillshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01493804863551764605noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-50681274879593712632009-10-02T16:17:48.427-04:002009-10-02T16:17:48.427-04:00Okay...I'm calling shenanigans on Mary Poppin&...Okay...I'm calling shenanigans on Mary Poppin' Pills...especially because none of her other posts are written in this schizo style.Elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00870431755241135684noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-35011997641632129182009-10-02T16:10:26.825-04:002009-10-02T16:10:26.825-04:00It was strange to see but the evil woman so gleefu...It was strange to see but the evil woman so gleefully take from the child the raisins and put them in the garbage, but it was very hard to watch the nanny squeeze the baby's face with her big hands.opnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-53078801683228576362009-10-02T16:08:42.395-04:002009-10-02T16:08:42.395-04:00Due to OP's colorful but untrustworthy narrati...Due to OP's colorful but untrustworthy narrative, we are left without clues as to what actually happened here. Did the nanny throw away an empty raisin box and then playfully squeeze her young charge's face in order to cajole her out of a tantrum? Or did she cruelly dispose of the coveted raisins and then abuse the little tyke by popping her in the face? It's impossible to tell, and OP isn't coming back to fill us in...I'm moving on.Elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00870431755241135684noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-64825424446289535692009-10-02T09:17:54.348-04:002009-10-02T09:17:54.348-04:00Easttxmom,
Cool. I grew up in Caifornia. You'...Easttxmom,<br />Cool. I grew up in Caifornia. You've been here a lot longer than me! We arrived in '93. Did you enjoy the storm we sent you last night? Good thing my little dog happened to be inside when it hit, otherwise I fear she might be out your way this morning!<br /><br />nanny and mom,<br />Thank you. You're very sweet. I am happy to see from your moniker that your efforts have paid off and you re a mommy. I'll bet you're a pretty darn good one. It sounds like you have a deep appreciation for what a blessing it is to be a mom. <br />I often console people in the middle of infertility issues that they will receive one very special gift for all of their heartache and long wait to become parents...they will never take their children for granted...even in those moments that would try the patience of a saint. (Not that they will behave as saints in all of those moments...but no matter what, it stays in the back of your mind that things could be a whole lot worse than, say, having purple crayon "a-la Harold" on the walls of every single room in your house. And yes, that actually happened to me.)<br /><br />MM,<br />Hang in there. I cannot even imagine how much patience it must take to live in your world. Please don't beat yourself up for saying, "Oh no!" It is unreasonable to expect yourself to be perfect, or to operate as some sort of robot. You are dealing with a very stressful situation. It sounds like you do an excellent job of being loving to your daughter. Instead of being upset with yourself when you let your exasperation show, just go over to your daughter instead, give her a big hug and say, "Mommy's sorry. Sometimes mommies get sad and grouchy, just like little girls do, but it's not your fault." Then think up a couple ways you might have handled whatever it was a little better, save them up in your mind for next time, and then LET IT GO.momnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-83643317148454272242009-10-02T07:55:17.184-04:002009-10-02T07:55:17.184-04:00well, despite her style of writing she certainly g...well, despite her style of writing she certainly got everyone's attention!Ravenswood Nannynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-62107654865612668382009-10-02T07:16:32.307-04:002009-10-02T07:16:32.307-04:00I totally agree about the face squeezing: not cool...I totally agree about the face squeezing: not cool. <br /><br />Regarding having patience with children, I know it's hard sometimes: I have to be so patient with my child since she has autism. Last night, I saw a program on Discovery about a family with 6 children, all of them autistic, all of them on different parts of the AS from high functioning to classic autism (their 6 year old was developmentally only an infant) and I could not believe the patience these parents had with their children. I only have one.<br /><br />I do not spank my daughter, grab her roughly, or squeeze her in any way, except for big hugs! When she gets into her poop and decorates the wall, or bites me, or rips up a library book, I take a deep breath and deal with it appropriately. And I'm no mother of the year, trust me! I do lose my patience, but I wait until my child is asleep and then call my sister and cry to her on the phone! lol I don't lose it on my child. Even when I snap at her occasionally in anger or say "Oh, no!" in an exasperated way I feel guilty. Taking frustration out/disciplining physically is just not ok in my book. I just don't do it. <br /><br />How can a nanny have such little patience with a child that she would squeeze their poor little cheeks or neglect them or abuse them in any way? I think it really is horrible. I do hope the parents see this. I would want to know!MinuteMugglehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18219835884927406283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-85938149032974171472009-10-01T23:30:37.464-04:002009-10-01T23:30:37.464-04:00Texan not "Texas" lol. Sorry it is abo...Texan not "Texas" lol. Sorry it is about my bedtime and its been a long day.Easttxmomof3noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-58466854553652188192009-10-01T23:27:48.136-04:002009-10-01T23:27:48.136-04:00Hi Mom and thank you. I live about 20 miles outsi...Hi Mom and thank you. I live about 20 miles outside of Tyler. So I am about 120 miles east of Dallas. I am actually an "adopted" Texas as I am originally from New York but have lived here since I was 10 years old.Easttxmomof3noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-68424670120248008312009-10-01T23:19:31.480-04:002009-10-01T23:19:31.480-04:00Amen easttxmom,
Are you in Tyler?Amen easttxmom,<br />Are you in Tyler?momnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-61083857097577053932009-10-01T21:50:34.756-04:002009-10-01T21:50:34.756-04:00Fine, the OP went well overboard with the descript...Fine, the OP went well overboard with the description and drama stuff. And I could really care less about the stupid raisins. All I am saying is if it were MY child and someone I was paying to care for my child sqeezed her face so hard that she was crying out in pain then yes that IS a "BIG FREAKING DEAL". Everyone seems so hung up and a stupid box of raisins and on her over exagerated description. The main part of the whole sighting that stood out for me was "She grabbed that tiny child's face and put a massive hand on her face and on one side poked a finger threw each of her cheeks. This made the child make a fish face, she was squeezing that precious child so hard. The baby starts to squeal now." Maybe THIS is why I make the sacrafices to be a SAHM (and yes I know not everyone can). Because if this was MY child I don't care if she was having the worst day ever, and I could'nt give a flip about the damn box of raisins, but as soon as you put a hand on my child you are gone.Easttxmomof3noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-15391645282531903962009-10-01T17:13:22.516-04:002009-10-01T17:13:22.516-04:00okay the child was abused. thats the point and tha...okay the child was abused. thats the point and that is what it comes down to. But it is still okay to let the OP know that she made a freaking fool of herself at the way she was writing her sighting.<br /><br />I'm sorry, but she really didn't need to put in half of that, she could have gotten down to the point. In fact, the point seemed like a tiny little part of the story, who knows if the kid was allowed to have raisins. WE DON'T. <br /><br /><br />all I learned from this post was that the child's caregiver looks like the devil. She squished the child's cheeks. BIG FREAKING DEAL. if she looked like Mary Poppins and did that the OP wouldn't have cared. it was all about those devil eyes that made her narrow in on that girl.<br /><br />maybe they were going to have lunch soon and the kid shouldn't have had any more raisins.Lizzy Lindellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01789491484148565653noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-12638421252774571332009-10-01T12:22:48.340-04:002009-10-01T12:22:48.340-04:00mom,
absolutely. and well said, as usual.
i cer...mom,<br /><br />absolutely. and well said, as usual.<br /><br />i certainly understand about children being a gift, and about treating them as such. infertility, fertility drugs, hormones, miscarriage, and almost every possibly pregnancy scare and problem ... that's me. <br /><br />children ARE a gift. and a miracle. they deserve to be treated as such. if we all kept that at the forefront of our minds, we would be much better nannies and parents, but that is often easier said than done when you are in the throes of things, i think. i certainly did not have that at the forefront of my mind when i responded to this post, and although i am not sure that my response would have been completely different, your response is a refreshing reminder of why we are all (hopefully) on here, why we care, and why children are a part of our lives. thank you.nanny and mommynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-81910594239616586292009-10-01T09:21:01.494-04:002009-10-01T09:21:01.494-04:00nanny and mommy,
What I meant is that I don't...nanny and mommy,<br /><br />What I meant is that I don't usually pay attention to who writes what, unless I go back to check specifically because I am responding directly to a certain post. But lately, when I have taken the time to tell somebody that I really liked their post, I have had other people (who may have been having a differing opinion with that person) come back and think I was purposely criticizing them. Good or bad, if I am speaking directly to somebody, I try to address my comments directly to them to avoid this issue...but not always successfully. I just wanted to make sure you didn't feel personally attacked.<br /><br />And please, don't put me on any sort of pedestal as a mom or as a person. The only difference between me and many posters here is that my kids are older...which means that I have a lot more experience to draw on. I have seen many children raised from birth to adulthood, and have seen the effects, good and bad, of certain parenting practices. (Although I think I do have an extra level of appreciation for my kids because had to work so hard to have the three healthy ones I do have. So every morning when I woke up and they were there it felt like an incredible gift to me. Which is why my heart hurts to read about a precious little two year old being treated so gruffly as the one in this thread. She is somebody's precious gift, and deserves to be treated as such.)<br /><br />But, beyond that, I have made as many parenting mistakes as most people here, I would suppose. When it is appropriate to the thread I sometimes mention those as well...as cautionary tales. But for the most part, what I tend to write about are the good suggestions I have...which either come from the things I did that worked well, or things I saw other parents do that I admired. (Or, on the flip side, things that ended up badly...again, as cautionary tales.) With that, I probably end up looking better than I was/am. I am not perfect. My kids are not perfect. But I can say in all honesty that I have tried my best to be a good mom every single day. (And even with that I sometimes screw up.) If we all just do that, we can at least rest assured that we didn't fail our children for selfish reasons. We will all fail our kids in some way or other...but let's just do our best jobs possible as moms, and the love we have shown our kids in doing so will hopefully help fill in the gaps we will leave in our unintentional failures. <br /><br />Sometimes I have said to my kids, "I made mistakes with you, but I hope you know I hard I have tried every single day to be a good mom to you." They do. They know they are the most precious things in the world to their dad and me. That has to count for something, right?momnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-34216568544587630702009-10-01T00:01:05.009-04:002009-10-01T00:01:05.009-04:00I found the writing style pretty funny. How could...I found the writing style pretty funny. How could she tell her ankles were strong? I pictured the nanny bourreeing around the playground en pointe. : ^ )<br /><br />The nanny appeared angry. The face squishing sounds like OP is describing rough treatment, not a playful fish face.<br /><br />The raisons issue: I thought by "no more" she was saying you may not have any more, and threw the remaining raisons away. <br /><br />Is this a kind and loving nanny, who is good with toddlers? No, and that is what the OP picked up on.Manhattan Nannynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-21737739075910967222009-09-30T23:41:44.662-04:002009-09-30T23:41:44.662-04:00My problem with this post is the dramatic language...My problem with this post is the dramatic language and the effect it has. Like Nanny and Mommy said, these actions can be done different ways and have very different meanings. I have tossed out a box or baggie, said "no more" to a small child in a kind or neutral way, and the child starts crying because they want more and that's how little kids express emotion. <br /><br />For a site that's supposed to offer parents facts, I think a sighting should be written without the dramatics. Save that for creative writing time. Sadly, if this nanny was truly mean to this child, the parents may never believe it because of the silly way the sighting was written. It seems over the top and embellished.ChiNannynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-15338179275262204112009-09-30T23:33:29.758-04:002009-09-30T23:33:29.758-04:00oops, writing on my phone. that explains any odd t...oops, writing on my phone. that explains any odd typos. should have read "nanny and mommy," but that's not how it came out.nanny and mommynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-91127325239447530912009-09-30T23:31:15.526-04:002009-09-30T23:31:15.526-04:00thanks, mom.
all of my comments today have been u...thanks, mom.<br /><br />all of my comments today have been under "nanny and mo<br />," as far as I know. I appreciate the way you express things, even if I think that you are probably far more perfect (and I mean that) than I will be on my best day.<br /><br />I wasn't trying to start anything today, truly just stating MHO about the way posts are written.nanny and mommynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-35979298183199693662009-09-30T22:52:03.805-04:002009-09-30T22:52:03.805-04:00nanny and mommy,
before we even get there...my res...nanny and mommy,<br />before we even get there...my response to nvmom was in no way intended to be a dis to you. I don't even know what posts you wrote.momnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-52703850663812987652009-09-30T22:48:24.208-04:002009-09-30T22:48:24.208-04:00NVmom, why the attitude? I did read the post caref...NVmom, why the attitude? I did read the post carefully. I never said the raisin box was empty. I didn't see the raisins as a big deal either way. I feel certain that I have had to toss something from a charge or my children out and used the phrase "no more" without malice. and I got the part about the fish face, too. believe it or not, I do that with my girls and it makes them laugh. they can't do fish face on their own, so they think it's hilarious. they also think it's funny if you thump them on the back or bottom so it makes their voice sound funny. the intent of the action I'd what masters, obviously.<br /><br />I've stated a few times what my issue with the post was and have no idea why I've somehow gotten demonized in the process. I'm not mean -- to my kids or my charges -- and I'm also not perfect. Neither one of these things has anything to do with the fact that clear, detailed, unembellished posts in painting an accurate picture of the situation and seem most helpful ... IMHO!nanny and mommynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-30305277153575000932009-09-30T22:44:38.504-04:002009-09-30T22:44:38.504-04:00NVMom,
You're absolutely right.
A proper resp...NVMom,<br />You're absolutely right.<br /><br />A proper response when running of raisins is, "I'm sorry sweetie, they're all gone. We can have lunch when we go home."<br /><br />If the child persists in crying over the raisins, a proper response for a two year old is, "Oh, you must be getting sleepy to cry so much. Shall we have a rest on the bench or go home for a nap?" (When I offered these options to my kids, I found remarkably often that they were able to stop the tears and resume playing pretty seamlessly. What ARE the odds? hehehehe)<br /><br />Being ugly to them and pinching their faces only serves to make them more upset and teaches nothing at all, except maybe "You are bad. You are a bother. I don't like you much."momnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-87723214738507180672009-09-30T22:42:00.559-04:002009-09-30T22:42:00.559-04:00Whether or not the OP's description is over th...Whether or not the OP's description is over the top is really irrelavent. In my honest opinion this poor baby was abused. I have a 3 yr. old little boy and if ANYONE were to sqeeze his little face that way and made him squeal in pain like the OP said the girl did, well it wouldn't matter if they looked like the devil or Mary Freekin Poppins because I would probably break their arm! I am a very even tempered and laid back person except when it comes to the care and safety of my children. What stood out most to me in the OP's sighting was not her drama or style of writing, but was the fact that the caretaker physically hurt that poor little girl to the point that she cried out in pain.Easttxmomof3noreply@blogger.com