tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post7531252661522347037..comments2024-03-18T15:23:26.084-04:00Comments on I SAW YOUR NANNY: Burned-out Nanny gets FlamedLeigh Raymerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18210572527823459842noreply@blogger.comBlogger126125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-36955999094771082742009-02-05T18:59:00.000-05:002009-02-05T18:59:00.000-05:00Enclosed area + nearby + glancing up / knowing whe...Enclosed area + nearby + glancing up / knowing where the child is or what he is doing at all times + being aware of baby's status = no fault. <BR/><BR/>The icky keys matter is nonsense too. As big a fan of OCD-like hand washing as I am, a bottle of Purell in my coat pocket, hand wipes in my backpack and diaper bag, a bottle of Purell in my car, etc. recent research suggests that some level of exposure is required for a healthy immune system. <BR/><BR/>Of course, I typically go with a cell phone. People think you're crazy if you let a baby play with your cell / won't comment. <BR/><BR/>* Side Note: This once landed a RAZR into a cup of apple juice (and yet I still do it), so be forewarned.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-29752294210162441802008-08-05T00:36:00.000-04:002008-08-05T00:36:00.000-04:00Quite true, LL. I know many nannies who weren't co...Quite true, LL. I know many nannies who weren't co-sleep fans until they became moms. Heck, I am not a big co-sleeping fan, but I am sure that at 2 am with a baby things change, lol!chickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08036917167478045508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-43605565732837799912008-08-05T00:31:00.000-04:002008-08-05T00:31:00.000-04:00this is a total tangent, but i wanted to point out...this is a total tangent, but i wanted to point out that people co-sleep because it helps everyone in the family get MORE sleep, not less. co-sleeping especially makes snese if you are breastfeeding as you can latch the baby on and go back to sleep. i did not co-sleep with my first two, but did with my third, and i was much better rested not having to get all the way up all night long.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-19816763956814637582008-08-04T23:31:00.000-04:002008-08-04T23:31:00.000-04:00Well, this thread has been quite entertaining. I ...Well, this thread has been quite entertaining. I have been pondering what could be the source of Appalled's vitriol toward nannies. Could it be insecurity about her own parenting? If nannies are all incompetent and lazy, she can feel good about her own less than perfect performance. As she said, after all, she is not being paid!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-34510724246433449412008-08-04T23:24:00.000-04:002008-08-04T23:24:00.000-04:00Thanks for the compliment bebe. I am no genius, bu...Thanks for the compliment bebe. I am no genius, but I can write semi-coherently most times, lol!chickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08036917167478045508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-79972680723494149772008-08-04T23:23:00.000-04:002008-08-04T23:23:00.000-04:00Ummmm....what?Seriously, appalled, relax. Take a b...Ummmm....what?<BR/><BR/>Seriously, appalled, relax. Take a break, do something fun for yourself, and then come back and respond to posts when you are able to do so coherently, ok?<BR/><BR/>No one here is out to get you personally. Well, at least *I* am not out to get you. Haven't insulted you, called you names, or otherwise been overtly nasty. You, on the other hand are getting way too wound up.<BR/><BR/>Let perfection go before you strain something important.chickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08036917167478045508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-10727497354941479762008-08-04T23:14:00.000-04:002008-08-04T23:14:00.000-04:00Shooooooot..Appalled, what's up boo? You seem upti...Shooooooot..<BR/><BR/>Appalled, what's up boo? You seem uptight. Maybe a glass of wine before bed tonight?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-79400453362389769972008-08-04T23:12:00.000-04:002008-08-04T23:12:00.000-04:00Lmao! Who said anything about being overweight?! L...Lmao! Who said anything about being overweight?! <BR/>Lady, are you off your rocker, or what?<BR/>And if you're trying to insult someone, maybe you should come up with something a little better.<BR/> <BR/>Guess your kinda missing that college degree right about now, huh?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-85968462429908996732008-08-04T23:03:00.000-04:002008-08-04T23:03:00.000-04:00Just for your information...My kids go to sleep at...Just for your information...<BR/>My kids go to sleep at 8pm. Not something lazy nannies can handle without being cruel. Now.. go take your horrible nanny lazy selves and do something respectable. oh. and lose some weight. oh. and guess what. the world doesnt owe your fat asses anything.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-16153565446420943862008-08-04T22:54:00.000-04:002008-08-04T22:54:00.000-04:00ChickUB = urban babyBTW chick, did I ever tell you...Chick<BR/>UB = urban baby<BR/><BR/><BR/>BTW chick, did I ever tell you that I think you're a genius?<BR/>I loved your post!!!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-72117347046254125922008-08-04T22:25:00.000-04:002008-08-04T22:25:00.000-04:00bebe, her answers and rants are so completely cont...bebe, her answers and rants are so completely contradictory and convoluted that I wasn't expecting her to make sense. I just wanted to use the "good enough" argument. <BR/><BR/>Because that's what I happen to believe. Well intentioned people, will, generally, make the "good enough" choice when it comes to their kids/charges. No one is perfect - it's too stressful and exhausting!chickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08036917167478045508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-64146746103260862562008-08-04T22:20:00.000-04:002008-08-04T22:20:00.000-04:00Appalled, I think your values are seriously screwy...Appalled, I think your values are seriously screwy. Who expects a nanny to be MORE perfect than a mom????<BR/><BR/>If you seriously believe that, then you should be searching for a nanny, because the nanny would be BETTER for your kids than you are, right? That doesn't quite jibe with your anti-nanny rants, does it?<BR/><BR/>No one is perfect. Most people can accept that they will screw up, and that others will screw up. The OP screwed up, and she seems to have admitted that. Not perfect does not = horrible slacker. Not perfect = human. Moms, Nannies, Dads, none of us are perfect, and tearing each other down does nothing but damage. <BR/><BR/>Read what I said below about your choices, and see how crappy you feel after being raked across the coals for "good enough" choices. TBecause frankly, I am not all that concerned about your choices, since I feel I can likely assume they are "good enough" for you. The OP made a "good enough" choice, like moms do all the time, and your holier than thou attitide is alienating and, frankly it makes no sense.<BR/><BR/>BTW, what the heck is UB?<BR/><BR/>~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~<BR/><BR/>First of all.. Im not a PAID employee entrusted with the care of children... remember that.<BR/><BR/>****See my points above.<BR/><BR/>Appalled, will you answer my questions? I'd really like to know if you "slack" in your SAHM job.<BR/><BR/>Did you breastfeed?<BR/>Yes. All three until 9 months<BR/><BR/>****Slacker in the POV of BF proponents<BR/><BR/>Did you BF until your child was at least 2?<BR/>fuck that<BR/><BR/>****Slacker, see above<BR/><BR/>Did you replace any bottles and sippies with BPA free stuff as soon as you heard rumors about BPA being hazardous? I did my research and no. <BR/><BR/>****Slacker - why not err on the side of caution, as the enviromental moms would say?<BR/><BR/>Did you co-sleep?<BR/>No. I need my sleep (so Im not tired!!!!)<BR/><BR/>****selfish slacker, as AP moms would say<BR/><BR/>Did you CIO?<BR/>No.. thats cruel. I took the time to get my kids to sleep in a good way.<BR/><BR/>****silly slacker, as the independence focused moms would say<BR/><BR/>Did you make sure your child watched NO TV for at least his/her first 2 years? Yes. They still done<BR/><BR/>****Anti-educational TV slacker, as the baby einstein moms would say<BR/><BR/>Did you do all you could to make sure there are NO commercially exploitative toys in your home?<BR/>Give it up.<BR/> <BR/>****Exploitative commercial slacker, as the anti-commercialism moms would say<BR/><BR/>Do you buy only organic food?<BR/>Yes and no HFCS.<BR/><BR/>****Foolish spendthrift slacker, as the "we ate the stuff and we're fine" moms would say <BR/><BR/>Did you make your own baby food from organics? Blink.<BR/><BR/>****LAZY slacker, as the organics only no jarred foods moms would say<BR/><BR/>Do you use only green cleaning products and pesticides? Doesnt apply<BR/><BR/>****Filthy slacker, as the clean home = healthy home moms would say<BR/><BR/>Do you have your child on a schedule? All three dol<BR/><BR/>Do you allow your child to live according to his/her own body rhythms? IOW, is your child not forced into a schedule? No.. I am in charge of my children. They are on a schedule which they need. but they also need exercise<BR/><BR/>****Suppressive authoritarian selfish mom, as the "child led scheduling" moms would say<BR/><BR/>Do you make sure to keep one eye on your child at ALL times, even when you are exhausted, in need of a shower, or possibly hungry?<BR/>Hell yeah. All the time.<BR/><BR/>****Lying slacker, as any mom in this reality would say<BR/><BR/>Do you live for your child's comfort and make sure he/she comes first at ALL times? N/A.. Im a mom.. not a paid nanny<BR/><BR/>****contradictory and ridiculous slacker, as those moms on this thread would say<BR/><BR/>Are your needs completely ignored in favor of your child's needs at all times? Again..mom.. not a nanny<BR/><BR/>***unrealistic and foolish slacker<BR/><BR/>Obviously, a mom should be BETTER than any nanny - are you BETTER, appalled? Of course I am. I take our 13mo out of the stroller when I am dead tired and walk him around.<BR/><BR/>****So to be a non-slacker nanny that meets your standards, all I have to do is take a charge to the playground and run around with them? That's idioticchickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08036917167478045508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-55713809181162859902008-08-04T21:55:00.000-04:002008-08-04T21:55:00.000-04:00Haha! looks like she did have the time. (like I sh...Haha! looks like she did have the time. (like I should be surprised, where are those kids at??)<BR/>Um, who's answers do you like better? OR, who's answers sound MORE truthful?!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-42813926999434411412008-08-04T21:51:00.000-04:002008-08-04T21:51:00.000-04:00chickI think miss perfect is too busy posting on t...chick<BR/>I think miss perfect is too busy posting on the rest of the blog (and tending to her children, lol) to take the time out to answer your questions. So maybe we should take a stab at it for her, huh?<BR/><BR/>Did you breastfeed? No. she wouldn't dare take a chance messing up her perfect boobs.<BR/><BR/>Did you BF until your child was at least 2? *see previous answer.<BR/><BR/>Did you replace any bottles and sippies with BPA free stuff as soon as you heard rumors about BPA being hazardous? she's too busy to keep up on such information, don't ya know?<BR/><BR/>Did you co-sleep? well, she had to spend quality time with her kids somehow.<BR/><BR/>Did you CIO? yep. those headphones came in handy.<BR/><BR/>Did you make sure your child watched NO TV for at least his/her first 2 years? no. how else would she have time to be on ISYN? she's gotta keep them busy somehow.<BR/><BR/><BR/>Did you do all you could to make sure there are NO commercially exploitative toys in your home?<BR/>would this include the cap guns and barbie dolls the kids got for christmas?<BR/><BR/>Do you buy only organic food?<BR/>what's the difference?<BR/><BR/>Did you make your own baby food from organics? yeah, right. like I have the time! <BR/><BR/>Do you use only green cleaning products and pesticides?<BR/>does "mean green" count?<BR/><BR/>Do you have your child on a schedule?<BR/>of course I do. I'm perfect, remember?<BR/><BR/>Do you allow your child to live according to his/her own body rhythms? IOW, is your child not forced into a schedule?<BR/>forced into a schedule? hell no, my kids stay up all night!<BR/><BR/><BR/>Do you make sure to keep one eye on your child at ALL times, even when you are exhausted, in need of a shower, or possibly hungry?<BR/>Ha! Isn't this what started this whole arguement to begin with!<BR/><BR/>Do you live for your child's comfort and make sure he/she comes first at ALL times? Of course! Except when I have a hair appt.!<BR/><BR/><BR/>Are your needs completely ignored in favor of your child's needs at all times? Pshhh, I'm always ignored. wonder why?<BR/><BR/>Obviously, a mom should be BETTER than any nanny - are you BETTER, appalled? hmmm. let me get back to you on that.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-17660011932237012182008-08-04T21:45:00.000-04:002008-08-04T21:45:00.000-04:00To answer another poster who said the kids are the...To answer another poster who said the kids are the parents responsibility because they brought them into the world...<BR/><BR/>hello.. the lazy lazy nanny wouldnt have a job. Get real.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-1161827719417372022008-08-04T21:43:00.000-04:002008-08-04T21:43:00.000-04:00First of all.. Im not a PAID employee entrusted wi...First of all.. Im not a PAID employee entrusted with the care of children... remember that.<BR/><BR/>Appalled, will you answer my questions? I'd really like to know if you "slack" in your SAHM job.<BR/><BR/>Did you breastfeed?<BR/>Yes. All three until 9 months<BR/><BR/>Did you BF until your child was at least 2?<BR/>fuck that<BR/><BR/>Did you replace any bottles and sippies with BPA free stuff as soon as you heard rumors about BPA being hazardous? I did my research and no. <BR/><BR/>Did you co-sleep?<BR/>No. I need my sleep (so Im not tired!!!!)<BR/><BR/>Did you CIO?<BR/>No.. thats cruel. I took the time to get my kids to sleep in a good way.<BR/><BR/>Did you make sure your child watched NO TV for at least his/her first 2 years? Yes. They still done<BR/><BR/>Did you do all you could to make sure there are NO commercially exploitative toys in your home?<BR/>Give it up. <BR/><BR/><BR/>Do you buy only organic food?<BR/>Yes and no HFCS. <BR/><BR/>Did you make your own baby food from organics? Blink.<BR/><BR/><BR/>Do you use only green cleaning products and pesticides? Doesnt apply<BR/><BR/>Do you have your child on a schedule? All three dol<BR/><BR/>Do you allow your child to live according to his/her own body rhythms? IOW, is your child not forced into a schedule? No.. I am in charge of my children. They are on a schedule which they need. but they also need exercise<BR/><BR/>Do you make sure to keep one eye on your child at ALL times, even when you are exhausted, in need of a shower, or possibly hungry?<BR/>Hell yeah. All the time. <BR/><BR/><BR/>Do you live for your child's comfort and make sure he/she comes first at ALL times? N/A.. Im a mom.. not a paid nanny<BR/><BR/>Are your needs completely ignored in favor of your child's needs at all times? Again..mom.. not a nanny<BR/><BR/>Obviously, a mom should be BETTER than any nanny - are you BETTER, appalled? Of course I am. I take our 13mo out of the stroller when I am dead tired and walk him around.<BR/><BR/><BR/>By the way.. you need a reality check. It sounds like you've been reading UB a little too much.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-87791674576271502482008-08-04T21:20:00.000-04:002008-08-04T21:20:00.000-04:00Appalled, will you answer my questions? I'd really...Appalled, will you answer my questions? I'd really like to know if you "slack" in your SAHM job.<BR/><BR/>Did you breastfeed? <BR/><BR/>Did you BF until your child was at least 2?<BR/><BR/>Did you replace any bottles and sippies with BPA free stuff as soon as you heard rumors about BPA being hazardous?<BR/><BR/>Did you co-sleep?<BR/><BR/>Did you CIO?<BR/><BR/>Did you make sure your child watched NO TV for at least his/her first 2 years?<BR/><BR/>Did you do all you could to make sure there are NO commercially exploitative toys in your home?<BR/><BR/>Do you buy only organic food?<BR/><BR/>Did you make your own baby food from organics?<BR/><BR/>Do you use only green cleaning products and pesticides?<BR/><BR/>Do you have your child on a schedule?<BR/><BR/>Do you allow your child to live according to his/her own body rhythms? IOW, is your child not forced into a schedule?<BR/><BR/>Do you make sure to keep one eye on your child at ALL times, even when you are exhausted, in need of a shower, or possibly hungry?<BR/><BR/>Do you live for your child's comfort and make sure he/she comes first at ALL times?<BR/><BR/>Are your needs completely ignored in favor of your child's needs at all times?<BR/><BR/>Obviously, a mom should be BETTER than any nanny - are you BETTER, appalled?chickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08036917167478045508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-67956535486442405102008-08-04T21:14:00.000-04:002008-08-04T21:14:00.000-04:00Appalled,I would give her a glass of wine and a sh...Appalled,<BR/>I would give her a glass of wine and a shot of vodka too. And I would buy her a pizza and maybe also give her a gift card to Old Navy. <BR/><BR/>I really would. But I would drive her home cus I don't think people should drive drunk.UmassSlytherinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15647516080217006351noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-47322787726688341852008-08-04T21:02:00.000-04:002008-08-04T21:02:00.000-04:00The point is "appalled" is that these kids are not...The point is "appalled" is that these kids are not hers, she is the nanny. As a parent --they brought these kids into the world and should deal with them . For a nanny it is too much. On top of a nanny dealing with children they also have their own lives to deal with as well. OP-its ok that you felt overwhelmed and tired--ignore the idiots. It is only normal. I would also question your employers that they would leave you alone for a week alone with their kids! Get some rest and feel betterAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-90243137612500472772008-08-04T20:44:00.000-04:002008-08-04T20:44:00.000-04:00This nanny is lazy and a whiner. Whine Whine Whine...This nanny is lazy and a whiner. Whine Whine Whine. Im so tired I cant do my job. She was caught being lazy.. like she probably is more often than not and now is trying to protect her job. In addition being not very bright, she is not good at her job if she won't let a child out of a stroller because she doesnt feel like it. Good for everyone who would get this nanny a glass of wine!! I bet you wouldnt if she was watching your children.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-27513704211076227212008-08-04T15:33:00.000-04:002008-08-04T15:33:00.000-04:00it might have just been a better idea to stay home...it might have just been a better idea to stay home if it were baby's naptime. <BR/><BR/>Its okay to say no to a child, especially if you're a nanny. kids know how to get what they want from grown ups. So be firm and you say that the little baby gets horrid on the playgroud and that lady said that the boy was wrecking havoc...well do you think their behaivor comes from their knowledge of what they can get away with? Don't be afraid to say no, and if you are watching the kids, they will sense that and see that and they will behave the best they can if they respect you, but know that kids will be kids, but some behaivor isn't acceptable, even if the parents are okay with their kids wrecking havoc on the park, doesn't mean you have to be.<BR/><BR/>Do your job, watch the kids. and maybe your "average normal" job will become a "super amazing" job that you'll look forward to every day.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-43747847300960717372008-08-04T15:25:00.000-04:002008-08-04T15:25:00.000-04:00I don't think you're ignoring the children at all,...I don't think you're ignoring the children at all, this lady was out of line and didn't know what she was talking about. <BR/><BR/>However, if you needed a break like that, don't go to a park to get it, you might be needed, I'm a nanny and I know that when I take the kids I nanny for to the park, i'm helping them on playground equipment, pushing them on the swings and if I am not, then I do sit and maybe do some hw (cuz i'm still in school), but making sure to glance up every now and then to make sure everything is okay, but at the park, the kids have have have to come first, after all...that is the job you chose. <BR/><BR/>if you want a break in your day, have the kids nap at the same time. Works well, but make sure its okay with their parents. The kids I nanny for nap at the same time and it gives me a nice break, ya know...instead of the park, which is a noisy place to take a nap anyway. Don't take your break when you're supposed to be watching someone elses children...if something were to happen to them...it would be YOUR fault.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-40512977344857730702008-08-04T14:53:00.000-04:002008-08-04T14:53:00.000-04:00appalled:for someone who insists she's "on" 24/7 a...appalled:<BR/>for someone who insists she's "on" 24/7 and never leaves her children unattended, you sure do spend a lot of time posting...<BR/>maybe you should remember that nannies run around all day taking care of someone else's kids and home, then leave exhausted only to have to face their own laundry/dishes/meals... a sahm is only taking care of her own family!! <BR/>btw--very VERY few nannies get benefits, much less overtime or breaks of any sort! At my last position (arranged through a reputable nanny agency and legal in every sense) I was lucky if I had a chance to eat or even pee!Denver Nannyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06104188981827200784noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-29020719592169872262008-08-04T13:06:00.000-04:002008-08-04T13:06:00.000-04:00I find it intersting also that no one has mentione...I find it intersting also that no one has mentioned that a stay at home, unlike a nanny, isn't expected nor will she pay attention non stop to the child at all times. My mom was a SAHM and she crafted and cleaned and ran errands, and had a life that didn't include catering to our every whim 24/7 and so do I. If those chldren's parents had been home all that time, the parents would have been doing adult thing sometimes. The children were NOT being ignored.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-66974210144674341082008-08-04T00:46:00.000-04:002008-08-04T00:46:00.000-04:00Sorry, meant the mom or nanny of the charge's FRIE...Sorry, meant the mom or nanny of the charge's FRIEND that he was playing with.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com