tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post7300486878761399478..comments2024-03-19T03:27:24.068-04:00Comments on I SAW YOUR NANNY: Worst Nanny Experiences - Part IILeigh Raymerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18210572527823459842noreply@blogger.comBlogger70125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-51589769565759737942008-07-07T23:42:00.000-04:002008-07-07T23:42:00.000-04:00I have been a nanny for about four years for four ...I have been a nanny for about four years for four different families (three part-time and now a full-time) and I just have to thank God after reading these posts because my families are amazing. I am still in touch with all of them and babysit for their kids from time to time. The parents all love their kids and wanted to spend time with them. <BR/>The contract idea is incredible. The family I am currently working for has a seven-page contract for nannies to sign, but everything is laid out - all expectations, house rules, pay and overtime, hours...literally everything. In addition, when I started the parents said that they believe in being open so that any problems either of us have, we could discuss and figure out a common solution. It has been such a blessing to know that if I have a problem, I can go to the mom and say here's my problem, what's a good solution and the mom will listen and come up with a good solution, and then vice versa. There is no pent-up issues because of this - I never have to feel like the parents are upset over something I did but they don't want to mention it. <BR/>So, if you are a family looking to hire a nanny, try those ideas. Believe me, relations will be a ton better if everyone feels as though there is communication happeningAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-12517427454825922132007-09-27T22:33:00.000-04:002007-09-27T22:33:00.000-04:00I have been a nanny for years, I have had some gre...I have been a nanny for years, I have had some great jobs and some awful ones, I think anyone in this business can relate. The reason I am writing this is not about a job that I got or even wanted but one I recently applied and interviewed for before quickly running away. I found this man on a community message board, he was looking for a full time live out nanny for his 4 boys, no cleaning involved, $17/hour, doesn't sound too bad right?? Well wrong lol.. We exchanged a few email and decided to do a phone interview first "as not to waste his time" He started by asking me about my living arrangements? "Did I have a boyfriend?" "How long have been together?" "were we serious?" "Was I going to get hired then turn around and get "knocked up" like most nannies do?" He then proceeded to ask me if I was active, I fumbled around giving him an answer and he says "well are you fit or are you fat?" being a larger girl I had no idea how to answer this, not that I did or should have. Next he tells me that if I am used to some "cushy ass job where you sit on your ass and watch little girls play with barbies then this isn't the job for me" he continues on telling me his nanny needs to get out on the felid/ice/ basket ball court and play contact sports with his boys, "were not looking for any sissy bullshit around here" so after all this I am basically speechless, not that I could get an word in edge wise. So he says he would like to meet, not at his house in case I am a "nut job" but perhaps at a coffee shop, "that way if your fat and ugly I can slip out the back door" Safe to say I skipped the interview, after taking to some nanny friends, turns out this guy has been looking for 4 years, I wonder why? lolAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-30796117716021233642007-09-13T15:52:00.000-04:002007-09-13T15:52:00.000-04:00WOW!!!!!!WOW!!!!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-2255608206825402072007-07-08T05:42:00.000-04:002007-07-08T05:42:00.000-04:00Here are the basics: Agree on and sign an employm...Here are the basics: Agree on and sign an employment contract before you ever start working. Then give your employers a daily note about how their child is doing. Also keep a weekly journal for them. You only need to summarize each week in the journal. Communicate with your employers. Ask for a monthly review during the first 3 months. Expect them to treat you with respect, pay you well and on-time, and honor the work you do. Reciprocate by doing your very best every day, following the family's schedule and being on-time as often as humanly possible.<BR/>Don't forget to enjoy what you do. Any employer who micromanages you, spies on you, verbally abuses you, demeans you or constantly disregards the rules of your contract is a JERK who does not deserve to have a quality nanny!!! If you are miserable, FIND ANOTHER JOB ASAP and give 2 weeks notice.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-77913201724799166612007-04-02T14:46:00.000-04:002007-04-02T14:46:00.000-04:00This is to number 11 and the people that don't get...This is to number 11 and the people that don't get her point.<BR/>I am a nanny living in a similar situation than this girl right now, the difference is that the mom doesn't work and doesn't live the house either but just follows me everywhere I go in the house. She doesn't help me with the baby, she just sits by me and watches whatever I am doing. It's annoying to hear what she has to say when it comes to feeding, bathing or whatever. It's frustrating to be ean experienced nanny hired to do exactly as you are told and still have to listen to all the drama of the mom that doesn't even know how to be a mom and how miserable her life is being rich and not having a job....it's so depressing, I feel so bad for her. Come on parents, hire a nanny and just let her do her job or get a teenager that you can teach how to do things and boss around.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-46605705578235138212007-03-13T11:52:00.000-04:002007-03-13T11:52:00.000-04:00and I wonder why so many mothers whine, "he/she (t...and I wonder why so many mothers whine, "he/she (the child) has no respect for me"<BR/><BR/>And then they sit back and demand respect.<BR/><BR/>Respect is Earned!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-47062657153036989952007-03-13T11:34:00.000-04:002007-03-13T11:34:00.000-04:00reading all the comments....about the nanny asked ...reading all the comments....about the nanny asked to record everything. Sorry folks that is just ridiculous. I raised two daughters from birth thru college on my own. It is ridiculous and has no proven medical need. That woman was a pscho. She needed to stay home and raise her own child.<BR/>I think nannys on the whole are doing these parents a huge favor. It is very difficult to raise children. But the outcome is not always that great. The parents have no relationship with the child. You cannot wait until your child is a teenager to start a relationship. You have to start from day one or your child will not respect you. If you want children then you need to stay home and raise them. They did not ask to be born. You are being selfish when you hire a Nanny and then expect and expect and then refuse to pay. The pay being offered now to nannies is insane. I paid a babysitter to watch my five year old until I came from work and I paid her $350 a week, this was in 1980. I see posts where parents are offering that in 2007. They are out of their mind.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-14418521454852968372007-02-25T16:32:00.000-05:002007-02-25T16:32:00.000-05:00JMT, your nephew is one lucky boy. And I wish mor...JMT, your nephew is one lucky boy. And I wish more people would not type the crap they do. It is very obnoxious when the name calling starts. Take care!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-85470618987134111562007-02-24T00:03:00.000-05:002007-02-24T00:03:00.000-05:00Thanks for the compliments on my posts. I'm reluc...Thanks for the compliments on my posts. I'm reluctant to say too much about myself, but I will say that I am neither a mom (sigh) nor a nanny. I am lucky enough to sit for and help raise my nephew since he was an infant. I am also a massage therapist, and have a long background in biology. Hence the health and science stuff. <BR/>As for keeping an even tone, I try to imagine saying the things I type face to face. I can't believe how some people on this blog talk to one another. <BR/>Be well.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-39103976842864424762007-02-23T03:00:00.000-05:002007-02-23T03:00:00.000-05:00I have had the same experience working for NY/NJ f...I have had the same experience working for NY/NJ families. I'm from a big city in the Midwest and even in this big city, I meet friendlier and more honest people here then I ever met in NY/NJ. It is so sad that people have children and then don't even raise them. I'm expecting my first child and I'm sad that I will have to find childcare so I can work. I want to be with my children, not pass them off to someone else. I love being a nanny,but I have to say that being taken advantage of is the number one duty of being a nanny.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-61976742518245507552007-02-23T00:12:00.000-05:002007-02-23T00:12:00.000-05:00I agree about L. I always got a laugh at the stor...I agree about L. I always got a laugh at the storms that would kick up when L posts. <BR/><BR/>And yes, a lot of comments are idiotic. I get very angry when people post crap about working moms not loving their children or that stay-at-home moms are lazy. I enjoyed the segment on Oprah about the whole mom thing, and thought of this site. Ah, to live in a perfect world....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-10130745390656007582007-02-23T00:08:00.000-05:002007-02-23T00:08:00.000-05:00Thanks.I missed that entirely.That's plain stupid....Thanks.<BR/>I missed that entirely.<BR/>That's plain stupid.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-10044096065549785642007-02-23T00:07:00.000-05:002007-02-23T00:07:00.000-05:001203, 836 says "obviously you don't have kids and ...1203, 836 says "obviously you don't have kids and if you do I'm sure you leave them to random people they are probably dirty and don't wear shoes" <BR/><BR/>Is that way off base or am I just being surly?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-21237265364326579992007-02-23T00:06:00.000-05:002007-02-23T00:06:00.000-05:00Alot of the comments are idiotic.I appreciate when...Alot of the comments are idiotic.<BR/>I appreciate when people call a spade a spade. Having said that, I also love reading the wise & introspective JMT comments. I miss L too! Even though I disagreed with everything she said.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-30078147502966420462007-02-23T00:04:00.000-05:002007-02-23T00:04:00.000-05:00jmt, you always come across with logical and sound...jmt, you always come across with logical and sound opinions. Thank you. It's a relief to have one person post without using terms like 'idiot' or other such nonsense. Just curious, are you a mom? nanny? neither? If you're any of the above, you are probably a very level headeded GOOD influance on the children in your life. Can't say that about a lot of others who post here.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-86417489840908198282007-02-23T00:03:00.000-05:002007-02-23T00:03:00.000-05:00barefoot dirty people?where is that?barefoot dirty people?<BR/>where is that?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-24522316296716117222007-02-22T23:59:00.000-05:002007-02-22T23:59:00.000-05:00I think 836 has a valid point. While the mom from...I think 836 has a valid point. While the mom from the first post was a little over the top, nothing asked of the nanny was outlandish. Who knows how long the parents tried having a baby. It would explain their determination to not miss a moment. No one here, including the OP, knows the circumstances.<BR/><BR/>BUT, 836, I think you went to far to suggest the nanny has mental issues. She admitted she was bored with the job, and used to having more children than just one to take care of. That is no reason to give up working with children. She isn't a bad nanny, just an underused one with that particular family. And what's with the reference to leaving "her" children, if she has any, with barefoot dirty people? That statement seems very juvinile to me. Are you kidding?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-29763597726643384612007-02-22T23:58:00.000-05:002007-02-22T23:58:00.000-05:00In defense of the OP, she repeatedly said that she...In defense of the OP, she repeatedly said that she was fine with the detailed food logs, poop logs, etc. It was when the micromanaging got weird and excessive that she took exception. A lot of people are glossing over that fact from her post and vilifying her for it. <BR/>The mom really sounds like she isn't ready to leave her child and wants to exert as much control as possible from afar in a situation where you by definition have given up that control of your precious to a caretaker. It's sad.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-61226679696285259212007-02-22T23:32:00.000-05:002007-02-22T23:32:00.000-05:0036 PM You are very defensive, did she strike a ne...36 PM You are very defensive, did she strike a nerve? Actually, you sound like her employer!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-79724383730766276032007-02-22T21:12:00.000-05:002007-02-22T21:12:00.000-05:008:36,What is wrong with you?Are you on Drugs?Why s...8:36,<BR/>What is wrong with you?<BR/>Are you on Drugs?<BR/>Why so angry?<BR/>You make no sense!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-88724367806787744672007-02-22T20:36:00.000-05:002007-02-22T20:36:00.000-05:00To the first "nanny"seriously,You need help.You mi...To the first "nanny"seriously,You need help.You might have experience with children, but that doesn't mean you know what you're doing, even in child develpoment 101 20 years of research prove that repetion of songs,activities etc. improves infants memory,speech, and learning abilities, so singing her the same song for the same activity everyday was a great idea!!!!!!! to say that a parent is too anal with their own child for simply asking you to monitor the babies eating habbits and bowel movements... is obsurd, especially when that is the first thing a pediatrician recommends, especially for new and nervous parents... some parents want to make sure they are doing the best possible for there child. especially if it's their first one, how do you know they hadn't miscarried, or had a child die before and maybe were just taking precautions.Even if they didn't every person considers safety a different way. obviously you don't have kids and if you do i'm sure you leave them to random people they are probably dirty and don't wear shoes. ok maybe the outfit thing was a little overboard, i'll give you that.. but just because she called every few hours you acuse her of being psychotic. unless the child is 6 or 7, you want to take as many precautions with their child. and posting a message on an international website about it, is very childish and immature. your judgement is obviously a little off, and possibly you're mental health...When a family welcomes you into their personal life and leave you to care for the life they created, as a trusted care giver you respect their wishes, as long as it does not affect their health or well being. maybe you should condsider a new profession! For the other horror stories, i didn't read them, but hopefully they are worth other reader's time!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-60331886623675711972007-02-22T13:18:00.000-05:002007-02-22T13:18:00.000-05:00if there was never enough food, maybe they shouldn...if there was never enough food, maybe they shouldn't have had a nanny??????Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-79357075987665333202007-02-22T13:17:00.000-05:002007-02-22T13:17:00.000-05:00I know how these nannies feel...i worked with a fa...I know how these nannies feel...i worked with a family of 5 children the parents didnt care about their kids becuae they had a 6th on the way...there was never enough food in the house...no phone in the house...anytime i would say something, the mother especially was good at telling lies and then quickly changing the subject...Some people just shouldnt have children.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-34527771917768513382007-02-21T18:51:00.000-05:002007-02-21T18:51:00.000-05:00These stories are worth money!These stories are worth money!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-23028092677981338652007-02-21T13:59:00.000-05:002007-02-21T13:59:00.000-05:00to the nanny who had such an experience with the i...to the nanny who had such an experience with the invitro (non)mother-<BR/>You weren't specific when as to what years you were there. But there are crucial years in a child's development where if they have structure, support and love, they will be okay. Experts disagree as to what precisely these formative years are. Some people say they are 0-3, others say 3-7, others 0-7. One day those children will be adults and every kindness that you had a chance to show those children lives somewhere in their hearts. I work with troubled teenagers and it is amazing to see this spark of light that still shines in some of these teenagers who have witnessed gruesome things, abuse, drug abuse, etc. I am constantly shocked by the seemingly out of character displays of compassion and kindness that pierce through outbursts and agitation. I often wonder, where did that child learn that kindness. And it is something that they can build on or we- as professionals can build on as long as that light is there, the child has hope!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com