tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post609009559678021945..comments2024-03-19T03:27:24.068-04:00Comments on I SAW YOUR NANNY: Is it bitchy of me to not give her a raise even though each year her job has gotten progressively easier....Leigh Raymerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18210572527823459842noreply@blogger.comBlogger73125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-1397622781201386452008-03-04T13:13:00.000-05:002008-03-04T13:13:00.000-05:0023 dollars an hour? No, she doesn't need a raise.....23 dollars an hour? No, she doesn't need a raise...and this is coming from a nanny. She needs to put the situation into perspective..and most importantly, you two need to sit down and figure out how you're going to handle this type of thing next time it comes up. <BR/><BR/>23 dollars an hour is very fair what you say she does and the amount of time she spends with all 5 of the children. It doesn't make you ungrateful OR bitchy to question whether or not she should be getting more and I'm not really sure why commenters are being so hard on you. <BR/><BR/>Set the max at 25 (I just read your update) dollars an hour. Considering what she does (or doesn't do..not even errands?), that's more than enough. <BR/><BR/>Don't let your nanny take advantage of you and don't let any of these people here make you feel like you're being ungrateful or doing anything wrong. She has gotten raises, as you mentioned, and her responsbilities seem to have decreased now that some of the kids are school-age. A lot of nannies would love to make 25 dollars an hour (I know I would!!!)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-18096404354951822382007-12-19T22:49:00.000-05:002007-12-19T22:49:00.000-05:00I was dismayed to see how many people thought this...I was dismayed to see how many people thought this mom was being a bitch. I have a similar problem. We only pay $15/hr for two kids, but I don't know many people who pay more around here, first of all, and second, I can't afford more, or even this really, and third, the responsibilities are going down. I give a week's pay at Christmas and allow her to choose her own equivalent of two weeks' vacation. I also give her a nice gift for her birthday and Christmas. Do I HAVE to give her a dollar more an hour each year? I didn't get a raise in my own job...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-81539554665782203052007-11-24T22:14:00.000-05:002007-11-24T22:14:00.000-05:00After reading your story, I can understand both si...After reading your story, I can understand both sides..<BR/><BR/>I suggest keeping your Nanny's salary at a max..<BR/>its crazy that nannies feel they deserve more maybe b/c of the career you have and how much money you are raking in-<BR/>they feel a sense of entitlement.<BR/>I am a psychology intern;so as I mentioned above, keep it at a dollar amount. you are not an animal or monster for doing so!<BR/><BR/>Since yo have children in school, for most part of the day- it sounds pretty fair to keep it at<BR/>a salary that is fair to the two of you, from here on in, basically as long as she is employed w/ no changes- reguardless of inflation..<BR/><BR/>In paying her weekly, she should also, be reminded what her annual salary salary comes to..<BR/>in all, don't feel guilty. she should have other options, if she is so cocky..<BR/>she is pressing the subject b/c she know you need her and is manipulating you to make you feel,she is capable of leaving, when its just a game!<BR/><BR/>Good luck!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-71945246947099863402007-11-13T14:34:00.000-05:002007-11-13T14:34:00.000-05:006 kids = 2 nannies! OMG! AND a cleaning womman and...6 kids = 2 nannies! OMG! AND a cleaning womman and possibly a PA- unles u are a SAHM........Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-40243358642406590432007-11-13T14:28:00.000-05:002007-11-13T14:28:00.000-05:00We are glad for your nanny that you have worked it...We are glad for your nanny that you have worked it out, but admit to secretly hoping you wouldn't. My husband a I had been watching the site with the anticipation that you would part ways. Our 6 need someone caring. <BR/><BR/>Harried Parents in West PalmAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-22164186270941697692007-11-13T07:01:00.000-05:002007-11-13T07:01:00.000-05:00OPI'm so glad you worked it out. I've worked as a ...OP<BR/>I'm so glad you worked it out. I've worked as a Nanny, but have never had a Nanny ... so I know it's hard work. I had a job where both parents fought in Desert Storm and for the duration they were gone, I had temporary guardianship over the little boy (when I was hired, this was not the agreement, but the husband ended up getting deployed right behind the wife to fight in the war, and they had nobody else). It was rough, but I loved the little boy, and he was never a moments trouble. So I'm glad you see the value in your Nanny and are paying her what she's worth.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-17996361953853244592007-11-12T22:46:00.000-05:002007-11-12T22:46:00.000-05:00Hi All-I thought that I would update everyone on o...Hi All-<BR/><BR/>I thought that I would update everyone on our decision. My husband and I sat down and had a heart-to-heart conversation the other night. In taking into account some of the things that we read on this post and advice that we had received elsewhere, we decided to up her pay to $25 an hour, especially since we will only need her for another year or so. <BR/><BR/>Reading all of the posts really made me realize how much I appreciate all that she does for us. She loves our kids and that's more than I could ask for. <BR/><BR/>In addition to this, we are planning on asking her possibly start running some errands when she only has one child with her, and only when she has time. (Grocery shopping, running to the post office and other simple things.)<BR/><BR/>Thank you to all of you who gave constructive comments and suggestions. We truly appreciated it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-78015356622384619042007-11-12T13:39:00.000-05:002007-11-12T13:39:00.000-05:00So OP ...Watcha gonna do?I think if you don't want...So OP ...<BR/>Watcha gonna do?<BR/>I think if you don't want to give her the raise, and it's possible to cut her back just a few hours so that she has alittle more free time - maybe that will make you both happy?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-57290474783476066462007-11-12T12:57:00.000-05:002007-11-12T12:57:00.000-05:00what's a nanny?what's a nanny?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-23271379084452154522007-11-11T16:44:00.000-05:002007-11-11T16:44:00.000-05:001102, all caps is rude. Go take your Ritalin.1102, all caps is rude. Go take your Ritalin.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-46862640996822307752007-11-11T16:23:00.000-05:002007-11-11T16:23:00.000-05:00you should talk and ask if she thinks it fairyou should talk and ask if she thinks it fairAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-77327695864190511632007-11-11T13:49:00.000-05:002007-11-11T13:49:00.000-05:00I had neighbors with two girls, a house cleaning s...I had neighbors with two girls, a house cleaning service and a stay at home mom who was up all night, slept all day. Their nanny worked for them till both girls were in school, then left over salary and issues that she wanted to go to school, they wouldn't agree to that even though both girls were in school when the nanny would have been in class or studying.<BR/>So the nanny left and they went through three nannies (that I knew of).<BR/>They finally, after 18 months, called the first nanny and told her she could have anything she wanted if she would come back. They ended up paying her $50,000 per year plus full room and board, a new car paid for and in her name and time off for school.<BR/>They would have been so much better off to work with her in the first place.<BR/>Now the nanny is happy, the mom gets to sleep during the day and the girls are well taken care of.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-83469857731900279632007-11-11T12:38:00.000-05:002007-11-11T12:38:00.000-05:00I understand where you are coming from, but if you...I understand where you are coming from, but if your five kids - regardless of how often they are around now - are very happy with their home situation, it's a testament to what a great job your nanny has done in being a part of your home team. For this, she should be rewarded. <BR/><BR/>Managing even one or two children well is still a LOT of work, so don't begrudge her on that front. If you have chores you can add, still leaving her time to actually care for and spend time with the children, then add them. Otherwise, I'd be grateful that you have a fantastic nanny and give her a decent raise.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-4049379489111711152007-11-11T12:33:00.000-05:002007-11-11T12:33:00.000-05:006:39- Where in Florida do you live?Katherine<B>6:39</B>- Where in Florida do you live?<BR/><BR/>KatherineAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-34756562856511157032007-11-11T11:02:00.000-05:002007-11-11T11:02:00.000-05:00YES!!!! IT IS BITCHY!! OMG I CAN'T BELIEVE YOU'RE ...YES!!!! IT IS BITCHY!! OMG I CAN'T BELIEVE YOU'RE EVEN ASKING THIS QUESTION!! IF I WERE A NANNY FOR THREE FREAKING YEARS AND DIDN'T GET A RAISE I WOULD DROP YOU ON YOUR STINGY ASS AND WALK OUT THAT DOOR SO FAST YOU WOULDN'T SEE ME LEAVE! IF YOU VALUE HER AT ALL THEN PLEASE GIVE HER A RAISE!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-17954098244931318482007-11-11T10:19:00.000-05:002007-11-11T10:19:00.000-05:00I think some of you are laboring under a misconcep...I think some of you are laboring under a misconception here. Yes, it's nice to feel appreciated and fulfilled in you job, but get a grip...MILLIONS of people work in jobs in which they feel undervalued and underappreciated. That's just part of being in the workforce these days. Yes, the welfare of someone's children is more important than whether or not somebody's catalog order gets out on time, but ultimately, it's the same thing. It's a job, and the PERFECT job probably doesn't exist. The key to the whole thing is a frank discussion at the outset, and again whenever needed ( as now ). A written agreement/contract may be a good idea. You can always give MORE than the agreement calls for ( in the case of an occassion or especially outstanding performance ) without creating an obligation or expection for it. In the meantime, the nanny will know what she can definitely expect. Seems like a win-win situation.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-49294411815053872882007-11-11T09:51:00.000-05:002007-11-11T09:51:00.000-05:00I would give her the raise. Even though her job ma...I would give her the raise. Even though her job may have gotten somewhat easier, there is always the cost of living to consider, and surely anyone who has been with you for awhile deserves that consideration. On the other hand, I know many of my fellow-nurses who don't make much more than that for a whale of a lot more work and responsibility, so that's another way to look at it. For the duties you ask of her, $20 is actually a lot, in my estimation. Nevertheless, you HAVE offered her that starting salary, and she's come to rely on it. Give her the raise. ( Is she live-in? If so, $20 is REALLY a lot....)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-89491629750219632312007-11-11T09:00:00.000-05:002007-11-11T09:00:00.000-05:00Some people are so rude... It is right for any jo...Some people are so rude... It is right for any job to get a raise. She is still giving you her time and energy. She is still working for you and being employed. It is right to give her the raise. You say she does a great job and a raise shows you appreciate her. I would be very offended to recieve a raise for 3 years and then all of a sudden not get one. Hope this helps.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-56248003779069989512007-11-11T08:41:00.000-05:002007-11-11T08:41:00.000-05:00There is such a thing as cost of living raises and...There is such a thing as cost of living raises and you should want to pay her more because she does such a great job. It's a same you want to be so freaking cheap! Here's some advise, take care of your own kids!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-20625895322313228972007-11-11T06:39:00.000-05:002007-11-11T06:39:00.000-05:00We have 6 under 6 (2 sets twins) and have been loo...We have 6 under 6 (2 sets twins) and have been looking for a good nanny. My husband and I don't travel anymore (wonder why), but we have talked it over and will give whomever we hire a 2wk paid vacation per year. Your current nanny seems wonderful. If you are willing to part with her, please indicate same on this page and maybe we can talk. She will not be required to do any housework here. We live in CO and FL.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-91495005256838631032007-11-09T19:27:00.000-05:002007-11-09T19:27:00.000-05:00Cutting her hours is bad advice. You will loose h...Cutting her hours is bad advice. You will loose her.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-65414398592814094632007-11-09T09:10:00.000-05:002007-11-09T09:10:00.000-05:00cut her hours if you dont need her there all day. ...cut her hours if you dont need her there all day. 5 kids.... id pay her $25 with a new contract of to do things.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-43742737537978749312007-11-09T09:03:00.000-05:002007-11-09T09:03:00.000-05:00I think what she is saying is that she charges $30...I think what she is saying is that she charges $30-35 per child per day. That would mean $210-$245 per day...which comes out to $21-$24.50 per hour. Sounds to be in the nanny range hourly. <BR/><BR/>Some people do that kind of childcare out of their own homes because it allows them to earn a living and still be at home with their own child. It also allows them to deduct a part of their rent/mortgage and household expenses as work related, and thereby saves them even more money. My mother did that when I was a baby, as my father worked in a factory and finished college.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-29710634588235098082007-11-08T23:21:00.000-05:002007-11-08T23:21:00.000-05:00So you barely make $20 an hour for 7 kids and you ...So you barely make $20 an hour for 7 kids and you have to provide food and all the toys and everything? Hells no. I wouldn't take care of 7 kids for less than 70 an hour!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-41703742162277849002007-11-08T23:19:00.000-05:002007-11-08T23:19:00.000-05:00Wow Kate, that is soooooooo cheap.No wonder there ...Wow Kate, that is soooooooo cheap.<BR/>No wonder there is a waiting list.<BR/>Daycares out in NY can be as much as nannies.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com