tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post5923008742953847998..comments2024-03-19T03:27:24.068-04:00Comments on I SAW YOUR NANNY: .. I have a bit of a situation with my nanny...Leigh Raymerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18210572527823459842noreply@blogger.comBlogger137125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-50149080809559159662007-11-29T09:03:00.000-05:002007-11-29T09:03:00.000-05:00I would find a new nanny... before this one kidnap...I would find a new nanny... before this one kidnaps your kid!<BR/><BR/>That is just creepy... <BR/><BR/>I mean I have adored children I have nannied for... but never made it a point to look like thier mother... !Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-71883388089953837352007-11-11T13:55:00.000-05:002007-11-11T13:55:00.000-05:00Thank you 821.Thank you 821.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-62655997057936799242007-11-11T08:21:00.000-05:002007-11-11T08:21:00.000-05:00Being asian, i feel the need to tell you, Oriental...Being asian, i feel the need to tell you, Oriental is a rug. Not a human.<BR/><BR/>Its extremely offensive to call an asian, oriental.<BR/><BR/>and did you rip this off SWF (single White Female)?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-82984487114733259732007-11-06T17:26:00.000-05:002007-11-06T17:26:00.000-05:00Yes, OP. Please let us know what happened. And to ...Yes, OP. Please let us know what happened. And to all of the OPS- PLEASE UPDATE US.<BR/><BR/>Waiting with baited breath,Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-68724101708164645942007-11-06T17:24:00.000-05:002007-11-06T17:24:00.000-05:00Hello OP:Did you let her go?Please update us on wh...Hello OP:<BR/><BR/>Did you let her go?<BR/><BR/>Please update us on whats going onAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-36668940301424405762007-11-03T18:51:00.000-04:002007-11-03T18:51:00.000-04:00That's kind of mystical thinking as a lot of truly...That's kind of mystical thinking as a lot of truly good people who are alone too.<BR/><BR/>maybe we all learned a lesson or at least were enlightened by this post. It only takes a minute to change and not be such a rigid thinker and anti-sister. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-86363913321484356332007-11-03T00:47:00.000-04:002007-11-03T00:47:00.000-04:00AhemI'm the one who asked where the sisterhood is....Ahem<BR/><BR/>I'm the one who asked where the sisterhood is.<BR/><BR/>I didn't mean feminism.<BR/><BR/>I meant an end to backbiting and bashing one another for no apparent reason.<BR/><BR/>This woman is not a yummy mummy in a Mercedes trotting off to work so she can pay for liposuction. This is a widow with a limited extended family.<BR/><BR/>If you are a woman attacking another woman like this you should be deeply ashamed and repentant.<BR/><BR/>There are bad nannies and there are bad mothers. This does not appear to be a bad mother.<BR/><BR/>And if you're one of those who attacked the poor woman and you find yourself lonely it may just be because you're horrible.<BR/><BR/>And you have earned your loneliness.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-8823398383119022202007-11-01T20:56:00.000-04:002007-11-01T20:56:00.000-04:004:36,Thanks for clearing that up. I understand. Th...4:36,<BR/><BR/>Thanks for clearing that up. I understand. This conversation just went waaaaaay off base with this feminism, but I know it is often hard to sit by and watch others' ignorance, even if you don't really wnt to get involved!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-71295326867797570552007-11-01T20:36:00.000-04:002007-11-01T20:36:00.000-04:001:48 "No one rational has a nanny."What is wrong w...1:48 <BR/>"No one rational has a nanny."<BR/>What is wrong with you? The OP is a widow! Are you the same bitter SAHM who bashes parents with nannies on every @#%# post? Get a life!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-6189884338077678262007-11-01T19:11:00.000-04:002007-11-01T19:11:00.000-04:00You are so kind to apologize believe me, I underst...You are so kind to apologize believe me, I understand how easy it is to misconstrue such an emotional discussion.<BR/><BR/>I think we should all send our prayers, even if we are agnostic, to this woman and her child.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-9938238014755163062007-11-01T18:27:00.000-04:002007-11-01T18:27:00.000-04:00I apologize 5:26. I misunderstood your comment com...I apologize 5:26. I misunderstood your comment completely. I have experiencesd the Scandinavian culture in both Norway and Denmark first hand. You are right that they tip the balance in favor of the single mother very well. In fact that make it very easy for a single mother to be a stay at home mom, because they put a high value on children and families. (It has a little bit of a negative effect in that there is not a huge downside, therefore deterrent, to unwed motherhood, but still it makes things easier for those who find themselves mothers and alone.)<BR/>I admire their culture very much for the way they take care of their people. <BR/>(Some things about the socialism there that I don't like, but that's a whole different matter.) <BR/><BR/>I thought you were advocating a socialist-type mass childcare system. That I think would be a disaster. I would love if we could find a way to put moms and kids back together. <BR/><BR/>Again, I apologize.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-46891471464660787832007-11-01T17:26:00.000-04:002007-11-01T17:26:00.000-04:00"especially after the apparent suggestion that soc..."especially after the apparent suggestion that socialism might have better implemented this fabulously horrific idea."<BR/><BR/>That's not what I meant at all. What I was saying is that in Canada or Western Europe this widow would have more options than Craigslist because of the higher taxes paid. Not saying it's perfect, not saying it's a panacea but anyone who's lived in France or Scandinavia as I have knows the scales of fiscal government are tipped in the mother's favor not the other way around as they are in the US.<BR/><BR/>As for the feminists= witches by Pat Robertson argument blame Reagan for creating the greed culture in the US and destroying graduated income tax making it harder on two or single parent families to survive and blame the last three presidents for sending jobs and even food production overseas and killing our great American labor force that took pride in what it did from the food we cooked to the clothes we once sewed on this shores. <BR/><BR/>With how much has been spent on war it's vile and tragic that this hard working mother and her daughter cannot turn to the government for aid and assistance.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-72967467168399885872007-11-01T16:36:00.000-04:002007-11-01T16:36:00.000-04:00Meme, I wrote the 2:38 comment.I am aware that the...Meme, I wrote the 2:38 comment.<BR/>I am aware that the OP is an innocent victim of circumstance and not promoting a feminist agenda. <BR/>As usual, the thread has taken a little "detour." I tried to hold my "tongue," when I saw this yesterday, but the posts in praise of feminism, and the idea that institutionalized child farms were the result of evolved women finally "getting it right" was more than I could let go by, especially after the apparent suggestion that socialism might have better implemented this fabulously horrific idea.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-7243817595188375962007-11-01T15:28:00.000-04:002007-11-01T15:28:00.000-04:00This mom is not some militant feminist, you twits!...This mom is not some militant feminist, you twits! She is a WIDOW! <BR/><BR/>Find something better to do with your time. Your senseless yammering is not helpful here.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-58296936283743037012007-11-01T14:38:00.000-04:002007-11-01T14:38:00.000-04:00Feminism, although helpful to women in the workpla...Feminism, although helpful to women in the workplace and many other ways, is also the vehicle through which women became "entitled" to "explore themselves," "have it all," and "be just like men in every possible way," at the expense of whomever it may hurt along the way. Selflessness and compassion gave way to "looking out for number one." Families started breaking apart in record numbers. Children were taught that "every kind of family is good," (even if that family consists of one parent and a smarmy "uncle," mommy and daddy and daddy's new wife and kids, or a lesbian and a monkey.) "It's ALL good." "Free to be You and Me!" "Peace, Love, and the freedom to have sex with anybody and everybody you want!" What could be better than a licence to partake in rampant narcissism without any of the pesky guilt once associated with caring about nobody else but yourself? I mean,the only people who really got hurt were the ones who were too little or too meek to have a real voice. The children. Thank goodness we didn't open up childcare warehouses where we could turn out dead eyed little drones by the batch, making it all the easier for selfish people everywhere to procreate and turn their backs the children they create!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-35133870169998235202007-10-31T23:49:00.000-04:002007-10-31T23:49:00.000-04:00"It still has not been instituted by our governmen..."It still has not been instituted by our government. But the feminists of the 70s definitely had it figured out."<BR/><BR/>They may have had it figured out but they never made happen because that same group hates socialism and higher taxes (as do most Americans)which is the system that government instituted programs that actually function happens in.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-56481709963236656892007-10-31T20:53:00.000-04:002007-10-31T20:53:00.000-04:00To 7:29, Yes the feminists of the 70s did figure ...To 7:29, Yes the feminists of the 70s did figure it out. It's called national public high quality daycare provided by the government for an extremely low charge to parents. It still has not been instituted by our government. But the feminists of the 70s definitely had it figured out.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-29250863079605321962007-10-31T20:25:00.000-04:002007-10-31T20:25:00.000-04:00My thoughts and prayers are with the OP - that she...My thoughts and prayers are with the OP - that she and her daughter find peace and balance in their lives, and protective, loving care for the child.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-34392070754137722462007-10-31T19:29:00.000-04:002007-10-31T19:29:00.000-04:00If she's widowed then paying another woman a low w...If she's widowed then paying another woman a low wage because she has to work or hiring a freak who dresses like a 2nd grader because she can't afford decent nanny is not the answer. <BR/><BR/>She should go on welfare, that's what it's actually there in case anyone forgot. Do anything but don't get a nanny.<BR/><BR/><BR/>"Where's the sisterhood?"<BR/><BR/>Indeed! The feminists of the 70's never really figured out how they were going to provide a solution to the childcare question and now it's a mess.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-18594636420166604162007-10-31T15:43:00.000-04:002007-10-31T15:43:00.000-04:00Yes, the OP selfishly became widowed and then went...Yes, the OP selfishly became widowed and then went back to work in order to support her child's basic physical needs. Thoughtlessly, she tried to find a caregiver who cared for her child, and who her child would like in return. <BR/>(I am being sarcastic.) <BR/><BR/>Who are you people who have to attack everybody all the time? Are you seriously consumed with such anger and filled with such negativity that you need to come anonymously onto the computer and invent reasons to vent your very inappropriate rage at complete strangers? Frankly, I feel sorry for you...and your husbands. (But also I have to admit that I'm growing a little bit weary of your tiresome childishness.)<BR/><BR/>This poor woman lost her husband, was forced back into the workforce when she had obviously been raising her daughter herself and would have probably have given anything to be the one at home with her, and came to this blog for some help when she found herself in over her head with an unexpected nanny problem. Have you no compassion for anybody at all? <BR/><BR/>Seriously, what's wrong with some of you?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-11715782725789470342007-10-31T15:39:00.000-04:002007-10-31T15:39:00.000-04:001:48 "No one rational has a nanny."I'm sorry, did ...1:48 <BR/><BR/>"No one rational has a nanny."<BR/><BR/>I'm sorry, did you miss the part where she says she's a widow?<BR/><BR/>Where's the sisterhood?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-23623920490732860342007-10-31T13:48:00.000-04:002007-10-31T13:48:00.000-04:00But that is the destructive and frankly gross part...But that is the destructive and frankly gross part about all of this, when you have another women living in your home full time even live out, children do grow hugely attached to them, you can't trust and love as a child without becoming attached. Children like structure and permanence.<BR/><BR/>Think of how hard it is occasionally for even close friends or relatives to come stay for extended periods without there being problems and annoyances. Now put a woman who is not family in that same position and she's in a no win situation.<BR/><BR/>No one rational has a nanny.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-85851009693636620672007-10-31T02:34:00.000-04:002007-10-31T02:34:00.000-04:00It is of course entirely possible that "oriental" ...It is of course entirely possible that "oriental" nanny is trying out some white boy culture for herself. The clothes, the hair. She is young. What person doesn'te experiment with diff looks? The fact that the child has the same general look could do with the child's general whiteness!<BR/><BR/>I don't know. But I agree that your child should not be getting so close to a nanny right now. Because another loss would be horrific and the nanny would have assumed the role/place of the lost parent, so it could end up feeling to her like she had lost another parental figure.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-61773654020926524932007-10-31T02:31:00.000-04:002007-10-31T02:31:00.000-04:00"Single White Female" ring any bells with people?'..."Single White Female" ring any bells with people?<BR/><BR/>'Thanks for your time, we have appreciated it but this is not working out.' and wave goodbye to her. That is escalating and just too scary, imo. The clothes are one thing....it's the drastic appearance change (with the haircut and dye job)that would have me uneasy...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-2101350217423612252007-10-30T21:34:00.000-04:002007-10-30T21:34:00.000-04:00OP,Please don't be hurt by the negative posters he...OP,<BR/>Please don't be hurt by the negative posters here. Just ignore them. They attack everybody for every little thing, and if there isn't anything to rationally find fault with, they just make something up.<BR/><BR/>I can guarantee you that the RATIONAL people on here do not think you are jealous of your nanny's relationship with your daughter.<BR/><BR/>Nobody rational thinks you are doomed to inferior childcare because you are on a limited income.<BR/><BR/>Nobody rational questions your concern about the nanny spending a disproportionate amount of her income trying to be the twin of a first grader. That's a huge red flag.<BR/><BR/>Nobody rational thinks this is anything but a problem waiting to happen. <BR/><BR/>Those of us who do not get pleasure from other people's misery are very happy for you, and relieved, to hear that you are having your sister in law come to stay for a while and that she is going to help support you in finding a better situation for you and your daughter. <BR/><BR/>I'm sorry for your terrible loss. I'm glad you posted, and I hope you and your daughter find much happiness in life. <BR/><BR/>We would love to hear from you when you get situated to know how everything is going with you. Please let us know.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com