tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post5694499509616718589..comments2024-03-19T03:27:24.068-04:00Comments on I SAW YOUR NANNY: How In-depth Should Nanny Go Explaining In-Vitro?Leigh Raymerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18210572527823459842noreply@blogger.comBlogger345125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-19478502220084386982012-10-05T01:18:55.562-04:002012-10-05T01:18:55.562-04:00"This is a chance for Lyn to prove to us that..."This is a chance for Lyn to prove to us that she can find out who posters are. Who am I?"<br /><br />Followed by the mocking:<br />"SILENCE BEFALLS UPON LYN RE: HER SECRET ABILITY! LOL :)"<br /><br />I can tell you who you are and the various other information. I will not, since you have now requested your personal information not be made public. But make no mistake -- I know exactly who you are and what your agenda is. Your ridiculous pretense that this was NOT personal was absurd.everything is onlinenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-57335978525130033512012-10-04T18:34:28.601-04:002012-10-04T18:34:28.601-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-84600953322894410982012-10-04T14:32:21.658-04:002012-10-04T14:32:21.658-04:00I must have misunderstood you. So then you're ...I must have misunderstood you. So then you're saying that it's not the personal choice of a woman to place her baby up for adoption that bothers you, it's the business on the other end that can potentially cause a mom to feel pressured and make a choice she regrets? I can definitely imagine that this happens. Just as women are pressured into keeping a child she knows she can't care for. It goes both ways. EastBay Nannynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-28821498170242680522012-10-04T12:51:53.891-04:002012-10-04T12:51:53.891-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-68392644795202570812012-10-04T06:08:06.220-04:002012-10-04T06:08:06.220-04:00C-mad- But women ARE poor. They ARE suffering and ...C-mad- But women ARE poor. They ARE suffering and they ARE raped and forced to make these decisions. To say that these circumstances should have no bearing on their decisions is an impossible dream. I can't understand where you're coming from here. EastBay Nannynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-72789638493177424662012-10-04T02:36:40.917-04:002012-10-04T02:36:40.917-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-65194501209163286252012-10-04T02:17:12.037-04:002012-10-04T02:17:12.037-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-15047613063529897072012-10-04T01:41:17.886-04:002012-10-04T01:41:17.886-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-78102582251197532312012-10-03T15:48:22.519-04:002012-10-03T15:48:22.519-04:00I spent a summer with my Dad and a bunch of charit...I spent a summer with my Dad and a bunch of charity workers in a remote villiage in the Honduras, building a school for 3 near by orphanages. There were girls who would show up on the job site and hide their babies swaddled up in our work trucks because they knew the orphanage would turn them down. So sad. Most of the women appeared to be preteens. There were children paving the streets. Dirty, alone, living in homes made of cardboard, forming their own families out of fellow orphans. Begging everyone in our group to take them to America. My Dad has spent time digging wells and teaching water purifying classes to literal villiages of orphaned children in Uganda, Ethiopia, the Honduras and even China. These kids are left to fend for themselves because no one wanted them. It's gut wrenching.Lynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16792145175465896760noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-65977784385672370442012-10-03T15:30:58.100-04:002012-10-03T15:30:58.100-04:00I can't address ALL adoptions, but I can speak...I can't address ALL adoptions, but I can speak with some small authority about Guatemala, since I cared for a child adopted from that country. <br /><br />Children are left at orphanages by birth mothers. If they cannot be taken in by orphanages, they grow up to be street kids, often living in the city garbage dumps. <br /><br />But, I can hear you all ask (especially cmad, and I can't wait to hear how living in the trash is better than being adopted!), how would it be possible that an orphanage would turn away a child in need?<br /><br />Because the orphanages are catastrophically underfunded. Before Guatemala closed their adoption program down under pressure from the Hague committee report, one of the things adoptive parents would do when matched is start sending supplies to their child's orphanage. They also brought supplies in when they visited their child or came to take their child home. (This is the case in foster homes and orphanages, BTW.)<br /><br />And despite that, for whatever reasons, the child I cared for came home at 11 months weighing what a 5 - 6 month old would weigh. The child had been fed HALF-STRENGHTH formula at the orphanage, and had not had any interventions to correct for left side weakness due to birth trauma. The child was housed with 27 other kids, and there were 7 workers TOTAL to care for them.<br /><br />If that child had not been adopted, the future would have been grim indeed. And people like cmad and those who run the Hague committee insist that such children would be better off in their own country. A country where no one can afford to adopt a child (or where adopting is seem as a stigma or is just NEVER done due to socio-cultural issues) is not the best place for a child to be adopted. Seems pretty simple to me! Tales from the (Nanny)Hoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14266117417206315356noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-64961756051346070902012-10-03T11:35:44.583-04:002012-10-03T11:35:44.583-04:00Cmad- http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2212...Cmad- http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2212009/Heartbreaking-notes-pinned-babies-left-steps-New-York-Foundling-Asylum.html<br /><br />I came across this in the Daily Mail and thought it might put your argument in context. I believe that most all parents who give up their child for adoption make their choices with clarity about what they must do, just as women who choose abortion decide based on life circumstances only they know best. For certain there are exceptions, but to claim that women are passive victims in these decisions is not giving women the respect and authority they deserve to make the best of their personal lives. The basic truth is that in most cases women willingly make these decisions, however unfair they seem. EastBay Nannynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-40424891010218358922012-10-03T03:39:49.089-04:002012-10-03T03:39:49.089-04:00CLBW/aka Caring Mom,
If you would like me to writ...CLBW/aka Caring Mom,<br /><br />If you would like me to write your real name, age, facebook page, google+, etc -- I will do so. You created a profile and cannot possibly imagine you are hard to find.<br /><br />However, out of respect, I will not do so unless you would like to reply and give explicit permission once again.<br /><br />-not lyneverything is onlinenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-74373646172348640312012-10-02T21:49:24.624-04:002012-10-02T21:49:24.624-04:00CMAD...how are you able to be so level-headed and ...CMAD...how are you able to be so level-headed and yet so disrespectful at the same time? Isn't it time to lay off Lyn? She appears to be done with this thread, so you should be done with her.MissMannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15111173519948500730noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-84988385780058314832012-10-02T21:09:43.194-04:002012-10-02T21:09:43.194-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-6828784334571419012012-10-02T21:08:09.567-04:002012-10-02T21:08:09.567-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-83306993149677806192012-10-02T21:03:20.895-04:002012-10-02T21:03:20.895-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-41344636242612424082012-10-02T21:00:13.053-04:002012-10-02T21:00:13.053-04:00Most post adoption and post abortion stories that ...Most post adoption and post abortion stories that exhibit signs are regret are posted by pro-life religious groups. They are putting out just as much propaganda as the adoption agencies you rail against.<br /><br />I don't always see adoption the way you described, but sometimes yes, it is exactly that. Of course, I don't see anything in absolute terms...ever. MissMannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15111173519948500730noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-13434396989063856692012-10-02T20:59:16.701-04:002012-10-02T20:59:16.701-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-8694194296295789512012-10-02T20:56:00.579-04:002012-10-02T20:56:00.579-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-68012360067148892932012-10-02T18:58:58.935-04:002012-10-02T18:58:58.935-04:00This is a chance for Lyn to prove to us that she c...This is a chance for Lyn to prove to us that she can find out who posters are. Who am I? <br /><br /><br /><br />22kb<br /><br />Here Is Your Chance Lynnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-3838079954673042092012-10-02T09:39:48.042-04:002012-10-02T09:39:48.042-04:00Cmad,
I want to comment on something you said in o...Cmad,<br />I want to comment on something you said in one of your posts. This isn't an attack so don't be offended. I've watched you all week in your stance against adoption, and honestly, I think you probably take some of the literature you've read, well, too literally.<br /><br />"...an American family with money=a better life than with their own parents, in their own country, within their own heritage, language and community."<br /><br />Sorry, wrong. I have volunteered working with numerous families that have adopted from other countries and one thing I've noted that most (not all mind you) but most adoptive families try their hardest to keep the childs heritage intact. They hire tutors so they can learn the language, parents study with them to learn their culture, etc. They want their child to know where they came from.<br /><br />Please stop generalizing and stereotyping. Jennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-68599171194113384572012-10-02T01:03:58.795-04:002012-10-02T01:03:58.795-04:00cmad - i will go on those websites as a learning e...cmad - i will go on those websites as a learning experience<br /><br />but - start dissing america and you are going to lose me<br /><br />yes it's better here than most places for all of us - immigration is the sincerest form of flattery<br /><br />we are very lucky to have what we have and part of that is helping others in the world<br /><br />what you are wishing for is - er.. uh... i think "marxism" where no one has more money than the rest so everything can be fair for every person - the best of all possible worlds<br /><br />that is certainly something to work for and wish for but it will not happen in this world<br /><br />maybe the next,though ;)RBTChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12236958965651282895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-23914632873840897272012-10-01T19:21:37.311-04:002012-10-01T19:21:37.311-04:00Mannah, that comment was perfect. I agree with eve...Mannah, that comment was perfect. I agree with everything you said 100%. Sending positive energy and well wishes for your family however you find a way to complete it.Lynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16792145175465896760noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-87355637096677445822012-10-01T19:11:24.333-04:002012-10-01T19:11:24.333-04:00OK, I think we can come to the agreement that the ...OK, I think we can come to the agreement that the best possible life for all children is if they are able to stay with their biological families. In a perfect world, that is. But this world is not perfect or ideal, so we have to make do with what we have. Some people, plain and simple, do not need to be parents. These people include: very young teenagers (because of a lack of maturity), drug addicts who have no interest in getting clean, sociopaths or anyone else who verbally and physically abuses their child. Of course there's a few other categories, I just can't think of them right now. But if one of these people happen to get knocked up, whether on purpose or by accident, should they be encouraged to care for their child despite the bad circumstances? I do not think they should.<br /><br />On the other hand, there are many women (myself included) who deeply desire children. I know my husband and I will be excellent parents. If (god forbid) I am unable to conceive a child, should I just go childless for the rest of my life so that the people who don't deserve the gift they were given can keep their own child?<br /><br />And, whether you want to believe it or not, there are children who are not wanted. I have a very good friend who is an excellent mother to an adorable 2-year-old, but she also had an abortion 13 years ago. She specifically said at the time: "I do want children someday, but today is not that day."MissMannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15111173519948500730noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-32448039929085175772012-10-01T17:53:08.416-04:002012-10-01T17:53:08.416-04:00All I can imagine as I read everything written by ...All I can imagine as I read everything written by the psychotic woman is it being said in Gollum's voice (from Lord of the Rings). Now, C-mad..... "Leave and never come back!" Ms. Dr. Jurishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17876618355506593095noreply@blogger.com