tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post5519570868377727326..comments2024-03-19T03:27:24.068-04:00Comments on I SAW YOUR NANNY: While Mom is Away, Dad and Nanny PlayLeigh Raymerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18210572527823459842noreply@blogger.comBlogger77125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-68222201773502872922012-06-03T20:19:24.667-04:002012-06-03T20:19:24.667-04:00I found this post as I was looking for help to get...I found this post as I was looking for help to get out of a situation I've found myself in. I've been with my "family" for 3 years now and have been in hell the past 8 months because the Dad started inviting himself into my bed. My situation is a bit different as I work nights and weekends and vacations etc. for this family. It started on a vacation and after an evening in and a few drinks, normal practice for them to ask me to join them. While not out of control I went to bed with a healthy buzz and a few hours later he helped himself into my room and I was so shocked I didn't know what to do except say I didn't want to but he was too far into his liquor to care. Long story short I'm almost certain mom knows that night happened and I've tried to tell her he now makes a habit of being a sick asshole helping himself to what he feels he's providing for so should have access to. I'm not in love with him but I would die before I ruined these children's lives and I'm afraid of them losing me, I'm afraid of her hating me for being too scared to aggressively refuse him, I've fallen into path of least resistance but it's eating me. I know it'll never end well for anyone but I wish there was a way to make it all go away. He's the only one who won't be hurt because his wife won't leave. Shell suffer the storm, but I'll not work in the community again and it's not fair. I don't encourage him, I avoid as many overnights as I can , my BF is welcome and I have him come when he can so dad can't come in. Anyway I guess what I am saying is your friend K is purposefully doing something wrong and she will end up getting nothing because in the end we are the help. Period. No matter how much a part of the family we become when the storm thunders they will close ranks and we'll always be left in the rain on our own.Nanny Amelianoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-14030402052162132482012-05-17T03:51:20.449-04:002012-05-17T03:51:20.449-04:00Regarding what I think of men....and cheating...
...Regarding what I think of men....and cheating...<br /><br />Nah..better keep my mouth shut on this one.<br /><br />Next!! ►Just My Two Cents Just Nowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09478387825992438947noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-74105334507563374362012-05-17T02:18:55.355-04:002012-05-17T02:18:55.355-04:00LOL
Alot of men do cheat. And the ones that dont ...LOL<br /><br />Alot of men do cheat. And the ones that dont would probably given the chance so instead they lock themselfs in rooms and lookup porn. You'll notice this if he stops sleeping with you. <br /><br />=pLOLnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-36183236360666490782012-05-16T20:50:27.586-04:002012-05-16T20:50:27.586-04:00"Men who are dedicated and value love with th..."Men who are dedicated and value love with their woman won't cheat" Well said Phoenix!UK Nannynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-77676361665497314772012-05-16T20:32:18.516-04:002012-05-16T20:32:18.516-04:00There are men out there who will be faithful. I ha...There are men out there who will be faithful. I have always believed that when I was single and now that I'm not.UmassSlytherinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15647516080217006351noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-68230327340613168732012-05-16T19:59:05.744-04:002012-05-16T19:59:05.744-04:00Phoenix, I agree with your last post except the &q...Phoenix, I agree with your last post except the "little boy" part. They're not called "little boys", they're called "dogs".Tabsnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-72478769811651363472012-05-16T17:46:39.375-04:002012-05-16T17:46:39.375-04:00"I have never met a man who didn't cheat...."I have never met a man who didn't cheat."<br /><br />WTF? I guess you don't know very many people or else all the relationships you've been in have been fucked up. Sucks for you. I'll say the same thing I said to the last person who said that all men cheat: I really hope you find a good, trustworthy man someday. But if you continue life with this sort of attitude, I doubt you ever will. Good men are out there, and there's a lot of them! You just have to open your eyes, and your heart, to find them.<br /><br />I sound like a Hallmark card. But it is true. I know with 100% certainty that my husband would never cheat on me, even if he was alone with Hilary Duff. (I don't know why he thinks she is hot, LOL. But he hates Kim K.) And having experienced first-hand what it is like to cheat on someone and break their heart, I would never do it to him. Yes, I've done it and yes I've been cheated on as well. Two different relationships, but let me tell you, being the cheater sucks so much more than the one who was cheated on. That is, if you have a conscience and actually feel bad about what you've done.MissMannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15111173519948500730noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-15552464853065872692012-05-16T16:59:46.242-04:002012-05-16T16:59:46.242-04:00ok here is the difference.
Little boys who can...ok here is the difference.<br /><br />Little boys who can't keep their word will cheat.<br /><br />Men who are dedicated and value love with their woman won't cheat.<br /><br />Seems to me most you guys have never dated a man. <br /><br />To say that EVERY man will cheat if they get away with it is like saying every woman is a scandelous back stabbing bitch. Most of them are but there are some who don't fit the mold. <br /><br />I hate extremists. this blog seems to be filled with suicide bombersPhoenixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15540701992730212772noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-22984700198093214082012-05-16T16:33:04.945-04:002012-05-16T16:33:04.945-04:00It seems it is always the women who are married or...It seems it is always the women who are married or in a relationship that say men are not cheaters. Ask the single ladies and they believe the opposite.<br /><br />I think Amber is out of line and mean, but agree that any man who had a chance to sleep with another woman would do so if they could keep it on the down low. I have never met a man who didn't cheat. Sorry.<br /><br />Anyways, a true friend is someone who knows EVERYTHING about you, yet likes you anyway. <br />I have some friends who have certain beliefs and/or behaviors that are not similar to mine...yet I still choose to maintain the friendship. I am sure my friends who know EVERYTHING about me don't 100% approve of everything I may say or do, but they are loyal enough to remain my friend.<br /><br />True friendship is unconditional guys.<br /><br />While I think it is shameless what this Nanny is doing, I don't think OP should just abandon her as a friend.Tiffaninoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-37370613257732990472012-05-16T13:30:16.472-04:002012-05-16T13:30:16.472-04:00Amber...the same name as my little sister. And she...Amber...the same name as my little sister. And she's an idiot too.<br /><br />no my husband would NOT cheat on me. His aunt was a model in the 80's and she dated Prince. He even has a poem/song Prince wrote for him. The point of that being he has been around beautiful women his entire life. He doesn't get phased by hottness. He, like me, can see beauty and comment on it but that is about as far as it goes. I could trust my husband in a room full of naked pretty women who are trying to sit on him. I'm sorry no one else has that kind of trust. Maybe my husband is an advanced species of a man but i know for 100% he doesn't get lead around my his cock. Most of his friends are and they cheat on their wives. But my husband's loyalty and trust has never been tarnished. I've even had women "claiming" and he went to go pick his little cousin the other day and this one girl who has been on his jock for years. sprayed perfume all over my car so she could get him in trouble. LMFAO. Women just don't understand how someone can be loyal. Outside beauty isn't the end of it.<br /><br />Maybe one day you will find a man like I have. He cooks and cleans and pays the bills. i got incredibly incredibly lucky. But he can also be an asshole so he has to make up for it other places. LOL. but just as I can say I KNOW that I will remain loyal he will as well. His first wife cheated on him so he knows the pain that causes and he would never do that to anyone. Not only that if he was going to sleep with other people he would just tell me. He has a glitch where he thinks he doesn't need to lie. He would walk in and say I'm fucking someone else and there would be nothing I could to about it.<br /><br />How is it that this turned into people bashing my husband? That is a personal insult to his character and one that a lot of women make. So here's a thought. How about thinking that men do NOT cheat more than women, but women just ASSUME they do.Phoenixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15540701992730212772noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-5832639749826061072012-05-16T06:47:08.344-04:002012-05-16T06:47:08.344-04:00I don't think Phoenix's husband would chea...I don't think Phoenix's husband would cheat on her. I really don't think he would. <br /><br />Amber,<br />What was the point of your comment? It was unkind. Do you enjoy being mean?UmassSlytherinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15647516080217006351noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-80468794732028295882012-05-16T05:25:30.546-04:002012-05-16T05:25:30.546-04:00If it were me, I would do nothing. It is not me an...If it were me, I would do nothing. It is not me and it is not the family I work for. I would stay as far away from that situation as possible and make sure to not be too "close" this nanny. I would personally look down on someone's character not only for having an affair with a married man, but for being in his home with his wife and children while doing it. At the same time, it is neither my business nor personal life so I would not feel responsible to do anything.Nanny Snoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-83650956377098147932012-05-16T05:13:05.065-04:002012-05-16T05:13:05.065-04:00Does Phoenix really think that if her husband had ...Does Phoenix really think that if her husband had a chance to sleep with Kim Kardashian or Megan Fox and get away with it that he wouldn't?????? That he would say, "I love my wife and do not want to hurt her..."<br /><br />C'mon now.Ambernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-70776936589708882122012-05-16T03:11:05.335-04:002012-05-16T03:11:05.335-04:00Amy Darling - I agree with you about men cheating ...Amy Darling - I agree with you about men cheating more then woman. And the reasons you've stated. And every single 'study' that was conducted said that men cheat more. They are programmed differently and people who say men and woman cheat, it's true but men rate alot higher then woman when it comes to affairs and infidelity. It's not 50/50.<br />(And i didn't need to read any studies or 'stats', I already knew this was the case, lol.)Ariesnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-37606444339017938912012-05-16T00:28:08.518-04:002012-05-16T00:28:08.518-04:00I agree stay out of it. What do you really have t...I agree stay out of it. What do you really have to offer to the conversation, anyway. Okay so now others know whats going on. Really nothing more for you to say about the subject. I feel like this is a personal issue for this family to deal and work out on their own. Please don't add any gossip or drama to the situation. You know since your boss is good friends with this mother she will tell her everything you said. Do you really want to get dragged in?ericsmomnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-67704241735641377352012-05-15T20:13:33.402-04:002012-05-15T20:13:33.402-04:00First time I've posted, new to this! OP, I agr...First time I've posted, new to this! OP, I agree with the majority here. Do. Not. Get. Involved. it's not your business. Why is your boss even talking to you about this? You say you're staying out of it, talking about this with your boss is the exact opposite of staying out of it. Is this really worth risking your job over?UK Nannynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-47829991623709744252012-05-15T18:38:21.407-04:002012-05-15T18:38:21.407-04:00One more thought. You work for these people. They ...One more thought. You work for these people. They are not your friends. You are a paid employee. When they are not paying you, you won't see them anymore. Sometimes it's hard to understand that MB & DB are your employers, and that's all they will ever be. <br /><br />**There are some nannies that stay in lifetime contact with their families, but it's a small percentage, and often after an unusually long tenure, like raising the children.Villagenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-49282420315437240182012-05-15T17:24:41.688-04:002012-05-15T17:24:41.688-04:00Yeah! I'd start looking for another job. These...Yeah! I'd start looking for another job. These people sound nuts and way too much drama that they seem hellbent on involving you in.Katienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-48067839847125528792012-05-15T15:54:32.459-04:002012-05-15T15:54:32.459-04:00OP
Did your MB say to you "S knows about K&qu...OP<br />Did your MB say to you "S knows about K"? Why on earth would she drag you into this? If S is her friend, then she should handle it.<br />Wisdom here for you should be: See nothing, Hear nothing, Say nothing.<br />If you boss knows, the truth is going to come out at some point. Please do not get involved into this, you have a job to think of.<br />Also, I don't think this can be said quite enough: that dad is a creep.oh wellnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-25578749251187388942012-05-15T13:09:42.578-04:002012-05-15T13:09:42.578-04:00i said that kardashian thing but it was a shocker ...i said that kardashian thing but it was a shocker to me. I made fun of that girl a lot. and then i read she said she's 117 pounds. WTF, no she's not. She's gotta weigh as much as I do. It was just a shock to me. i honestly thought she was taller than that.<br /><br />I luv America's next top model. My dad does photography. I've been trying to get my sister to go on that show. but she is too shy. <br /><br />I read a lot tho. I read novels in a weeks time. That is why I'm writing one. I think it'd be fun.<br /><br />OP, I too have to point out that discussing the topic with your MB is not staying out of the mess. That is creating the drama and in fact it is pulling your MB into the mix. Now your MB is going to be in the same situation you were in. should she tell her friend or not? That is not fair to your boss at all. YOu shouldn't put her in that position. What do you want her to tell you? And don't you think when/if your MB talks to her friend she wont tell her that she heard the information from you? <br /><br />If you talk to your MB not only are you not staying out of it you are dragging another bystander into the mix.Phoenixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15540701992730212772noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-88489292222502780092012-05-15T13:03:49.565-04:002012-05-15T13:03:49.565-04:00I'm pretty sure I've stayed being BEEZUS. ...I'm pretty sure I've stayed being BEEZUS. What's your problem?Beezusnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-5128538682569838632012-05-15T13:00:16.855-04:002012-05-15T13:00:16.855-04:00THE HUSBAND IS BLUFFING YOU AFTER HIS NANNY TOLD H...THE HUSBAND IS BLUFFING YOU AFTER HIS NANNY TOLD HIM SHE HAD TOLD YOU!!<br /><br />Stay out of it. You will probably lose your job over this. It's unlikely your MB will even believe you. <br /><br />Don't get into others sex lives. It's NONE of your business.Villagenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-34217852088859394312012-05-15T11:58:44.707-04:002012-05-15T11:58:44.707-04:00Uh, "having a chat" with your MB is not ...Uh, "having a chat" with your MB is not staying out of it. It is essentially putting your nose back into it. Boundaries, anybody?MissMannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15111173519948500730noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-81093559422424551852012-05-15T10:18:27.811-04:002012-05-15T10:18:27.811-04:00Oh geez,OP!
I don't envy you one bit. This si...Oh geez,OP!<br /><br />I don't envy you one bit. This sitution is a mess. Chock full of drama.<br /><br />I don't think I'd even chat to MB about it. Everyone knows so everything else is just drama and gossip.<br /><br />Sounds like you've got your real life Wisteria Lane going on.Bethanynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-88990433375318723482012-05-15T09:41:46.970-04:002012-05-15T09:41:46.970-04:00I am staying out of it but want to explain to my M...I am staying out of it but want to explain to my MB that I have not known for long and that I want to make it clear that I do not support K at all and think it is totally not on. I want to say this to my MB.OPnoreply@blogger.com