tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post5425293825431414970..comments2024-03-19T03:27:24.068-04:00Comments on I SAW YOUR NANNY: Is Clueless MB Pulling a Fast One on this Nanny?Leigh Raymerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18210572527823459842noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-70068018400981221192011-01-31T19:05:34.671-05:002011-01-31T19:05:34.671-05:00If you are "new" you are NOT a "car...If you are "new" you are NOT a "career nanny". Sorry, babe-you just haven't earned it yet.bish_pleasenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-51172583024753123612011-01-30T13:17:18.852-05:002011-01-30T13:17:18.852-05:00They closed out your account? I don't understa...They closed out your account? I don't understand why. Normally when a check bounces, they charge you a fee. Not close out your account.what?noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-74338370747494782922011-01-28T23:32:35.909-05:002011-01-28T23:32:35.909-05:00OP, the only question I saw you presenting was &qu...OP, the only question I saw you presenting was "Should I complain?" Uh...no? You should never complain to a boss because they can kick you out on your rear. You can, however, express concerns to them in a rational manner. You have got to work on your communication skills, if your post is any indication of how you speak to people. You said you are new to the nanny biz, but you sound like you're new to working in general.MissMannahnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-45076503340214037832011-01-28T19:58:20.031-05:002011-01-28T19:58:20.031-05:00Not trying to be rude, but based on the post, it s...Not trying to be rude, but based on the post, it seems there are communication problems on BOTH sides (ie, half the people here cannot understand what you're talking about). <br />If they have 4 kids and a mom who is going back to school, I would expect the household to be a little chaotic. Sometimes in large families you kind of have to help out where needed, because everything's a whirlwind. That doesn't mean you have to be taken advantage of though. A work agreement is a good idea. Clarifying your hours is a good idea. It might even help to just ask the mom the day before (or day of) to "go over the afternoon schedule" so that she can let you know what the dinner plans are, who might be coming by, or what she would like to have done during your time there. <br />The check bouncing is a definite red flag, but it could have been an honest mistake (some people do online banking and harldy write checks anymore). Ask to be paid in cash, and make sure you keep track of your hours to ensure you are being paid fairly.another nannynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-53580955936208344412011-01-28T17:49:10.902-05:002011-01-28T17:49:10.902-05:00i would like to thank the OP for her contribution ...i would like to thank the OP for her contribution which makes this site more interesting<br /><br />yep - you've got alot to put up with there and you will just have to decide if putting up with it is worth the money - it has been established on this blog that it's actually not too easy to find a situation where all the people are honest.<br /><br />The money situation is very disturbing<br /><br />a part of it that stands out is the father's mean reaction to you doing your job<br /><br />i had an incident with an awesome kid - he was forbidden to watch tv. at all. and i did not know that.<br /><br />There was a very small black and white tv in the kitchen - smart little minx - he knew he could get me to turn it on when he was eating supper in the kitchen - he could not talk yet but charmingly kept pointing to the tv - well sure i turned it on. The mom and dad came home, he had been watching it for 5 minutes - and the dad - a high powered lawyer made me feel like i had committed a crime against his son.<br /><br />The young boy was VERY intelligent and it obviously bothered him that the forbidden object is right in front of him all the time. <br /><br />But - things like this kept happening - an angry reaction for things i was not informed about - and they loved me! and the kid loved me!<br /><br />I bided my time, got out of there and did not give the real reason when i quit. Of course heard later thru the grapevine other nannies went thru the same thingsharonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00512078817035878745noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-91015060281184161212011-01-28T15:19:21.256-05:002011-01-28T15:19:21.256-05:00OP here- anonymous really? I appreciate you standi...OP here- anonymous really? I appreciate you standing up for me but you don't have to be an asshole about it to everyone hereAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-56183433848993810762011-01-28T14:36:09.031-05:002011-01-28T14:36:09.031-05:00Please remove post and send back to op for editing...Please remove post and send back to op for editing and clarification.Bostonnannynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-40435106202241549382011-01-28T13:57:09.164-05:002011-01-28T13:57:09.164-05:00OK, your second sentence says you are working 3 da...OK, your second sentence says you are working 3 days a week from 3-6:30, then your second to last sentence implies you are there 5 days a week for closer to 20 hours. Then you say you arrive at 3:30 and pick up the first kid at 3? It sounds like you are the one who is confused. And you say the girl should be also able to watch her brothers but then say she has special needs? Sorry, but I think you are the confused one. I don't see any 'fast one' being pulled - is this your first job as a career nanny?a momnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-67098088119283389042011-01-28T13:55:48.013-05:002011-01-28T13:55:48.013-05:00LOL @ "I am organic".LOL @ "I am organic".Random Nannynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-17562493852386125732011-01-28T13:00:14.518-05:002011-01-28T13:00:14.518-05:00Yes I agree to talk to the mom, say there are thin...Yes I agree to talk to the mom, say there are things you are unclear about. <br /><br />As for the watching the boys/being asked to do stuff w/the girl I think you should say that you will help them out whenever possible with stuff w/the daughter, but your job is to watch the boys so the contracted job comes first. <br /><br />I just got out of a situation like this and I'm soooo glad. I had no contract and was verbally told I did not have to do any cleaning. less than 6 months later mb/db took a day off work, took the kids and I was stuck with a list of detailed cleaning of the whole house. efff that!NannyMnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-12201390843631794662011-01-28T12:39:02.700-05:002011-01-28T12:39:02.700-05:00I also could not understand this post. I read it a...I also could not understand this post. I read it about five times, still makes no sense and I now have a headache.nycnannynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-33279080848111852902011-01-28T12:16:39.220-05:002011-01-28T12:16:39.220-05:00If you didn't get a work agreement set up befo...If you didn't get a work agreement set up before starting, you need to do so ASAP. It sounds as if you and MB/Db have very different expectations of what the job is supposed to entail, and without clarifying things you will only get more frustrated and so will they. <br /><br />I also think if your check bounces again, you need to quit on the spot. Once is a warning sign, twice is a flashing red light and an alarm saying you are going to gey gypped.<br /><br />HTH, and good luck!Tales from the (Nanny)Hoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14266117417206315356noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-58520996579629712052011-01-28T11:28:49.246-05:002011-01-28T11:28:49.246-05:00Perhaps your story could be a little more unclear....Perhaps your story could be a little more unclear... Oh wait.. It can't. <br /><br />Since I feel like 90% of the time reading this I have no clue what you're talking about, I don't know what to recommend, other then maybe getting some direction before you work and not try to get your bosses to text you your work details.Ughnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-61014855849812986412011-01-28T10:48:42.826-05:002011-01-28T10:48:42.826-05:00I'm sorry, but I've read this post several...I'm sorry, but I've read this post several times and I'm just having a very difficult time understanding it and the problem. My advice...if you are feeling taken advantage of or doing things that are not in your job description, talk to MB about what exactly is expected of you. Probably should have done that before taking the job, but it won't get any better unless you clarify things.Elainenoreply@blogger.com