tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post5093662913856389492..comments2024-03-19T03:27:24.068-04:00Comments on I SAW YOUR NANNY: Should Mom Throw Out Nanny That Threw a Fit?Leigh Raymerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18210572527823459842noreply@blogger.comBlogger42125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-17400789162988221892012-04-14T10:33:37.839-04:002012-04-14T10:33:37.839-04:00Let her go and don't look back. It isn't w...Let her go and don't look back. It isn't worth your children's happiness, your peace of mind, or the risk of her becoming more abusive to your family.OHIOnannynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-60982244012402255082012-03-30T03:46:21.099-04:002012-03-30T03:46:21.099-04:00I'm a nanny, and I have awful PMS. I'm irr...I'm a nanny, and I have awful PMS. I'm irritable and I cry over stupid things. But never at work. I save it for when I get home. <br /><br />Working with children is the most enjoyable experience of my life. It's challenging, but the rewards are endless. I would never in my life treat a child that way. I get frustrated, sure, but that's when you pop the kid in the baby gate area and take a moment to drink a glass of water or just take some kind of a minute to yourself. When parents are trusting you with the most important part of their lives, you don't take it lightly and you don't lose your cool. <br /><br />It just sounds like she doesn't have the greatest affection for children, respect for the parents, or, really, anything that's needed to excel as a nanny.NanaDarlingnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-70425578931353339422012-03-17T05:14:23.982-04:002012-03-17T05:14:23.982-04:00This crazy Nanny does not deserve a second chance ...This crazy Nanny does not deserve a second chance w/your family. I would take your husband's advice and let her go..ASAP. She sounds like a freakin' con artist to me. She lied about taking your kids to the music class and she treats them like sh#@ when you are not there.<br /><br />Fire her ass and never look back. It is Nannies like her that make parents suspicious of all of us good Nannies!!!!Just My Two Cents Just Nowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09478387825992438947noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-41870120666736645672012-03-16T13:59:10.263-04:002012-03-16T13:59:10.263-04:00Yeah, you need to discuss things with her. That&#...Yeah, you need to discuss things with her. That's simply not right. I understand flipping out. I've flipped w/ my charges too ( I have yelled at them in frustration but not to the point of calling them pigs or throwing chairs around), but it's her flipping combined with the lying what bothers me. She's shady and now that the kids are becoming more unruly and rebelious, that side will start to come out more since she obviously can't handle that. <br /><br />Have a talk with her and get a new nanny.Vanessanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-78873577068136795582012-03-16T13:19:13.401-04:002012-03-16T13:19:13.401-04:00Thank you for updating us, OP! So, so, so happy th...Thank you for updating us, OP! So, so, so happy that you are rid that horrid nanny!ELamnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-7260373670371799672012-03-15T20:51:43.314-04:002012-03-15T20:51:43.314-04:00PMS?! What a ridiculous excuse! She sounds pathe...PMS?! What a ridiculous excuse! She sounds pathetic and I'm willing to bet there's something more going on with her emotionally. You are better off with her out of your family's lives. I'm glad to hear your little girl seems to be doing ok and she probably won't even remember this nanny after awhile.MissMannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15111173519948500730noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-12940591977660073632012-03-15T14:20:00.072-04:002012-03-15T14:20:00.072-04:00Wow! I'm glad she is no longer with you and ho...Wow! I'm glad she is no longer with you and hope she never works with children again at least not until she grows up a ton and gets some serious help.<br /><br />It's the ones like her that give us all a bad name.<br /><br />I truly hope you and your family heeal well and find a great nanny. We exist. Many of us are out there, self included, looking or work. You'll find a good one.Beth and Enoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-27619819895248561992012-03-15T13:47:45.731-04:002012-03-15T13:47:45.731-04:00If that were my nanny, after witnessing her behavi...If that were my nanny, after witnessing her behavior and hearing that she wasn't even going to the music class, I would fire her immediately. No way would I leave her with my kids for another second. I know there are some great nannies out there, but there and an equal number of awful nannies who have perfected putting on a cheerful face for their employer and basically are not fit to care for children. If you can't fire her, I would get a nanny cam or even just a voice recorder and record a few days worth of interaction. Then you'll know for sure.wownoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-8875236830996169122012-03-15T13:39:02.448-04:002012-03-15T13:39:02.448-04:00wow! thank you for the update! She had PMS. Yeah w...wow! thank you for the update! She had PMS. Yeah well I'm 25 and have menopause and i have been crazy but that is the dumbest thing I've ever heard. She is just plain ass lazy. What kind of person can lie straight to your face. What on Earth is the matter with her? i'm glad she is not going to be around your kids any longer. What an awful thing to go though. THis is why people have nanny cams.<br /><br />Just please don't let this experience ruin it if you decide to hire another nanny. Not all people are like that. She had some severe emotional issuesPhoenixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15540701992730212772noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-83192015425578683472012-03-15T10:15:17.589-04:002012-03-15T10:15:17.589-04:00Did she ever give any reasoning for misting the mu...Did she ever give any reasoning for misting the music classes? Just out if complete curiously. I nanny I 15 month old and I can't WAIT until web start his swim and music classes, not only do classes give nannies a new group to interact with, it gives the children a whole new feeling of independence and a chance at meeting play mates. I just can't imagine what nanny wouldn't gladly take her charges to prearranged classes...! Sorry about all the typos, with the new ISYN format for IPhone I can't go back without erasing everything, and I don't notice the mistakes until I re read the entire thing. Haha!Jchrissynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-3802750379157638472012-03-15T09:28:50.399-04:002012-03-15T09:28:50.399-04:00UPDATE:
Mummy her with my update after my shock h...UPDATE:<br /><br />Mummy her with my update after my shock has worn off and my denial has gone...<br /><br />I called her 10+ times and did not get an answer. My husband was able to find her home number and I got on to her via her mother....<br /><br />See here is when I became furious...she told me she had PMS! What an immature & pathetic attempt at an excuse. By this point I was not going to allow her back whatever she said but still...pathetic!<br /><br />You are all correct, if our Mummy doesn't be our protector without question then who on earth will?? I know I would have always reached this point, it is my willingness to always try to see the good in people which has seen me taken advantage of too many times. But hey she must of been good at her mask as she fooled us all! My hubbie, my parents, preschool teachers, neighbours....<br /><br />I have tried to get out of my 2 year old any details by role playing and this didn't shed any light - I should mention that she is just 2 so although talking away she obviously does not understand the situation and I am scared it became almost normal to her if it was ongoing. This from the child who smiled each time Nanny got to work in the morning.<br /><br /><br />I did not mention that our Nanny worked 2 full days & one half day so I am able to fill the gaps now by working from home & pulling back from work for a while...career on hold til the way more important things are safe & happy. I do not mind one bit!<br /><br />Thanks for the advice, what an emotional week for us but I truly do not for one second feel as though she needs another thought - we transfered what we owed her & asked her to return our car seats & a couple of things borrowed to her including a phone!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-74317287840193103522012-03-14T19:03:40.646-04:002012-03-14T19:03:40.646-04:00I haven't read the other comments yet, so excu...I haven't read the other comments yet, so excuse me if I am behind on any details.<br /><br />Anywho... I really don't think this should even be a question. It's clear that she's stressed, and although it can happen to any human, her lying to you is completely unacceptable. It wasn't just one lie either; she's been lying for *weeks*. How can you trust someone with your kids that you know has lied to you in your face multiple times? What else has she lied (or will lie) about? *Sigh*... Again, there's no question in this. She needs to go. Believe me when I say there is better.<br /><br />P.S. I don't think you should let her tears get to you. She probably felt more embarrassed than sorry. Just my opinion.The Honey Beenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-73939780174225117632012-03-14T18:32:52.742-04:002012-03-14T18:32:52.742-04:00i have just fired someone who trows fits on a regu...i have just fired someone who trows fits on a regular basis - and the relief on my part is incredible, that's probably how your kids will feel<br /><br />master manipulators are really good at pulling your pity while harming you and yoursRBTChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12236958965651282895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-48157310369648255782012-03-14T15:25:13.606-04:002012-03-14T15:25:13.606-04:00I'm a nanny and I have my good days and bad da...I'm a nanny and I have my good days and bad days as well but I've never come close acting like that. <br /><br />You need to let her go.Tcnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-15374921893349503002012-03-14T13:56:52.016-04:002012-03-14T13:56:52.016-04:00Being a parent myself, it is tempting to rationali...Being a parent myself, it is tempting to rationalize when a major upheaval is required. The throwing and lying require dismissal. I would make other arrangements immediately.Scttygrrlnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-9626487558044975432012-03-14T07:09:39.442-04:002012-03-14T07:09:39.442-04:00You need to be your children's advocate in thi...You need to be your children's advocate in this situation. The nanny's behaviour was unacceptable, period. There are boundaries, and the nanny has well and truly crossed them. To keep her working for you now would communicate the subliminal message that her behaviour was "okay", and prevent her from experiencing the legitimate consequences of her actions.<br /><br />Do the right thing for your children and your family- replace her immediately.Melanie Rayehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00505488619234535520noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-26814018658981540072012-03-14T04:31:29.258-04:002012-03-14T04:31:29.258-04:00I feel so much empathy for you and your family. G...I feel so much empathy for you and your family. Going through this must be extremely difficult. However, you MUST listen to the previous posters and not let this toxic person back in yours or your children's lives. Did you just happen to walk in on the one time she was screaming and throwing things at your children? Doubtful. I ran a home daycare for 5 years so I could stay at home with my special needs son. Some days were stressful, yet I would never have yelled at any of these kids. I was there to care for them while their parents worked. I took that seriously. Find a new nanny a.s.a.p.!Theresanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-91630364538665555522012-03-14T01:54:50.892-04:002012-03-14T01:54:50.892-04:00Oops I meant to add in there that the fact that sh...Oops I meant to add in there that the fact that she has not been attending music class for weeks but lies to your face is the icing on the cake. If that isn't a massive red flag waving in your face, I don't know what is.ELamnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-22663006247734196242012-03-14T01:53:30.439-04:002012-03-14T01:53:30.439-04:00Yiiiikes! As a former nanny, there have definitely...Yiiiikes! As a former nanny, there have definitely been times where I've raised my voice (never to the point of screaming, but I'm sure I've yelled "You better stop doing that!" on occasion from across the room). I have never, ever thrown any objects (a chair?!?!!) nor have I ever called a child any names.<br /><br />She has you fooled. She's like those serial killers who seem normal and so kind on the outside, but they are monsters. This girl is a great actress.<br /><br />Listen to your husband (and, admit it, your intuition) and let this girl go. I would speak to her only to hear her sorry excuse, and then tell her you do not feel comfortable and will no longer be needing her services. She cried because she was caught, not because she was sorry.<br /><br />You and your children deserve much better!ELamnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-36401939178771557822012-03-13T22:51:01.881-04:002012-03-13T22:51:01.881-04:00OP, you need to listen to the advice here and I...OP, you need to listen to the advice here and I'll just add this. In Las Vegas several years ago, a nanny shook an infant, severely injuring him. She was a wonderful nanny by all accounts, from a very good family, etc. She snapped and could not handle a crying infant. The child was lucky to survive although his chances for a normal life were still in doubt. Don't let something like this happen to you. A 2-year old and an infant cannot speak up for themselves.NVMom-movedtoTXnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-78748445415149803782012-03-13T22:20:53.099-04:002012-03-13T22:20:53.099-04:00OP, I do commend you for having an open mind. But ...OP, I do commend you for having an open mind. But I have to agree with everyone else- you should not take this nanny back. The lying (to your face!), the screaming (at an infant and a toddler, no less!), the throwing stuff (bad example, much??!). Yes, we've probably all raised our voices a time or two when it really wasn't helpful. But if your nanny is behaving like an absolute child, how can you trust her to watch your kids?<br />And to echo everyone else, you are NOT a bad mother. This lady probably could have fooled anybody.another nannynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-78916353250241886852012-03-13T21:38:31.211-04:002012-03-13T21:38:31.211-04:00Call me nosy but I would just love to hear this na...Call me nosy but I would just love to hear this nanny's side of the story! What is her excuse for not bringing the kids to music class?? Whatever her reasoning is, she clearly cannot be trusted because she was making up lies about taking your kids somewhere, and that's the least of your problems with this woman! If I were you, I would sit her down and get her side, just to put my mind at ease. But definitely do not take her back!! Some people put nanny cams in their house to catch scenes like this but you saw it with your own two eyes. There is just no way she can be trusted. Please let us know how this turns out. And PS, you are not a bad mom. Like others said, she sounds like a great actress!StrawberryShortKakeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04616354962777188647noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-17495720971294349242012-03-13T20:57:31.764-04:002012-03-13T20:57:31.764-04:00Give her a call and let her go. Her actions were c...Give her a call and let her go. Her actions were completely unacceptable, and lying to you about the music class is... well, that's a big problem too.<br /><br />OP, please keep us posted on what you decide to do!!!Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02380475924902074381noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-3578511415900678892012-03-13T20:41:16.675-04:002012-03-13T20:41:16.675-04:00Let her go, and don't beat yourself up. Ultima...Let her go, and don't beat yourself up. Ultimately your kids' safety and emotional wellbeing are the top priority. I would not leave her alone with my children for another second. <br /><br />All this being said, I do understand why you feel bad about letting her go - she has been a huge part of your and your children's life. However, this is not about your feelings or her feelings. It is about two young children who depend on you to provide the best care for them possible, and this is 100% not it. <br /><br />Good luck to you. I was in a somewhat similar situation where we had to let our nanny go after an instance of unacceptable behavior (though we later found out there had actually been multiple instances - no surprise). Even though I was very angry at her - and at myself for not picking up on it sooner - I also felt really bad for her. and still wonder how she is doing. She was a good person at heart, but was not in the right job I think.Knuffle Bunny Mamanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32916951.post-54312718471905014822012-03-13T19:58:50.422-04:002012-03-13T19:58:50.422-04:00I've been a nanny for almost 8 years, and I ha...I've been a nanny for almost 8 years, and I have NEVER even come close to yelling, screaming, throwing things, or the like. Yikes! Nannies are supposed to set the most amazing example for the kiddos they care for. I realize we are all human, go through tough times and make mistakes, but when you work with children, losing your temper is NEVER an option. Ever. Period.Tashinalovehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13729095751365435468noreply@blogger.com